March08 mums- tummy and teething troubles!

[fitnfortyone]

new thread for Merry...

4mb - sorry to hear about the pnd. My HV is a bit concerned that I scored fairly highly on their test, and to be fair there have been lots of tears over the last 14 weeks and I know my family are a bit concerned that I'm not my usual self. I'm not sure if it is 'proper' pnd or just the fact that LO has been so difficult with the colic, reflux, breastfeeding, screaming fits etc, etc and I've been struggling to cope. Anyway, some days it's been hard to smile so if not pnd, I hate to think how bad it must be. Hope you're getting lots of RL support.

I too am having another visit from HV in a week or so to redo my PND survey as my score was a bit high. She also is worried because my husband showed how unhelpful he is while she was here. Big hugs to all who are finding it tough and big thanks to all of you for listening to all my moaning. Shame we don't all live in the same area...be nice to support each other in RL too.

I'm really sorry to hear about those feeling blue, I've been thinking about you all. I've seen some people have tough times with this when I was a psych nurse. Time and again, when people were having depressing times, Dorothy Rowe's book the way out of your prison was a great help to thinking things through, if you get help from reading. It's not aimed at PND as such, but it tackles the core of negative cycles that we can get stuck in with depressive thinking.

PND and PN psychosis were always remarkable in my experience at reacting well to medical treatment, not just talking treatment - lots of other kinds weren't so easily helped. Mind you, if it isn't proved to be largely hormonal in the future I'd eat my futuristic hat, wouldn't you?

goes off on one about how if medicine had been dominated by women when it became rich and powerful and for the last few hundred years then we'd probably have loads more answers to all those piffling little 'women's troubles' that are currently overlooked and never decently researched>ties up her rampant feminist beastie and goes back to the housework

mrsp3: brunch. tiffin. and all those 'don't mind if i do's' when you get offered something by a colleague and stop work to delight in it have a great weekend. very jealous.

dp nope sorry dh (feels great!) has finally booked some time off at end of august! hurray. will probably stay at home to grow a beard (him) and read books and hang with the boys, as we spent on the midwife what we would have spent on about a year and a half of holidays.

take it out of GG's college fund, MB, and go on a holiday!

I've already told Griffin his college savings are going toward my "saggy boobs boob job" which I'll most certainly need down the line.

tmi alert- should I see the gp about this or is it "normal" and only time will help?: episiotomy site is occasionally bleeding lightly. Also another area that I think had stitches too. And if I'm too active it still feels like all my bits are going to fall out. Doing pelvic floors like mad, but this has been going on for a couple of weeks. DD 14 weeks... thought it would be better by now!

i think gp e14mum that doesn't sound quite right, x

Speaking of boob jobs...am dreading what will happen to me when I give up bf once and for all. I had no boobs at all, go B/C implants and now I'm an E. Whatever will they look like? Have visions of loads of skin hanging off pert bits...eek.
Re:episiotomy...Mine was doing the same til 10 weeks, the dr said if not better by 12 weeks to def go back. I can, however, feel huge bumps and lumps under it and some bits are completely numb. I would get it looked at if I were you. Poor you!

ta guys... it's the pits, isn't it turtle? (hope you have a good night again!)

e14 (TMI alert)-that it is. And you know what? Mine was so overzealously stitched that when I finally got round to erm..testing it out it was like losing my virginity but worse. Who'd have thought that "too tight" might be a problem after childbirth?

next set of jabs this am. sigh weekend of poor wee slightly upset fellow to follow. i know its so much better than the diseases themselves, but it a real act of will to put them through this isn't it. especially when you are lazy like me and want to go mill around the local parks instead...

i sympathise merry! ds had his first set on tue, the nurse did gently reprimand me as it was 4 weeks late (one week they forgot to send appointement, next week i was on holiday, last week they had a training day). I didnt enjoy it at all and he cried so much in the evening.

dd also had some jabs, unfortunately i thought these were the last but apparently more have been added to the schedule since she was last at drs so has to go back in four weeks too! Thoink it will be far trickier when she knows what they are going to do.

yup and he howled and is already not quite his cheery self. and yes lord help me when ds1 has his boosters pre-school...

Having a really shit couple of days, split with DP/XP yesterday. After trying bloody hard we've called it a day. My Dad's wedding tomorrow and Sat and we're going on holiday in July He left me for a couple of months during pregnancy and I have never been able to forgive him for it, I'm a little ball of anger and resentment about it and just can't move past it.

Feel so depressed and cried for hours yesterday Feeling a bit better today and hope to god DD will never have any subconscious memories of me being so useless. Feeling like a rubbish Mum too, she seems to know I am upset as she is being very good and cuddly!!

Sorry to bring such misery to the thread just needed to get it out somewhere.

LOL @ eggcup and dictionary

DD had second jabs yesterday and her reaction has been much milder than the first set so far. She got a little fractious yesterday evening just after I'd put her down but I managed to get her back to sleep with no calpol (DH was running about downstairs looking in vain for the plastic spoon, and by the time he came back up she was asleep).

MMH- sorry to hear about the split- tough times I imagine for you all.
Hope the jabs don't cause too many problems- DD had her first last week (5 weeks late for me- colds and cancelled appointments etc) and was grumpy in the afternoon but apart from that, fine. She is now lying on playment giggling at me- after having 7 fits when DS came home from nursery with his face painted like a tiger and stuck it 2 cm from her face. It would have scared the beejeesus at of me too.

missingmyheels - sorry your having such a shit time hun, course she wont remember you being upset and your not a rubbish mum. i cant imagine anyone would find the break up of a relationship easy and especially when they have a new baby xx

MMH, so sorry to hear you're having a hard time. I remember talkng about something like this with you on a separate thread some time ago. You're not a shit mum, never say that. Your DD is very lucky to have a mum like you. I'm sure in time you will feel more positive.

Nothing new to report here. As soon as DS starts speaking French I'll post about it.

Oh, one thing and I gave DS the hungry baby formula for his bedtime feed at 6.30pm last night. He woke me at 7.50am. He'd been awake for some time but not particularly noisy. Or maybe I was particularly hard of hearing this morning.

Hope everyone is ok, and for those feeling a bit miserable, special hugs.

you bring it on the thread mmh that's th epoint of these places, far as i'm concerned. So sorry to hear your news. all strength to you at the w/e, it'll be tough if people are nice about it, it'll be tough if they don't mention it, it'll be tough if they diss him, it'll be tough full stop won't it? . Are you going on hol with dad or XP? xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

missingmyheels, really sorry to hear your news. Must have been tough times for you guys. I second (or third) what has already been said and you are definately not a shit mum....frankly you're amazing and you should remember that. I remember when you were pregnant and having a tough time with xp and I can imagine that anger building up. you are amazing and you will do just fine. I hope you get lots of love and cuddles not just from your dd.
to all those having bad times my ds and I send a squidge and a newly learnt giggle to gladden everyone's heart.

oh and to echo MB - this is surely what these threads are for - it's no good us all just nattering away about the joys of life - we can talk about that with anyone in RL or even whitter away to ourselves about what fun we're having- it's much more useful to be able air worries, concerns, anger, sadness, boredom and all of that on MN rather than in RL so....keep it coming I say.

MMH- Really sorry to hear your news, but please remember that you ae a fab mum and you both have given it a real try. This thread loves to listen, let it all out.((hugs))
Glam-I have a feeling that it would take actually eating a hungry baby to fill my little monster up for the night and make him sleep through.
Had another night of 130,330,530,630,730...yawn

Thanks for your kind words ladies. Just been for a full body massage and fake tan and feel a little better. I have hol booked with XP to stay at his IL's in France - not sure I wanna put myself through that now.

I haven't spoken to my Dad about it yet, will hold off until after the wedding to break the news, XP is DJing the reception so I won't have to speak to him. He is coming over tonight to chat about things and where we go from here He is such a good Dad, I wish I had it in me to let go of the past and all the shit things he has done. Thinking I might go to relate and see if they can help us move past it - even if only as friends [sigh]

I am temporarily ditching the diet as I am ordering takeaway tonight as I think I deserve a comfort eat. I'm feeling a bit more rational now and know Tilly is too young to remember anything and the tears WILL have stopped by the time she has capacity for memory!

Awww, newly learnt giggles are the best. Have found animal noises make DD really cackle

MMH glad to hear you're feeling a little better. You sound really together considering the emotional turmoil you must be going through

Relate might be a good idea to help you two maintain a good relationship even if you can't make it work as a couple. You're a great Mum and if your xDP is a good Dad too then Tilly's pretty lucky.

Yeah, the giggles are great. For some reason DD has this really deep belly laugh. She's quite girly and dainty in all other ways, so it's kind of surprising, but soooo cute