Mother

[Rania21]

Hello,

Prone to anger at caring for my mum, I rarely have outbursts but when I do I am very angry and start shouting. I just had an outburst because she told me it wasn’t my house after I wanted to pay for new flooring. I moved in and pay rent. I am exhausted. Is there coping mechanisms you can find? Been at it for 7 years.

Bit confusing as you’ve posted this under post natal but I assume that’s a mistake and you don’t have a newborn?

Why did you move back home? Can you move out again?

@Rania21you might get a few more responses if you ask @MNHQto move this over to the Elderly Parents section

Once someone wise told me, you can’t change people, especially mothers. You will have to choose if you want to be right or have a relationship. If former, you get angry you shout you argue. If latter, you express your view, and your mother disagree, that say “that’s interesting” and move on.

it’s harder when you live with her but I think the key is to have some distance. Would you be able to move out again, distance helps some relationship in my experience