January 2008 Shiny New Year Toddlers - first steps to mischief !!!

[Lilyloo]

Hope that's ok all

It's a tough life if i thought it worked i would try it

LOL

Hoping weather holds out for Thursday too as have much needed appt at hosp for DD to see dietician.

Lilyloo - LMAO at your Martha

I did catch Sabela trying to play peekaboo with herself when she woke up from her nap. She was lying on my bed, putting the blanket on and off her head, giggling to herself.

She really wants to eat everything that I eat ATM. It caused her some problems this afternoon as I was eating a pear, which she hates. Shekept opening her mouth, she couldn't help herself, but made such a face when I put a tiny fraction in. Then open mouth again to be like mummy. Ahhh.

Congratulations Lucky

hello ladies- it's bluebell82!!
Firstly sorry for being such a rubbish mumsnetter I can't use it as the only excuse but this pregnancy is killing me!

Thanks to everyone who wished me well on my facebook page, my dd2 has now engaged and with the SPD i am suffering with it is hurting all the more. I am currently sleeping on an air bed in the lounge as it's the only way I can get sleep.. I can barely walk and picking up Ruby is a mamoth task and she is only a little dot.

Talking of Ruby she has been very poorly indeed, we thout it was measles and spent most of the morning at hospital today.. she has been off colour all week, not eating or drinking, broken sleep and clingly which Ruby is not! Woke up tis morning and she was covered head to toe and her temp was 39. Called NHS and they said to take her straight in. They have diagnosed Roseola which is a typical viral infection and the rash is a sign things are getting better.

All of this is so draining at the moment, I keep worrying that I am not cut out to be a parent let alone a parent of 2! I think it is down to feeling so tired all the time though and with Ruby's illness this week and being trapped in the house I am really down in the dumps! Don't think my PND is coming back, altho it upset me as dh said he was never getting me pregnant again, it's really not my fault I am hurting this much and all he does is moan when I ask him to help but then in the next breath he is telling me I need to 'kick back'.

Anyway don't mean to put this all on you especially as I haven't caught up, haven't been wishing moms and babes happy birthday and have disappeared for the last couple of months!!

Ugh on top of all of this we are having a loft conversion and a downstairs extension and had a big fight with the building manager yesterday because he hadn't costed for a portaloo and thought it was completely acceptable for his 8 workmen to use my only toilet at their leisure when I have a 1 yr old and I have spd... TWAT!!! All resolved now though as he made me cry and think it made him realise I was on the edge!

Anyway I hope you are all well and your beautiful babies too- they are still babies and always will be to their mummies!!!

Hi all have been reading all day bit never had two hands free at once.

Just heard this afternoon that MIL got confused again, got out of bed in the middle of the night and dressed herself, put her stockings on then slipped on the lino and fell. The night nurse put her back in bed but in the morning they found she had broken both wrists and has a tear in her pelvis. So both wrists in plaster and a lot of pain and she is even more confused now

Was woken up at 4am from Nathan's breathing alarm! , I ran like mad to his room. He was lying on his side with his whole body pressed against the bars of the cot sleeping like a log. The sensor must have struggled to pick up his breating as he was not lying on the sensor mat and on his side the contact with the moving part of his chest is very small. I kknew he was ok as he kept his knees bent when i turned him over so he was not floppy. In fact he sat on my arm a second later looking very puzzled about the light, the noise and both parents in the room , then his tummy rumbled and he thought it was breakfast time, so not impressed when he was put back in bed, although he slept until 7.30. He had two breakfasts (1 and 2/3 of a weetabix plus fruit and milk), two fromage frais at church, 2/3 jar for lunch (although he seems wary of lumps, probably afraid to gag ), a pot of yogurt and biscuit for snack, half a jar plus fruit for dinner. Guess he's on the mend , he is already filling out again. He will have lost some weight but he was simply very empty.

Hi to everyone.

Cot bumper, I never bothered until we started to leave him to cry in his cot occassionally, as when he gets cross he scoots up to the top and keeps scooting when he gets there (has not done it for a while) so I bought a cot bumper on eBay and fixed it to the head end only.

LaT - Whats the congrats for? lol

Bluebell - Sorry to hear about Ruby and the SPD I hope you feel better soon and well done for shouting at the buildings man... I think I would have too
How far along are you now? It doesn't seem like yesterday when you told us about the BFP and now the baby is engaged

Hey Rubiesmum, glad to see you. SPD is soooo not fun, how many weeks are you now?

MM - X Posts - Sorry to hear about your MIL, Both wrists in plaster must really hurt.
How scary at nathans breathing mat going off but bless him for expecting breakfast at 4am - his appetite is definatly back I think

LaT - yup it's not as active on Mumsinspain as on here but I hope someone comes along to chat soon

ooh MM scary moment there!
Sounds like he is getting better!

Bluebell poor you must be really tough how long do you have left ?

Gingeme - good shopping bargains We will bring anything we need for Wed so don't fret Planning to leave here about 10.30, maybe 10 so should be with you by 12. Then i must be strict and leave by/at 3 to avoid the worst of the traffic coming back home.

Lily - that's so funny about M and the blanket on the head thing H has learnt the sign for sleep so that helps when i'm not sure. He basically sleep loads in the day which can be great can be restricting. Refused to let him go to bed earlier so we could all go out together which rarely happens. We only went to the pet shop to look at the rabbits, etc. H loved the rats best as they were so active. think we may get guinea pigs one day - not sure what the cats will think though
Then we went to the factory shop so i could get some dye for an old tablecloth. dye-ing it dark red - for Christmas, errr, next Christmas! - looks bad in the washing machine - think dark red splatters, eek!

Tad worried about weather actually. I'm due to collect the boys from nursery, in the sticks, at 5pm. Worried the bad weather will hit at 4.30 and i won't be able to get to them.....the other woman i work with will be working here again tomorrow as the office computers still dead. She lives near the nursery so will be going that way anyway at the same time. we joked last week that her DH would go and get all the DCs and she & i could stay here, we have wine and chocolate...... &

Hey Rubysmom sorry to hear about your pg problems. spd is shit and mine was only mild Don't worry you will be a fine mum of 2, just think how much better yu will feel physically the second that baby weight is off your pelvis! Hope Ruby gets better soon. You Dh sounds like a typical man who can't cope/wants to look after you/feels out of control/doesn't know what to say or do for the best. Sure if you search on here some people who got bad spd with first/second pgs didn't get it with 3rd/subsequent so don't give up hope.
Builders - you're either brave or mad or both glad he backed down.

Congrats to those with new friends babies (insert apostrophes as appropriate )

Madmouse - your poor MIL Good news about N's appetite though
I once picked up a friend's LO when he woke up (she hadn't heard him) & didn't know she had one of those alarms. the speed she ran up the stairs!!! i felt sooo bad.

right, should head off to bed soon....

Lucky - Wales victory!

Back later...

yes, LaT the least said about the rugby the better I think well done to you guys though

Sorry MrsMc

Well, no one responded to my post about mums groups on here or on mumsinspain, so I asked if anyone wanted to start one on mumsinspain. DH thinks I've been stupid. What do you guys think?

I'm definitely suffering from ex-pat rejection syndrome. I've just been ot the medical centre to register Sablea and I and I thought it was absolutley horrible. I never want to take ther there again. Am even contemplating going to the private clinic round the corner for Sabela, if not for me, which I never would consider in GB. Did you have anything like this Madmouse, or conversely MrsMc/ Angechica?

LaT - it is really important that you settle in and the Spanish way of rearing kids won't let you do that in a hurry. They don't tend to take their kids to play places, the grandparents look after them at home whilst the parents work and the exposure they have to other kids is to cousins etc not to little friends or they go to Guaderia from a young age. I think starting a group is a great plan, that is effectively what I did and I have some lovely friends now. Funnily enough, I have also made friends with some Spanish girls (and also German, French, Dutch and Swedish) who are really curious about the way we Brits bring up our kids and think it is lovely to take them to places to play whilst the Mummies chat. As far as the health centre is concerned, you have to do what you feel comfy with. As you know, I have been seeing a private Dr for my pregnancy, mainly because my SS wasn't in place when I got pg and I needed to get started on the heparin but now although I go to the local dr for some things I am still going to my private dr for the main things, I just feel happier that way. It is a different culture here and private drs are the way many expats do it here. Keeping trying on MumsinSpain hon I'll have a wee look too and see if I can find anything for you. I have met Claire the girl who set it up, she is lovely and may be able to help if you contact her direct? she is in San Pedro down here but may know more about the Murcia ladies

Sorry I am so far behind with the rest of you ladies I haven't been feeling great, migraines and nausea on top of that Xavier is just picking at his food and consequently is not sleeping well at night, its exhausting.

Lucky - sorry to hear about your Aunt and Uncle it's just not fair is it?

Rubysmom - poor you with the SPD, I am so lucky just to have a bit of sciatica.

JKS - happy belated birthday

MM - hope Nathan is feeling much better.

Hello to everyone else Ange, Ginge, Mixedmama, Lily, Simpson sorry not to leave more personals

Aftarnoon ladies
MrMcJnr sounds like a good thing to set up to me. Migranes were the bain of all my pregnancies sympothies to you.
JKS don't worry about rushing home. I'm sure time will fly once we get chatting
Lucky sorry to hear about your Uncle and Aunt. It must be so hard for them.
Hi Rubysmum yes Roselola is going round here too. A rl friend got her daughter half way through school on Friday because she has it hope dd is on the mend soon.
Pouring with rain here. Still better than snow I say. George is realy getting the hang of this walking lark now he looks like a drunk monkey lol. If he realises we are watching him he sits straight down
Looking forward to Wednesday. Gonna give the flat a blitz tommorrow. Nice and sparkly for my guests
Lunch time now.
Pop back later. xx

rubys mom - soounds like a truly awful time.. i really hope you feel better soon and everything falsl into place once LO arrives.

MM - awful about MIL, hope that she is on the mend soon and sorry you had to have that scary situation with nathan.. glad he is back to eating now.

DS2 chicken pox is actually really awful. He is completely covered in spots, his poor face has more spots than DS1 had altogether all over his body. He is waking every hour in the night and didnt settle properly until 4.20am and then slept till 9.20am. My mum is on half term next week and is going to have him which is a relief.

Spoke to my dad today and he is wrapping my brother up in cotton wool after his fit last weekend. I called today to see what they were doing and he said he was taking him to the local shopping centre, so i suggested the gym as they both have conditions that require activity and my DB has a really good deal due to his health probs and my dad said he couldnt risk something happening at the gym, this is such an unhealthy attitude as DB already has depression as a side to his schizophrenia and it takes a lot to motivate him to go to start with, but then my dad saying that whilst DB is next to him just gives him more reason to not do anything IYSWIM. I know i sound mean, but he has to get on with things and it is so important for him to be active and get those endorphins pumping. I know my dad is just scared but i wish he would not express those views in front of DB.

oh gingeme obv i will not be there on wed, will be doing chicken pox

Oh mixedmamma thats ashame .Hope their not too itchy.
Can your brother and Dad ride a bike? I realise its not exactly great weather but that might be a good idea excercise wise.
Just a thought

LaT - i don't think you're mad at all for trying to start up a babygroup. would be a brilliant way to meet other mums & fun for Sabela too.
Sometimes you have to force yourself out of your comfort zone.
I moved round lots as a child, my parents were expats in Africa. The tip i would say is to join as many groups as poss. but if the groups aren't there it is tricky. We were always expats where there were lots of expats, maybe where you are there aren't that many?
How long are you over there for?
Hope you managed more cooking or bathtime excitement today

MrsMc - thanks Hope X gets better soon & you of course. Have you tried 4head? it's a safe in pg headache reliever. you rub it on your forehead and i think the smell is meant to help. well it worked for me. not sure if you can get it over there, but would happily send you some, it comes in a small tube so not pricey to post.

Gingeme - that's what i'm worried about, we'll get chatting & comfy and suddenly it'll be late and i'll have 2 tired boys in the rush hour traffic, not nice!
I know i'm a chatterbox so it's a strong possibility
Love the new pics on FB
Expect high standards on wed then with all this cleaning & sorting....
you should see my house, a tip and stuff everywhere & i've been doing lots of useful jobs today...

mixedm - poor ds2 hope you all get more sleep tonight and the worst is over. I understand those feelings about your brother. my mum was treated for bone marrow cancer a few years ago (successfully thankfully) but she was very fit when went into hosp. since she came out, she has just gained weight and done no activity at all. she explodes whenever anyone mentions it, but we only want her to be fit enough to cope if/when it comes back

not really bad rain here, yet. so got the boys from nursery no problem. can sense a certain something in the air that tells me i have 2 nappies to change pdq, then bedtime (bliss.....).
H has just taken his trousers off . best go...

Soryy Ruby'smom - Sounds completely miserable. ~Have you had any treatment for your SPD. I had pre-natal care in 2 counties and found the treatment was completely different. In one, they said they weren't even going to bother writing it in my notes it was so insignificant. The other gave me phyisiothreapy to show me how to move and do various everyday tasks plus an elasticated belt to wear round my hips which really really helped.

Wouldn't fix Ruby's poorliness, but it might help you get some sleep.

DD is currently bawling her eyes out becaue I won't feed her 24 hours a day but I'll try and look for the kind of belt I mean on the internet later.

Will catch up with the rest of you tonight hopefully.

Is that an invite JKS ?
Edward is into taking his clothes off now too. Fortunately he only does it at home though.
George is into climbing now too. He can get on the sofa with ease. He fell off the end earlier I wasn't in the room and expect DH was with his new best friend , his
fucking iphone and wasn't watching him. Nice bump on his forehead now. Georges not DH's
Ok silly question but what is and expat?
Right stenders soon then off for a shower now the hot waters back on.
Hope you have a good night.
xxx

expatriot - someone living in another country than their native country. Sorry for jargon.