Oct 07 - this little piggy stayed at home...

[Dalrymps]

Hey guys sorry for the sh*t title, if there's already been a new thread set up please direct me there???

Zachary

Hey everyone, had a good xmas, my brothers and their partners came and we all mucked in and made a wonderful christmas meal, the best i've had if i do say so myself! Ds was well behaved all day apart from it all getting a bit much for him at one point so i took him out of the way for a cuddle and a sleep, think he felt a bit like a parcel in the game 'pass the parcel'. He got loads of lovely presents from people, loads of really cool clothes for 3-6 months, can't wait till he fits into them, he's only just between newborn and 0-3 at the moment cause he's just a little imp . I've been popping on since xmas but not had time to do a proper post till now!
Stefka - those bras sound annoying, i tried some mothecare ones and wasn't impressed, ended up buying mine off ebay, a few new and a few used, were really cheap so maybe you could find a couple on there?
Alice - what a fantastic present, you must be thrilled!
Inzi - hope the bleeding has slowed down and that you're ok! I would have been scared if that had happened to me...
muppet - sorry to hear about dh's gran, not a nice time for that to happen, not that there is a nice time
apricot - think the poo thing is pretty normal, i've heard especially with bf babies it can be days although when mine was exclusively bf he poo'd loads so guess it depends on the baby. sorry thats not much help is it, anywya think it's pretty normal
MrsFish - glad the potty training is going so well!
Anyasmum- wouldn't worry too much about the feeding, my ds sometimes hardly eats anything and won't finish any of his bottles for a whole day then he usually does a big poo and goes back to normal again, almost like he's got a bit of a back log?
Les- your hungry lo is doing well, i can't wait to start weaning but think it'll be a while yet, mine takes ages just to drink 4oz!
GGG - yeah i'm tempted to have another, in fact my plan is to have 3 all together, there was a moment after the birth where i thought 'never again' but now i find myself daydeaming about a whole little clan of them... not sure it's a good idea with only 8 weeks parenting experience under my belt, maybe should see how this one pans out first
strawberrylace- sorry to hear you're having painful feeds, is it just the one side? have you got some good cream, i recommend lansinoh!
choc- sorry to hear you've got a cold, hope it clears up soon
ejt - hope it went ok at the inlaws and that dh backed you up emmck- hope your lo's ok after the jabs
Dh got me some lovely presents for xmas, we didn't spend a lot on each other cause we've not got that much money and couldn't think of anything we wanted now we've got the best present of all! Anyway he got me a lovely silver ring with a garnet in as my main present and some earings to match a neclace he bought me a while ago.
He's got 3 days off from tomorrow so can't wait, should be home from work any minute... we really do needtofind him a job closer to home!
Anyway gonna go for now, hi to anyone i've forgotten, catch ya all soon

Yeah i'm still interested les

Dal, each bundle has a coat. and jeans or track bottoms, tops, jumpers, cardies, t-shirts and some baby gros. I bought toooo many coats lol he has never worn one of them lol

sounds great, just let me know how much postage is once you've worked it out x

Hello all!

Great to hear from you greedy! Its been a while. Glad you had a good Christmas and that Marcy is thriving!

My Adam takes between 4 and 6 and a half oz of formula 6 times a day using no 2 teats but we are going to go up to 3 soon. Still no sign that he wants to drop his middle of the night feed and if I try to feed less than 4 hours during the day he won't take it. Oh well - managing fine with that at the mo - when we start to struggle I will push harder and try cooled boiled water or other things but he takes about 5-6 oz at that feed sothinking he probably still needs it at the mo.

MrsFish or anyone else do you want an open box of cow and gate comfot? We bought it a while back (about 6 weeks?) but Adam wouldn't have it. Its made 2 bottles only. Its been open longer than the 28 days recommended so you may not want it but if anyone does I can stick it in the post - a shame to waste it!

Both boys needing me so off now- back in a bit!

Meant to say muppet sorry to hear about dh's gran and also how his family are treating him... Thinking of you all x

Hi all

Muppet - how is Mr Muppet doing? Thinking of you.

Hi Greedy, Marcy sounds like she's doing brilliantly! And Dal-well done with the Xmas dinner. I wouldn't have managed it despite always having been a good cook!

Alice, great present from Rich - forgot to say last time - and great present from you to him too!

I got a Tiffany necklace for Christmas, and some Le Creuset I wanted.

Well, another crap night's sleep here! DD has always been a rubbish sleeper but she has now plumbed new depths (wouldnt sleep from 4 pm until 10.30 pm, then slept for 30 minutes, woke up, made a racket, went back to sleep eventually for an hour, woke up, DH took her and soothed her back to sleep, an hour later she was up again yelling for food, I fed her, she refused to go back to sleep for hours, and eventually at 5 she went to sleep for an hour and three quarters. Grr! I have an awful cold and wonder if it's unsettled her... any advice anyone?! We are trying a bedtime routine but she is determined to ignore it!

What are you all doing for NY? We're doing the same as usual - trying to get DD to sleep...!!

hi guys just a quickie cos i'm hung over and trying to concentrate on typing and dealing with a baby is not too easy with bloody headache

Shannon's been chewing her fists that last couple of weeks too, but she makes herself choke doing it so i tend to try and get her dummy in! She's having about 5 7 oz bottles in 24 hours, some days she'll have 4 and then other days she has 6 when she's had a few 4 bottle days, i'm not in any particular routing with it, i don't see the point in stressing myself out over, so just give her it when i think she's hungry.

thats all i can remember what was said

hope you all have a good new years eve if i don't get on again tommorrow xxx

Hi all,
Just got back from a walk where Oliver tried his new rollar skates (again!) he does spend more time falling over but good old Father Christmas remembered the knee and elbow pads!!

We had a really lazy day today and didn't get dressed until around 2pm! Henry had a really good night as he went to bed around 8pm, dream fed at 10.30pm and woke at 4.30am! So a 8 1/2 sleep woohoo!! We've found that 8pm is much better than 7 so we're not going to fight him on that one.

I have defuzzed all the areas that I let go to pot whilst being pregnant as I'm going swimming tomorrow morning -all by myself!!! I am going to spa and steam room it too and then have a luxuriously long coffee whilst dh has the boys. Realistically I've got 3 hours tops but even that's luxurious as it'll be the longest I've been away from H since he was born.

Alice/DAl thanks for thinking of dh. He didn't sleep well yesterday as the funeral was yesterday. I asked him if he regretted not going and he said no he didn't. He did say that he definately wants to go to the family get together next July in Austria, which I really don't want to but it is his family. I don't speak a word of German -well, except to ask the way to the townhall and 'do you have any brothers/sisters?' Good old GCSE German. I really begrudge it as none of his relatives came to our wedding -2 aunties and his grandparents (grandparents now since died) yet we're expected to go to his Anutie's 50th.
I will just smile I suppose......
Oh, my MIL did say that there wouldn't be any space for us at the house but that the boys could stay....I am thinking ABSOLUTELY not. Where I am in a foreign country, they will be with me.
Dh has just cooked dinner as he desperatley wants to go to tennis so see you all later
x

oh sorry, meant to say hope your dh is ok muppet, poor him

Hi Muppet

Just to say I hope your DH is doing alright. You will have to put your foot down on being separated from the boys in July! Poor you.

Enjoy tomorrow, though - sounds lovely. And well done Henry for a good sleep!

And J20 - where do you get energy for a hangover?? Hugs to you too.

Hi all

Ben had his last bottle last night at 7.20, put him to bed at 8pm and he slept till 8.00am this morning I have spent the last two nights on the sofa due to a very irritating tickly cough so apart from the coughing haven't been woken up at all with Ben or sams small outbursts and coughing

SAw my best mate this afternoon and her husband and little boy, I haven't seen them since last christmas as they live in Denmark so it was really great to catch up and Sam played lovely with her lo

Sam has totally got the potty cracked and the past two mornings he has woke up and held his wee for the potty and his nappy has been dry So we have it sorted in-house it will be interesting to see how it goes once he is back at nursery and dealing with the car trips.

Muppet - enjoy your morning tomorrow

Afternoon all ... yeswterday was ok - dh backed me up, and stuck to my side like glue for most of the time - so MiL only had about 5 minutes when she could make comments - so, of course, the comments (about my not having lost my pg weight yet ) came all together ... I just ignored her, like the jealous child she's proving herself to be!

Mairwen is not doing well at all on the daytime sleep front - we'd been trying the pu/pd & shush-pat from babywhisperer - on the site, she seems to ok it for babes of her age, but it just seems to wind her up - we're trying a different tack from tomorrow - M sleeps well in the pram, so we'll be taking her for a short walk around lunch-time, then letting her sleep in the pram - outside if dry, inside if not ... little monkey sleeps for Wales when she's in there! We need to get back on track with her sleep, as it's having a really negative effect on me ... as it's now effecting her night-time sleep too (up to feed at 12, 2, 4, 6, 7.30 [knackered])

dh has persuaded me to go and see my GP tomorrow - I'm still not coping well, and I don't like the person I am at the mo very much - I'm evil - it's like having permanent pmt, my mood swings are incredible! We'll see what she has to say!

Muppet - I'm sorry to hear about dh's gran - I couldn't go to my Grandad's funeral either - I was living in France at the time, and was too broke to afford a ticket home. I went to the cathedral in Bourges on the day of the funeral, and lit a candle for him ... Good luck on standing firm on having the boys with you in the summer!

Choc - sorry to hear you're having a sleep nightmare with your lo too ... hope she calms down soon! Also with you on the PiL thing!

Families - who'd have em?

Right, ds wants me to do stories - his first milk tooth has fallen out tonight - my little boy is growing up ...

Ejt, glad it wasnt too bad. I hate weight comments... but I find I care less now than pre-baby, because women aren't meant to look like supermodels after having a baby. I'm sorry you're still having a tough time and hope the GP can suggest something helpful. As for the daytime sleeping, Rebecca sleeps if we take her in the car or the pram, and fitfully in her swing, but never anywhere else. I try to make sure of taking her out somewhere to tank her up on daytime sleep a bit, cos like Mairwen without daytime sleep she is awful at nights... actually she's not great at nights either, but she was a lot better last night (nothing like some of you have with your night's sleeps though - Mrs Fish!!!)

Question. Rebecca is nearly seven weeks old. She was last seen by a HV and weighed when she was 4 weeks old. She had put on loads of weight - gone from the 20th centile to the 50th since birth. The baby clinic is on Friday afternoons here and the first one since she was last weighed is this coming Friday. However the following Friday she is having her 8 week jabs and is going to see a health visitor, a nurse and a GP anyway. Do I have to take her this Friday or can I just wait till the following one? (We dont get apptments for the baby clinic, although I do have appments for the following Friday with the GP etc) The reason I don't want to take her this Friday is that DH has the day off and we wanted to do something nice as a family, and that clinic means an awful lot of hanging around so the whole afternoon would be gone). Would I be a bad mother if I didnt?? I'm not worried about her weight gain: she is growing fast and eating well. She is lively and happy and interacts well. All she doesnt do is sleep!

Choc - definately don't take her! Enjoy your family time with dh instead. If you were worried about her weight gain thats a different matter, but she's thriving so just wait till the next week. I didn't get Adam weighed between his 8 and 12 week jabs - better things to do than sit all afternoon only to be called in to get him weighed as he falls asleep!

Ejt and Choc sorry you're having probs with your lo's sleep. Testing times this isn't it! I guess things will improve soon - they always do when they're little and Sam was small soon enough ago for me to still remember!

Ejt sorry to hear you're struggling emotionally honey and hope GP appt went OK for you today. You are doing an amazing job with both your children under testing times (loss of C, bitchy MIL etc) and I think you should be very proud of yourself and give yourself a break - don't expect yourself to be superwoman!!! Great that Dh backed you up with MIL too and ignore the weight comments - who has lost all their baby weight at 3 months anyway? Esp when you're still bf there are more important things to worry about. Bet you look gorgeous anyway!

Um - just off to read what the rest of you wrote...

Muppet don't blame you for not letting ds's stay with MIL without you! However I wouldn't say no yet - who knows you may be happy come the summer and give you and dh a night off!!! Dh and I are very happy to do this with both of our parents but I guess that is because we have a good relationship with them both and know they will take good care of the boys and do what we ask - if you don't have this with MIL different I guess...

J20 hope your hangover is better! Enjoy NYE...

MrsFish well done on the potty training and still about Ben's sleep!

Well I have been underwear shopping today. MIL gave me M&S vouchers for Christmas and I have bought some nice stuff there - dh had Adam in the hugabub and he went to sleep but unfortunately woke about 15 mins later so I exited the change rooms to him wailing! He settled though once I put it on instead!

And Happy New Year one and all! Been a big year for all of us and next year it will be amazing watching our los grow and develop their personalities... And there may be new arrivals next year too! Not from me though!!!!Would second greedy that its nice to have a small age gap. Even though I moan about how tough it is looking after 2 under 2 I'm still pleased we did it this way - in a few months time when they can interact a bit more it will be amazing.

Hi inzi!

Sorry to hear you've been fighting with dh. Try to hang in there (obviously I don't know what you're fighting about so this might be inappropriate to advise?) as the first few weeks with a new baby are a really testing time and things can all seem much worse than they are. Not trying to say you're over reacting or anything, just that its not the time to make any irreversible decisions like walking out on your marriage. If things are getting on top of you go stay with your paretns for a few days or something. Good to hear though that you are through the worst and can enjoy the new year!

8 weeks is not too early to start but I tend to think that the best routines are the ones the los find on their own - they are much more robust as it is what suits your baby. Maybe you could start writing down when she tends to feed and sleep and have a look for any patterns. Then try and stick to that more and hopefully she will follow. Good luck!

Hello!
Choc - I've been getting Olly weighed every couple of weeks, but that's mainly because it gives me something to do! When I'm around on my own I try and make sure I have something planned for most days so that I have to go out of the house, but I agree with alicet - don't go if you've got your dh around and could do something nicer. I'm going to a clinic on weds to see a HV about my sore nipple, though it does now seem alot better, and to get my latch checked in case that's causing my problems
Ejt - hope the GP has been able to help. I really admire all of you who have two LOs to look after, as it's tough enough with the demands from one...
Alicet - so about the underwear shopping. Nursing bras in my size just don't come looking glamorous - I suppose I should just be grateful that they're comfy!
Hello to everyone else - can you believe its nearly the end of 2007 already? Where does the time go? (I hate saying that goes it makes me feel old, but its true). Hope you all enjoy whatever partying you do tonight

strawberry I'm not bf anymore hence being able to buy nice bras!!! I agree nursing bars have to be the most sexless items of clothing ever. Save your pennies and look forward to treating yourself to something nice once you are no longer bf, whether thats next week or next year (which I know is also next week but you know what I mean!!!)

Inzi - just seen your post. Glad you've got things sorted a bit now with your dh, seems like you've done the best thing by talking about it and clearing the air.
About a routine - Olly is 12 weeks now and he has settled into his own routine which I try to work around. Eg he likes to play and chat immediately after eating, and then go to sleep in his swing or on his beanbag until the next feed - about 4 hours between feeds - whereas his cousin who's a couple of months older always falls asleep straight from a feed. He has a morning bath at the moment rather than a night time one, as this coincides with his most messy poo time! I think he started sorting out his routine from about 8 weeks onwards, so you may find Jane does the same....

Alicet - can't wait for a bit of underwiring! and some nice new knickers. But you're right, am going to save up for a underwear shop when the bf stops. in the meantime, dh will have to continue with the unsexy variety! ds is not bothered at all - he just stares intently at my boobs whenever he sees them - i know what those are for mummy - let me have them

Oh dear god, I am officially the world's worst mother!

We've been feeding dd Aptimal cartons instead of powder since yesterday morning and she's so much happier - feeding is no longer a battle. She's still not taking enough (am horrified how little compared to all your lo's!) but at least she's getting enthusiastic about having a bottle again, and hopefully she'll start drinking more as she realises that feeding is enjoyable.

The batch of Aptimal powder that we bought - 3 tubs of it - tastes revolting - there must be something wrong with it. But we've been feeding it to her for the last 2 weeks. TWO WEEKS!! I'm on such a big guilt trip - the poor little mite has been fed really bad tasting food all that time. No wonder we've had feeding issues - we've taught her that the bottle is full of nasty evil stuff.

I'm off to beat myself with something big and heavy.