December 07 - I'm still standing, yeah, yeah, no!

[Wizzska]

Hello people, is anyone there?

HI everyone

Sorry for long absence, I have good intentions but end up reading the whole of mumsnet before getting chance to reply!

Hello to everyone, sorry I don't have time to reply to individuals as DH desperate to put a film on and have some "us time"

Is anyone else really really broody? I really do want to enjoy next year not pregnant and with a 3 yr old and 1 yr old (the ages the kids will be in Jan) but I am so broody to be pregnant and have a newborn again. I think I am mad but I see it as a sign that DH and I should definitely have at least one more baby.

I've decided to go back to work [rolls eyes!] DD will start nursery early next year and we have such great childminders that I know DS will really enjoy that and I think our finances could do with me working so I'm going to give it a chance. I won't go back until January though as using accrued holiday to push it back

Hope everyone is ok x

loucee - hello and yes v v broody, ttc at the moment everytime I hope a baby smaller than ds2 I want to be pg... I can't work out when you know you've have enough babies...

that should be hold not hope

It took blimmin ages, as my OCD took over and had to put everyone alphabetically

hello all
I have to add to the wow ambi comments- very impressive
Poor you clara, all very scary
Loucee hi- I am not surprised you are giving it a go- you sounded pretty bored last time you were on

Bad night last night ( why is it always Sunday?) lots of yelling and a very tired and cross baby (and mummy) this morning. Then she stuck her hand in the sudocrem and smeared it all over mummy's work trousers: the only ones that fit. Then I noticed that the tshirt I was weariing hadn't been washed and stank of sweat. Not a good start to the day. And then severe delays on the district line. Sigh. Some days you just know it is going to be shit. Oh and dh away until sat

Sympathies on the bad day, Suey2! It's Monday morning blues...

Insy - well I held 2 newborns over the weekend, and didn't feel a bit broody but I've got other things going on atm.

hi insy!
i want to get on with it, too. Not because i am necessarily broody, but because i want to get all the self- denial over with in one hit, IYKWIM.
DH has a big work committment for 3 months starting in april 2009: he will be working 5am till midnight for 3 months solid, so doesn't want me to get pg now. But that may be bumped until october, so we need to revise what we want to do.

Morning everyone

Wow Ambi - very impressive post. Yes the Dominican was gorgeous, ive been before but to a different part. I just wish i was back there now.
Oh and i dont look after bf's dd now, i'd told her i couldnt have her one day coz i had to go to work to sort out going back and she had a bit of a go saying she had no-one else and i'd said once i go back to work she'd have to sort something out and she hasn't asked since!!!!

I'm back to work on 30th Sept, i think i'm actually looking forward to it

I'm not feeling at all broody anymore, i think its because i'm looking forward to my wedding next year and we booked our honeymoon at the weekend to New York..with the ds's of courrse

Clara glad you are all ok and thanks for coming on to let us all know, we'd all have been panicking otherwise!

Ambi what a great catch up as usual. I avoid going to the hv as much as possible, my last one was great and my current one is ok but the one that usually does baby clinic seems to just spout stuff at you and a lot of it is a bit (like telling me off for not having started weaning ds before 26 weeks). DS sleeping ok, the other night he slept from 8-4.30 and then again til 6, back down til 8am which was amazing. Mostly he is waking 2 or 3 times which is similar to dd at the same age and gives me hope that he will sleep through one day!

Loucee I am so so broody. I don't want another one just yet but I definitely do one day (not too far away). Me and dh are arguing about it loads because he really doesn't want another and every conversation we have (about completely unrelated stuff)he throws in that he doesn't want another baby. He would be justified if I was pushing it but I am not even mentioning it (yet!) and he still keeps on about it!

Suey sorry your day has started off badly, it can only improve!

BT what's up? Everything ok?

Feel really mean now, ds was just bashing at the laptop so I moved his hand and said "NO Douggie" in a stern voice and he looked at me and his face crumpled and he started to cry

Lots of stuff at home, work etc., getting me down. Feeling rather stressed atm.

Fel free to vent on here if you need to, otherwise ((hugs)) and hope it gets better soon

I just accidentally clicked on the Dec08 antenatal thread instead of this one and was wondering why everyone was suddenly talking about prams, bras and sleeping arrangements again!

clairey! (although i still have not sussed the sleeping arrangements...)

BT you have my full sympathy with back to work stress...thankfully we've just had the long weekend and I am back to feeling almost human..will last until 9.05 tomorrow...

Loucee Know what you mean. After so long of ttc, being pg and doing it all over again v quickly it feels very weird not to be in that place anymore. We've decided - unless God has other plans- that 2 is our magic number for kids but it is always odd thinking "Oh - I'm actually not pregnant anymore. I miss it." And then I remember the 12 weeks of new baby.... and it fades. But good on you for wanting to repopulate. Go with your gut feeling - big families are fab.

Insy will reply in glorious TMI after a decent sleep. Baby poo gets me uptight. Thanks for the hints though. Wheat and milk and fun free tomorrow for sure.

Morning!

Arcadie - hope you get your poo problem sussed!

Clairey, Caz - you're very sweet to care
It is very complex what's going on but the nuts and bolts of it is we're having problems with DSS who now decides he hates me , I'm feeling a bit of a crap mother because of DS's long hours at nursery and I miss him, and things are utterly dire at work - it looks like the directors & sales team are trying to force my boss's hand into trying to do something we have said is a) too hazardous and potentially dangerous to our staff unless we are given time & money to do some site improvements, and b) to break the law
Don't want to say too much as I can't risk where I work or who I am being recognised.
I'm actually seriously considering resigning over this matter it is that serious but me leaving would be disastrous to my boss, as he depends on my technical knowledge - the only other people who have my level of knowledge about our business work on the site who would benefit from us doing a) and b).
Weird to think that they managed without me for 9 months but now I'm back, I'm utterly indispensible (they managed to save up 9months of work for me ). Which is the other reason I'm so stressed.

Morning all

Clara - hope you and the family are OK. It must have been terrible.

Ambi - amazing post! I'm with you on HVs One of them is always off sick at our practice so they are never around when you need advice then when you do see them they give you info that directly contradicts everything else they you've been told! Just to give you an example, mine said that dd should be having around a pint of milk a day which seems different from what your HV is saying!!

Suey - sounds like you had a nightmare day yesterday. Hope today is better. My dd is always trying to stick her hand in the sudocrem tub too. It gets everywhere if she manages it!

Re another baby - I'm really unsure as I've never been a very maternal person and found the birth and first few months hellish. I only started to enjoy being a mum when she got to around 5-6 months to be honest .

The problem is that dh is an only child and he doesn't want dd to be one too. I feel selfish that I don't want another baby as I'm sure it would be good for her to have a sibling

Does anyone have any positive experiences or thoughts on only children?

BT - Sorry things are tough atm
We are all here for you though if you need to vent

BT - just read your post there.

Hope you are OK. As everyone else said - vent on here, I find it quite therapeutic!!

hi everyone,

no time for a proper post but just wanted to say thank goodness you're ok clara - was worrying about you over the w/e although i knew no Brits had been killed. Does it make you want to come home again? Must have been so awful for you.

hugs BT - sounds awful - are you seriously thinking of resigning? Could you afford to stay at home? Would you like to? Hope you sort things out

Was at my mum's this weekend and I left the front room window open (by mistake)and a burglar came in while we were all asleep upstairs and took her brand new TV and handbag. She was supposed to be going on holiday today but couldn't because she had no bank cards etc - felt so awful as it was all my fault

hi loucee and ambi - good to hear from you

ah well seems i did have time for a proper post after all!!

BT what a nightmare! all sounds very dodgy

Louise i am the same: i really started enjoying dd when she hit 5-6 months. That first 3 months was awful: never been much of a baby person. That is why i want to get the next one out ASAP or I may change my mind

clara - glad your okay, been thinking of you. must be very tense, especially as it doesn't sound as if you were exactly free to come and go where you pleased anyway.

re ttc - everybody said i'd stop saying never, ever, ever again when dd was bigger. am still saying it. would love to have had lovely birth/early days experiences but it didn't happen like that, and there's no guarantee it wouldn't actually be worse second time around. would be very wrong to have another baby just so that i could have a go at getting the birth i wanted. so am still saying never, ever, ever again (in a sad voice though). dd is a delightful child, and i love her to bits but i don't find motherhood in itself very enjoyable, which makes me feel HUGELY guilty, but no sense in denying it! am planning to be too busy taking over the world through the medium of knitting to have any more babies.

must put dd in bed again for afternoon nap, altho now have rescued her from playnest is gurgling and chortling again...

aaaargh clara sorry- glad you're okay. honestly, and me an english language lecturer

lousie - I did the first 12 mo of ds1's life on anti depressants so I completely understand how it can not be enjoyable - dd is only 9 mo don't rush it if you don't feel ready - I think I'm on a high from not being depressed this time

Arcadie - looking forward to the poo conversation at some point!

DS has a tooth! A whole 3 months earlier than dd did!

BT sorry about all of that, not surprised you are stressed. Hope you resolve the work issues soon and hopefully it is just a stage with dss, must be very hard for you though.

Dundee/Suey/Louise I totally see where you are coming from. Everyone thinks I am crazy to even be considering another one after ds' constant screaming for the first few months. Have been lucky to have had reasonably positive births though and think if I'd had a bad birth experience his screaming would have been far worse(probably would've tipped me over the edge tbh). I do love the baby stage though, even though it was bloody awful wth ds really. Also part of me is still hoping for that nice placid baby and hoping I'll get it right next time!!

Oh no Skid , hope your mum wasn't too angry with you!