July 2008 - Now our babies are arriving let's have a thread to talk about them...

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Hi ladies
I know there are many of us still to pop but thought it would be nice to start a thread that we can come to once the LO's are here

Abbie is 4 weeks and 3 days old today and my due date isn't here yet

Abbie is doing great - eating and sleeping and very content. The feeding was hard going at first as it is very frequent with her being early but I think you actually get used to being tired

Someone (sorry can't remember who) was talking about bottle and bf together and nipple confusion. Well all the times I have bf I have done so exclusively even when it was very difficult - I am stubborn As Abbie was early and lost a good bit of weight the mw advised topping her up with ebm through a syringe. This was tough as I was bf then trying to express only to bf 1 hour later - so I gave her formula to top up. Giving her the milk in a syringe became difficult as they tended to spurt the milk too quickly at times. So I gave her a bottle to top up( Tommee Tippee - closer to nature) and it was great!!

I bf her all day and then top up after bf at night to get a bit longer sleep - it's working - she is putting on weight and no nipple confusion

sorry for huge post - hope you will all come over and join me!!!!!

Hi All,

Re SWING - I just got 1 today (off ebay) a Fisher Price flutterdreams thingy - seems really good although I ahve not attched the song/toy bar yet.

Had a terrible night again last night ( I thought we were getting better as his chickenpox is clearing up and the previous night he went 3 hours between 2 feeds) but up every 1 - 1.5 hours last night then crying form 8am to10am this morning .

I cannot remember who mentioned the not enjoying your baby thing but that is exactly how I feel - no enjoyment whatsoever - am too tired/crabbit/stressed to "enjoy" him as he just cries loads Have started using gripe water today so hope that helps and the swing too.

I have been trying to walk with pram and DD on reins as I feel she is getting neglected a bit as I am too tired to interact very welll and spend most of the rest of the time washing etc. Also pumped up my pilates ball and I did some pilates today and weights the past few days - DD was copying me today very funny

HUBARB - lovely stuff - I have put in an order (to DH) for the footprint locket for Christmas) what did you get DW? And what did you work as in Stirling Royal?

Welcome NOBBY ( a Terry Pratchett fan?)

I am like you SK - Calvin only weighed 1x since birth - HV is on holiday for 2 wks and locum type person was supposed to arrange to see me but has not bothered - fine by me. So I will find out how he is doing in another week. His face has filled out but he still has a skinny body and HUGE feet and hands.

Must go as DD has a stinky bum !!

Take care all

TWINKLE/LAZYHIPPO - where are you?

mummy2bsoon there is alot of misinformation out there about co sleeping from safety to never getting them out of your bed my parents and best friend were both horrified I was co sleeping with Kez and that was when I was in hospital.

I am lucky being on my own it is Me and only me who has the decision when you have a partner their needs and feelings have to be taken into consideration too.

disneystar you are right re pastels babies cannot actually differentiate they need clear bold colours as initially they see only light and dark.

We have absolutely no routine at all Kez feeds about it is really a case of when she wants it so I am extreemly jealous. It may be easier when we are finally in our own place at the moment it is a case of keeping her quiet over night so she does not disturb people esp Sue's nearly ex husband and until midday so her middle son can sleep as he is a typical teenager and sleeps all morning. Personally I would not pamper to him but he is a reall moody sod if woken before lunch and life is just quieter if he is asleep.

Kez does like being out in the morning she feeds between 4.30 and 9 normally 2 hourly and then likes to have a chat and socialise.

10ish she has a feed and a sleep normally until 1-2pm then another chat feed at 3 for another sleep until 4-5 then it is feed sleep feed sleep feed sleep until we both go to bed

im cofnused.. i breast feed my baby on the rigth side, but she fell asleep, my breast still got milk, and are lumpy...which side should i feed her on wen she wake sup?

You never totally empty a breast when you feed I would feed on the other side next feed (I frequently forget which side I last fed off pretty sure I frequently do a side twice in a row) but next time you feed off that side try massaging the lumpy bits

Hello all, nothing much of interest to say here, just muddling along, but I thought I'd post something just to show I'm still around!

For what it's worth my doula told me that if they need a feed within an hour of the last one then put them back on the same breast as last time. I've been following this and it's been working well, until Poppy then needs another feed less than an hour later again!! Then I tend to swap sides. I keep a hairband on the wrist I last fed on to remind myself... although sometimes in the middle of the night I forget to switch it over, but that works ok.

We took Poppy into Oxford today to get her registered but DH went the wrong way and got us into traffic and ultimately we were too late for the appointment! Ah well. We'll try again later in the week...

I generally do feed on one side until she drops off then nappy change to wake her up then top up on the other side, next time start from that side if that makes sense? Sometimes though one side does and I'm sure like Kaz she might get twice from the one side now and again. Does anyone else have a good grope of their boobs before feeding to see which one feels fuller then you kind of remember your in public and groping yourself?

I agree about massaging your breast especially the lumps and also using the pump if you are really full between feeds.

With the cosleeping DP would rather she was in bed next to us than wailing away in a cot, he was like "give up SK and put her beside you" and also why do we have a cot? Sometimes I think we would be better just getting a single bed and putting it beside our double then DP could sleep in the single and B and me in the double. Our double is superkingsize though so like Rumpel plenty of room and having the bedside cot beside it means that you don't worry about falling out when B is in the middle.

HI Everyone

Just dropping by to say hello. Little Rafferty has colic...intersting... Certainly stirs things up a bit. Here I was thinking everything was going ok. Thankfully only lasts a few months.
I can never remember which boob I last used, have tried twisting bra hook differently but usually forget...I find a good grope is the best.

min912 oh night is the only time I can remember because we co sleep she is always on the side she last fed off. I sit up and feed initially wind, feed, wind, change, feed, wind lie down feed (Kez has to feed for at least 45mins before she goes mack to sleep ).

I also stick her back on the same side as before if she has only fed less than 2 hours before. or if she has only had a few sucks and dropped off to sleep.

Doing it in the day Kez is now starting to tell me I think when it is not as full as she likes today I tried to put her on the right twice cos I could not remember which side was the last she had a couple of sucks spat it out and screamed swapped her over and she was off and chomping seems my daughter is not as daft as me LOL

I'm a booby groper too - I just use the one that feels fullest! Although Poppy has a preference for the right one, I prefer to use the left as I can mn better when she's on that side!

Fags - I never have problems stopping when pg or bf, but as soon as I stop bf I start with the odd one here and there.

nobbyD - breastfed babies poo less than ff babies. My ds1 went 11 days without pooing once, and once a week is very normal.

Evening all. I'll own up to being a boob groper also - I don't have time to remember which side she was on before. It gets pretty random, especially through the evening when she feeds almost constantly anyway.

Will you please stop discussing ciggies? I gave up when pg with dd1, managed to stay off them until after dd2 stopped bfing, then relapsed to 5 a day between then and getting pg with dd3. But all this talk of fags is making me really want one . And I can't afford to start again as we won;t be having another baby to force me into stopping.

Nice to see you again, Trespass

I have tried boob groping but can never feel any difference other than in first few days.

Hee Hee at boob groping but I must admit I do it too xx I don't worry too much about which boob to feef from next but generall start on the boob I finished on as she always takes both sides but generally less from the second...does that make sense??

Abbie has hospital appointment today at special care unit, just a follow up after our back and forward trips in the first couple of weeks....this may sound strange but I am looking forward to taking her and showing them how well she has done and how much she has grown Guess I'm just a very proud mummy xx

LL - thanks for the gripe water tip, we had actually already bought the boots own one (cheaper and thus enabling me to fund my biscuit habit), havent tried it yet as A not one month until tomorrow!

Boob groping done here as well but the only time it really works is at night.

We've used the boots gripe mixture to excellent effect too, it's working so much better than the infacol for Louis. Only thing I would warn is that I spilt some on our dark brown leather sofa and it stripped the colour out of the leather! If it does that to the sofa what on earth is it doing to our lo's insides . Was v about the sofa though, seriously does anyone know what's in it? Bottle just says sodium bicarbonate but I thought it had herb-y type stuff too (maybe that's the proper woodwards gripe water though)

I'm a bit hit and miss remembering which side i fed from last too.

Well last night I fed Louis a bottle of ebm at bedtime and bugger me if he didn't sleep for 7 hours (yes, 7! Count em ladies!) He woke at 3 after being last fed at 8. Bit of a difference from every 1.5 hours as he's been doing for the last 3 days and nights! I will be giving him another bottle of it tonight but this time at dream feed time to see if he will do another 7 hours, oooooh sleep the holy grail of parenting

HV came today, she said he might start smiling soon ish. (6 weeks tomorrow) Am looking forward to this as at the mo he seems such a miserable little chap sometimes as he's such a windy thing, I feel sorry for him and a smile would reassure me that he's not unhappy all the time

hi guys

im going to ask you opinion on a relationship question honest answers if poss

as you know i have 5 dc left at home the 7 yr old has ds and i am a full time carer and mum now to them
i dont go out i dont have friends i dont make any call to anyone im just cut of and isolated i feel its down to my dh job partly as i cant do anything within his hours as i never know when hes here
we have rowed over this in the past he goes away mostly all week i and the dc see him for approx 7 hours a week from mon to fri
so i dont get help as you can imagine
i now do all night feeds alone he has never fed sam once in the night since he was born,he prob fed him 10 times and done 3 nappy changes and thats all
hes commtitted to his job and i want him to change it to a more family friendly one maybe shift work or one where he came home at the end of the day i just need to me for an hour a day
question is whos being unfair?
me as i want some help and appreciation and should i let him work what job he wants even if it means being away it seems unfair to me i cant change mine
or is he being unfair not budging on his choice
end of the day i can see us going our own way

Hi all,

Rumpel - The footprints one as well, , I worked in Wd 30 (Acute admissions), psych. nurse.

Skylar was weighed again today, 9lbs 11oz!, growing well, despite having bad colic most evenings. Have been advised to try infacol, rather than dentinox, so will give that a go. Also absolutely drains her 4oz bottles, so will try on 5 and see how we go (little starver).

addit. Sorry to hear you're a wee bit crabbit Rumpel, hope things get better soon.

Take care all

disney there is no way you are being selfish, the children are his too and if you need more support in your job (and who wouldn't with 7???- especially when your ds has special needs) then he needs to step up to the mark and be a man about his responsibilties.

That's pretty honest!

glad skylar is doing so well hubarb. Hope the infacol works, I've heard that it is icremental -wrong word though- it's better the longer they take it iyswim (can't remember for the life of me what the word is- and me being the family wordsworth I should know, baby brain sorry!)

Being a non-scot, what on earth does crabbit mean? Wondered when rumpel post!

incremental

and the word is cumulative! dur

disneystar - it must be very hard for you. You are in a very difficult situation - you have alot of dc, complicated by their special needs - and you are coping mostly on your own.

fwiw my dh has done no feeds (although as I am bf with no expressing this is my choice) and changed zero nappies for Poppy. He has cooked about 3 meals. I would say I look after poppy 99% of the time. He has helped alot with my older dc - bathtime, school run etc. Obviously your dh's job is what is stopping him doing this. I do not think it is unreasonable for you to want him to change jobs. Of course he should still be able to have a job he enjoys and wants to do, but there must be some compromise somewhere.

Crabbit - cross or angry 'See her, she's a crabbit owd beezum'

(from firstfoot.com)

Hoping the Infacol does work, but it does take 3-4 days to kick-in as you say, could be a rough time, I'm sure we'll be fine though, she is far better at burping (and farting) than she used to be.

I think Bethany takes after her Dad and has no problems getting her wind up, one swift loud burp after a feed does it and how loud are her farts? DP blames me a lot !!!

DP does a lot of nappy changes and has given her her one bottle of EBM so far, now and again when I am changing her in the night he will wake and pat me on the arm or leg (erm thanks) but have told him no point us both being up, he does about 90% of the resettling of the other two if they get up in the night.

Disney - I know I couldn't do it without DP coming in in the evenings well I could but would struggle so give yourself a break, I think you both need to sit down and have a good talk about things and let him know how you are feeling.

crabbit - this word was designed for DD2 she is crabbit a lot of the time.