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January 09 - 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4......and we're off

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fourlittlestockingedfeet · 28/12/2008 12:44

Here's a brand new thread for the early party poppers!

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givethedogAhomebirth · 29/01/2009 10:43

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rrrayray · 29/01/2009 10:59

Right.... here we go... going to try and recall what i can of the birth. have to say the memories are starting to fade (thank goodness) when i was trying to rest straight afterwards everytime i closed my eyes i felt like i was back mid-contraction!!!

Ok, so as those of you who remmeber me posting on here, i didn't really know my waters had gone.

Thursday lunchtime- Waters must have started leaking, thought just heavy discharge, until eventually put maternity pad on, which was soaked quite quickly. Didn't even say anything to OH until about 6pm. just said i feel like i'm "leaking" as everytime i moved it felt like some Squished out. (gross!) So eventually after posting on here and it dawning on me that maybe it WAS waters, called MLU. Who confirmed very much sounded like it. Asked me to go in, armed with pad.

Thurs 8pm ish - Went to MLU with pad, said looked like waters, Pulled trousers down and whipped out one was wearing which by now was getting more pink ish, and confirmed waters had gone. "past point of no return" was in shock, but of course so excited. They called registrar, as usually CTG done 12 hours after waters gone, but that would mean me coming back at midnight, Registrar @ hosp agreed for it to be done between 9-10pm. CTG fine, and showed that having the odd tightening here and there, but nothing uncomfy. Told to go home, have plain bath, paracetamol and sleep, to come back in the morning for reassessment, i think both midwife and i thought nothing would happen in the night. but she said if i do start contracting, when they are 3-4 mins apart to come back in.

Thurs 10pm- Went home, decided to eat some porridge even though wasnt hungry as thought good "fuel" incase things did happen. Halfway through porridge contractions started. Ouch. Decided to get Tenns on as knew takes a while for it to work.

11pm - contractions 5 mins apart, lasting 45 seconds.

12 midnight- 4 mins apart 1 min long.

1am 3 mins apart, 1 min long... ouch... OH calls MLU they tell me to come back in.

Get back in, examined me, 2cm, but thin and stretchy and she stretched me to 3. Told me could either go home or stay in. Decided to stay in, MLU totally empty so could do as i pleased, and think i had a feeling was going to get very painful, fast!

Decided to just wander around to use gravity to max Effect, so wandered using Tenns machine. Distraction seemed to work for me... i was walking around, and as a contraction came i would focus on something. OH keeps laughing at the fact at one point i was walking around, and had a contraction by a door labelled "disposal" and i leant against the door murmuring disposal.... sounds crazy but it really helped me.

After a while midwife suggested use gas and air... Resisted for a while. eventually gave in. Hated it. Didn't touch contraction and left me high as a bloody kite after the contraction. Kept telling midwife and OH how pissed i was. thing is, i don't really drink and don't really like the sensation of being drunk, so that for me was a bit crazy. Eventually gas and air had more of a purpose,.. although i think having somehting to focus on and breathe in while contracting was as important as the gas and air itself.

rrrayray · 29/01/2009 11:00

my GOD thats LONG!

hkz · 29/01/2009 11:45

Rray- Brilliant birth story...and you got the birth you wanted

Dog- Hope you're feeling better and the spd eases up, not long now, sending you labour vibes.

I am feeling slightly more human, DS did three hours between feeds in the night...so I got some sleep! Off to TK Max to get me some breast feeding bras (about the most unexciting reason to go shopping ever)... my boobs have grown beyond all expectation so in search of some serious scaffolding...just waiting for dp to come back as I left my wallet in his coat...

heron22 · 29/01/2009 12:41

hi all, i feel so so much better today! the reason? well, i slept from 10pm to 7am last night! we got a night nurse to look after the little one. and it has made all the difference in the world to my mood and also to my breastmilk. at 8am this morning, i pumped 160mls!

so if you are at all able to get a night nurse or someone to look after the little one, sleep makes all the difference!

qumps · 29/01/2009 12:44

love reading the birth stories. didn't do mine. is it too late?
ds2 obviously likes strict mummy as only fed once last night at 3. woke at 5 but settled and then woke him at 7. lord let this be it!
bf had a baby girl last night. randomly made me feel jelaous and roody. what the hell?!

qumps · 29/01/2009 12:45

broody not roody. def not roody!!!!

qumps · 29/01/2009 12:45

broody not roody. def not roody!!!!

MissHairspray · 29/01/2009 13:30

fab birth story ray and i know what you mean about keep thinking you were having a contraction when you were dozing off even though you weren't in labour anymore. i actually felt quite traumatized by the pain and stress of it all but it helps writing it down.

tinkhashertinklet · 29/01/2009 15:06

just saw midwife

dd2 weighed 8lbs6.5ozs on sat now weighs 8lbs4ozs
midwife said not too much to worry about as she hadnt taken a full feed before they came.
she has started taking 1oz and then you cant get anymore in her then 2-3 hours later just 1oz again.
midwife said we have to try and get in her as much as possible between now and sunday as they are coming out on sunday to weigh her.
it is hard trying to get food in them when they wont suck.
she ahs a hard suck we are going to try her with medium teats for the next one wondered if newborn teats were too slow.
she ahs been quite sicky over the last few days 2.
dd1 was an awful feeder reminds me of what she was like!!
we have decided to switch to apitamal formula

fourlittlefeet · 29/01/2009 15:53

fab birth story ray. glad you are feeling better heron. v tired here.

LenniEd · 29/01/2009 16:47

Enjoyed the birth story ray - sounds like it went well for you. MsSparkle - I was a bit traumatised after my first labour, also wasn't expecting that much pain and felt a bit horrified by the indignity of it all. If it's any help I soon got over it and this time round felt elated by the experience, probably because I knew what to expect.

Hope you are hanging in there Tink - sounds like a worry for you, but am sure she'll be fine in a couple of weeks once she gets going.

Nightmare couple of days here - DS fed for 30mins of every hour for last 48hrs. B/f counsellor called today and reckons I'm in classic 3wk growth spurt territory but even with knowing it'll be over soon I still am feeling a bit overwhelmed. At 1am last night I would have happily given him formula if we'd had any I'd just had enough. Feel a bit brighter today but not looking forward to tonight.

LenniEd · 29/01/2009 16:47

Sorry that was meant to be MissHairspay - losing mind.

witchwithallthetrimmings · 29/01/2009 17:25

can dc2 (dd) and i join this thread, she was born on the 14th of Jan by elective section

Midwife at my section was wonderful, she made sure that we got skin to skin asap and made the whole thing about meeting my daughter rather than the operation.

am feeding hourly (which basically means more or less continously doesn't it) for bits of the day and night with some (thank you thank you god) 3 hourly bits.

LenniEd · 29/01/2009 17:28

Just copying this across from the other thread...

Babies!

Jokat - DD, 2lbs 15oz
Looweeza - DS 4th Dec, Kit, 7lbs 13oz
Chefswife - DD 9th Dec, Violet May, 6lbs 7oz
HeathersMummy - DS 17th Dec, Fraser, 7lbs 2oz
Qumps - DS 19th Dec, Stanley, 7lbs 12oz
Kittenpaws - DD 22nd Dec, Susanna, 7lbs
NatalieJane - DS 27th Dec, Mikey
Ginni - DD 26th Dec, No name yet, 6lbs 15oz
Scared - 29th Dec
TallulahBelle - TWINS 31st Dec
spink - DD, 7th Jan 11:37am
lennied - DS 7th Jan, Dylan Jacob, 7lbs 14oz
newmomma - DS 7th Jan, Harry John
periwink - DD 10th Jan, Ariella, 6:49, 8lbs 10oz
buickmackane - DS 13th Jan, William Ben, 7lb 7oz
Nellybell - DD 13th Jan, Polly, 7lbs 3oz
witchandchips - DD 14th Jan baby girl, 8lb 6oz
moosemama - DD 15th Jan, Elizabeth Jane
MsSparkle - DS 15th Jan, Finley Stephen, 9lb 8oz
Shanster - DD 15th Jan, Mairi, 7lb 9oz
Largeginandtonic - DD 16th Jan, India Rose, 9lb 5oz
Blue Sapphire - DS 16th Jan, David Alexander
FourLittleFeet - DS 17th Jan, Hugo, 8lb 6oz
Stripeywoollenhat - DD 18th Jan, Catherine Eleanor, 7lb 13oz
Tink - DD 19th Jan, Bracken Hope Willow, 8lb 7oz
Ooggs - DS 20th Jan, Luke Daniel, 8lb 6oz
Hkz- DS 21st Jan, Jude Peter, 7lb 5oz
Treedelivery - DD 22nd Jan
MissHairspray - DS 22nd Jan, Oliver James 9lb 12oz
RRay - DD 23rd Jan, Esme Mae, 6lb 6oz

Still waiting:

ColumbosWife - 19th January (DC3)
MissJackson - 18th Jan
EachPeachPearMum- 21st Jan (DC2, DD born Feb 06)
Booksgalore - 21st Jan (DS born Mar 07)
LooseyC - 22nd Jan (DC2. DS born Dec 07)
elkiedee 26 Jan (DC2, DS born May 2007)
FYM - 28th Jan (DC2, DS Dec 05)
Givethedogabone 30th january will be DC3, DD 4 in feb and DS 2

Also had their babies but not sure of details:

Mel2005 - 10th Jan TWINS(ds born sept 04, dd born jan 06)
Poorbuthappy - 14th Jan (1 dd born Sept 04)
Happyathome - 18th Jan (DC2. DD born June 02)

moosemama · 29/01/2009 18:50

Ok right, my birth story. Short labour, but bet its the longest story!

As most of you know, I went in on Wednesday 14th (at 40 +12) for monitoring prior to being induced on the 15th.

Arrived lay down, was put on ctg and examined only to find the little darling had turned breech - again! We were also having trouble getting a reactive trace so was left on the machine for an hour. Was just being told I would have to have a section on Friday 16th, when the doctor popped out to speak to the consultant who happened to be on the postnatal ward next door and luckily he was experienced in ecv and willing to try and turn her there and then. DH and I went into panic mode as they said they would probably want to induce as soon as she turned if the ecv was successful, neither of us had our mobile phones, we had no cash between us and we hadn't arranged anyone to collect the boys from school!

Anyway, was taken to labour ward and injected with butyl(something) to relax my uterus, this was weird and made me quite shaky and a bit spacey. Then 15 minutes later the consultant came in and did the ecv. It hurt (a lot) but took less than 2 minutes and worked first time. Had an hours monitoring afterwards to make sure no foetal distress, and after drinking a jug of ice water baby finally woke up and gave them a suitable trace!

Fortunately they were too busy to induce me there and then and the consultant was happy for me to go home and come back in the morning. Cue a very uncomfortable night trying to stay as upright as possible to stop her from turning again before the morning.

Called the labour ward at 7.30 am and was told to make my way in. DH took boys to school first and we arrived at about 9.30am.

Again problems getting a reactive trace so left on the ctg for over an hour and a half until they were happy with her. First dose of prostin given at 11.45, cervix was still posterior and 2cm as it had been the previous Sunday.

MW (had two, as one was on her first day - both were lovely ladies) suggested going for a walk and getting some lunch and to come back at about 2.00.

DH and I went to hospital cafe and had a coffee and pannini then decided to walk into town (about a 10 minute walk) to pay in some cheques and buy something to read.

Started having the odd twinge on the walk back from town but nothing major.

Got back to the labour ward at 2.00 just before shift change and was put back onto the monitor. Again, not happy with the trace, but ate some chocolate and after half an hour she woke up (apparently just a sleepy baby - still is actually). Realised we'd left tens machine at home and DH raced off to get it as he reckoned he could be back in half an hour (he was thank god).

At about 3.45 started to have contractions which were very painful right away, then to cap it all a new shift started and I ended up with a mw who was constantly elsewhere! Was staying upright, leaning on wall or over bed, rocking, swaying etc etc (all the things that worked with DS2s labour) but nothing was working. Decided to put on tens but couldn't understand why none of the first setting levels were touching the pain, had to go straight to setting 2. Called MW who eventually came and offered me 2 codryamol, then disappeared again for what felt like ages! By now contractions were less than a minute apart, a minute long and really painful. At 4 MW came back gave me the pills and decided to examine me only to say no change and I would be given a second dose at 6.00. I nearly burst out crying on the spot - I was in agony and she was telling me the contractions were 'just prostin pain' and 'non-productive'. I couldn't believe it, having been through this twice before, I'd never experienced pain like it and normally have a very high pain threshold. Anyway, so she stuck me back on the ctg (which was great as it meant I was now stuck on my back on the bed) off she went again and that was the last I saw of her!

By this time I was starting to get out of my head with the pain, the tens machine was on the top level of second setting, still not touching the contractions and DH was telling me not to go to setting 3 as that was for the final stage and I wouldn't have any relief for when I got there. So I gave up on the tens figuring it wasn't working properly. (As it turns out, it was working - I should have been on setting 3.) From then on I coped by squeezing poor old DH's hand and a couple of times nearly biting his thumb but just managing to stop myself. My whole body was shaking violently (like you see when people are in shock) and I was hanging onto the metal headboard rungs of the bed and pulling myself up backwards with every contraction, as a result of this I pulled all the muscles in both upper arms which made it a bit difficult to hold Elizabeth at first.

A registrar turned up and told me that I was having too many contractions too close together and they needed to slow them down. She insisted I should have pethidine, but my Mum and Sister both reacted really badly to it so I tried to argue with her (during back to back agonising contractions!) and she walked off saying - "you need it I am going to draw it up".

At about 5.10 I felt really strong pressure in the rear and knew the baby was ready to come, told DH, tried calling MW (no response) so desperately tried not to push. Then at 5.25 the MW who was dealing with the lady in the other bed behind the curtain in the assessment room (poor poor lady, what she had to listen to from my side of the room) came in with a syringe, saying they'd got some butyl(something) (the stuff they used for the ecv to relax my uterus) to slow things down. My response - "Oh god you have to help me, they keep saying its just prostin pain but the baby's here I need to push" at which point she dropped the syringe and said "I better just check, you could well have progressed" then "yep, you're fully - push!".

Then all hell broke loose, the women in the next bed was scooted out of the room, 2 more MWs came in along with loads of equipment (resucitaire sp? etc).

Being off my head with pain I was insisting I shouldn't push because my waters hadn't gone and they were trying to tell me it didn't matter and I should just push and the waters would go. So a couple of good long pushes later I was told the waters were bulging ahead of her head then on the third push she shot out like a torpedo - amniotic sac intact, landed with a thud on the bed and the bag broke like a water bomb balloon!

The relief when she came out was huge and I felt instantly better and started chatting with the MW asking if I needed stitching etc and apologising for the mess I'd made of the bed (the bed resembled a massacre at the swimming baths!).

We were moved from the assessment room to a labour room and Elizabeth was put under a heat lamp as she had a v low temp (34 degrees). Her apgars were both 9 though so they weren't too worried about her.

Then it went crazy on the labour ward with wailing delivering women in every room and so we were left for 3 hours before I was stitched and could have a bath and Elizabeth was cleaned up and dressed.

Have to say the MW that delivered Elizabeth and stitched me up (took an hour to do the stitching and she kept saying she couldn't believe I didn't want G&A for the stitching just the local anaesthetic - well I did say I have a high pain threshold) was absolutely lovely. The MW I was supposed to be being looked after never came back and we didn't hear from her again.

Elizabeth was born at 5.35 pm and we were eventually taken up to the postnatal ward at 11.30 pm!

So there you have it:

4.00 pm cervix posterior and 2 cm
5.10 pm urge to push unbearable
next 15 minutes spent trying desperately not to push and to call for help
5.25 pm fully dilated
5.35 pm Elizabeth burst into the world in spectacular fashion!

Tens maching next to useless, contractions back to back and over a minute long almost from the word go and no pain relief such as G&A available as I wasn't in a labour room!

It was all quite shocking at the time, but at least it was over quickly.

Looking back the only bit that annoyed me (other than noone taking me seriously and obviously thinking I was just a wimp with pain) was the flipping disappearing MW who was sooo patronising as she told me I was just having prostin pains and had a long way to go etc etc. She implied I was just making a big fuss about nothing and as it happens - she was very wrong!

When we were in the labour room afterwards I was listening to all the yelling (and some swearing) coming from the other rooms and kept asking DH if I sounded that bad. He reckons I was nowhere near as bad as most of them. I was extremely relieved to hear this as all I can remember is yelling 'help me' at the end and moaning loudly through the contractions whilst worrying what everyone would think of me (I didn't make any noise in my other two labours).

moosemama · 29/01/2009 18:51

So do I win the prize for the longest birth story post then?!

qumps · 29/01/2009 19:31

wow moose what a story. never heard of anyone i know having their baby born in the sac. did the head come out first or was it all in one go? you must have been quite scared by how fast it happened and the lack of midwife. thank god for dh's though. despite our pregnancy moaning!
all this reminising and bf having baby has made me want to write mine so off to get a cuppa and will start. promise not to be longer!

qumps · 29/01/2009 19:56

birth of stanley...
... well i had been having bh's for weeks and this day was no different. ds1 in nursey so spent the afternoon sticking up wall art in his bedroom and climbing on furniture. wanted to have it all finished before the baby came (good timing!). bh were quite strong but wasn't worried at all. went to pick up ds1 from nursery and then put him to bed and settled down to watch tv. dh was at his work christmas party (dressed as a woman in high heels and a blonde wig!). spoke to him about 9 and said was having bh but was going to have a bath and was sure they would stop then as usually did....
...rang dh at midnight to say still having tightenings and he should think about coming home. due to complications rang hospital and they said come straight in but decided to wait for dh who came got home at 1am. he was very pleased with himself as he won first prize in the fancy dress competition. i said are you drunk? he said no so i said great you can drive me to hospital if needs be and he said oh well i may have had one or 2 (i think 6 or 7 more accurate!).
we lay in bed timing contractions. i knew they were then as the same as with ds1, all in back and legs. not at all painful and we both kept drifting off to sleep despite them being only 3 minutes apart. about 5am i emptied my bowels and knew then this was definitley it. still not in very much pain from contractions but then the vommiting started. this was horrific and far worse than the contractions. started to panic a little bit as was so violently ill so dropped ds1 at a friends at 8am and went to hospital. they put me on a monitor which showed the contractions before i could feel them. so lucky as they were so weak but obviously doing the job. at this point i was 3cm but they weren't convinced i was in labour as i wasn't bothered by the pain. wanted to put me on a drip for dehydration but i wanted to go home so they said they would ring me in 2 hours to see how i was doing. had to stop car on way home to be sick but so glad to get into my bed.
had a little sleep while mum, dh and ds1 downstairs and next thing i woke up to waters breaking. still felt fine but contractions started to get stronger. so got up and walked around and threw up in the kitchen sink a few times.
at 1430 went to hospital as quite strong now. had g&a about 1500 which i love. i am such a lightweight it makes me feel hammered. i know where i am and am aware of the pain but don't actually care. think i started to talk rubbish and reminiss about uni days as dh kept telling me to be quiet! i wanted to get in the bath as i loved that first time round but they said i didn't have time.
moved into labour ward shortly after and knelt over a ball for a while. asked mw to check me and she said no need you are doing well. i insisted as i said if i am only 4 cm i want drugs. she said i think you are 7 to which i abused her saying how could she know! anyway she did check and i was 8/9. it was 1545 and she said you will be pushing within an hour. i thought an hour more of this no way and started to push. actually felt the urge which i didn't last time. infact was far more aware during the whole birth particulary when the head crowned and i shouted i am splitting in 2! stanley arrived at 1617. horrid moment when head was out where dh and i were silent as that was where it all went wrong last time but with only a little help the body came too and dh burst into tears.
it was so lovely to have the nice time together in the labour room afterwards and the 3 of us had a sleep and a cuddle on the bed. because we were just so happy that all was ok we forgot to ask to cut the cord or take any photos which we only realised afterwards.
so in short
3cm at 0900
waters broke 1230
8/9cm 1545
stanley born 1617
they think i had a irus which brought on labour early. lucky me as i was sooo pleased not to have c section. and only a slight tear after a full on episiotomy last time.
one very happy mummy with a gorgeous boy.

qumps · 29/01/2009 19:56

scrolled back up and way shorter than moose!

EachPeachPearMum · 29/01/2009 20:02

Just posting to get this on my threads!
Nothing is happening here
moose- being born in the caul is supposed to be incredibly lucky (if you believe in that sort of thing)

Spink · 29/01/2009 20:06

yay qumps! look forward to reading it.

moose - I knew this from how brilliantly you coped with all the stuff going on for you a few weeks back - but reading your birth story confirms what a star you are. sounds like you did very fine work.

Lenni - well done for nearly being through the growth spurt. your poor bobs. hope you get more sleep tonight

tink - hope you're feeling ok about the feeding - it can be so worrying, can't it. you happy with the advice and support you're getting?

gtdab - hang in there lady, you're nearly nearly there,pg will soon be a distant memory and you'll be cuddling your bub and posting your birth story before you know it. how was the s&s?

witch - hello! look forward to getting to know you!

Spink · 29/01/2009 20:07

lenni - boobs not bobs....

mppaw · 29/01/2009 20:24

Hi all, I was on the VBAC thread and Fourlittlefeet suggested I come over here now as DS (DC2) is born.
Have spent the past couple of nights reading this thread and it is great.

DS came 2 weeks early on 3rd Jan, and I got the VBAC I wanted, albeit very quick.
Waters broke at 11:30 and DS was born at 1.58am !!

Even though this is DC2, this stage with DD (Now 3yrs) was a bit of a blur for 1 reason and another, however I can't get over how much DS is sleeping. He is almost 4 weeks and today from 8:30am he has been properly awake for 1 hour. He is waking for feeds etc, but then straight back off to sleep !!
He has got a rotten cold so am thinking he is sleeping to try and get rid of this cold.
Can anyone else relate to this and put my mind at rest ?
I am off to the hospital tomorrow with him as the HV still thinks he may have a touch jaundice, so he has got to have a blood test to make sure all is ok

givethedogAhomebirth · 29/01/2009 20:32

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