September 08 - Just ladies with babies

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I thought I'd start a new thread before we run out of space...

Foxy

happy birthday! and thanks for the email...i read it first thing this morning and started doing the things you suggested.

must be jabs day! Maia had hers too, 8 wk check followed by jabs, soooooooo horrible, she screamed but recovered quickly and is now sat on my lap chatting... and pooing ... and after 3 days she seems to be remembering a bit how to feed... let's hope it carries on, as the little she had yesterday came all back out...

digitalgirl I totally relate on the FIL snatching baby thing (my FIL's first grandchild, he is also in 80s). My worst day ever since DD was born was an outing with in PIL when she was 3 weeks old. Because of my SPD it was the first time we had gone out somewhere in the car with the buggy. It was a really big deal confidence-wise for me, as it was my first day on crutches after being in a wheelchair for months, and I had never pushed my baby before - SOO looking forward to it. I was really excited as DH set up the buggy, then FIL grabbed the buggy and took off! We were at a National Trust property - he just took off without even thinking and was off up a hill where I couldn't follow on the crutches. I sat in the cafe for over an hour CRYING MY EYES OUT! DH eventually clicked what had happened and retrieved my baby for me. It took a long time to get my confidence back after that.

But the toughest part was, I couldn't be mad at FIL. Having this grandchild is so special for him. They were only here for 3 weeks and have now gone back home overseas, so he may not ever see her again... What can you do? I agree with you though; asking first would be a nice start!

Sorry for long ranting story. I am still quite hurt by what happened even though it was 6 weeks ago. This was also my first time bf in public, once DH brought DD back to the cafe. Not the greatest of circumstances, in front of people who had been trying not to stare at the crying lady in the corner for the last hour! Maybe this has scarred me and I need counselling - any amateur shrinks out there?

God, it's all coming back to me now. On the way there step-MIL said "and if you need to feed you can just go and sit in the car" !! Yep, that was a pretty low day for me. See how much repressed stuff is coming out just by talking to you all about it.

star I hadn't thought about telling DD, but you are right. Puts a slightly different slant on the whole thing, doesn't it?

Starlight THE Gypsymama strech wrap is very soft and light. That is the one I have bought following the reviews from Sassafrass for when it is hot at home and for the summer. Bebe cannelle still has some on sale, some are half price. Have a look at the 3 pages of sale items, there are some lovely ones.
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Bad night last night. Lorea was awake for 3 hrs, I think it had to do with the jab.

Still reading all your messages.
Happy birthdayFoxy

ponymum you poor thing! I would have been exactly the same in a similar situation. And loving the BF comment - I don't think people our parents' ages have much comprehension of how public BF is becoming normalised.

T is sat in his chair straining frantically to do a poo, poor chap. Very comical though.

star - at a baby clinic ???!!

hopefully I took ds2 to get weighed today, he was on 75th line when born, dropped to below 50th when he lost weight at the start, got back up to 75th when weighed at 6 weeks and was down to just above the 50th again today (10 weeks). I wasn't worried at all- esp as he did lose his appetite a bit last week when he wasn't well- and the hv said its very normal for them to jump around a bit. Remember at this stage it's only a few grams that make the difference to being on one line or the next.

ponymum - I think the getting to the pushchair quick and go is a granparent thing. when I had DS, when my parents came over to see him, my dad used to be the first to get to it as soon as it was set up! and mum said he NEVER pushed any of his three children!!! I'm sure he didn't mean to upset you and it'll be a lovely story. So really between 2 weeks with mum here, followed by 2 weeks with MIL here, followed by 2 wks with my parents here, I must have touched the pushchair a handful of times in DS's first two months!!

not surprised at your step-MIL's comments re bf, especially seeing what starlight's GP's receptionist!!! When I had DS 4 yrs ago I never bf him in public as there were constant debates on whether this was acceptable and stories of women asked to leave cafes etc. But I think in 4 years things have changed and I haven't thought twice at bfing DD when out.

My mum asked if there were many places locally where I was 'allowed' to bf - was a bit bemused and said 'everywhere'...except buses are too wobbly.

I've had doc's receptionists ask if I'm OK when I've fed in the waiting room, and say I'm welcome to use any empty room if I'd like to be more comfortable or lie down - which was appreciated the first time as I haven't reallly mastered 'discreet' feeding, but didn't take up the offer as he'd nearly finished. But a snooze while waiting in future sounds nice!

ponymum - I had a few times like that when I couldn't walk well yet and well-meaning people kept charging off with my baby making me feel both bereft and inadequate. My dad won't be in the same room as me when I feed but at least he tells me to go ahead and do it...just then vanishes... I don't think he's yet accepted that his one and only offspring has had sex, let alone breasts...

I can remember the first time my PILs came to our house after E was born, it took all my strength not to scream at everyone to give me my baby back! I knew I was being unreasonable as I am with her for every second of the day where as they live 3hrs away and are totally besotted with her, so I couldn't get a strop on, but I was amazed at the strength of my feelings and that I felt I had lost her even though she was still in the same room.

I was a bad mummy today, didn't make it to her jabs so have to go next week instead, I can't imagine them being a week late will make much difference but it's still pretty bad that I couldn't get my arse in gear. Now that I'm not working I don't have much use for actual money, I am more than capable of spending all of mine on the internet! But it means that I constantly find that I have no coins in my purse and it drives me insane because I never remember until I need to get a ruddy bus.

So in my defence, I didn't go to get her jabs because I didn't have any money, didn't have a sling or pushchair because DP went off with them in the car, and because the workmen doing work o/s my house decided to pick the moment I was leaving to say they absolutely had to come and check my gas pipes.

Hello all. First time DP is away overnight, so I'm a bit nervous. we've had a good day. Went to baby sensory again, which was great and then onto zoo for lunch and a little wander.

but (warning - rant coming) It's DP's niece's 4th birthday today and with C being sooo unsettled in the evening and DP being away, we decided I wouldn't go to see her with card etc today. TBH, I have only just managed to buy a present but wrapping it is another challenge!

Sent an apology to SIL and as she's having birthday party on Sunday, which we're going to, thought all would be OK. I then get a snotty text from SIl saying that her DD had been looking forward to seeing C all day and would be really disappointed not to see her on her actual birthday.

Cue hormonal new mum feling very guilty but comepletely depressed at having to bundle C up and take her out in the dark & cold, crying at 6pm. I know DP's niece is only 4 but surely having a newborn gets me out of some things!!!

DP has promised to have words when he's back......

ninja totally envious of your mum and baby cinema trips - seems like it's only i london as nothing like that nr me in the north west

hopefully c was bon on 50%ile but then dropped down to 25%ile shortly after and has stayed there ever since - that's where she's meant to be i reckon. as long as weight is put on over several weeks, the odd blip will be fine

star WTF at the receptionist in a health centre!!! you should have told her to f off - silly cow.

HAPPY BIRHTDAY FOXY

Hello ladies, happy birthday foxy.

Just came back from my 6 weeks check up, and although a lot of it was good, I'm not too happy - I need a MN consultation:

First, (and this is just for the sake of ranting) the nurse who weighed the baby got it wrong up and plotted him very low on the chart - grrrrr.

Second, the doctor saw his dry skin and his rash, and decided to give us a prescription for antibiotics. He thinks Diego has a bit of baby eczema, which is quite common, and is basically very dry skin. He thinks that some red areas could be infected. The prescription is for FLUCLOXACILLIN. Anyone has any experience of this?

I am concerned that he is very little for antibiotics, and am dreading the much spoken about mouth to breast thrush...

Any thoughts welcome.

xx