June 08 babies - I know there's a few of us about!

[isaidno]

Thought I'd start a thread inbetween breastfeeding, laundry and bossing DH about tyo do stuff!

Let's make a list of members!

ISAIDNO - baby girl; Poppy Elizabeth; born 18 / 6/ 08; 6lb 4oz

PS I wouldn't think of having sex until my bleeding had completely stopped (not yet but nearly)

just quickly have finally added a photo of Anwyn. it's so hard to take pic of her without really bad red eye. also have only half figured out this mac so one is the best i could do!! you can't tell in this pic but she also had bad spots although they are clearing up this week it seems.

congrats needahand, fab news!

re SEX, i def say go for it sooner rather than later. took almost 6 months after ds and i had psyched myself out so much i thought it might never happen again. this time as soon as bleeding completely stopped i'm going for it!!

Anwyn has lips angelina jolie would be proud of!

Thanks for reading my birth story on the antenatal thread needahand - it made me feel better putting it all down in writing.

Feeling a bit bamboozled trying to keep up with all your posts - am still in the sleep deprived early days and you all seem to be moving on so fast I cant keep up!!!
Hoping the rest of the overdue crew are feeling the same!!!

dramaqueen I am feeling the same - my one trip out yesterday didn't go great and it has made me nervous of venturing out again. Have been very bad today and have let Alexander sleep in his sling since 11.30am (he is still in there sleeping!). I can't imagine getting into any sort of routine, as I can't even seem to manage eating properly and haven't yet managed a shower today (he had a major cyring fit all morning!).

I read your birth story - your postnatal experience sounds awful, so no wonder you're still recovering

BDQ just read your birth story, I am so sorry you've had such a hard time and good on you for perserving with the bf. I know it feels like things won't click sometimes but they will and it sounds like things are getting better. You'd think the mw would know everyone should be given skin to skin unless they don't want it.

aberdeen I feel exactly the same way about Mia's weight, she has had a bit of a slow gain and one week she didn't gain anything and I'm always really nervous they'll start getting involved or suggesting things. I will have to go to baby clinic on monday, so hoping Mia will have had a big gain.

We are still struggling a bit with bf and my nipples are in a bit of a state, have tried lansinoh, jelonet etc but I think the thrush left them really raw and Mia can be a bit rough as my milk comes out really fast. I've just got these things called silverettes, little silver nipple cups that are supposed to help with healing, they actually do seem to be helping, so fingers crossed. I really hope things sort out soon, Mia is 7 weeks now!

DQ good to hear from you, was wondering how you were getting on. It sounds like you had a pretty dreadful time after the birth. Hope things are looking up now.

Allnew I have only just managed to have a shower today, also struggling to eat properly. Glad I'm not the only one.
At the moment Jonathan is either feeding or screaming with the occasional sleep thrown in, the screaming seems to be with either wind, nappy or hunger, but mostly hunger. He woke up at 1.30 this morning and that was it until 5.30, we had a bit of a lie in then when I decided to have a shower at 10 he started up again, I took his next sleep break to have some lunch and he has just been asleep again for long enough for me to shower but I think I can hear him waking up.
Physically I am feeling quite a bit better although my right boob is still sore especially the nipple. I keep wimping out and offering him the other one when he is screaming and thrashing about wanting feeding. It's hard enough to get him on the sore one when he is calm but I know it needs to keep being drained.
DH has just got home which always makes things easier!

Sex, what's that? Can hardly remember the last time, oh yeah, it resulted in lots of blood loss and a manic trip to hospital!

Did someone ask about which nappies I was using? We've mostly been using terry squares, now we've got the hang of folding them they are fine, dry very quickly too. Have a few tots bots which are good for when he is thrashing about but they take ages to dry.

Hiya all - found the thread and hope everyone keeps it going as well as the antenatal one.

Katyo - had a great tip on the nipples front which seems to have worked this time - after feeding wipe nipple with sterile water and cotton wool, then apply some sudocream. Also, think the nipple shields you've got are a great idea. What is it with babies chewing nipples; don't they know that if they chew them up, we will be disinclined to put them anywhere near them - I've also got a babe with a pirana bite - and he hasn't even got teeth yet.

ktpie second that vote on nipple shields... haven't got sore nipples ..and provides edie with an extra dimension to mess around on when b/f when she is tired

amber as little as a month later... see here link for amber

poppy, being thick, is that the right link?

Well, we've tried the faster flow teats, and bought a syringe to administer the gripe water (the spoon was a bit of a nightmare!), and we feed him in a more upright position - and it seems to have helped. Fingers crossed.

He is upstairs asleep in his Moses basket now - first night we've tried it now we've bought a 'paranoid mummy' alarm, i.e. one with a sensor mat! We did have one of the normal ones but I just couldn't settle with it cos it only lit up when he made a noise . This one really helps - although, of course, I still pop up and check on him too!

Talking of baby weight - Alex is now 10.5 lbs! Not a skinny minny anymore!

Essie, my MIL is up this Sunday with dh's grandad and father - four generations together which is lovely. Anyway, MIL phoned tonight and said she'd be happy to stay on "for a few days" to help out. Arrrgggghhhh! Dh is going to tell her that we need a couple of weeks on our own to establish a routine, which is true, but how long can we stall her for?!

My mum came up last night and it was wonderful - but then I trust my mum to look after Alex in the way I look after him, not the way she thinks I should be looking after him.

Needahand, many congrats on the job - I was brought up in Bristol so would be really interested to know where you'll be moving to.

Although the place has changed so much since I left (about 18 years ago!) and has become much more cosmopolitan and trendy. Weren't like that in my day!

Periods can start one month later???? . I feel swindled. You don't have a period for 9 months which is great but then you have 9 months worth of bleeding afterwards followed immediately by a period - god is definitely a man!

Just put in my baby sensor mat so Luke can sleep in his own room for the first time tonight. Am worried and probably will wake up 20 times to check him!

By the way - the sleeping on his side thing is like magic. When he's almost asleep in our arms we put him down on his side with rolled up towels on either side so he can't roll and he grumps for bout 30 secs and then goes off to sleep like a dream (and this is daytime sleeping!!!) Try it out and see if it works for you. Side sleeping is just as safe as back sleeping if you make sure you put bolsters or towels on each side.

josey, good to hear that Olivia cried - bless her.

Does your dh know about the justgiving website? If he sets up a funding page for his sky dive then we can make a contribution too. The address is here.

Aberdeen how much does Fraser weigh now? Esther only put on 8oz in first four weeks but since then has put on 7-8oz a week. She was only 4lb8oz at birth. Just keep going with the BFing - it will work itself out (that's nature for you). Try looking at WHO growth charts - they are diff to HV ones. HV ones are based on average for all babies, FF and BF, and that cannot be right.

Needahand well done you! So good to get commute ditched. And I sympathise with you re DH. Is he a lawyer too? Mine is not so bad but sometimes I feel like he just thinks about himself, work, football, then us! But I suppose when we do most of the care it is wasy for them to think that part of their life is sorted.

Essie yeah boobs do calm down - often so much it makes you think you have no milk anymore. Your body will start producing just enough which is why it is imp to express if giving ebm - so your body still thinks your baby is taking the milk. It can be good to express a bit more than needed every day so when baby has a growth spurt your body is already making more milk (and you have a freezer full). Don't express loads or your body will keep making loads. About 3-6oz a day more than your baby drinks is OK.

allnew sorry about your trip. How old is DS? Not got much advice except maybe only go on trips where you can be back in time for feed/change - ie about two hours max. When he is older I am sure trips will go much better. I have been to one baby group at my church when DTs were six weeks old which was good but at a bad time, 9.30-11.30am, which is end-of-nap then feed time. But a bit of jigging with the routine means we can make it but I only go when not too tired.

I think mine are going through growth - both were up twice in night (has been just once for weeks now) so I am knackered.

Interesting about sleeping on side - sleeping on back seems so uncomfortable i'm not surprised they like it better on side.

hi all. i should be taking my shower right now while her ladyship has her first morning nap but am messing around on the laptop instead.

i am eating loads! but a lot of crap really. my mum was here for 10 days and she loaded the freezer with meatballs, stuffed chicken breasts, beef curry etc but we have nearly eaten it all. now we are on tins of curry from m&S and sainsbury bacon brunch with egg!
my weight has "stabilised" too so I am 6 kilos more then i started but i was 6 kilos overweight anyway. have a feeling that i am also not one of the breastfeeding weight-losers!

congrats on new job needahand

my nipples finally healed after almost 4 weeks of pain and it was the nipple shells that really helped. i had two types - some collected milk but this other set had air holes so your nipples don't touch your bra and also get a little air to them to help them heal.

also interested in side sleeping. so just roll up two towels and prop baby in between???

oh, new pics of miss elodie summer at 6 weeks on profile.

BDQ have read your birth story - it is hard when you get bad care postnatally. Once you were relaxed things got better - I think this is key. Hope things are goign well for you now.

Don't think you are a lightweight, the pain is always worse when you are induced. I felt the same cos contractions were so bad early on. If they had not let me go in bath and have g+a I would have gone straight for epidural too!

you can also buy one of these or similar to let them sleep on their sides. you can make it bigger or smaller as they grow. i don't trust dh to sleep beside anwyn if she's in bed with us (he is a dead sleeper) so when she's in with us i'm in the middle and she's between the snuggler so she can't roll out of bed.

Josey so glad to hear that Olivia cried. many more cries to come i hope!!

DQ congrats and hope you're settling in now. the midwives for ds' birth were fab but the aftercare was horrid and it was a big part of the reason i decided to have a home birth this time. once you get the little bundle home you soon forget though!

big congrats to BUN too!!!

off to in-laws this weekend which i sort of dread because it messes with ds' schedule so much... but looking forward to having a bit of a break and a couple of lie-ins!!

Morning everyone

BDQ, just read your story. I'm glad the birth wasn't too bad, but the time in the post-natal ward must have been terrible. You must have felt very alone. MW can be amazing, but also so bossy.

We had a shocker last night. Spent the day with Dorothy feeding like it was going out of fashion and not sleeping - Essie and PP came round during the afternoon as well, which was lovely. And then, she projectile vomited her 7pm feed.

In my book, babies who are 19 days old should not projectile vomit, so I phoned NHS Direct. Initially, they weren't too worried and then they phoned back and sent us to Paediatric A&E at St George's to check for pyloric stenosis.

DH, who is usually very calm and supportive, was furious with me for making a fuss.

St George's were great and saw us very quickly. We had to feed twice in front of them for them to observe the feeds and see if she was sick again, which she wasn't.

So we got home at about 11.30 and went to bed. Of course it took an hour or so to decompress, so everyone has woken up cranky this morning. Dorothy is fine though, which is the important thing. DH is barely speaking to me , but I think he will calm down later this morning.

Incidentally, I took the opportunity to ask the paediatrician at George's about the sleeping in same room / SIDS risk. He said that the no-one really knows what causes SIDS, but the three big things to avoid are overheating, sleeping on tummy and smoking. He also said (which chimes with my obstetrician friend) that they think (but don't know) the reason sleeping in the same room lowers the risk slightly is that the baby can hear you breathing, which reminds them to breathe. He also said that his baby sleeps in a different room and not to worry about it.

Needahand - fantastic news, congratulations!

Aberdeenhiker - I would also stress that you shouldn't let the hv push you to ff. The growth chart is for ff babies and bf ones do gein slightly more slowly. Also, babies have spurts and slows, my hv told me they don't like to weigh as much as they used to because of this. Fraser may be having a slow period and put more on next month, or he just may not be a big feeder. I would trust your own judgment, my hv told me not to get my dd weighed at all because her weight gain was slow and stressing me (although she was older than ours at this point). As long as she was active and alert they were fine with her, and now the guidelines are to weigh at monthly periods I think.

While trying to get Jamie asleep at midnight the other day and going through every song I know we have discovered that he likes Dolly Parton. I first we thought it was a fluke but since then he has settled and fallen asleep practically every time we have sung it to him. OH THE SHAME!

Upsidedowncakes - Jamie projectile vomits quite regularly. he managed it twice last night. It is awful and stressful but mostly normal. If you were worried however, getting it checked was the best thing to do. You know your child best.

sponge it was link for amber.

UDC would do exactly wht you did and prob get same reaction from dh. but really interested in what your paeditician said re the SIDS thing..

Today good as DH here so have help but is tied up dealing with the fact that despite reporting theft of his wallet immediately yesterday the thieves still manage to have lifted loads of money from his account and our joint account. Given that fricking bank is quick enough to call re legitimate transactions, am baffled re fact that can lift such sums without any word from bank (esp as account should have been blocked).

Still waiting to hear from hosptial re breast clinic visit..not looking forward to it.

Poppy - hope you hear from the hospital soon.

Needahand (was it you???) congratulations on the job

Projectile vomit - Ethan did it yesterday, I was out getting last minute wedding stuff and dh gave Ethan a bottle of ebm, then he was sick , and it managed to get in Dh's mouth - yuck!!!

Tjuice - what an adorable little girl you have there - she is just beautiful, my boy looks like a real bruiser in comparison!!

Did someone mention routine - HAH, 1 month on and we have no routine.