Ben seems to like heavy metal, so might get some of that playing in the bedroom rather than those lullabies Incidentally, one of the things Ben finds most fascinating (and I'm sure I'm a terrible parent for doing this!) is sitting in front of the computer when we've got music on, and watching the swirly visualisations you get with windows media player! He absolutely loves it, and can stare at it for what seems like hours!
We tried swaddling on the first couple of nights, and Ben absolutely hates it. He will scream and scream until his hands are free, then pause a few moments, then scream and scream until he can kick his legs! The midwives swaddled him on the first night and I thought there must be something wrong with him to make him so unhappy, but then I let his arms go, and loosened the swaddling a little, and he settled immediately! On the last two growth scans you could see his hands up by his neck / head, and since he came out he likes to keep them there, or stretched out above his head! No matter how cold it is, if you cover him with a blanket he will always get his arms on top, and complain until he can do so! Ah well, if it makes him happy...!
Will see how the sleeping goes over the next week or so before moving the cot in - hopefully he will have settled a bit more by then! Always worth a shot though
I messed up a bit this morning - thought the HV was coming at 9:30am so was all up and dressed (even put some make-up on ) and had the front room hoovered by 9:15...only to check in my little red book and find out it's actually next week she's coming! Ah well, at least the front room is clean and tidy .
Dotsie - YANBU about your DH! I'm shocked that he doesn't want to hold your LO - I have to practically fight with my DH to get a look-in on Ben on an evening (except for feeds, but even then DH will give a feed if I express it). Although as soon as Ben wakes up in the night he becomes my responsibility again! (Although fair enough really as DH is working to keep him in nappies!). I also think your DH is being unreasonable to not change from his work clothes if he's been doing a mucky job (regardless of whether he's covered in dirt or not!). I'm not at all a "clean" person (trust me - my carpets and curtains are filthy!) but we still make an effort to keep outside shoes outside and change when we get in from work - especially so if it's involved doing something other than just sitting in an office, and this was the case before we had a baby. I'm also shocked that he doesn't make you a cup of tea when he makes himself one - maybe when you do your food shopping you should only get food for you and your DCs and let him get his own?
While obviously I think my DH is one in a million and absolutely fantastic (I am biased though!) he's still a blokey bloke - doesn't like cleaning, a bit of a slob, plays far too many computer games etc. But he still makes an effort and pitches in - often he'll cook dinner, and if I've cooked then he'll always make an effort to help tidy up, even if it's just a case of carrying dirty plates back into the kitchen when he goes there to get a drink. I'm still struggling to get him to change the cat litter though - I think that's something I just have to live with doing myself!!
Fruitful - can't believe Theo is 6 weeks already - time goes so quickly! With you on the feeling tired front though - I think my best sleep is for 2 hours between 3 and 5, and then naps during crappy daytime TV (Ben's only 2 weeks old and I'm already sick of To Buy or Not To Buy, Homes Under the Hammer and Cash in the Attic!). Thank goodness for Sky+ - means I can record decent stuff in the evenings and watch it during the day, and I can rewind it if I doze off!
TMS - Domperidone - just makes me think of Dom Perignon - I know what I'd prefer!!!
Hope you're all coping well! Anyone ventured out to a mother and baby / post-natal group yet?