July 2008 - Now our babies are arriving let's have a thread to talk about them...

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Hi ladies
I know there are many of us still to pop but thought it would be nice to start a thread that we can come to once the LO's are here

Abbie is 4 weeks and 3 days old today and my due date isn't here yet

Abbie is doing great - eating and sleeping and very content. The feeding was hard going at first as it is very frequent with her being early but I think you actually get used to being tired

Someone (sorry can't remember who) was talking about bottle and bf together and nipple confusion. Well all the times I have bf I have done so exclusively even when it was very difficult - I am stubborn As Abbie was early and lost a good bit of weight the mw advised topping her up with ebm through a syringe. This was tough as I was bf then trying to express only to bf 1 hour later - so I gave her formula to top up. Giving her the milk in a syringe became difficult as they tended to spurt the milk too quickly at times. So I gave her a bottle to top up( Tommee Tippee - closer to nature) and it was great!!

I bf her all day and then top up after bf at night to get a bit longer sleep - it's working - she is putting on weight and no nipple confusion

sorry for huge post - hope you will all come over and join me!!!!!

Jacobs - definitely ask about stitches - there will definitely be someone here who is going through the same thing! A problem shared....

Minkus - Relations I know completely what you mean about feeling unsexy and in a uniform of unexciting clothes. I don't have to think about it all for a while though as DH will be unable for several weeks to come after his hip operation. Funnily enough it isn't on the list of which activities he can do when! Perhaps we will need to ask the doctor!

Isaidno - what a cutie! I can't get my pics on to mn. They are too big and don't know how to reduce size. Any pointers?

Missing DH and other DC's like mad, but am enjoying precious time with R.

Lovely pics isaidno - Cant wait to see Abigails first smiles.

Ive just added some pics done Fri onto my Profile page too.

Jacobs- Ask away...i had stitches.

Re relations- No chance! not yet.... had 3rd degree tear so decided to wait till after my 3mth check at the hospital first.

Off to a big family BBQ today with the side of the family who havent met Abigail yet. Weathers not looking too good though!

lovely pics pigley - I saw them on facebook too.

Lovely pics Pigley and Isaidno.

Typing this while expressing, so bear with me..

We had first smiles this morning, 7 weeks and 2 days, he's been trying for a while, but got a big beamer when DH passed him to me, bless him for waiting for mummy!

Jacobs Great to hear that you are doing well, and ask away, nothing can shock us, we've had convo's about all sorts, piles, discharge, relations..... so stiches aren't going to bother us

I'm just watching Take That live that I sky plussed on Friday, they are sooooo beautiful. If one of them was my Ds's dad I think I would have had relations again by now!!!!!! (esp. Howard) I went to see the tour last year and I love tem with all my heart [sad fecker emotion]

I've just had some FAB FAB news, my Bestest friend has just called (the one who lost her little girl at 39 weeks earlier this year) She's pregnant again!!! I'm so happy, I can't imagine how she feels!! (abit scared I suppose)

It's mde my day, I;ve been so worried about her...

hiya...

went to she bf concellor, she hold me to use different positins, to get pressure off sore bits...will sty

my dh brought me a nursing chair, yay...!!!

i had stitiches...they still feel tight, and after i pee, itfeels strange, ne1 else have this?

lol @ Jodie and take that relations, great news about your friend too although her pregnancy will be very scary for her, don't think she will relax until she has her baby in her arms poor thing

pigley - beautiful photos

As for relations none here nevermind stitches I haven't felt right down below since the birth but way TMI coming up it's piles, first I was really constipated being on the iron tablets, now every erm number 2 is agony, I dread it. Been using Anusol but to no avail. Don't feel like having relations at the minute. Have my 6 week check soon will mention it to the GP.

Feel asleep watching a DVD last night cuddled up with B, am so lightweight.

whomever said hanging was the word of the day got it right. A and I have both had our 6 week check up on Friday and all was well. He weighted in at 10lbs 10 just there at 6 weeks. He's very very long as well 60cm. Sheesh! and still feeding like a champ and crying a lot

I think the problem with my sore nips is that A has a wee bit of tongue tie so he has to suck harder to get the nipple into his mouth. I'm a bit worried about how he's going to get his tongue out to swallow, but the HV says it shouldn't be a problem. I guess we will have to wait and see. He's really cute, I'm a proud mama .

My MIL is creeping me out. She's admitted to being jealous of me having a baby (she's almost 70)and said that she pretends that he's hers and jokes that she'll have him abducted if we try to move to the states. She keeps saying we can leave the baby at theirs anytime and if she lived closer would watch him for us, but she takes morphine for pain and can't stand or walk without crutches. Now I know that it's just wishful thinking but the insistance makes me uncomfortable. I know my FIL would be stuck looking after the baby and it's not fair for us to put him in that position upon her insistance. Especially since he's not keen at all. Sorry this is so long, just looking for some guidance on how to politely handle things and you guys are always so supportive.

Pigley-your baby is soooo cute!

mcchesers - breastfeeding is the perfect excuse not to leave your baby with anyone!
My PIL are in perfect health, but they're always saying they'll take the children for a holiday etc. I just tell them I don't want to be without them thank you very much.

mcchesers at your MIL - that would creep me out too!! Stick to your guns and don't leave LO with her. It's very sad that a women would feel like that after having her own children... Agree with isaidno about bf being a good excuse but really A is your baby and you want him to be with you.

Re - relations Abbie is over 10 weeks now and no relations here yet although dh did try one night!! I honestly can't be bothered mainly because I am always in bed way before dh and I hate being woken and expected to get turned on, have sex aaaaand ENJOY it. It's ok for dh he would soon be asleep again after but i would be wide awake and probably up again with Abbie or more likely ds4. Another reason is that I have refused to go back on the pill and want dh to have snip......but he is adamant that he wont!! Scared I think...unbelieveable!! I have given leaflets from hv and he has promised to read them but says it wont change his mind. I love him to bits but I have given birth to 6 children and don't want any more...surely it's his turn

Going to first baby massage class this afternoon although have been doing it with Abbie for weeks. I went to all the classes with dd1 and ds4 and it was great to meet other mumms so I'm looking forward to it.

thanks ladies. It's a touchy situation, and they are so generous to us. I don't want bad blood. I reckon if we go and visit every three weeks or so that'd be ok. We take lots of pics and put them up on the web.

Relations..thing is I've had my six week check up, and if we could have time alone and baby would nap in his cot..I might be up for it. I do miss the intimacy. My DH keeps looking at me in that starved animal way.

Minipink - My brother had the snip and I hate the pill so can understand not wanting to take it anymore. I might have said to you before that I am the youngest of six. I swear if my dad hadn't died there would have been more of us.

Hi All,

HV just been Calvin is now 11lb8ozs!! and 58cm long - am not surprised as he hardly ever stops eating. He is 5 weeks old tomorrow and last night I got 30mins sleep between the 2 of them! Amber is teething molars and was up twice. Dh was poorly over the weekend so I had to do both of them in the night - managed to get 3 hours rest yesterday though as I could not function or co-ordinate whatsover so gave then to Dh to look after for 3 hours.

MINI - my DH is desperate to go get the snip but I have asked him to wait for a year. Well just use condoms whenever we get around to 2it2 will not be for ages though as both too tired to even finda sex drive - never mind utilise it

MCCHEESERS - my PIL are always saying they will take kids and watch them and desperate for us to leave DD with them overnight. Our nephew spends loads of time at theirs and has since he was teeny - both his parent work away for days at a time. I know they are capable of looking after DD but I just would not expect them to get up in the night to attend to her as they are in their late 60s and also I do not trust them not to drink when she is there. I am always worried that something might happen and then FIL would drive her to Gp or hospital or whatever when he had a drink in him ( and think he was okay to drive) so will not leave her there because of that - like you I cannot be bothered with a big scene either so I just thank them and say maybe mmmm.. Can you not just say that you did not have your kids to leave them with other people and you do not wnat to miss soending time with them but you really appreciate the fact that she has offered?

ISAIDNO - what a wee Darling.

PIGLEY - those photos are so gorgeous - what a lovely memento for you all. I might have a bash at the feet one myself before his feet get too big to fit into the picture (huge feet and hands).

DISNEY - how did your DS get on at the Docs re the croup? How are your other DSs getting on? Have you resolved anything with your Dh regarding work?

JODIE _ great news about your friend - the girl I knew who this happened to was C sectioned early to put her mind at rest and prevent anything going wrong again - they might do this with your friend.

PEANUT - are you and Charlie doing well?

TWINKLE - pop in and let us know that you and the boys are well.

Calvin seems a lot more settled since his treatment but I think he will need a few - he is still feeding every 2.5 hours and sick a lot. I am seeing Gp next week re reflux and also asked HV about his testes as 1 is a different colour form the other - he has fluid in it so Gp will check that out too.

Had very sore abdominals yesterday - totally overdid the sit-ups the night before!! Am so fed up with myself - feel really ugly and fat and unattractive - keep yearning for my nice clothes in the wardrobe but finding it so difficult to shift as I am so shattered all the time.

Still I might be getting some sort of social life again - Monday afternoons - baby club, Tuesday afternoons - dance classes for DD,Wednesday - me and Calvin time, Thursday am toddly group!! Really need to make some friends - so hard when you move to a new area and are as fickle as me!!

Well am off to put DD down for a nap and squeeze one in myself if DC will let me.

Take care all.
xxx

just wrote uge post and lost it again!

rumple you must be shattered with that weight ain well done and poor you for nights sounds awful

minipink i get back 'in the saddle' as dp puts it quite early and feel back to normal ish now! i think it is a fear thing - like to get it over with! its hard when fat and ugly but good for self esteem long term i think

i have mastitis! grrrrrr

pigley fab pics - i might do some arty ones - do you have a good camera - have you had lessons? they do look fab - hints please!

counting down days till school starts! life may begin again then i hope!

ds1 got all A* in his GCSE's so all very proud here!

now not to lose connection and ....post!

Thanks for all the comments on the photos
NotAnOtter- My camera is just a normal compact digital camera (8.1 mega pixels) No Lessons for me, just always been a hobby. I had a photo published in a photography magazine of at the age 10.
Advice... Choose a time when baby is happy (ie after a feed) use simple backgrounds...Use a white sheet/blanket and use Macro for close up shots.
Then just snap away.. and enjoy editing them

Well done to your DS1 too! Clever lad!

of all you going to baby groups and classes. Id love to do some classes and meet other mums but im really shy in RL and hate going into places like that on my own.

PIGLEY - bite the bullet and force yourself - you won't be the only one there who is shy. I am used to doing things myself - been to the pictures on my own and all sorts - people speak to you and youw ill need to try to for DC sake!

NOTANOTTER - try warm water with couple of drops of lavender oil compress - really helps.

Tried to get a nap but Calvin wouldn't let me and now that I am up he is afst asleep in the cot!! Typical.

NOT - forgot to say well done to your DS - on to A levels now!

pigley- Rumple is right, there is something on everyday here..just have to force yourself to get out. you have a lot to offer a mum's group.

I get a lot from the drop in breastfeeding clinic if it's not bouncin with rain.

Just a quick one today am supposed to be ironing B doing great but doesn't want to sleep in the day time much oh and wants to be held a lot, DP has been off a few days and has been carrying her about but have told him off as she is going to have to be more content on her own. Must sort out getting her a baby gym, I did have 3 but one was full of mould after being in the loft, one burst (thank you cats) and cannot find the other one. I have the start of the cold today am feeling really tired too.

Rumpel - aren't our LOs 6 weeks tomorrow??? Calvin is the 15th same as Bethany? I cannot believe the amount of sleep you are getting, in our house DP gets up to DD2 as I get up for B but I still hear her, between them we were wakened 6 times last night.

Notanotter - great news about your DS and yuck about the mastitis touch wood have never had it.

mcchesers - don't know what to suggest about inlaws, I agree use BFing as an excuse. Your MIL sounds barking mine is too but in a different way

Glad I am not the only one still not having relations, feel bad but would love the time to indulge but it's not going to happen much. Right best be off more ironing to do

Pigley when I had ds1,2 and 3 I was very isolated but it was self imposed. Like you I was shy and scared of going places alone. When I did try I always seemed to leave upset as noone seemed to speak to me

However, I had undiagnosed PND and I was making things worse by not making myself go out. When I met and married my second dh and we had dd things were very different...I made myself go and I made myself talk and it worked great.....just get out there girl...what's the worst that will happen? Hugs to you though xxx

Oh baby massage was good but I didn't know anyone and most were very quiet but I will go again and I'm sure everyone will come out of their shells xx

Rumpel - have you thought about weightwatchers to help you lose some weight and feel better? I have been doing it to get rid of my last half stone and it is working a treat. Breastfeeding gives you an extra 10 points a day, so I am on 28 points, which is loads. I am not too strict on myself, but counting the points encourages me to make healthier choices. I have also started on the wii fit, but don't have much time to do it - don't always feel like it at 8pm when all dc are in bed.

Pigley - just go to the groups! Everyone else will be there because they want some company too!

Pigley, I haven't been to any groups yet either - don't know anyone here either as have recently moved - what with DH in hospital and DC's with my parents this week, I haven't spoken to another adult all week - It really can't be good for me. I am planning to start going once term starts - bit daunting, butI know it's the only way.

Have tried gripe water for the first time today - have had a couple of resounding burps so am desperately hoping that tonight may be better - I don'#t know how much longer I can survive on 2 or 3 hours sleep a night. I am going loopy.

Pigley - gorgeous pictures. How do you reduce the memory size of your pictures so you can upload them onto MN?

Pigley - I agree with what the others have said re: groups, when I moved up here I knew no one at all and it was worse as I had missed the traditional baby groups. I found out about a toddlers group and forced myself to go there. First few weeks were terrible but then I had DD2 and having a baby seems to make people talk to you more. Anyway upshot is I met loads of friends and still socialise with a group now, trouble is all there kids are 3 now and at nursery and I am back to norma no mates at toddlers.

isaidno - I still haven't been on the WiiFit, I know what you mean at 8pm I want to veg, I was in bed by 9.30pm last night too.

By the way - my diet tip (while still having enough goodness for baby) is to eat cereal with skimmed milk whenever I am hungry between meals (or a banana and a glass of milk) It works for me! It's quick and healthy (and yummy) and I do seem to be losing weight without going hungry.

Hi All,

SWEETKITTY - you are right - sleep deprived brain! I did mean 6 weeks (I just hit the 5 key again!!). DH does his best but he really needs his sleep (due to his serious brain/head injury a few years ago he can't do as much) and his job is the one that pays the bills as I am a STAHM for the moment.

EEC - I'm not really into group losing weight thing - I just need to get active again and feel human. I will start back at bellydancing as soon as I can and will join a gym - exercise is what does it for me.

Am off for a relaxing soak and then bed - was in bed at 8.30 last night. if I got to bed early with Calvin I can read and feed him constantly at the same time so at least I am resting IYSWIM.

Night all - sweet dreams and long undisturbed sleeps!!! [I wish emoticon}

rumpel - you had me counting the weeks again or trying to, it's so hard when your up for both of them.

We've had another hard day with B, don't know if she's got my cold thing too as her cry is croaky but she doesn't sleep, she'll feed fall asleep and let go of my boob then the minute you put her down she's up again or she doesn't sleep at all. She's had to cry a few times today as I need to see to the other two. She just seems an angry unsettled little thing these days I know it will pass but it's a hard time tight now.