So upset about my boobs

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I've always had tiny boobs and quite puffy nipples. During pregnancy they didn't really go but breastfeeding they grew to about a 32d. I'm now 4 months PP EBF and oh my god do my boobs look bad when they're empty/baby has just fed. I am gutted! Finally felt confident in my body despite weight gain post partum and now I'm back to feeling very insecure about my boobs. Please tell me they perk up a bit more than the empty/deflated/post nursing look 🥺 my nipples are also no longer puffy but HUGE and so when they're empty they just look like a sad saggy nipple rather than a boob. The things we do for children.

Grow not go!*

And yes I know I need to appreciate the wonderful thing they have done etc etc but I can't help feeling as droopy as my nipples right now

They won't always have the 'empty' look that they do now as feeding slows, then stops, they settle

Nipples settle down a bit too after you stop

Mine are bigger than before feeding (2 kids for over 2yrs each - went from 34B to 32D) they hang slightly lower but better nipples!

This is reassuring! I think my empty ones must be a 32aa? Just empty nipple socks haha. Depressing! Can I ask when they looked like relative to your bf boobs?

Better a few weeks after finished feeding, to what they are about 6/9 months I think

Dc are 17 & 14 and mine (age 50) are still not bad - better than my fried egg flat chest at 25!

Mine never recovered, sad to say. They're like a pair of empty socks

I'm about the same size as you - just wait about a year and they'll be back to normal I reckon! Mine did even though I hadn't stopped BF yet.

Post partum stuff takes AGES to get back to normal. It took me over two years for my swollen fingers to fit my wedding ring again, even though I looked back to normal everywhere else

Ps my nipples went back to their original colour in the end too, which I was disproportionately pleased about

Mine are a bit lower but they did fill out again - can’t recall how long that took

Mine recovered after. 2 years of feeding dc1 but after 2 years of feeding dc2 they are now sad sacks. I've had to switch from proper fitting bras using boob or bust method to the old m&s style fitting for bras because I have lost so much volume up top that a proper fitting cup on the bottom leaves gaping caverns to fill at the top of the cup. And no balconette or half cup goes anywhere near them either.

I was similar to you (quite a long time ago now) but honestly they got their shape back and if anything are better (and bigger) than before kids. It does take time though x

I remember after my two daughters my breasts went to nothing. I went to a bra fitting and they said, well you really need an AA cup but we don’t do that. 2 sad fried eggs was the image…
AnYway, they soon recovered and I have been told I have an excellent figure (60 this year)

Mine perked up both times to pre pregnancy and after months of BF. Average size pre and post pregnancy 34c.

Now overweight and middle aged and post menopausal and they actually don’t look that bad! Even after losing two stone, they’re actually still ok. Could be more pert but they’re firm and not too south facing. Certainly not my worst feature or a body issue. Now, the wrinkles in my forehead ……..

This is reassuring to know. So is the empty nipple on a tube look when empty what they'll look like post weaning? Or even smaller?! I had absolute prepubescent fried eggs haha (and they're about a D now with the stretch marks to prove it) so the empty look is still bigger but the pert fried eggs were probably nicer!!

My nipples are tricoloured at the moment. Nipples are pink from all the feeding (not thrush) but areolar is light brown and a circle of dark brown around them 🤪 I would also be disproportionately happy with normal coloured nipples. It's the size that bothers me! But at least they're not puffy anymore hey