May 2008 - we just couldn't wait!

[thefortbuilder]

for everyone who's popped already and congratulations to us all!

Hey ladies

Maybe it is this stage - 2 months or so in - that is a bit hard? I too am feeling a bit down which is odd for me. Have had dp problems but am not usually down in the dunps like today.

Totally get what LM and others of you mean - I know lots of you have other LOs and I only have Stella but the realisation that there is no relent to this is quite scary and as valid for those with 2 as us newbies.

I saw a woman today with her baby in a pram and realised I was looking at her in a totally different way to how I would've a year ago. A year ago I would've smiled and though how idyllic her life must be - today I smiled knowingly and thought instead that all of us are trying our best in this all consuming task of being mums. I am happier than I have ever been in my life in many ways and my daughter is just fantastic. I love being her mum so much. But knowing this goes on forever is a funny feeling. The never ending cycle of sterilising, feeding, washing, hanging clothes out, folding clothes, changing nappies, getting up in the night to check baby's breathing .

Gotta go for now - dd has woken up and gets scared if she can't see me!

MM

monkeysmama the benefit of having a toddler is that you know things do get easier. I think Ascics has said this before. Last year when DD1 was one year old, my friend had a baby, and when we went to see her, DH and I came away saying "thank goodness we're not at that awful newborn stage"!!!! We both agreed it's the hardest and actually the least rewarding stage. Things really do get easier, and you get more back from them which makes it all so much more fun.

Feeling a bit , just got another email form the bint on ebay who I sold a maternity belt to. She emailed me days after I posted it demanding why I hadn't left her positive feedback, so after a stroppy reply, I did leave her pos feedback. So anyway, I've just had an email saying.....

"on 25th June I bought a maternity belt off you and I left you positive feedback and you still haven't left me positive feedback. If you do not do so I will contact ebay and complain as this is not on"

Blimey love, get over it, it's just a but of feedback on ebay (which I'm 99.9% sure I left anyway?). Funny how she thinks ebay will be 'bothered', I haven't done anything wrong. She has way too much time on her hands (obviously hasn't had her baby yet??!!).

I just found a thread all about big brother, so I have found somewhere to vent my views on the housemates....yipee!

magicfairy Hope you have a lovely evening at your friend's. It sounds as though you really need some time out.

YCBS 3 degrees !!! Cor blimey!
I know what you mean about not wanting people to have the lo's. I'm better with DD2 (trust me, it's a whole different ball game with baby no 2) but even so, I don't want to 'get rid of' my kids so that I can be with DH. We are a family, and that's how we want to be. I totally understand how you feel not wanting to leave Harry with a neighbour. Even when I leave my two with my close family I worry cos they don't necassarily know their ways. I know it sounds silly, but DD1 is very particular about things like which cup she has her morning milk in, and which she has her night-time milk in. Babies know our 'smell', they know when it's mummy, so I do know exaclty what you mean.

YCBS Ditto lm74 3 degrees . If I was my DH I'd make some joke about Diana Ross or was that The Supremes... . I'll drop you a line.

lm74 The lady who hankers for your positive feedback obviously has self-esteem issues!

ycbs I tried sending you an email but it looks like there was a problem with it getting through. Let me know if it did or didn't .

I think first babies are the hardest and it gets easier when you have more children. I think its because you are learning and babies are hard work. Don't get me wrong with 3 children, babies are still hard work, you just have less time on your hands and they can't get your undivided attention. Although DS still needs to be held constantly sleeps in our bed and goes between 3 and 4 hours per feed. Life is busy.

YCBS: Also wow 3 degrees, very impressive. Glad you are feeling better.

Mocat: Hope your scar is ok, where you bleeding from the section cut? I am on more antibiotics for the next 2 weeks and have to put dressings on mine, 9 weeks since I had DS2 coz mine is open and not closing.

LM sorry you were feeling low earlier, but glad things are better now.Hope you get your back/shoulder sorted

Monkeysmama shocked at MIL, hope things are ok tomorrow night when you go round. Hope you weren't to hungover today

Magicfairy: hope things are getting better and the kids are feeling better. enjoy your night out.

Pina well done on deciding on what you want to study. Hope bedtimes are getting easier, don't know how you do it?

Jpricey welcome to the born in May thread

Asicsgirl Enjoy your holiday, I know we will.

Going to Majorca on saturday, can't wait

Hi all

mitchell81 - hope you have a good holiday, I could do with getting away to somewhere sunny but the lake district is all we've got planned for this year.

LM74 - I found ebay isn't that great when you have to deal with annoying people all the time! I'd leave her negative feedback saying she keeps hassling you!

monkeysmama - yes it does get easier, in a few months you won't need to sterilise, they don't need their nappies changed every 2 seconds, they sleep through the night - it's amazing what a difference little things like that make.

It's been a nearly a week since Jamie's fall from the changing unit and he has been fine and normal so I've been relieved. He had a check up at the hospital today as a follow on from being in special care and that went fine, i decided to mention the fall too so he got a good check over.

Went to my first Rosemary Conley class tonight in an effort to lose weight, started my own diet last week and trying to do some exercise but felt i needed more motivation to keep it up. I actually quite enjoyed it as it's diet info followed by exercise class so at least I burn off a bit of fat!

Thanks to all for the welcome messages much appreciated. I still have not had a cycle either yet since the baby anyone else experiencing this ??? I did breast feed for the first 3 weeks but got and infection so had to stop much to my disappointment people say this can hamper your periods ?.

YCNBS - thanks, i thought it was best to mention it and be on the safe side!

jpricey - forgot to say hello to you yesterday. I haven't had a period yet, ds was mixed fed for first 3 weeks but since then has been bottle fed, he's now nearly 9 weeks. I read on the internet it can take 3 months before they start again if you're bottle feeding so enjoy it while it lasts, I am!

Fed Jamie at 10.30pm and he slept through til 7am so happy about that

Indigo: glad Jamie is fine, lucky you on him sleeping all night- any helpful hints. My Jamie is no where near sleeping through, but my others didn't either so didn't expect much.

JPricey I had the implant fitted at 6 weeks and just started spotting for the last week or so. DS2 is 9 weeks. They say this is normal and may continue for awhile.

YCBS yah its friday, you must be happy

Mitchell81 I want to have a quiet lie down every time I think about your open section wound! Please God it closes soon and doesn't give you any more bother. No, my wound is just sore inside, I think the running made everything ache. The bleeding was like the return of my loss but it too has dried up in the last day or two (too much information, sorry). I am still sore behind the scar line, especially at the right-hand side where the surgeon obviously tied off with a knot! I wonder if lm74 advises no more running until the pain has gone? I figure that by bleeding again my body is saying 'Stop it!' so I shall listen. I find though that when I have been on the go all day my scar aches anyway. This seems to tally with all the other ladies I met in hospital who had sections at the same time. It has been 12 weeks now (feels like I should go on to say 'Since my last confession...' ).

indigoblue Hooray for Rosemary Conley! All the best for that.

ycbs Harry sounds as if he's on his way to sleeping through. You really appreciate your sleep when you have been coping on less, don't you? Thanks for the email. I have sent a waffly one back, hope it makes sense.

I got a leaflet form the hospital when they discharged me that advised about contraceptives. It said that if you were BF exclusively then you could use that as a method of contraceptive. I thought that was an old wives' tale and my MW certainly said to take precautions and not rely on it. No danger. I haven't had a period and can't remember when I started them last time when I was BF DD. As you say, indigoblue, enjoy it while it lasts.

Have a lovely time all holiday makers!

mocat PLEASE don't rely on BF as contraception!!! I don't think it's an old wives tale as such, but I don't think it's 100% reliable. The thing is, you'll never know if you're ovulating again as the period doesn't come til 2 weeks later...IYSWIM. I am certainly enjoying not having periods at the mo (I think we all have enough to cope with!!). I mentioned this before but I think I'm gonna have a Mirena coil fitted. Apparently very reliable and it makes your periods very light, if not stops them altogether, and you don't get PMT!!
I would certainly advise holding off on the running for the time being. I think you're right, that the bledding was your body's way of telling you to stop!! Have you been doing any abdominal exercises?? Not crunches (too aggressive at this stage) but gentle tummy tightenings?? It should help in the long run (excuse the pun!).

YCBS excuse me....? 'retalitory' ??? I've never even heard that word before....you can tell you have 3 degrees, you brainy git!!
I'm soooooooooooo pleased to hear Harry had such a good night, long may it last. Glad the feeding tips helped . I also hope you have a better weekend with DH. Are you gonna mention the holiday thing again??

Congrats to indigoblue too for the good sleep, aren't our babies doing well??!!

Well, my next project for DD1 is transition from cot to bed. We've just taken the rail off her cotbed, she seemed to like the idea, and so far she hasn't fallen out or got out (it's been an hour). We figured it was best to try it in the day first, while we are up already.

I had an email back from my boss to say Yes, I can book myself in for some physio, so I will pop in later and get that sorted.I think I will book myself in with one of the big burly male physios who can pummel my back muscles within an inch of their life!!! I had to do the shopping on my own for all the Christening BBQ etc this morning so I am really aching now. DH had just done a 12 hr night shift so I couldn't really ask him, and he stayed home with the girls so at least I could go on my own.

YCBS I am just gonna send you an email....

Awwww, my cousin is getting married in Sept and they have just asked DD1 to be a flower girl....how cute is that?!

spoke too soon, period just arrived! how annoying! Definitely enjoy it while it lasts everyone!

well guess what, last night ds2 wouldn't settle at all and i couldn't bring myself to leave him like that, so after i rang my freind to say i wasnt coming he fell asleep in 10 mins! So i had a lovely hot bath instead, am feeling much better, dh has realised that he needs to help with the house stuff aswell as looking after ds1 ( which he does most of the time).

LM74- what are these miracle feeding tips? ds1 actually slept from 10.30 - 3 the other night, but not to be repeated!

We moved ds1 into a bed before ds2 came along and it went really well. we put a quilt on the floor to protect any falls and got him a really cool digger bed set and he has always loved his big boy bed! hes had a few falls, but unless he looses his dummy hes not that bothered, we just get there quick and pop him straight back in, he actually fell out once and didnt even wake up!

mocat - dont rely on bf as contraception, there is some truth in it, but i know people who have been caught out that way!

i cant reply to anymore, ds2 very heavy on my arm and i want to get rrady for bed before big brother!

oh forgot to mention ds2 has had his appointment through to have his belly button hernia operated on have to go plymouth for it (1-1.5 hours drive) as there are no peadiatric surgeons in cornwall!

As I said - no danger of me using BF as contraceptive! Absolutely no way I'm leaving that to chance.

magicfairy Hope all goes well whenever ds2 has his operation. When will that happen? It's good that they are sending him to the experts even if it is quite a distance.

lm74 Thanks for the advice about the running, I appreciate it. I haven't been doing any abdominal exercises, I used to run regularly and left it at that so I don't really think about strengthening or toning specific areas. Should do. I am really sore still and wonder if I should head back to the GP next week if it continues. No more loss but quite tender under the scar.

Thanks for everyones good holiday wishes. Will see you all in 2 weeks if I can manage to read through what I have missed.

LM We put DS1 into a proper bed(it is low) and made a big deal of thomas the tank engine big boy bed and he stays in it all night, we do have a bed guard so he doesn't fall out but can get out if he wants to.
Hope it is a success.

Magicfairy sorry that you didn't get to go out.

YCBS long may it continue with the long spells of sleep at night

Mocat: They glued the open section of my wound today so hopefully it starts to stay closed. Also don't have an infcetion anymore but will still be on anti biotics for another 2 weeks and have waterproof dressings so that I can swim.

Thanks girls for your input thought there might be something wrong well the longer it stays away is all good by me. As long as it does come back want more than 1 child out of choice. Anyone got any tips to help me get Izzy to sleep through the night, Sunday was good she slept 10 till 5 and monday 10 till 6 but now were back to waking around 3.30pm and drinking a full bottle. She is very much a little and often baby only now taking 120ml and not always finishing it she is petite(unlike me).

magicfairy Magic feeding tips??? [confused.com]
Where do you live in Cornwall, I'm very !!

mocat I've never had a section but 3 months seems a long time to still be very sore in your scar?? Maybe best to get it checked out?

YCBS I'll look out for DSD2 on the TV!!
Did Harry have another good night??? (fingers crossed).

DD1 did really well in her new bed (well, it's just her cotbed without the rails). I heard her fall out at about 7am, she had a tiny moan, so I went to check on her, and she'd already climbed back in and had her thumb in ready for more sleeps!! Bless her.

Just picked up DD2's Baptism cake and it is beautiful!!! Chocolate cake!!!!!!

Anyway, I should be getting the house ready for the party tomorrow, not on MN!!!

Have a good day all of you.

LM xx

P.S. apologies in advance if I come on here for a right good rant after the Christening tomorrow, my 'darling' nephews and neices are bound to drive me potty, let alone MIL!!!