May 2008 Babies....food glorious food....hot sausage and mustard!!!

[LuckyPumpkin74]

New thread as it's Nov so our babies are all hitting 6 months!

MM - Sorry you've had a tough time... Esp about the mortgage £600 is a BIG hike. I hope it's not going to put you under too much stress. Good to hear about minimonkey's movement - DS can go backwards, sidewards and round in circles - anything but forward!

LM - Really feel for you about the CM situation. Only you know if having a direct chat with CM will help (I am assuming you have spoken to her once already, and she was quite defensive, yes?) but my take would be that it can't harm the situation.

It will either confirm your feelings that you aren't happy for the kids to go there or you may feel reassured? When are you due to go back to work (really sorry, I'm sure you've said, but I can't remember)

I'm feeling really today. We've had a horrid weekend, and now DH has gone again and, for everything, I miss him... Plus, he waslovely this morning, said sorry and has done some lovely stuff around the house - like plug my big torch in which I always forget to recharge but need to take the dog out at night (we have a very large garden with really dark steps and even the dog can't get down them without a light) and he put my jeans on the airer so I had some lovely hot clean ones for when I got in from walking the dog.

Anyway, best get on. I've walked the dog (with DS) and both DDog and DS have had lovely breakfasts, but I haven't actually eaten anything myself yet!

sorry serious that sounded much ruder than I meant, and I'm glad he's being nicer, I just don't know how you cope with him being so unreasonable and expecting so much...I'd kill him.

Me again. OMG, it is changing by the minute!

I don't want to get too excited but I may have found the perfect solution to my problem.
Won't say until it's hopefully all agreed, don't want to jinx it!

DH really doesn't want to send them back to original CM, so we've scrapped that idea!

Watch this space!

MM that is a shocking increase in your mortgage. DH used to be a financial advisor and he said it seems an unfeasible amount??

Oh, Macaco, please don't worry. I thought it was really funny and TBH over the weekend, he has been totally unreasonable about stuff. It made me feel a bit reassured that it's not me being unreasonable, IYSWIM.

The funny thing is, if any of you ever met him, you'd think he was lovely... Seriously, you would. I moan sometimes to my RL friends and then they meet him and go 'Nah.... He's not like that' (In fact, one RL friend said exactly that when I said how grumpy he'd been all weekend.

In fact, I actually wonder if it's the lack of stuff going on that gets him down - for the last month, we've had housefulls each weekend, which means the house is perfect (and when I say perfect, I mean fresh flowers in each room, scented candles in 3/4 rooms, everything perfect) so I think DH forgets that when I'm here on my own, I don't actually live like that (cos, he does) so the weekend when I'm looking forward to us just relaxing is a real shock for him.. I think that's the best way to explain it. But, I wasn't offened in the slightest

Hey, GCG {grin] It's all those prayers see.

FIngers crossed for you, whatever it is.

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HOW do manage to get your house perfect with fresh flowers in every room and scented candles when you look after a baby on your own all week?!? Are you superwoman?

Fingers crossed GCG

Macaco [thankyou] emoticon.

I fill the house with flowers on a friday, and we ALWAYS have a huge stash of scented candles - most from Waitrose but for Christmas, I'll get DH a stash from Jo Malone too.

I suppose that's what upsets me, though, when DH goes skyward about our house, I can honestly say our house is still immaculately clean.

It's not really too much trouble to look after DS and Ddog during the week. And the house is usually perfect, but I think this week, it just being me and DH, I thought it would be OK....I do find it horrid to think that this is my responsibility though, (not because of any of the reasons you think, I'm sure) but DH is still quite clear on me spending things HE finds acceptable... not stuff I'd actually like to buy.... that's the only thing that makes me sad... the fact that I have inherited 100% of child and house care but I still have to earn my own money.

I too am in awe of the serious household full of fresh flowers and scented candles !!

TSS i really thin kyou need to have a talk with dh about how you are feeline re the money aspect of things. I took on all the childcare and the housekeeping and running the house when we had ds1, but on the understanding that i was giving up work and would not be earning my own money so i have free rein to do what i need / want with money - obviously being sensible and not silly about things.

we too have fresh flowers on a friday (our local florist gets a delivery tuesday and friday) and i generally get flowers that will last for 2 weeks. DH loves it but would not do it himself. and we also have a huge stash of scented candles, although dh doesn't like these so much! room spray is the best invention for him..... the white company do some lovely ones that do last.

but now i have ds2 as well i have help, although starting a business as well is taking time, but that's because i want to do it, not because he has been nagging me.

If you are feeling like this now what is he going to expect you to do if / when you have dc2? you will not be able, at least for the first 6 months to do it all on your own and earn your own money - you will just be too knackered.

must go ds1 awake and wingeing!

o'h no i've killed the thread

I can't manage fresh flowers weekly but I do generate fresh piles of clean laundry in almost every room . They can last for days.

I really hope that you have found a good solution for your CM problem, GCG. Let us know asasp what you've come up with.

monkeysmam - you've had a stinker of a time. All on the up now, please God! Our central heating also broke down, for us it was on Sat. Had it repaired and it went again two hours later. Hopefully, the fuel pump will be replaced tomorrow.

Santacolada - really sorry about your dad... and the cars (and your DH's eyes... have FB'ed you... that's nasty stuff)

Anyway, girls I need a little advice: In the last 4-5 days, DS has been getting sick quite a bit after feeds. Not spitting up a bit, I mean, full on half the bottle just comes splurging back out again.

He's just done it again this morning - had to change his PJs, my PJs and the bed clothes it was that bed.

I really don't know why - he's as bright as a button now, in fact, the first thing he did after he'd puked, was give me the most lovely smile, and is still eating (milk and solids) OK.

I really don't know whether to take him back to the HV (but the last twice I've done this, DS has acted like the whole thing is in my head)

His weight last Wednesday was right on target, though this problem seems to have come on since that. He was also seriously grouchy yesterday and wouldn't settle to anything... His nappies, FWIW, are fine.

I really don't know whether it's just I'm here on my own and getting stressed about stuff I shouldn't be getting stressed about (IYSWIM) or if I should be worried and thinking of taking him back to the HV... what do you think?

Thanks!

TSS I have been told by doctors that they would rather see a healthy happy baby than you not come in and there is something wrong with your child. So even if they tell you no he is fine better get him checked. Could he have a bug which is causing him to be sick with no other symptoms????? Hope things improve, there is nothing worse than having to keep washing clothes and linen when your child keeps being sick.

Pina What a time you are having? Hope you are ok.

GDABD Glad that you have decided what to do, very intrigued by your decision. Let us know asap what you have decided.

Monkeysmama Hope things are all better now

Mocat Hope you have Central heating again

serioussanta Maybe DS doesn't need as much milk anymore now he is on solids? The HV told me that the more they eat, they then want less milk. I had still been making up 3 8oz bottles of milk for DD2 but she rarely finishes one, normally has about 5-6oz.

He might just simply be taking in too much fo rhis little tummy to take, IYSWIM. I would try reducing his milk intake as long as he has at least one pint a day in total, although HV reminded me that that includes other forms of calcium...cheese, yogurt etc.

pina at your run of bad luck. Thinking of you.
DD1 vomittid big time in her car seat twice when we were literally less than one minute from our destination. Once because superbro had given her raspberries that were on the turn (you know when they're all mushy?) and we too had bright pink vomit!

I am very excited about my childcare solution but I just don't want to tempt fate so I will keep schtum for now, will hopefully be able to tell you by the end of the week if it all works out.

DH back at work today so I am home alone. Meeting a friend at 'monkey bizness' later.

Feeling quite positive generally which is a refreshing change!

TSS reflux is my guess. classic symptoms ime.

gaviscon infant powders are the thing to try (i have nearly a full box you can have tomorrow if you like) or depending on how bad it is, we do this - a 240 bottle has 7 normal scoops then 2 scoops of the night time drinks all the milk manufacturers have brought out. the key is to make the feed heavier so the acid can't rise up - well thats what our GP said anyway.

santacolada sounds like you are having a time of it as well. you poor thing - so sorry about your dh and also the issues with your dad.

MM hope things start to improve for you soon - sounds very tough right now.

GDACD fingers crossed your CM problems are sorted out soon.

not much to report here - off to the dentist here as tooth, well sharp little point of tooth that is digging into the side of my tongue, is so painful and my tongue is swollen so i sound a bit dim when i talk... and of course ds1 is just desperate for books to be read today!

one good thing - I got some of the christmas presents wrapped yesterday so at least i've started have done dh's although looking at the there aren't really many there once you take out the stocking gifts... may have to do a little more shopping tomorrow

Forgot to say, DH went to GP yesterday and is now on the waiting list for the snip . Hopefully February.

my brilliant solution to my CM problem

I have spoken to my boss who has agreed it as it means that cos DH works different days on shift I will have to do the same, so the days I work will vary each week. I kind of like the idea that each week will be different!! Less boredom factor.

DH has spoken to his boss and they don't think it will be a problem as two other people already it, and the ambulance service has a flexible working policy. He just has to fill a form out.

Yipeeee McFlippy I can't tell you all how happy I am!!

I am looking forward to a full night's sleep!!

GCG That is a perfect solution and with playgroup, mothers/fathers and toddlers, social outings, both DD will get lots of interaction with other kids.
You sound back to your usual happy/lucky self. That is brilliant

Any suggestions for a christmas name??????????
I am useless at these kind of things hence original name (surname and year of birth)

how about wewishyouamitchellchristmas ??!!

goodchristmasgirl that's a fantastic solution, hooray!

pina sorry you're having such a hard time, hope things improve very very soon! That#s a real tough one with your dad.

Oh the joys of living in a flat belonging to the university. I came home today at twelve to find builders in every room of our house and they're still bloody here. Putting in internet cables for next years tenents so not even something to benefit us! The house is covered in dust, my big tub full of clean bottles and DS's food pots etc is full of plaster rubble, there are men in my bedroom, my veggie box was lying in the hall way covered in rubbish, they are right now drilling in my living room! Haven't been able to put DS down to sleep, don't really want to change his nappy and have him naked in front of lots of strangers which makes me feel evil as he has nappy rash and i'd rather he had a bare bum all afternoon (tho have had to BF of course). Can't even go to the loo or get to the fridge (in the hallway) to get milk for a very big cheer me up coffee! We had no notice and DS cries at every drill, I am not amused!

oh yes, and they keep leaving the front door open so just anyone could wander in, I have money, jewellery, everything lying around.

Baiyu What a horrible day you have had, Hopefully they leave soon.

GDADB Thanks

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