Oct 07 - this little piggy stayed at home...

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Hey guys sorry for the sh*t title, if there's already been a new thread set up please direct me there???

hannon- Shannon! still got a poorly laptop!

I also love the name Anya - it was one of our girl names.

Ess that sounds awful - you poor thing. I hope that things get easier for you.

I had another five hour bedtime with Dareh last night and I was alone because DH out. It was awful. I am going to try some medicine tonight - infacol and gripe water or something. I am so desperate for something to work. DH announced that he wouldn't be able to help me at night as he is too busy. I can't do five hours of screaming baby on my own. Apart from anything else my back is killing me.

Just a quick catch up...

Ess really sorry to hear you've been having such a tough time honey. Would second everyone else that we are here for you if you need to let off steam or a virtual hug... Hope the funeral goes OK on Monday and is a fitting send off for your Grandpa. And that your Mum behaves with the dignity she should.

J20 sorry to hear you're feeling a little lonely now your friend has a new bloke. Thinking of you.

Stefka sorry to hear that you are struggling with Dareh. Think your dh needs to pull his finger out a bit to be honest. 5 hours non stop with an unsettled baby is relaly really hard and a simple 'i'm too busy' isn't enough to be honest. Can he not even hold Dareh for half an hour for you to have something to eat and watch something mindless on telly to get away from it and clear your head?

MrsFish I've posted on your other thread - not sure I've added much but done my best!

Hello everyone else! Muppet sounds like you've been havinga lovely time. Anyasmum great to hear your dh is on the up. And hello to everyone I've not mentioned...

Well dh and I were out last night at a friend's leaving do - my mum and dad were up to look after the boys. Got really quite pissed on about 4 glasses of wine! Had a lovely time but paying for it a bit this am! Never mind!!!

Clu just to add when we take Adam swimming we use Boots own swim nappies. And this swim nappy on top. They're meant to be good enough on their own without the disposable ones under but I'd rather not chance it plus easier if they do have a poo to clean up!

Also second muppet on the hooded towel. I take one into the pool with us but this gets really wet from the nappy after so I take a second one to dry him with.

Also try to time it not immediately after a feed as if they swallow a bit of water it can make them sick. Usually pretty hungry after as all the kicking about uses wuite a lot of energy so I time it so I can feed after - the 2 times we have taken him he has gone straight to sleep after.

Hope that helps!

Ess, sorry you've had such a tough time! Hugs to you and your family. And glad you've rejoined us!

Alice, sounds like you had fun last night! How is Adam liking his new bed?

J20, hope Shannon's doing okay.

Stefka - your DH is not being acceptable. YOu cant do it all on your own. He cant be too busy to help for a short while. On another note, maybe a sling would help calm Dareh down?

We had the night from hell last night. Rebecca didnt sleep more than half an hour at a time until 4 am. Her sleep avoidance really gets to me sometimes! And I'm having root canal tomorrow afternoon, so my parents are taking her. I guess I'm too tired to dread it too much..!

Been into town today - she was as nosy as ever and peered at everyone. Did the weeks shop in M and S - have done this far too often since having her!

Oh well. Have a good evening all!

Hi all, had really busy day today...

Dh took Ollie for his swimming lesson and he swam on his own!!! He used the right armbands (the float type ones not the blowup kind) did the face in water, floating on back and Dh just sat in the corner bobbing around. Very proud mummy/ daddy atm.

However, this afternoon he managed to really embarass me in a shop. 2 men who were, I think, Sikh had head scarves on with their hair tied at the back instead of turbans. Oliver saw them and shouted 'look mummy -PIRATES!!!!' Where do you put your face when that happens???? I did my best to explain about some people wearing special hats to show they belong to a religion. 'What's religion mummy?' Try explaining religion to a very nearly four year old They then came closer to use and eventually walked past (DH is changing room so we couldn't avoid) he looked at them with such awe and wonder.... reall pirates, in Swindon....who'da thought it??
He then went on to embarass me further...
He stuck his finger in Henry's mouth and proudly told me. I said 'We don't stick our finger in Henry's mouth do we? We know where it's been don't we?' Oliver replied 'Yes, on my willy!'

Oh my f**king god.

...oh and the singing of the theme from 'In The Night Garden' in the loos of the shopping centre didn't help my mood either. The woman in the next cubicle was laughing her head off.

Ess ? sorry to hear that you?ve been having a tough time. Hope tomorrow goes ok
Anyasmum ? lol at the horses, my step-MIL is planning to get DS into horses as soon as she can?
J20 ? hope that Shannon recovers soon
Stefka ? think your DH needs to give you a bit more support ? 5 hours of crying is not something you should have to go through on your own? grrrr
Choc ? don?t know how you manage with sleeps of only half an hour. Perhaps you could ask the dentist for extra strong painkillers so you get to sleep right through!
Muppet ? lol at the swimming/shopping stories

We haven?t done much today ? went to Sainsburys to stock up on cheap nappies, and got some paint from B&Q as I am gonna try and spruce up our bathroom (not next week though, as out socialising too much!). Now we are all in our favourite place ? DH on Xbox, DS on baby gym, me on mumsnet!

Hope you all had good weekends

Ess - lovely to hear from you - sorry to hear you've been having a tough time - really hope things get better now.

Muppetgirl - you may have been embarrassed - I've just been pmsl! Rhydian did something just as embarrassing last summer - we were driving through Cardiff, and had stopped at lights in Grangetown, and saw a Muslim lady wearing the full niqab. Rhydian shouts: "Mammy, mammy, look! It's Darth Vader!" ... ... and the car window was open ... and the women was right next to us when he said it - she must have heard him! ... I have since educated him on the Muslim dress code ...

Stefka - am absolutely on your behalf ... if he's too busy to help you out, then I suggest that you become too busy to do anything he wants done ... it's totally unacceptable for him to abdicate responsibility for his child!

I've been there with the hours of unceasing crying - I know how soul-destroying they are. Hang on in there: they won't last forever. One of the things I found best when Mairwen was at her screamiest, was to pop her in the pram and go out for a walk - she sometimes continued to scream throughout, but at least it didn't seem nearly as loud! Thinking of you!

Hiya to everybody else!

Thanks for the support. I was thinking about you lot last night when I was drifting off to sleep feeling thankful that I have a place to come and talk!

He's out again tonight. I have Dareh in the coorie sling at the moment as he just won't settle. I also have him on the infacol which does seem to have helped a bit but he is still crying. The coorie is getting too small which is why I need another sling. I was thinking about a Storch. DH doesn't want me to spend money though and I am not earning it's a bit tricky. Going to try and sell stuff on ebay to raise the cash. I don't think he means to not help, I just don't think he understands how hard it can be. He can be great, but when he is tired he can be really insensitive. I guess being a parent is a challenge for all.

muppet I really laughed at your stories!

Good luck with the dentist tomorrow Choc.

Evening Everyone,

Ess - sorry to hear you have had such a hard time. I hope all goes well tomorrow.

MG - DP never mentioned that he had played COD 4 wth your hubby.

Clu - I have got a washable swim nappy from when DD1 was little. It is from mothercare. I love the look of this cossie though. I have take Shula swiiming twice now and she only wore that nappy.

Huggies little swimmers smallest size is from 16lbs

Stefka _ I am on your behalf. I would withdraw all privileges from your hubby and refuse to do ANYTHING for him until he sees that it is unfair of him to expect you to look after the lo for that length of time

Thanks all for the swimming adivce, i live two minutes from a mothercare and will pop in tomorrow. Im a bit worried she is too small, and good idea to take two towels would never have thought of that.

MG - thats great about your wee one swimming he must be so proud of himself, even funnier though, the shopping story I snorted reading that.

Choc - good luck at the dentist, suppose no danger of you falling asleep in the chair with root canal treatment.

Stefka - sorry you having such a bad time, you should not have to endure 5 hours of crying alone, he wasnt too busy or tired when it came to making the baby !

Just a quickie as I have a banging headache, sore neck and stinging eyes, just about to go to bed as I'm knackered Ben slept better last night and has been more settled in the day again, I started giving him infacol again yesterday morning and stuck to his normal formula. He slept till 7am this morning, only waking up once after his 9pm bottle where I managed to settle him back off with his dummy

Good news number two, last night we went round our neighbours for a drink with the boys, I didn't take Sam's potty with me, so when he needed a wee he was forced to go on the big toilet. DH took 10 mins to persuade him and finally managed to get him to go, he went once more last night and at my Mil's today (we went for lunch) he had two wees and a poo on the big toilet. Seems he has finally conquered his fear. The only problem now is that he wants to go on it all the while so I have to go with him every time he wants a wee, whereas he was taking himself to the potty I guess I can't have everything

Sorry to not catch up with everyone individually, will try tomorrow

Winnie - Maybe Dh played with someone else called 'The Viscount'

Mrs Fish - Yay, go Ben well done for cracking the poos. It took us ages with Ollie so that's a real achievement!

I meant of course, go SAM!

MG I think it must have been him, but I was possbly asleep when he came to bed and would he would not have thought to say anything in the morning.

Brum meet up peeps - what dates suit you over the next 2 weeks. I cant do Tuesday 22nd or wednesday 23rd, but should be able to do any other date.

Hi everyone! I don't know how you all keep up! So moved by your post, ess. I can totally empathise with everything you're going through. Sometimes it seems so incredibly unfair, but these crap times do have a tendency to make you a stronger person. I once thought i'd never be able to survive if my parents weren't around, and now here i am with both of them passed away (dad at only 49, mum at 56 from breast cancer) and i think 'blimey, i managed to have a child without breaking down!'. And having a child is SUCH an emotive time. I bet it even reduced Maggie Thatcher to tears.

Anyway, enough already! I've had a great day with my brother and his son and we got together with some old family friends and had a good old reminmisce about tymes gone bye. I'm now completely pooped, DH and DD in bed and i've got some wonderful me time. Bliss.

Oh - would lve to meet up in brum!

Just a quickie...

MrsFish glad you're feeling better and great news on Sam! What a clever boy!

Ejt and Muppet have just pmsl as have my parents at your stories!!!!! Will have to have a think about how I respond to that when Sam does it as he is bound to! I guess I'll never predict the one thing he does though will I?

Choc OMG at Rebecca. Don't know how you cope. Please let me know if I can help. Hope dentist not too unpleasant tomorrow...

Anyway, off to bed now.... Chat tomorrow.

Hi everyone. Thanks so much for all your kind words. Am off to bed in mo but just wanted to say how much I appreciate you all. DD1 had undiagnosed reflux as a baby and cried 8 hours a day for 5 months- mumsnet was a godsend then too!
Scarlett seems a lot better today, only been sick a few times and slep better.
Stefka- I can totally empathise with how you are feeling. Its awful to be with a crying baby for that length of time. Think you really need to have a talk to DH and tell him how much you need his support. My DH has been fantastic- sitting up half the night with Scarlett on many occassions without ever being asked and it was still hard.
If you are on your own and things get too much, it may be an idea to put little one upstairs for 10 mins while you have a breather. I resorted to this a few times and it does help keep you sane! She would cry if she was with me or not and you need to look after yourself too.
Well, I'm off to bed now to try and get some sleep. Big day tomorrow. Luckily I've gor DH with me there and my best friend too.
Night night everyone. Sleep well xx

Ess; I'm so very sorry to hear your dreadful news...I haemorraged twice after losing Robyn and lost heavily after Alex, it seems to take forever to get your strength back, I hope things are better for you now...well done for coping with Scarletts screaming while feeling so weak yourself and thank goodness you finaly found the cure, I do hope her bronchitis improves soon poor little darling.And as for the sad loss of your grandad, words fail me, poor you and your poor gran....I'm sorry your Mum made things worse and hope for all your sakes that she can hold things together at the funeral so you can say your goodbyes peacefully.You are in my thoughts.

Mrs Fish; replied to your thread but now see Muppet suggested the same thing here ..hope things improve soon.

Want to say more as usual but Dh as to leave at 4am to catch a plane to Sweden (away 'till thurs again ) so off to bed..I'll try to get on tomorrow. Hope you all get a decent nights sleep.

Hi all Henry stirred at 4.30 but went back to sleep then woke up at 6. He gave me a massive grin before tucking into both boobs. Asleep again now and I will wake him at 8. Oliver awake at 6 (SLEEP LONGER CHILD!) and in Henry's room talking to him. Cute but v. annoying when you'd really like both of the asleep

Ess - Am thinking of you today, I hope your mother behaves herself. If she doesn't try to keep calm and not get into an argument. This is your Grandad's time not your mothers even if she doesn't remember that Deep breaths...deep breaths.

Ess/Stefka -I second what Ess says about leaving lo's to cry if you need a breather. I had to with Oliver as he wasn't comforted by me/DH at all. I put him in his cot, made sure he was fed/changed etc and had a coffee downstairs. It gave me 10 mins to calm ready to tackle the next bout of crying. Extended crying is hell. No other way to describe it but it will end, unfortunately it's just a question of when. Use us for support, we're all here for you x

Have just seen our Jack Russell with a (nicked) dummy in his mouth and have a feeling it's going to be one of those days

muppetgirl - love thosE stories of Ollie embarrassing you, I actually can't wait till I start getting those

Regards Sam, he has been doing poos on his potty no problem since day two of PT but I am just chuffed he has finally gone on the big toilet and done one

hAD A GREAT NIGHT WITH bEN, HE HAD HIS LAST BOTTLE AT 6.45PM, ooops went to bed at 7.30, woke briefly at 4am when Sam woke for a wee, but settled him off, and he woke again at 6.30 but I popped his dummy in and he has only just woke up now. Sam is still in bed after going at 7pm last night, so I have managed a quiet cuppa and post on here this morning. Ben is startingto whinge though, so must go and make his bottle

Well I have been hoping Sam would use the big toilet so it is easy for when we are out, but now he has... I can't get him off the bloody thing, he is sat on it now and has been for 10 mins, he has done a poo, but won't get off to let me clean him up I hope the novelty wears off soon

My son is getting crafty and older than his yeras He didn't eat his shreddies this morning, but he then wanted some choc gems, I told him he couldn't have any unless he ate a slice of toast which I did him 5 mins ago... I have just gone back in the kitchen, he is down from his high chair he has put most of the toast in the bin and his plate in the sink I'm just waiting for the tears when I tell him he can't have the choc gems 2 and a half, he's growing up so quick, I want to stop time and keep him as he is