December 2006 - The sun has got his hat on, hip hip hip hooray, tshghho now let's keep these bugs at bay

[LenniEd]

I got all brave and made us a new bug free thread...

lol at shrunken heads, eli.

and of the holiday LenniEd. We must get around to doing one of those sometime...

Just saw your post on the other thread, Indith. That's so nice of you. My heart just went out to her but I just didn't know what to say. She seems to be getting good support on the thread but a small meet-up would be great imo.

nice to hear from you - sorry to see you've been inundated with bugs again though. How is DD with sleep now? And has DS settled again after his night terrors?

Eli - I still visit my DM in Oxford very occasionally. My DGM has been unwell recently so I am likely to be down there more often in the next year. Will let you know when the next visit is planned just in case you happen to be there at the same time.

Yes, Jabber the holiday did us all the world of good. Even a day out as a family seems to breathe life into our relationship. I think DH gets a bit of an insight into my days when he spends time with the kids and is a bit more appreciative and I am far less resentful when I've had a bit of help. Plus we have time to talk rather than spending our evenings working. Go for it.... sounds like you could do with a few days rest.

Oops sorry let my health thread drop off my watched list as no time to post on it (or here). Thanks, all Just feeling too lately this last week to cope with it, I know I've cried wolf before but going to Dr tomorrow for ad's really
Castles, cannot cannot believe that they can't find a reason after several years of this fainting malarkey. I guess with ds1's diagnosis your stress levels aren't going to go down much either
Yikes, indith, not much of a holiday is it? Sorry didn't text you back v.quickly!

It's your anniversary today, isn't it Jabber?
Happy Anni!

Good luck at the GPs today AQ.

You have an amazing memory Margo!! Thank you, this year it deserves quite a bit of celebration iykwim. didn't really think we would make it another year for a while there. But here we are

I have to hold my hands up and confess! We got married on the same day. (2001)

WE haven't even opened our cards yet

lol, that's right! I remember now. But see, you're still doing better than I am to remember they were on the same day.

Happy anniverary to the pair of you. Well, both pairs of you, iyswim

Indith, sorry about the holiday bugs how was last night?

LenniEd, yes, do, that would be fun! Whereabouts is your dgm?

AQ, hope today went ok/was useful...

Is Oli still having pc problems? Hurry back Oli!

Thanks Eli. DH has now gone to work on a late shift. We went out last night to the cinema.

Bleurgh @ bugs Indith, hope you're all feeling better soon.

Good luck AQ. As you know, I am a big fan of AD's.

yes, well done jabber to make it through this year with dh And happy anniversary to you too, Margo. Hope the interviews turn into one fab new job for you soon Looked at your gorg photos of dd's today as well
doc said all AD's contraindicated for bfeeding and it was up to me whether I wanted to take the risk. I don't, well not at the moment. Anyone know anymore about this? She's referred me for counselling tho. Feel better for having admitted I'm depressed iyswim!

AQ have you tried tiktok for help?

AQ, there are definitely some ADs you can take whilst bf'ing. Don't know which though. Try on mental health board. However, I'm with your GP on the counselling referral. It has been the best thing for me. ADs are like sticking a plaster on something imo, whereas counselling stops the need for plasters in the first place. Honestly, I would not be able to deal with some of the stuff I have going on now if I hadn't seen my psychotherapist, and I only saw her for 3 months.

Jabber, congratulations on still being together with DH and being happy about it

AQ, I took Zoloft the entire time I was bfing ds2 and for 6 months while bfing ds1. At the time I was told that it was the only thing I could take.

Hi Indith - hope you and DC are feeling much better today, sounds "Yuck"

AQ - glad to hear your visit to the Docs was worthwhile. I think couselling is a good start. I usd to see a clinical psychologist a few years back for work related stress, depression and other issues I had and it was such a massive, massive help. Could do with him now actually.... Good Luck with it all

Castles - hope you are feelng OK....

Still no firm date for CS although Gynae said last week that he would prefer to wait until 39 weeks unless baby gets too big. I would feel happier getting to 39 wks too, so we shall see....

Happy belated Annis to Margo and Jabber, hope you had a lovely day/eve with your respective DHs

AQ - second the suggestion to try tiktok/bf topic as they were fantastic with wadding through my catalogue of drugs to see if I could bf on them. There are some real experts on there. Counselling definately sounds like a good option for you though - would give you a chance to work things through and have some time for yourself iyswim. I honestly think you are an amazing person for coping with everything you cope with.

Bebe - When is your EDD?

Happy belated anniversaries from me too - and I'm glad you made it through this year as well Jabber.

Eli - We had no plans until today - my Grandad has had a seizure and so I think we'll be trying to visit soon. Just need to pin DH down to sort out a date.

EV - Are you around? Have been thinking on your DB and SIL? I hope they are ok.

And yes, Oli - you are missed.

I'm starting to feel a bit overwhelmed by having two at the moment (Sorry AQ, please ignore my moans) DD is suddenly jealous and it's driving me crazy. I think she has twigged that DH and I are DS's parents too. Everytime I pick him up she wants something. And it's leading to endless tantrums and poor DS spending a lot of time being abandoned mid-feed or change. I just hope it passes soon. She's really testing my patience.

I'm here, I'm here, hello .

Blimey, it's been a long time since I've been here. Still no 'puter to call my own, dh bogged down with work and 2 weeks in Singapore at my dad's over Easter has meant I've been through MN cold turkey .

However, hopefully I can re-establish my addiction pretty quickly......

AQ, sorry things are rough but your GP is completely wrong about the ADs and bfing. I took escilatopram (sp?) for my depression last year while I was still bfing ds2 very frequently. If you google LactMed it will bring up the ToxNet site which has lots of research-based onfo on all the drugs and their effects on bfing.

Indith, hope the dcs are better or on the mend at least.

Margo, what news on the job front? Have fingers crossed but not sure how long to keep them that way for you!

Eli, moving somewhere completely new is a huge step. It took me a good year to feel completely settled after we moved here and it's a very friendly village with lots of families with samll dcs. But it was so worth it now, life is 100x better here than it was in Bristol.

Bebe, hopefully you can make it to 39 weeks, is the GD pretty controlled now? Have they said how big they think it will be?

So, news from the Oli household in brief (it'll be like a round robin Christmas card letter, brace yourselves )

Ds2 is potty trained, reliably in the day and pretty much at night but I'm too chicken to lose the night nappies just yet. He needs no extra reasons to wake up! He's suddenly really changed and become much more of a little boy. I'm a bit sad he's really leaving his babyhood behind now. No more babies for me ever .

DD has her school place and all her visits arranged . She'll be doing it all at less than 3.10yo which breaks my heart but she is ready for it. She knows loads of letter sounds, she can write her name, dress herself really fast, none of which ds1 could do when he started and he was 4.9 so I think she'll be fine. (Anyone else getting the feeling I'm trying to convince myself here?)

Singapore was fab, Dad comes back in October so it was our last trip out there, boo hoo. I don't think ds2 was the most popular passenger on the plane 14 hours and plenty of turbulence, hence lots of time strapped into a seat, did not make for a happy 2yo .

Other than that, life plods on as normal, really!

Oli!!!

Singapore with a 2yo brave lady!

Wow - potty trained now that is something. Must confess I tried DD over the weekend. She is ready - she is screaming when she wees in her nappy now, she hates it. But she holds on for so long that she wets herself before she gets to the toilet. She holds on for about 3 hours so is really desperate when she finally goes. There is still a bit of anxiety there, she doesn't like letting it go on the toilet. So I've shelved it for a few more weeks since I don't want her to be traumatised by it. I think she'll tell me in the next few weeks when she wants to try again.

Yup, definitely the easiest way, LenniEd. DS1 and DD did it when they were completely ready and asking to wear pants and it was fairly straightforward with them and ds2 has been the same. If it's hard work then run away . Go with the easy life - you don't need any extra hassle at the moment.

DS2 completely freaked at his first poo on the potty and held it in for a couple of days afterwards, then did it in his pants and nappy for the next couple of days then for some reason it clicked and he's fine about it now.

It's all just time, ime.

How's the bfing and Arthur Itis situation? Are you still drug free?

Hi Oli - welcome back!!! I´m so with you on the school front. They start them here the year they turn 3 which means DS is eligible to start in Sept at 2.9 I was outraged when I found out and although its not obligatory it is the norm. I´d be happy for him to go somewhere for a couple of hours a day but this is full days so its all or nothing am very about it all so I understand how you must be feeling.
GD is OK at the moment thanks, but last week baby was measuring 2.9kgs at just short of 36 wks and apparently thats pretty big. DS1 was 4kgs/9lbs at 40+6 but you´d never think that now, he´s skin and bone!!!
Well done to DS for his potty training

I too am feeling lately that DS is growing up far too fast and its making me teary, DH told me the other day that I have to let him grow up hopefully it´s just the pg hormones making it worse...

Lenni - EDD is 2nd June so 39 wks would be 26th May, fingers´crossed!
Hope your Grandad is OK....
The situation you describe with 2 is just what I am dreading already although like all other phases it will pass, I´m already chanting that to myself - arrgh I´m scared!!

God results from recent amnio. Sorry I have been awol. Will try and catch up.

EV and Oli I missed you both.

Glad you had a great time (I get nostalgic every time you mention S'pore, Oli) and totally understand that you will miss the visits!

EV, been thinking about you lots and hope you're ok - its good to see you.

Bebe, I felt exactly like that when dd2 was about to appear...sort of mourning the passing of the time when dd1 was my only, my baby, etc. Its a big change and deserves acknowledging, hormones or not, I think. Mind you, once dd2 arrived I sort of started wanting dd1 to not be the baby anymore, and needing her to be bigger, poor child

She's just gone to bed with Medised, a cough, a stuffed up nose and a slight temp. Which made me realize we've just had a whole week with no snotty noses, no coughs, no nothing: it must be summer

Oli!!!!!!!!!!

Humph Eli, not summer here, I had a cold, dcs have snotty noses and I seem to be coming down with another one. I've lost track of who is giving what to who

Back from week at parents', was ok, not much rest, plenty of noises from them about them never having the sleep troubles that we have etc. They never say that we did it better but it is very much unsaid iykwim. Dad says bottles are better because you know how much they are getting and you can really fill them to the brim. I tried to point out that the baby will take its fill from whatever, she doesn't stop bf before she is full and besides she doens't always feed when she wakes so being full has nothing to do with it. He also went on about how htye used to wake us at 11 to feed and we slept from there. I agreed it is avery good idea, lots of people do it but you have to have a child that sleeps that long to do that and dd tends to wake for the first time at around 9!

AQ sorry not replied to your text, no credit. Went to the shops today and totally forgot to top up. Was great to see you, the twins are fab as is ds2. Dd must have been picking up some tricks from the dts as this morning while I was dressing her she flipped over to her front and right onto her back again to land in the middle of the play mat under her toys She gave me the prooudest grin in the world and giggled away

I feel sort of human today. Dd woke at 9.15, 11.30, 1, 2.15 then slept til 6 with just a resettle at 3.30! then she had a sleepy feed and didn't get up for the day til 7 Looks terrible written down but note how it includes whole hours of sleep, even multiple hours together.