June 2008 babies: rolling, sitting, crawling, babbling, teething, laughing, sleeping (not yet!)

[spongebrainbigpants]

New home!

neenz agree that sounds a bit OTT bringing mum to 8 mth check!

bdq thanks for the link

MIL surpassed herself last night at annoying me. She was at my house with DH and A when I got home from work. I fed A his dinner and went to get the door when it rang. When I got back, DH was filling dishwasher and A was moaning a bit - and MIL was saying to him 'Yes, I know you're neglected, she goes out to work all day and leaves you...blah blah blah'. I was so annoyed and said 'Oh Alexander what absolute nonsense is your Grandmother talking now'. Then she said she'd just give him a cuddle and I promptly swept him away and said no, I'd have him, after all I'd been out at work all day!

Allnew, at your MIL! Do they not know what they are doing? (Well, of course the do)

How dare she . I bet she was trying to say it in a real jokey way too - passive aggressive... grrrrr!

lol at 'what nonsense is she talking now'

Wow that has really annoyed me. I can't stand interfering MILs, mine is OK except for trying to invite herself and FIL on our summer holiday

My grandma who died last week was a classic MIL to my mum - she could be really horrid sometimes. Mum said after she died 'who am I going to spar with now?' Bless.

Poppy I love the idea that Edie's brain is so full of thoughts of crawling she can't settle! I think this is Luke's problem too. He can shift a few paces now though on his hands and knees but gets about through a combination of that, rolling and dragging! He only wants to stand up now though and holding onto my fingers, can traverse the whole length of a room in that funny 'stomping through mud' baby walk bless him. The wheels on his walker are too fast for him though and he does end up going splat if I leave him holding onto it.

So am I reading right that there is a thread on things you can't mention on MN? I would love to see this - anyone got a link?

I hate sick children. S still vomiting and now Edie has gone on a hunger strike.

Oh, sympathies Five. It will get better soon surely!

Amber, Theo loves to stand up holding onto my fingers too but his feet seem stuck to the floor! He won't move them. Luke seems to be just a little bit ahead.

Ooh, tell me where that thread is, Amber, if you find it! I'm a bit bored of breastfeeding this week. Bet that's one of the things you can't say.
Since I've mentioned it, I think neenz said something about this - Iestyn is eating loads but seems less interested in bfing. Does this ring any bells with anyone? He prefers to lie around chatting than bfing. Sound normal?

Sponge I thought I was pg with twins because my morning (ha!) sickness started somewhere around a week after conception (would you believe!) because I was sick for a week before my period was late. As you know, I only have the one, but I was convinced I had twins. But apparently loads of women get pregnant with twins early on, but one sort of goes by around 6-8 weeks. This happened to a friend of mine. Not a m/c or anything, just disappears. My friend knew because she had IVF and a scan at 4 weeks showing two blobs (no heartbeats at that stage), then 8 weeks (one blob only). My MW friend reckons it's quite common, but most of us would never know. Then again it could all be bollocks, and some people are just really, really sick in pg and try to reason it out. Like me!

Allnew does my MIL have a twin? (Apart from Sponge's MIL!) Mine went around telling everyone at Iestyn's baptism that she 'disapproves of dummies' (or 'plugs' as she calls them). Oh really? Does she tut every time she passes a baby with a dummy? Or roll her eyes at all mothers who give their children dummies? I don't think so. Sounds like she disapproves of me and my parenting choices, no? But well done you Allnew on that witty and clever retort. I can never manage it until too late! (Some of you may have spotted that my little speech there is a clever and witty retort to MIL, alas unsaid at the time.)

Oh, on the topic of witty, we're going to need a new thread soon. Although I am hopeless at any kind of title (including my own book and journal articles - either boring titles or done by someone else) I thought of one last night.
Along the lines of nine months in, nine months out, because we're all around that mark (although Neenz has passed it)!

Am sure Neenz will be thrilled to have a thread announcing that she is "past it"

I have just started a thread in breast and bottle feeding , but can't link to it as am on the iPod. However it should be easy to spot as it has no replies yet .

I saw the "things you are too polite to say on MN" thread too, and thought it was very funny, although began to go a bit nasty at times.

Allnew - v annoyed about your MIL. What a witchy thing to say.

Good one Essie. Loving the title. BTW Babies are meant to drink less milk when they eat more solids. That's when you notice the solid adult style poos! Luke still drinks just as much milk as he ever has but doesn't eat loads of solids yet.

Allnew - what a stupid thing to say (am holding in bad words). I would have been furious - well done for keeping your composure. I hope your husband gave her what for.

Neenz - I don't think Luke is ahead - he just has so much energy and doesn't know what to do with himself. One thing he cannot do is sit still!!

Essie link to polite thread

What on earth is wrong with bringing your mother to a HV appointment? If my mother was alive I don't know whether I'd want her to come or not, but I'd love to have the option of asking her for that sort of support. Maybe they were both really excited about it.

All this "make it up as you go along" parenting that we are all doing our best with, is a lot more intimidating when you're doing it without a mother of your own to fall back on. I have to be the adult all the time - I can't sound off to my mother or pretend I'm a child again and have her look after me for a few hours. If bringing her mother with her made her feel happy, or more confident, or unburdened, then why should anyone make superior remarks about it?

Sorry, bit of a sore point.

fair point Rolf. I'm lucky enough to have my mom on the end of the phone when I need her, but it's not the same as having her living nearby and if anything ever makes me move from Scotland, it'll be that I've finally cracked and can't stand being so far from my parents.

I get really jealous of my RL friends too who seem to take the support of their families for granted. They often forget that the best support is emotional - not in having oddles of free babysitting, but when you're having a crap day having someone come over to make you a cup of tea. I at least get the emotional support over the phone, but I do understand Rolf how much harder it would be if I didn't even have that.

rolf yes, you're right it's me, thanks for appreciating my name (and you too BDQ a while back)! I was bored of being dull!

quick question... has anyone else's child passed scrambled egg all the way through? very disconcerting until I realised what it was!

sorry for not replying to people, am at work having a v quick break!

Rolf I can completely understand where you are coming from. I went to see a friend last week who is due to give birth in a couple of weeks. Her Mum died after a long illness 18 months ago, and I felt very sad for her that she wouldn't get the support that I am lucky enough to have. My Mum is either 100 miles away or in the south of France, so I don't get any babysitting, but I do like to know that she is on the end of a phone.

Aberdeen my cousin lives in Canada, but her Mum is over here. Maybe you could swap Mums .

Viva - we haven't tried eggs yet - sorry

viva - avoiding eggs here... I'm unclear about when they can be introduced so I've just not bothered.

Ali - if only it was that easy

I agree - seriously I would give anything to have half an hour on the phone with my mum!

PS - tried eggs on Luke and he refused point blank (so I ate them!)

p.s. I like essie's thread title!

I wish I had the sort of relationship with my Mum that would offer us support (both ways - there's an unbridgeable gulf between us that neither of us fully understands), and I wish I had parents or PIL close by, it would make an unimaginable difference. I lost my dad when I was pregnant with ds and miss him every day. It is really, really hard doing this on our own. Thankfully PIL are only an hour and a half away and we can totally rely on them in emergencies, but there's no-one here on a routine basis and it makes things extremely hard at times

And it is particularly hard when I turn round from posting my selfpity on the laptop to find Caitlin playing peekaboo with her dinner plate and covered in Irish stew!!

Rolf, really sorry if you were upset by our comments . I do know how bloody lucky I am to not only have my mum around (albeit two hours away) but also to have such a brilliant relationship with her.

It must be so hard to go it alone. Amber, same goes for you.

I've got over my bout of self-pity and thanks for all the kind comments (and with no Irish Stew carnage as penance!). SA and Amber, sorry you have this to cope with as well. I was very close to my mother and she died very suddenly a few years after I got married, before I had my children. Aaaanway...I know everyone has their sadnesses - don't want to be too naval-gazing here.

Vivaglasvegas - I've tried Thea with some egg but I don't think enough went down to have any impact!

How are you feeling today Sponge? I've been thinking about little spongelet. Hope he/she is safe and sound.

Hello just checking in

wow sponge fab news! HUGE Congrats

On mothers etc Id love to have mine nearer and thats one reason we are moving to Holland though they are travelling round at mo they will still be nearer, at mo i speak to her 3 times a week on skype!!! and i phone if i have prob with fleur etc!!

BDQ its ok bout pots sorry spanish shops are cr**p at ordering things

Viva - we've had eggs here but not seen it go straight through!!!

Like the title too cant believe its going soooo fast thouh im already planning fleurs 1st bday party

its carnival here at mo DP and i are going to school as pirates and on tues we take fleur to parade I have some piglet ears so thinking of dressing her up in pink as piglet!!!!

SA, meant to say sorry for assuming your LO was IVF btw! I just assume that when someone mentions fertility treatment they automatically mean IVF - but totally know what you mean about the constant trips to the hospital for scans and stuff. It's so nice to be normal for a change!

And love the irish stew!

Allnew, yes I think your MIL, Essie's MIL and mine must be triplets! Love your response though - I can never be that sharp on the spot!

Rolf, I'm ok thank you for asking - I did another pg test today and it's still positive! I'm just trying to take one day at a time and enjoy it while it lasts. Everyone's excitement for me is very infectious which is lovely .

Paro, KWYM about how time is flying - and thank you! Carnival sounds lovely btw.