January 2008 Shiny New Year Toddlers - first steps to mischief !!!

[Lilyloo]

Hope that's ok all

I shouted at both of them at teatime tonight so you are not alone!
H is certainly learning what is naughty and doing it on purpose at times.
but hate to say it, it gets worse!! T can press my buttons and drive me crazy in seconds!
then comes up and hugs my leg and says sorry mummy, and i go all soft again.

g - yes i have your address, just need to plan my day

right, really am off to bed soon, need more sleep.....

Worse nooooo not worse

Lucky - another one who had a tough day here

DD is sooo much harder work than DS.

Will be glad to get back to normal tomorrow....

Mrs Mcjnr - Hope you have recovered from Xavier the escape artist!!

Yep!!!

Terrible 2's are grim

I dont think I can cope with worse.
I think my problem is I don't know how to tackle her - she totally disregards anything I say and if I move her (which I normally have to cos she isn't listening) she starts arching her back screaming. Then I have a wriggling, screaming baby in my arms that I dont know what to do with.

Sounds like Molly!!

Maybe its a girl thing as DS was never like this and is so placid. Although when DD starts to kick off he can join in sometimes. Grrr.

DD kicked off today because I took a piece of jigsaw off her (too small) and TBH I just left her to it made sure she isn't able to bang head etc and she knows I am around ie I talk to DS.

Actual tantrum lasts about 2 seconds but its the whinging and creeping after me (especially when trying to mop/sweep floor that is doing my head in

Hello MrsMc, the blog is on my profile. Looking for something to help you fall asleep? . I am jealous of people who write really deep and interesting things.Mine's pure navelgazing.

I bet your heart was beating a little fast for a while after finding X on the balcony can you fit a stairgate in front of the balcony door?

Nathan has eaten some tea, all in all he has eaten 2/3 of a weetabix with some fruit, a few spoons of yogurt and 2/3s of a large hipp jar spread over two meals. Poor soul had to cough real hard when just dressed after abth, so chucked up a bit and had to be changed again

Had a great laugh though. a friend gave him a bath toy for his birthday. It is a little boat that sprays water from its roof when placed in the bath. He was unsure at first but soon worked out how to take the spray bit off resulting in him being mightely p*ed off by the resulting water spray in his face. Then he decided to tilt the toy towards him for a better look, with the same result poor love I laughed he cried [bad mummy]

Hope for a good night, may have to let him cry for a bit if he starts waking again, as he is much better and I do not want to get back in bad habits.

Oh yeh I can understand that too. She was doing it today while I was on the toilet (she wont be left alone) I put her in the cats room to play with the cats, shut the stairgate and within about 2 mins she's opening the bathroom door (no handle, just pushes) and trying to climb on my knee!!
Maybe she wants to potty train?

I shouldn't blame her completely I mean she's still got her cold and her nappy rash is nasty but still [sigh] I need help. I need someone like Supernanny to teach me what to do.

simpson, playpen????

Lucky I find with Nathan that if I ignore his moaning and make sure he has lots of toys he will start to play, until he sees me again, then he drops everything and wants to be picked up. so when I am cooking and he is playing I spy on him from the stairs so he does not see me and happily plays in the living room.

I don't think there is a need always to give in. Babies cry and whine when they do not like something, that's because they cannot talk yet. It does not mean they are hugely distressed...

Of course he cannot come after me yet that's going to be hard as I have made a holy vow never to complain when he does

LOL at Nathan in the bath Glad his appitite seems to be picking up a bit...

Bad mummy today: steamed some broccoli for me and both Dcs, handed Molly a floret which she rammed into her mouth. I am thinking she'll be ok as it was not that big and she choked and was sick everywhere. Broccoli was still raw and I hadn't tested it before giving it to her

Lucky - the main thing I do when DD is getting on my nerves is either distract her (have even used TV if I need to)or feed her. She is a happy bunny with some toast in her gob

If she is really bad like today she goes in her cot till we both calm down and I have a cup of tea. They I bring her back down again...

I think thats the problem - she wil be happily playing with her toys but as soon as I walk out the room she SCREAMS and its a highpitched hurt your ears type scream. I've always been of the thought that unless she's hurt I wont do anything but it just doesn't happen that way as the screaming hurts my ears. I know its my own fault for giving into her but I still can't help it cos it drives me insane.

Simps - I think I may try getting the travel cot from my mums next time I'm down there as I can't let her scream upstairs as she'll wake DP but he doesn't hear her downstairs (or so he says ) so maybe I can try that and I'll sit in the kitchen till we're both calm.

Would it hurt her to leave her scream in her cot for abit? Will she think I'm abandoning her?

Madmouse - was talking to my mum today about it and she suggested the same thing!!

I have a travel cot at hers, so may bring that here...

Lucky - Molly will crawl past everyone else and only want me. If DH picks her up and I am around the whinging goes on till she is in my arms.

If I am not around ie some mornings when DH gets up with them she is fine and actually plays by herself or with DS. So she can do it!!

Thank god dd has really upped the tantrums since turning 1.She is so stubborn and strong headed.
Is it just dd's
Actually yeah ds is and has been more placid.
He was more silly , giddy and slightly annoying in a nice way!
But boy girls.
Dd1 started the day being a nightmare arguing about clothes , not going to pre school , she didn't like her wellies , she wanted to sit in the front of the car [aaaarrrrgggghhh]
But she hs had good spots in between.
However M has been very very difficult, that mummmmuuumum and pulling on your legs wiping snot everywhere
She also started pulling at my top for bf espite being on bottles of milk in the day
Then the throwing food around , refusing to be fed anything on a spoon , and the point and scream if it isn't there that second

can't wait for 2!!!

Lucky - See I am lucky as DD actually calms down when in her room otherwise I wouldn't do it iyswim.

She will play quite happily for 10-15 mins or so and today was in there for 30mins!!

Lily - We get the point and Mummmmmm lol.

Aaliyah HATES being alone in a room so I can't get 5 mins from her unless I am lying on the sofa then she'll play but as soon as I sit up the crawling mummm starts.

Travel cot isn't going to work then.

I think it's the point when they think you have left them even when you just walk out of the room.
I am finding this hard as remembering how i quite liked the work days to offset these days with ds and dd1.

I agree put them somewhere if you feel cross though gives you time to calm down.

I put M to bed and she woke up 20 min later crying however dd1 decided to build snowman after all. So left dd1 went out the front to do snowman and she was asleep within 10 min.
She sleeping well at night now so just think it's attachment to me.
Am def going to toddler group tom am and again on Fri.

Oh and Mrs M can you put gate on ???

LOL Lilyloo - sounds like we've all had tough a day!!

Yep DS is much easier. He is liable to kick off if I don't give him what cup he wants, or his grapes look funny But that is easily sorted by asking him etc.

He also doesn't care what he wears although he is rather partial to wellie boots ATM.

The one thing I will say about DD though is she is a fab eater (hope things don't change) and really much prefers hope cooked to jars now

Where would you put the cot though Lucky ?

Sorry did i go on a bit there!!

Am just thinking the same thing. Might be able to put travel cot in front room on a temporary basis.

Am wondering if DD is old enough to learn that whinging gets her nowhere and am trying to ignore as much as I can...

I can put the cot in the front room and then sit in the kitchen but she is likely to scream the place down. I'm just wondering whether that will do her good.

I went reading up on how to deal with it and a book (can't remmeber if its the what to expect book or not) says to try leaving the room and popping your head back a few times to say "boo" before leaving properly so did this today and she laughed her head off at boo but when I hadn't done it for about 20 secs she started screaming and following me with the mummm - I was only going to make her a cup of juice.

When I leave the room I do keep talking so that although she may not be able to see me she can hear me.

But this just seems to make her more determined to follow after me. Grrr.

[grin M would hate being put in a cot i think if it wasn't for a sleep (although never tried)
Actually thought it may be better when she could walk today (def a bad day)
until i saw a mum at schol pick up chase her lo onto an icy playground and nearly fall.

It's the pick me up and then the wriggling to get down and so on and so forth!!