May 2008 - we just couldn't wait!

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for everyone who's popped already and congratulations to us all!

mocat DD1 used to like both sides too, but she seemed to be OK just having one, and after a few days your supply will adjust itself. It might just mean that for the first few days you do it (express) you might need to feed him a bit sooner than normal after that initial first feed.
Good luck!! It's women multi-tasking at their very best....feeding and expressing at the same time.

also forgot to say at your mil monkeysmama!

pina hope dd1 feels better soon. sounds like very hard work at your place atm. grand that you are thinking about uni - go for it! what are you interested in studying?

Glad you are feeling better YCBS
More later....I need sleep!!!
LM

YCBS-really glad to read you're feeling better. I think (and hope!) it is normal to have good and bad days. I know I certainly do and from reading our posts on here each day we're not the only ones!

I am really tired today. Had a few glasses of wine yesterday evening then woke up about 3 feeling hungover and proceeded to force 3 pints of water down and got up to defrost some milk because I felt awful guilt feeding dd. She woke up soon after and sod's law didn't go back to sleep until 6ish. And how hot was it last night!? DP is out with friends tonight so will sleep in the guest room to spare me from his drunken snoring! We have been getting on well last few days.

Been invited do MIL's on Friday after we register baby. She wants to make up for the impetigo fiasco. She is very lucky dd is ok. I am one of the world's most patient laid back people but wanted to throttle her! I have been to dr 3 times this week to make sure my heatrash isn't impetigo. I suspect they think I'm a little crazy! Will be bit manic this weekend-MIL's on Friday night, meeting friends for lunch near hers on Saturday before going to friend's dd's 3rd birthday followed by stop off at funny odd SIL's.

I am off to put my feet up while baby takes a nap.

Have a good evening everyone
MM

hi, just checking in, have had the weekend/week from hell, ds1 been poorly and very grumpy with it, ds2 either poorly too or feeding off ds1's grump, so i have had 2 screaming children since saturday! Arrrggghhh1!

anyway this afternoon was a bit better, phew!

will catch up soon, off to bed now ds2 finally gone to sleep i think

Hi newbie here to mums net hope it's okay to join in. I had a baby girl on the 16th May called Izzy and I'm really enjoying my time with her and find myself wondering what we did before the baby came ???

Welcome Jpricey!

I was thinking the same. 9 months of having to sleep all the time but feeling uncomfy followed by 2 months (my dd Stella born 14th May) of getting used to broken sleep. Sleep has been my dominant theme of this year!

Morning all,

How was your night with Harry YCBS? Did he settle??

Welcome jpricey magicfairy Hope your week gets better.

major moan alert

I'm feeling a bit down in the dumps today. Don't really know why, you know when you can't quite put your finger on it? It feels like PMT (you know that irrational, paranoia feeling??!) but I haven't started my periods again yet. I just feel a bit like a hamster on a wheel, I love being a mum and I love my 2 girls, but it's just never-ending!! The washing/ironing/cooking/cleaning/disciplining a 2 year old/shopping/nappy changing/feeding etc etc. I know that I have it better than a lot of people as DH is so helpful, but I feel like I'm just always on the go.

I also feel a bit disappointed with myself that now DD2 is 11 weeks old, I should be doing some regular exercise, just once or twice a week, but I just don't have the energy or the inclination. By the end of the day I am so pooped, I just wanna sit down and veg out on the sofa.

Just to moan a bit more, my back and shoulder have been killing me for ages now. I know it's just muscular from all the lifting of both DDs (i.e. DD1 out of her cot and when she is being a monkey and wants a 'carry' etc). I know from my job how much pain can get you down, and I think that's what a lot of it is. I am constantly in pain in my back and shoulder. Not severe pain, but really nagging pain. I know I could try and get one of my colleagues from work to sort me out, but I feel a bit silly asking. I don't want them to think I'm making a fuss.

Today I feel anxious cos DD1 hasn't done a poo since yesterday morning, and now she is with the CM who takes her to a playgroup. DD1 still does all her poos on the potty, but she still gets a bit nervous about it, and kind of needs my undivided attention while she gears up to go and then goes. I tried to get her to go before we left for the CM's, but she couldn't. I hope she's OK. I know that she would be really upset if she messed her pants .

And my final moan is feeling frumpy . DD1's CM is so glam, she always has lovely clothes on, her hair done and her make-up on etc, and she has loads of kids to look after all day. I just can't be arsed putting make-up on everyday in the heat, and my hair is in a bit of an inbetween style/length, so unless I spend ages straightening it, it looks shit. I usually shower last thing at night to give me more time in the morning, so it usually looks pants after I have slept on it all night, but I just can't be bothered. I have enough to do. I make an effort when i go out, but day to day, there's just too much going on. I always feel so frumpy next to the CM!

Sorry to feel so . I'm sure I'll feel better tommorow.

LM x

Decided to be a bit pro-active, so I have just emailed my boss to ask her if I can have an appt to see one of my colleauges (sp??!) to sort my back out.

welcome jpricey! magicfairy poor you with two ill LOs. hope things are improving now.

ycbs sorry to hear harry was grumpy last night, hope he is better today.

lm74 sorry you are having a down day. ((hug)) don't ignore the pain honey - you of all people should know better you should definitely get it sorted out, and your colleagues won't think you're making a fuss - imagine if it was the other way round and one of them came to you, you wouldn't say 'tough, that's just mother/fatherhood', would you?

if you're in pain it always makes you feel more tired too, so i'm not surprised you've no energy/ motivation for exercise. i'm trying to get out for a walk when i can - i can only run at the weekends when dp is here to field the boys - and i'm just trying to say to myself, a walk and a bit of fresh air is better than nothing, and it's all grist to the mill. you'll be more up for it soon - it really is still early days.

i don't have any glamour tips, lolol!! tbh i quite like having an excuse not to wear makeup not many yummy mummies where i live, thank goodness, so i don't feel the pressure. i always feel like i look dowdy yet people keep telling me how well i look, so i think you can rest assured that no-one else thinks you look frumpy! hope you feel better soon.

i got quite a bit of packing done yest and various other jobs so i'm feeling a bit more relaxed... took ds2 for his jabs too, forgot his red book then the hv asked me his birth weight and i couldn't remember!! she said with a smile 'is this your baby?'

ds2 was fine. he enjoyed his medical, i think he thought the doc was giving him some exotic tickles! he was his usual grumpy self last night in fact dp and i were laughing before i went that we wouldn't know if ds2 was 'irritable' after the jabs as he's always blardy irritable of an evening lol. he slept fine tho and is happy and smiley this morning.

have a nice day everyone x

ycbs so sorry i forgot to ask you how your back was/ is... i'm assuming from your post that it has improved? as a regular back/ neck pain sufferer i do sympathise...

lol at harry and the mirror. ds2 looked at himself and me in the mirror this morning and laughed! first time i think he has really clocked what's going on with mirrors. very cute

dp is coming home soon and will try feeding ds2 ebm from a bottle! ooh i'm a bit nervous... ds1 was an absolute nightmare, it took months to persuade him to drink from anything but the boob ... wish us luck!

lm74 Sorry to hear you are having one of those days. Whenever they have passed it seems like 'What was I upset about?' but at the time they take over, esp if you are tired and sore. Hope you are feeling better now. I'm just thinking that I haven't been in touch with my glam friends recently - maybe it's subconscious because I am not doing the fake tan, latest clothes thing at the mo. I bet your CM has to get up at 5am to start the beautifying process!

asics All the best with the bottle. I haven't tried it often enough with DS, maybe only 3 times in total. Last time he spent an hour lying back gazing at DH and DD while they gave him the bottle and he only took 1 ounce! Then half an hour afterwards he was screaming with hunger and had a long feed from me! It seems like he didn't associate the bottle with food at all . The thought of cleaning bottles and sterilizing them seems like too much effort . Must do.

YCBS You mentioned teaching being a child-friendly career. You do get away from work at a decent time but there's always loads to do in the evenings and it seems to make me and all my colleagues really tired. I feel like I spend the day jollying kids to do some work and then when I go home I start all over again. The ones you love seem to get what's left of you. Then again, teaching is the only job I've ever done and I might be exactly the same in another career. The holidays are fantastic.

After being so delighted at having my first run on Sunday, I've felt really sore around my section scar for the last few days and have started bleeding again slightly. Think I'll stick to walking for a while yet.

Is anybody as big a fan of babygrows as I am? People have bought DS little outfits of trousers and tops but I think they are hard to wear, a bit uncomfy looking. I've just bought loads of 3 - 6 month babygrows as I love DS looking like a baby. DH assures me that this is the last baby we'll have so I'm going to enjoy every baby moment DS has!

Just thought I'd pop back and say thanks everyone for your kind words. I'm feeling a bit better already, and all because.....DD1 ate boiled egg for lunch!!!!! hee hee! She is not usually very keen to try anything new and has always said no to eggs, but today, I just said "what do you want for lunch?" and she just said "eggs!". She gobbled it down and loved it!! It just pleases me greatly that she is trying new things. She also managed to wait til she got home from the CM to do her 'no.2' today, and she did it without any crying/anxiety....yipeee!
Both girls are now asleep, and after this morning when DD2 slept all morning () I got all my jobs done, so now I have time to MN!!

I too love babygros. I know people mean well when they buy little outfits, but they just don't work on small babies. T-shirts just ride up etc. I have only just started getting DD2 'dressed' in the morning! I ffind that dungarees work very well, or vests with poppers and trousers. DD2 has lots of adorable hand-knitted cardies and I just love her in those too.

mocat I hope your scar heals up soon....be careful!!

YCBS thanks for the lovely compliment, I just wish I had time to get dressed like that everyday!!
Teaching sounds like a good idea, either teaching itself or a teaching assistant?? If you already have a degree, you would just need to do a years PGCE course I think. mocat would know.
I second what she says too about how demanding the job is. Both my parents are retired teachers and it actually put me off it as a career seeing how much work they had to do in the evenings, lesson plans and marking books etc, and that was primary schools! However, now I genuinelly think that if I wasn't a physio, I would like to be a teacher. A lot of physio is about educating patients and I also have to do a lot of staff teaching at my level. Good luck with your plans, at least you have plenty of time to think about it all.

asics when is the holiday...Saturday?? You sound just like us, we always go to St Ives/Carbis Bay in Cornwall, but we just love it so much!!

LM xx

pina you go for it too!!! Food technology sounds good, what sort of job would you hope to get with that, maybe a chocolate taster...??!!!

Well its a lovely sunny day here and we have been for a fun soft play session at asda, which ds1 loves and ds2 always sleeps through the whole thing as it really hot in there, so i am feeling a bit better.

Last night actually got worse, me and dh were not talking at all, he had decided that mowing the lawns was more important than giving me a break, even though i had texted him earlier in the day saying i really neded a break (thats a big move for me as i hate asking for help!). Anyway ds2 finally went to sleep at 10.30 (so far 9 has been his latest) then after i put the nappies on to wash, tidyed up etc and had a good cry in the kitchen it was gone 11.

Its soooo hard when you have 2 kids, neither of which can tell you how they are feeling and just cry all day. ds1 has started doing this horrible tantrum when he goes rigid, throws himself to the floor, screams and propells himself to the most dangerous part of the room!

Anyway to cut a long rant short as mil has just turned up (aarrrggghhh!), dh has said he will have both boys tonight and has ordered me to go to my friends for the evening!

LM i feel very frumpy too,

mocat babygros, i love them too!

luckymummy It must be a day for boiled eggs. My DD came downstairs this morning and saw her granny have one for breakfast. She straight away said she wanted one too; up yours, Cheerios! Glad to hear your day has turned around, thank goodness for poos in the right place and eggs!

YCBS Yes, depending on your degree, a PGCE would take just one year. I forgot to mention the biggest draw of teaching - it is great to work with kids. Every day they say or do s'thing funny and it is brilliant when they finally 'get it'. Don't do it for the hols obviously, that would be a poor deal for the students, but you could have a chat with your local headteacher and see if they could let you sit in on a lesson or two.

magicfairy I hope you have a lovely evening at your friends' house. Would they let you have a few hours' sleep on their sofa!! It sounds as if your eldest boy is really giving you his best efforts at tantrums. You know the old advice: ignore it as long as he isn't going to hurt himself. Easier said than done, I know, my DD was a champion strop-thrower. Hope you have a new calm evening.

So babygrows get the thumbs up! A friend with a DS the same age as our babies says she undoes his babygrow to the waist when she gives him a bottle so that no milk spills on it. That way she can make it last two days!!