April 2007... Tantrums leading to Toddlerhood... Eeek

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Ta da

oooggs hope your cold is gone soon
Pesha, sorry you're having trouble finding childcare that suits you
T is lovely in between the stinky nappies I promise

Hi all

Hope everyone is ok and dh/dp/dc are all behaving themselves.

It's been a madhouse here, trying to get into a routine with nursery/school run/work. J seems to be settling into school and he's attending 9-2 this week.
W is having big trouble with his back teeth coming through I even took him to the docs on Monday because he was banging his ears, I thought he had an ear infection. Everything was ok, though, and the gp was very sympathetic (she told me her 18mth dd is going through the same thing) and did give him a once over to make sure nothing else was causing him to cry so much
Don't think he's slept through for a week, which has knocked me for 6 because I'm not used to it.

sorry, a bit self absorbed

take care all
x

SOL, if Bramshott's referring to the Nature Babies nappies - I don't know if they're a better fit than Pampers but I like them because they don't have loads of fragrance and extra plastic - Sainsburys and Waitrose have them, and bigger branches of Boots but not some of the little ones.

I know Dippy and some others don't like them but I think this is the advantage of using poppered bodysuits under day and night clothes and now the weather's colder we're also using sleepsuits again.

Aaaarrrgghhh at your childcare problems Pesha.

Not runny - shock to the system - yuk.

Ooooh, knock on door, off out to cinema .....

Ooh get you Dippy - out on a school night!! Have fun x

Elkie, thanks for the info re nappies. I used to use pop up bodysuits with B, but haven't with K - perhaps that is the answer. How are you feeling now?

Pesha, what a pita re childcare. It is such a shame that you are ready and willing to work and cannot sort something, which should be relatively easy to sort out. I feel for you.

SPB, how is the lovely T?

Has Vio had her baby by the way? There is a pic of her on facebook with a lo, but not sure if it was Jimmy.

All ok here. B was a pita at bedtime, but I think she is utterly exhausted. I wasn't the most pleasant of mothers and said something awful to her

Anyway, hope you are all ok.

SOL, thanks for asking, not feeling great. Think the acid is coming back, but also getting some worrying pains, I'm wondering if it's SPD or something even worse.

Morning ladies;

Hope everyone is ok.

Pesha - what a nightmare with child care - hopefully it will sort itself out.

Up early again here, its ben before 6 every day for a week. Just hoping he gets back to normal soon..

Looking forward to our weekend away tomorrow - a whole weekend of reading papers, eating, drinking, relaxing. Happy days!

SOL - No Vio isnt due until the middle of November, the pic is Jimjim.

Off to make a cup of tea while C is mesmorized by teletubbies open university

Hi all!

Elkie hope you are feeling better today x

I also use body suits - otherwise she just takes her nappy off all the time

Whenever we are in the car she keeps saying "Weee Mummy" she is copying Charlie, and has obviously cottoned on that when he says that he gets to get out! and she had us in fits last night as she kept saying " not know " and shrugging her shoulders copying Caitlin when I was asking her where something was

Caitlin is off school today, but tbh I think she is pulling a sicky - but I will give her the benefit of the doubt. x

LOL @ University Chllenge

I have an all day training thingy today so have a friend coming over to sit with P this morning. Should be here soon. Childcare has been a logistical nightmare today - especially because outlaws have just got back from 17 day holiday & would you believe it .... they are off again!!

sigh.

Hope everyone is well

Morning.Can't catch up 'til later.But I will!
Hopee veryone is well?

SOL - Yes, I meant the Nature Baby ones as Elkiedee says. You can get them in Sainsburys or Waitrose. I started using them because of their green credentials (I'm an old hippy me!) but then I bought some Pampers on holiday and HATED them - the really sagged when they'd been on for a bit which the Nature ones just don't (maybe because they're not so stretchy, or don't have so much gel) and sorry, but I also thought they smelled (!). The overpants I was referring to, you can get here

Pesha - oh arse, childcare sounds like a nightmare. Have you rung the Childcarelink line as there may well be more childminders listed there than online? I would ring the ones who don't say they pick up from DCs school as well, just to check that they just haven't listed it. Would the CM you saw not have the DC as a temporary arrangement until you have something else sorted (although I guess a temporary arrangement may not be good for D).

Morning At work and bored bored bored. I have so much I could be doing at home as well!

Thanks Bramshott for the note re nappies. I may investigate. K just has such slender thighs - must take after her dad !

Caz, hope Caitlin is ok. Bless M and her chatting. K doesn't say anything recognisable, other than mama, dada and uh-oh! She understands instruction though which is great. Have got her tidying up and fetching things!!

GM, thanks for letting me know about Vio. Yuk to early mornings.

Dippy, yuk to out-laws. Honestly!

Elkie, are you going to get things checked out? You sound worried. xx

Hope everyone else is ok.

The in-laws have said they would like the girls for a night or two. I know this sounds ungrateful, but I just don't want them to have K. B is fine, as she is old enough to go and has spent time there before. mil just has no common sense and seems to lack confidence, and whilst I know K will be fine, I just feel sick at the thought of it. I am ridiculously possessive over K (far more so than I was with B [guilt]) To me, she is still so small and vulnerable. My parents had both of them at the weekend and that was fine, as mum and dad have 6 grandchildren and are very confident.

Grrrrrrrrr.

Sorry for the rant. I really am lucky they take such an interest, but I don't have much faith in them.

oh dear SOL it's a minefield isn't it does your dh get cross because "his" side don't have them as much as yours? mine used to

then he realised it was because they didn't want them, so slightly different situation to yours........

I think you have to go with your gut instinct, and tell them that they can have B but you feel that K is too small. that's what i would do......mine never stay anywhere until they are about 3

Had a bit of a traumatic morning Why can't we ever do anything right for everybody?

Charlie didn't want to stay at playgroup because Caitlin was at home, but because she was at home I couldn't stay with him

He was screaming as I left but it was pure temper, and not because he was upset iykwim, not that it makes it any nicer to hear I wanted to pick him up and take him home with me, but knew that if I did that he would think that he could always do as he wanted as long as he shouted loudly enough

Have just picked him up and he (of course) is fine and has had a lovely time, but she said he took nearly 20 minutes to calm down, and she was starting to think about ringing me..........

what makes it worse is that I don't think that Caitlin is ill...... she is finding it hard to settle in at her new school (although Harry is loving it) and soft touch that I am, I thought that she deserved a bit of a break, and "Mummy time" , but in pleasing her, it caused all this trouble with Charlie!

Hi Caz, tbh, dh isn't that bothered. My parents are only 30 minutes away and he is really gratfeul for how they help out at the drop of a hat. His parents are 2 1/2 hours away and just can't do that.

It is just this lack of confidence in mil; she is just so thick sometimes - sorry, I know that is v rude

I would spend the whole time worrying about K.

Sorry you had such a pants start to the day. Has it got better?

Yeah it's fine now thanks

Have just been doing the ponies, and off to do the school run shortly, and have Harry's best friend from his old school coming over for tea tonight.

We are having home-made beefburgers, with jackets and salad etc.

harry calls them "Rufus burgers" as that was the name of our bull!

bet you all think that's a bit manky really

Also SOL if there was a problem and she was at your parents, you could easily go and get her couldn't you? but 2 and a half hours isn't quite so simple!

Not manky Caz ; but then I am a real meat eater & I spent all my summers on a farm

Not manky Caz.and I have been veggie for 27 years! HOnest I would say.
Still haven't caught up.sorry.
xxxxxxx

Caz, I agree. I think it is actually nice to know where your meat has come from. Natural

hi everyone
SOL I completely agree. My ILs are lovely but they're a bit erm...over-confident (they're the type to say "It'll be FIIIIIIIIIIIIINE") and I'm a neurotic control freak when it comes to DS.
I left DS recently with them and I hated it. They had meant to get a stair gate but hadn't quite got round to it. I also felt a bit more in control with my mum - I could tell her stuff that was important whereas I felt I had to be ultra grateful to ILs (that's me not them).
Welll anyway it was fine but I am so glad it's over. If I was 100% honest with DH i'd quite like Mum and Dad to have him the odd night to give us an evening out but I can't ask them to have him overnight without then feeling like the next time I have to ask ILs. So it's not happening until he's old enough to not fall down stairs or slip in the bath I do realise it's mainly me though, after all they raised two boys perfectly fine!

I collected T late from nursery, was 5.30 He was fine when I got him but has been exhausted and grumpy all night, and finally fell asleep on DH at about 7. So he's gone to bed with banana custard in his hair, no teeth brushing and no story. Just about managed clean nappy and sleepsuit poor little guy.

sounds like normal bedtime for my 2 spb

I don't have a choice whether to use inlaws or not, as they're my only choice! Luckily they're great and wouldn't dream of letting dad or step mother look after them, even if she wasn't the child catcher Dad will be fine with them when they're older, well alright now with dd i suppose as she's older. I'm not sure either of them'd cope with nappy changing. MIl on the other hand has pretty much been looking after kids for 30 years, so they're in very safe hands. I never worry when they're with them. We're very fortunate Still wish mum was here to have them, as she'd have been an fab nan, oh well

I've been on edge all day it's because it's work tomorrow I hate it. Can't wait til Jan. Mind you I still haven't got childcare sorted. They lady has rung yet. Hope she does soon. pesha childcare is a nightmare, is there anyway you can afford not to work, or do you want to work, IYSWIM? I'd love to, but sadly we need my pitance

Off to do some work

Eddas at work
Your ILs sound great, I know I am lucky really that 2 has 2 sets of grandparents falling over themselves to look after him!
TBH I think the novely of the overnight thing has worn off for both after the midnight waking, the 2am waking and the 5am waking

evening all

Evening all

Had the most awful night with W last night and tbh, could do with some sympathy, as dh seems completely lacking atm
Went a bit like this -

7.30pm - W asleep
9.30pm - W wakes, very grumpy, crying, doesn't want to be cuddled or held, but doesn't want to be put down either.
Midnight - W still awake, has managed to wake J up, so take him out in the car to try and calm him.
2am - W still awake. Ring NHS direct (although was pretty sure it was wind/constipation) Go through everything with them, and they agree with me, but the only thing I can give him is tlc.
3.20am - W asleep
6.20am - W wakes up. Drinks a fair bit, but still grumpy.
7.30am - W goes back to sleep
8.30am - W wakes up, complete with one of the dirtiest, smelliest nappies, but at least he is laughing about it

Being a typical man, he is acting like nothing has happened
At least I have a very, very understanding boss, who was very sympathetic, and told me not to worry about going into work today.

Eddas sorry you're feeling on edge about work, childcare is a nightmare! I can get by without working for a while but really I do need to get a job and I would like to start doing something that was just about me iyswim, although ideally it would just be 2 or 3 days a week not 5 days like this one was.

Bramshott - I hadn't rung no, never occurred to me there might be more on there As the job was to start on Monday I felt I really needed to let them know now and not mess them around anymore, he said to ring them again when I do have childcare sorted and they may well have more vacancies. I have phoned all CMs in quite wide local vicinity and all nurserys in the town but nothing suitable. Also spoken to all the CMs I know and spoken to a few who organise the local CM networks but I just cannot find anyone with spaces 5 days a week atm. Am looking at the positives though like moving will be easier, I wont have to work on Maia's birthday and birthday and christmas shopping will be much easier!! Although affording birthday and christmas presents won't be so easy

Caz - I was loling at rufus burgers! Much better they know what they're eating, my mum always used to call chicken 'meat' when talking to dd so as not to upset her I sympathise re your problems with dc this morning, you just can't please them all can you? Glad you're feeling better now though

SOL - I just wroet a long post about grandparents but can't be entirely sure this wouldn't be read so deleted it all! But I empathise anyway, thats all I shall say!