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fourlittlestockingedfeet · 28/12/2008 12:44

Here's a brand new thread for the early party poppers!

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qumps · 28/01/2009 13:10

i got a bit confused as to whether you actually pooed tree or it was the baby coming out....until you said you heard it hitting the bed. i bet the relief far outweighed the embarrassment. i remember a midwife holding something against my bum so no doubt poo in there for me somewhere.
this will scare you, ds2 6 weeks on friday. where on earth has that gone??!!! he is already bigger than his bro was at this age despite being nearly 2lb smaller at birth. little feeding machine. only problem is he still only takes 2-3oz a feed so still only going short gaps. today trying to break the cycle by stretching him out to take a bigger feed and hope he will go longer. last night was a bad one and mummy had to do lots of deep breathing. also have one sore boob which ds1 kicked me in this morning. agony.
but dare i say it both in bed now and its bliss!! no idea how long it will last but know if i could guarantee half an hour of this every day i know i could cope.

qumps · 28/01/2009 13:13

and harriet is gorgeous and you looked AMAZING when you left hospital.

qumps · 28/01/2009 13:14

oh and one woke up. how long was that?

tinkhashertinklet · 28/01/2009 13:15

well done u

qumps · 28/01/2009 13:15

less than 4 minutes by mumsnet time.
first sign of madness talking to self....

MsSparkle · 28/01/2009 13:18

Hello,

Tree, great birth story. I know what you mean about the poo. I also felt great relief when i pooed. I did it whilst leaning over the bed, i must have looked like some sort of cow

qumps my baby was doing the 2-3oz little and often method too. He is 2 weeks old though. The health visitor told me to just hold out and try and get him to go 4 hours to ensure his tummy is very empty so he will then take a bigger feed. I have been doing that and it seems to be working, i offer cool boiled water in between if he cries before.

I feel a little better today although i know it's not gonna last. I am so up and down all the time. We are registering his birth today so that will be good. He will be an official member of society

qumps · 28/01/2009 13:45

still here and up to 3 hours with help of dummy. seems quite happy so maybe i am misjudging need to suckle for need to feed.
also tree think he has blocked tear ducts. any advice if you are not too busy would be most welcome. bathing in cooled boiled water and massaging but doesn't seem to help.

stripeywoollenhat · 28/01/2009 13:53

really enjoyed birth story, tree. no idea whether there was any poo involved in mine, dp says not but may just be being courteous, i guess.

feeling a bit under the cosh today despite getting nine hours (!) sleep last night (two hour and a half long boob breaks, one am and five am). she's fab, but it occurred to me that i m weeks away from an hour off, you know? dp back at work which might be something to do with it.

she is gorgeous, though, getting really alert, so all will be well.

books will be joining us shortly, no?

MissHairspray · 28/01/2009 15:10

Hello ladies thought I should post my own birth story as i've loved reading everyone elses, although it certainly doesn't compare to Tree's big poo experience.

11:30 pm on Tuesday, two weeks overdue I went to bed fully expecting to be going in to hospital at 8am next morning to be induced. I was a bit dissapointed as I had wanted to go to the local MLU but after three sweeps where my cervix was described as 'unfavourable' and no labour signs whatsoever it seemed pretty certain that I wouldn't be going in to labour naturally.

1pm and I woke up, went to the loo and had a shock to see loads of blood. Of course I knew what a show was but hadn't expected that much or that colour, so rang local MLU and they said it was probably a show but to keep an eye on it. My waters were still intact and I hadn't had any contractions so they still thought it was unlikely anything would happen before the induction.

3pm and I felt my first contraction, again not what I was expecting. It didn't feel like my bump tightening, more like extreme pressure on my back passage and a deep pain. 10 mins later and I had another one. They were definitely ouch, again not the gentle introduction to labour I was expecting. I got dressed, hauled dh out of bed and called the MLU again who told me to take some paracetamol and come in at 8.30 to be assessed. I spent the night rocking on my ball with the TENS on and timing contractions which went down to every six minutes by the time I got there. When they examined me I was 2cm dilated so not in 'active' labour but definitely on my way and - yipee - I could deliver there and wouldn't have to be induced. They sent me home and then three hours later I decided I couldn't stand it any more and went back for further assessment. Contractions were 3 mins apart and 1.5 mins and cervix 4-5cm this time so definitely active.

The next couple of hours or so I spent in the bath with the gas and air. It made me retch at first and then it didn't do a great deal although I wasn't really sucking it properly. After a while I decided I wanted something stronger so started asking for pethedine (so much for 'as natural labour as possible!'), it was a bit of an ordeal to even get out of the bath but eventually they got me to the delivery room and gave me the drugs.

The next few hours were a bit of a blur, spent most of the time on the ball hanging off this harness thing in strange positions with DH holding me up and giving me water. I felt like I had so much internal pressure that even trying to move in between contractions was hugely uncomfortable. I ended up on the bed sleeping between contractions, waking up with each one to have a suck on gas and air and make some totally random drug-induced comment, but things were still progressing well and the midwifes were convinced he would be born that day.

At 8pm I had another VE which was horrible lying on my back, but the baby was still turning trying to get his head in the right position and a lip of the cervix was still there. The next few hours were pretty awful. At each contraction I kept getting the overwhelming urge to push but absolutely nothing was happening and the pain was really intense. They tried to break my waters but only got half, so made the decision to give me two hours, and then another hour to see if I had made any progress otherwise I was going to have to be transferred to the hospital. At this point I couldn't believe I had thought I could do without an epidural - so much for the birth plan! At midnight the midwife did another VE when she could still feel the lip of cervix, and went to get the ward sister for a final opinion on whether I needed transferring. Then the sister did the VE and it dissapeared and I heard those magic words - 'this baby is ready to be born!'

I spent the next 50 minutes pushing, I didn't really have the urge but they told me how to do it. It was great to finally feel like I was getting somewhere and it was so amazing to reach down and feel his little hairy head. The moment when he came out was unimaginable relief and amazement, even more so when they weighed him and found out he was 9lbs 12. He was born at 1am, pretty much 24 hours after everything had kicked off and have never felt so knackered in my whole life, but in the end I had the labour I wanted with no real intervention and no other obvious side effects other than a 2nd degree tear which seems to be healing nicely and a jaw that feels like it has been knocked out of place after all of the chomping on the gas and air mouthpiece.

So, what great advice can I pass on from all of this? Don't assume that at two weeks over it won't happen naturally; don't assume that you will have a gentle introduction to labour with pains/niggles/hourly contractions etc; have a birth plan but accept that you probably won't use it (I had envisaged lots of moving around and giving birth on all fours - ha!); that while pethedine probably doesn't work for everyone it was great for me and let me have a rest in between contractions; that even if like me you couldn't really get the hang of gas and air it is a great distraction; and that even when you think it is never going to end - it does. And that despite it being the hardest thing I have ever done and don't wish to repeat anytime soon I am so glad to have had the experience.

God, what a marathon, but I do feel like I need to get it all down, 're-live' the experience, and then get on enjoying my baby.

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MissHairspray · 28/01/2009 15:20

Hi again,

tree feeding is still totally erratic but we seem to be getting somewhere. Today he has had one formula bottle, one expressed bottle and around four bf of 15 or so mins. He can latch, especially if I use the pump for a minute or so first, its just that he seems to go from not interested to starving and screaming in about 5 mins and if you don't catch him early he gets so wound up that nothing will make him latch on - it was the same in hospital. Plus my supply probably isn't great so i'm trying to express whenever he does refuse the breast so at least I can give him expressed milk rather than formula. Its probably going to be a bit touch and go and its taking a lot of effort, especially as if I really want to get this sorted I need to bf at night too and it is so tempting to give him formula when we know from the past couple of nights that if he gets a formula bottle at 1 he will sleep until around 6.

Still I don't wish problems on anyone else but it is reassuring to see i'm not the only one with feeding issues. God bless mumsnet.

heron22 · 28/01/2009 15:27

hi spink, missparkle, it has been 2 weeks since DS2 was born. and some days i feel quite overwhelmed. some days i feel i can do it!

it is good to know that i am not alone.

right now i feel absolutely weepy.

treedelivery · 28/01/2009 17:35

Such a birth story - I cried. You did so amazingly well, especially getting through the 9cm-rim-fully delighted bit. God well done you you must have managed to stay very focused to keep from despair/panic! I had those 2 in 2 min cycles towards to end.

Qumps - no new advice, massage and breast milk the first approach. If no improvement then you coud use ointment but you might not need too with the things you are doing. GP/mw/hv can give you the product though.

MissHairspray - your doing really really well you know. You seem to have a good understanding and knowledge of where your at. I think your supply is probably better than your giving it credit for, 15 min feeds are good! And in reality, your supply is exactly what you need for 4 15 min feeds. If you want any advice to up the bf just ask

I see your point about touch and go, it does get to a point where you just want to go oneway or the other. If it's any encouragement I got through bf by aiming to just get through the next feed, then gradually I thought in days after 2-3 weeks, then weeks [a few months in] then I suddenly wasn't thinking at all by about 4 months.

Harriet was up 1am till 5am. Happy days.
heron22 - I Spent most of today crying or shouting at dh for leaving wet dishcloths on oak worktops. Don't know where I found energy really! You are not alone. x

Teerrible backache, might get wee checked, UTI is not required right now! Poo continues to be an issue, Kids and birthing and family happiness - it all actually hinges on poo I have found.

hkz · 28/01/2009 17:53

Great birth story MissH, glad you got the labour you wanted and managed to avoid the induction. know what you mean about the birth plan, i didn't even bother writing one this time, just made sure dp and i were aware of our options.
qumps- second the breast milk in eye thing...jude has a sticky eye and mw advised me to squirt breastmilk in it and it seems to be doing the job.

had horrible night sweats last night, woke up completely soaking 2 or 3 times... i remember this from last time, but not how long it lasts. is there anything u can do about it as its gross!

tree-any advice on increasing milk supply, ds is a guzzler and my boobs aren't keeping up...he just emptied both of them! Harriet looks gorgeous btw.

MsSparkle · 28/01/2009 18:16

MissHairSpray great birth story I absolutely agree with your last paragraph too!

treedelivery · 28/01/2009 18:39

upping your Milk supply - ds has just increased it! Empty breasts will refill plus a bit so you'll have Pammy Andersons tonight or tommorrow. He might have the grumps this eve if they are down to the dregs especially if he's an evening cluster feeder. It never runs out though, there is a constant 'ticking over' production trickle so starving not an option.
If concerned supply is off, or growth spurt is coming, there are a few interventions. Unrestriced feeding, basiclly a day on the couch doing littlle else will usually sort it. MAKE him feed an extra 10 mins each side, tickle feet etc to get him sucking. Offer breast often as you can. Even when he's not fussed. Express by hand or pump at end of feed - won't get much off but will 'up the order' so to speak. There is also switch feeding, which is new. I believe we feed on one side till let down happens, then bob onto other till let down happens, then do 10 mins each side backing and forthing. Now I imagine that would produce litres, so really for if there is an issue and a problem developing iyswim

moosemama · 28/01/2009 19:20

Hi Tree amazing birth story. Suppose I ought to get round to typing mine up soon.

Have been out into town with the whole family after school today. Have to say I LOVE MY NEW BUGGY! It was fantastic, turns on a pin, DS2 helped me push it and was delighted that the handle adjusts low enough for him and I had no trouble steering with one hand on the edge of the handle which made him think he was doing it all by himself. Despite being a 3 wheeler it hasn't got a large footprint so to speak and fitted easily round the shops and in all the lifts.

Elizabeth was an angel baby and slept through the whole trip, we even managed to take the boys for tea in a cafe.

As you can probably tell, I'm feeling much more back in the world today. Think its a lot to do with Elizabeth deciding to go 4 and 4 hrs between night feeds 2 nights in a row. Also, I'm back in my old jeans (great to wear something proper and not jogging trousers and scruffy top) and am even back to pre-baby weight. (Although tbh I was a good stone overweight pre-pregnancy so still have a way to go to get where I want to be.)

Elizabeth will be two weeks old tomorrow! Can't believe how its flown by but feel hibernating with her for the first couple of weeks was definitely the right thing to do as had plenty of time to rest and recover. DH has the afternoons off this week so he can take and collect the boys from school, but think I may brave the school playground tomorrow as have had so many cards and presents from other Mums (total surprise as generally try to keep myself to myself) and must deliver my thank you cards. DH says he is ambushed every day by people asking when they are going to meet her so its probably about time.

fourlittlefeet · 28/01/2009 19:33

Hello all! We've been out and about in reality! Great birth story Tree, loving the poo bits; edited all that out of mine . Can't bear to think about it, what with two youngs men doing all the delivering.

Miss H, lovely birth story, so glad you got around your induction!

Upping milk - drink lots of fennel tea - it truly makes a difference in my opinion!

fourlittlefeet · 28/01/2009 20:19

By the way Tree, had mine been a girl we could well have had two Harriets on the thread!! LOVE the name.

LooseyC · 28/01/2009 21:35

Hello all ? I?m posting this on both sites so sorry for duplication. Will do this first then read the other birth stories which I see have appeared, great stuff!

Anyway baby Toby was born at 05:47am on Tuesday 22nd - 7lb 8oz... probably the opposite to books as the labour was so short I barely made it to the hospital on time and DH didn't make it at all!

So - short-ish version for a short labour: I was cursing that my stretch and sweep hadn't worked on Mon night but was getting crampy pains at bedtime - but as I could doze between them and they weren't all that bad thought I was in for a long wait...

Then at about 4:30am I got woken up by a really painful contraction from nowhere, suddenly about 3m apart and had the urge to push - so was really scared the baby was coming there and then! We went into plan B and DH rushed out to get a taxi from the station across the road and packed me into it while he waited for PIL to arrive and look after DS. I was screaming in the back of the taxi - poor driver! But luckily the hospital was only 10m away and he wheeled me up to the MLU as well, bless him.

The midwife took one look at me but told me to get up on the bed and start pushing, and I got some G&A thank god. Baby Toby was born half an hour later and DH turned up an hour after that! To be honest though I wouldn't have noticed if he was there or not (or if aliens had landed) at that stage, which he isn't too offended by. Placenta took ages in comparison but was all over in 2 hours 30. We had to stay in the MLU yesterday for some obs but all is fine and we were back last night. So it all seemed a bit dramatic - and I think I would have preferred it a big longer really!

Feeding is proving a different story as baby is a bit sleepy and mucusy and not very interested, but even so the nip cream is having to come out already, ouch.

Will try and post again soon but don't know how you ladies are doing it along with everything else

hkz · 28/01/2009 21:43

Congratulations on the birth of Toby LooseyC, that's a pretty exciting birth story! Thank the lord for nipple cream!

LooseyC · 28/01/2009 21:48

Tree - ha! Love your story...
MissH - blimey, well done and what a whopper! No wonder it was such an effort.

LenniEd · 29/01/2009 00:18

Wow! Congratulations LooseyC

And lovely to have three birth stories to read all on the same day! Thank you all, enjoyed them all, and every one completely different. Also got confused on the did Tree poo or didn't she... or was the poo indeed a metaphor for a baby, but glad we cleared that up quickly... no pun intended. For the record, I pooed in the birth pool and wet myself in the lift before I even got to delivery so wouldn't be all that ashamed poo+baby=damn good labour in my books.

Night all, will share tales of continuous feeding from 6am-10pm today when I can. Nipples on fire again... and there was me thinking they were just feeling nice again after the initial damage had recitifed itself. Ack.

LenniEd · 29/01/2009 00:19

And Tree - is lovely to have you back

Spink · 29/01/2009 09:26

tree - poo is central to life, it is true. tmi coming - i've had a nasty prolapsed pile appear over the last few days so now can't sit without miaowing like a cat in a bag. gp has prescribed suppositories. ouchy! so wrong.
i pooed in labour too, no one said anything and dh didn't notice but i got a whiff apologised to the mw afterwards, she laughed at me....