I have a 3 week old baby, in the beginning my husband was great. Pretty much kept the house afloat, made sure I was fed, helped with the baby etc…
He is due back to work next week. Yesterday we went to a cafe in the afternoon but husband didn’t get up until 11am, came downstairs ready and said we leave in half an hour. Meanwhile I’ve been juggling the baby and myself all morning, still in my PJs and not showered. Was almost annoyed when I said I won’t be ready … I said if he wants to leave at a particular time he needs to get out of bed and help. Yesterday he asked what I want to do today, I am really trying to crack this breast feeding thing and hope to move from combifeeding to ebf. Problem is we have either seen people or been out everyday since my daughter was born, so I said I want a day in the house today. When I woke at 4am I realised that he was still downstairs on his gaming PC, it’s currently 12:30 and he is still in bed, I’ve been up since 8am with the baby and still in my PJs. Me and baby have moved into the spare room in preparation for when he goes back to work, he shifts and it works for us but I have done every single night since baby was born. When we saw his family his mum congratulated us on our “spreading the workload” of the night shift, I was stood there like 🤨 he took it as a que to leave early because we were both “so tired”. House is a mess this morning, I at least expected that he’d of tidied being up to 4am but no.
All I can think of is that he’s not really bonded with the baby. Is this a sign?
I don’t really know the point of this post, I guess I’m just ranting.