May 06 babies - and then they were 2!!!!!!!!!!!!

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New thread girlies.

Happy Birthday to DS of LittleFairySmile on Saturday!!! TWO!!!!!!!!!

Thanks Winky and Hockey.

TBH, it wasn't entirely the GP's fault, the day I went was a good day so I was probably quite blase about it myself, IYSWIM.

Having a really good day today, took them both to mass this morning, and they were good. They have both gone down in the same room (for the first time) for a nap!!!

Planning for them to room share very soon, so starting with naps.

I am soooo with my DH today. He went out last night, which is fair enough, he deserves it and hardly ever goes out. He came in very very late (or early ) and slept on sofa (fell asleep on sofa).
All this I didn't mind. I didn't even mind when I came back from being out this morning and he was still asleep at 11am, then when he finally got up at 12pm, he looked and felt so rough he had to go straight back to bed .

DD2 was screaming her head off and it was doing my head in.

I got really cross with him, and he said that he hardly ever went out (I def go out more, but just over to a friend's for dinner or to my sisters, haven't been out on the piss for years).
My point was that yes, he deserves a night out and yes a lie in but now I think he's taking the piss. He knows how I'm feeling at the mo.

Its now 2pm and he is still in bed

Luckily for him both the girls are asleep.

Hi ladies, hope all is well. Re: the bed talk - I was going to get DS1 a single bed coz it seems to make more sense but our neighbour was moving her son to a single so offered us his toddler bed for free - thought that was a good deal. Means DS3 can get that and DS1 can get a new single (in a while)

I'm actually just about to move DS3 from crib to cot so was emptying his cot (it was good storage!) DS1 was there so I tried him in it! Can't believe he was still in there just a few months ago coz he was HUGE in it.

Luckymummy hope you're doing ok. I can sympathise with the at DH. The boys can annoy me and I do shout more than I should but when DH is home, I get even more annoyed coz he doesn't help. DH hasn't got up with either of the boys so in the morning, I'm sorting them both out after being up with DS3 during the night and DH just stays in bed... GRRR. My current plan is to move cot into my room then I can set up the sofabed in what will be DS3's room and DH can sleep in there!

Oh, meant to say, does anyone else regret teaching their LO the word "no"??

hi all well its been busy in our household ds1 has just started school. Hes loving it which is great but we're rubbish at getting everyone out of the house without lots of shouting. I hate being shouty mummy but if i didn't both of then would still be eating breakfast at lunch time. they have no sense of urgency..... ds2 has a horrid cold, been up 8-10 times a night for the last 5 so both of us are knackered. dh is great at taking turns sorry guys. can't decide if he is well enough to go to nursery tomorrow... his temps have stopped, but if he gets sent home then he can't go tues.... dilemmas. we could just about juggle him tomorrow as dh is taking morning off as ds1 has a hosp appooint to see if he's fit for a ga at local hosp for his grommits. Can't see a prob as he's never had any probs the last 5 times... hope everyone is well.

Hi all again,

I am very pleased to report that I don't have PND and what it actually was was my hormones running rife throughout my body as I stopped BF and then my periods started again. I can't believe how hormones can make you feel .I have spoken to a few friends who had exactly the same problem when they stopped feeding or had their first period. I am feeling much better now and back to my normal self, which is a big relief.

Sophie was a flower girl at my cousin's wedding on Saturday and was brilliant, she looked great and dealt very well with her responsibilities .

louismummy I hate being shouty mummy too, but sometime they not only driev you mad, but you just have to shout to get things done!!!

Hi all! Luckymummy - so glad you have not got PND, hormones are nasty little things aren't they?!! Having a bit of a hormone nightmare myself at the mo - had a mirena coil 8 weeks ago and when i went for my check i listed every single symptom that i could possibly have - even the nurse was suprised! Oh well, the battle continues
We have just come back from a week in Tenby, and i am pleased to say it was a lot more successful than our devon hol! Dylan slept in a single bed with a rail all week with only a few minor moans, so we all got some sleep and really enjoyed our hol - folly farm was a particular success! and even the weather wasn't too bad! Hurray for good ole Tenby

Brummie, glad you had a good hols!!

I am having a mirena coil fitted in Oct . Bit nervous but I don't want another baby !!!

And here was me thinking you were a 'good catholic girl' tee hee!! Fitting was fine, just felt like a bit of period pain. Make sure you have some ibuprofen before you go cos it does really help. Be prepared for it to take a few months to settle though! Here for questions if you want me!!!!!

loismummy hope DS's cold is better. We've got it in our house too - DS1, DS3 and me! Fun - house stinks of Karvol!

luckymummy glad you're feeling better. hormones suck, don't they?! And men never understand! Did you choose to stop bfing or did you have probs? (just being nosey, sorry)

LOL @ "don't want another baby" I'm not having anymore but last night I was speaking about giving away DS3's 0-3mth clothes and DH said we should keep them 'just in case' he is off work for the next 4 days so I'm sure he'll change his mind by Sunday!

Brummie glad this holiday was better than your last one

We took DS1 ice skating last week and he loved it! We discovered that our local rink have a 'snow babies' class. There were loads of ride on cars/bikes on the ice so he was able to play as he was learning to skate. Really good fun - DH is going to take him weekly so they can have quality time together (I don't skate!)

Hope everyone else is well.

brummie My two SILs have had three unwanted pregnancies between them, so I think fertility is good in DH's family (they were both near 40 yrs old too and only made a 'mistake' once...eek!)

Also feeling a bit weird about what to do with DD2's clothes as I don't want anymore babies but don't like the thought of just getting rid of them all. My SIL due Dec is having a boy, so no pink allowed!!

hi all, it's a bit quiet on here.

Not a lot to report here, DS1 is doing fab! His speech/language has just suddenly improved (he had been happily speaking his own language for a while) and he is potty trained!! I've tried him a few times and it's never worked but he just decided 2 weeks ago when he had his nappy off that he wanted to use the potty and has been doing so ever since!! We haven't managed to get poops in the potty yet coz he does it first thing in the morning when he's still got his night nappy on but we're working on that! Still, it's great to only have 1 set of nappies to wash

Hope all is well with everyone.

Well done Asur on DS1 being potty trained!
It has been quiet here hasn't it?!

All pretty good here. DD1 is also talking really well, so clear and her language/vocab is amazing for her age. I can have proper converstions with her. She is so much fun.

DD2 almost 6 months old already . Started sitting on her own yesterday .
Got to start weaning in 2 weeks.....I found it really stressful with DD1. Hope I can be more chilled this time.

Is everyone else OK??

Hi girls
Sorry I haven't been on for a while. My dad has had a brain haemmorage so I've had other things on my mind. I still feel like I'm getting used to the idea of being a arnt to my children (after 6 years!) and now I have to parent one of my parents, I feel like I've grown up 10 years in a week.

Theo is doing well, he starts nursey next week, two afternoons a week, he doesn't want to go and has resisted all potty training atempts so far - he's just happy being a baby still. Totally different to my daughter who was potty trained at 18 months and couldn't wait to start nursery at 2 1/2. Bugt he's still lovely and cuddly and grogeous so I'll forgive him for anything - and he knows it!

Hope you're all ok

hockey very sorry to hear about your Dad...is he affected quite badly? I don't really know how else to put that, sorry.
In my younger days as a physio I treated that sort of thing (many many years ago).

Thinking of you XX

Thanks luckymummy. Yes, he's still bleeding into his brain so it's changing day by day. We were told initially that it was a bad haemmoage and not to expect him to last the week, that was 3 weeks ago and it has reduced to just an intermittent bleed, but nothing they can treat. So, he hasn't gone downhill as quickly as they thought he would, but he's not going to get any better. We're all just hoping for a quick painless end for him now.

I'm coping by keeping incredibly busy. I hate being still and quiet because I think about things too much. I like to be very busy. I'm at my happiest when I'm at the hockey because I'm too busy working to think about anything else - that's a kind of therapy really.

It's sad when I see how it is affecting DD> She's become quite withdrawn and very clingy to me, she's old enough at six to understand that it's sad and that I get sad sometimes. She is such a thoughtful little soul that it always makes me cry when she holds my hand or cuddles me. Even Theo at 2 came over and said "no more cry mummy, pish" (Pish is his word for kiss, and he kissed me cheeks to wipe away the tears)

Oh Hockey, I am so so sorry I'm typing with tears in my eyes now after reading your last post. Thinking of you all xx

My prayers are with you and your family Hockey!

hockey me too...typing with tears and thinking of you and praying for your Dad.

When my Aunty passed away a year ago (suddenly) Sophie was only 18 months old, but she really seemed to grasp the sadness IYSWIM. I hope your darling children are helping you get thur this very difficult time.

(((((((hugs)))))))

Hockey - sending you and your family lots of hugs. I'm sure your children help to keep you busy (I understand how you feel about being quiet and thinking) and they will help you through the bad times.

How's things hockey???

It's luckymummy. I decided to namechange is this sums my life up at the moment.

I have now been diagnosed with (thankfully, MILD) PND . I do feel a bit better for having a diagnosis, almost as if I have an excuse to me such a stroppy cow sometimes now....

DH and my family and friends have all been fantastic.

Hi girls, sorry I haven't posted for a while, things have been a bit hectic.

GoodDaysandBadDays, sorry to hear you're having a tough time. I'm glad you have a diagnosis and lots of support. It is such a difficult time when you have little ones and all the hormonal ups and downs of pregnancy and birth do ravage the mind as well as the body. Take it easy and make sure you get time to yourself to do fun things. Above all, don't forget who YOU are amidst all the baby and toddler madness, before you are a mum you are YOU, so reconnect with that.

Things with my dad are no different, to be honest it was almost easier when we were told he wouldn't last the week, this way, it's an unknown thing, he's not going to get any better ever, but he's not living a life. It's sad. This may sound really harsh but the best way I am coping with it is to try not to think about it as much as possible. I've got exams and presentations for uni this month and I'm really busy studying and with my work, and I cope a lot better with that than I do with days just to think about it. I also had a really good night out with my friends last week, one of those best nights of the year nights out, which really helped.

I think what I am beginning to understand is that everyone deals with grief in a different way and that my current way of dealing with it is to be as busy as possible so that I don't think about it too much.

Hope you are all well and looking forward to Christmas with your 2 1/2 year olds, it gets better year on year I find, last year was more about the lights and stuff, this year, he will understand a little bit more about father christmas and about excitement - it's lovely.

hockey my thoughts are still with you. What you said makes complete sense to me.

PND been awful this week although today was thankfully a very good day. I even found myself singing to myself around the house !

Permission brag to be proud mummy please???

Sophie can count to 12 and can recognise by sight the numbers 1-10.

She can draw a crude face, she does two eyes, a long nose, and a mouth, but all in the right place, IYSWIM. She can draw a rough circle.

She now goes for a wee completely on her own, involving moving her step in front of loo, taking pants etc down, sitting on loo, wiping herself, flushing loo, getting down, moving step to sink, turn tap on, wash hands (with soap!!) turn tap off then dry hands....

I am so proud of my little girl.

Hello all!
Hockey - just like luckymummy, my thoughts are still with you.
Luckymummy - I'm still going to call you that cos thats what you are! So sorry to read about your PND - just out of interest did you have your mirena coil fitted cos that prob is not helping your hormones. I am just about settling down now 4 months later and that is without the PND!! I always sing to myself around the house, so nothing wrong with that!! And what a clever little girl you have - just like Theo, Dylan really does not want to know about weeing on the potty or the toilet, so DH and i have decided not to mention it to him until we are off work at Xmas and have time to persevere!

Had some really bad news friday, my next door neighbour from back in brum died thurs morning - he and his wife had lived next door to my mom and dad forever and i have known them both since the day i was born! He was more like a father than a neighbour and i loved him so much and going to miss him terribly. I really feel for his wife at the mo, they do have a son, and he is great, but she sounds beaten and i just wish i wasn't so far away

brummie thanks for calling me Lucky I know I am very lucky.

I did have a Mirena coil fitted, but it fell out 2 weeks ago ! I know I've had 2 kids, but I didn't think that would happen. I didn't feel a thing, and luckily I saw it, if not I wouldn't have known it was out and would have carried on doing the baby dance (although NOT for another baby!) thinking we were safe...EEk!

So, I am not trusting another coil I'm afraid.

I am hoping that the fact it fell out will help my mood, but I did feel low for weeks before even having the coil.

Sorry to hear about your neighbour too.