Dad wanting to take 4 yo daughter on a trip

[Mumgirls]

Hi,

My dh want to take my 4yo daughter on a trip to see his side of family while I will be here with our second born. My mum and dad will be with me to help me out.

I think 4 year is too young for a kid to go on trips without mum. Any opinions?

Well it depends on the relationship with DH.

My 2 yr old and 4 yr old would be completely fine with just my DH for a few days (well as long as they needed to be to be fsir, but I would miss them after a couple of days). But DH has done as much parenting as I have since they were born.

In fact we were supposed to have a wedding abroad this year which I then couldn't go to aa I was pregnant. Had it not been cancelled due to COVID then DH would have taken them alone.

What are your concerns?

How far away? For how long?

She’ll be with her Dad though. She will probably have a great time

She'll be with her dad it'll be fine

She's with her dad, she'll be fine, unless there is other factors. What are your actual concerns about it?

Is this a UK trip or overseas?
Do you have concerns he might not come back?
How old is your baby? Is he trying to escape the early hard weeks, when really he should be helping you and baby?

She’s 4 and she’ll be with her dad. Unless there are other factors, like he wants to go for weeks or you worry he wouldn’t bring her back from abroad, I wouldn’t have any issues with it.

My DP is planning to take our 1 year old to see family overseas without me, because I can’t get enough time off work to self-isolate. DS is no longer EBF and I trust DP, so I’m sure they’ll be fine.

She’s with her dad. It wouldn’t even occur to me that I should worry about this or try to stop it

You are being utterly ridiculous. Let her go with her father.

Why would a 4 year old not be OK with their dad?

I can’t see why she wouldn’t be fine with her dad unless there is some massive backstory where they have never met?! Are you still together?
I am leaving my DC 4&5 for a week with grandparents soon. Can’t see any issue, will miss them but they will love having some time together.

Assuming you mean a regular trip of a weekend or a week, not several months halfway across the world, I would have absolutely no issue with this.
DH is taking our two year old to see his grandparents next weekend.

What do you think the problem is, or what do you think might happen, @Mumgirls?

My DH took my 3 and 5 year olds on holiday earlier this year, on his own.

They had a great time. It’s my turn this week 😩

Many 4 year olds are in school from 8-3 aren’t they?
And if she is with her dad, she’ll be fine.
I took a 3 year old on a research field trip (away from his dad) for nine weeks.
He took the same, now 4 year old to visit family in Canada for 3 weeks.
And I was hospitalised for 4 months and DS and DH were fine.

She's with her parent. I think you're being a bit silly. Mum doesn't have to trump dad, amd unless your issue is having a newborn and him going away, you're being very unreasonable thinking this

She will be going for 3 weeks to India.

Op truthfully I'd say no way. Too long and too far. Wait a couple of years and do a family trip.

Personally I'd be more comfortable with two weeks. Three is a long time for a four year old.

I agree with you OP., that’s a long time- how old is your youngest? And all those of you saying “she’ll be with her dad, she’ll be fine” - how can you know? You haven’t met him, not all dads are fine! He might be, but we just don’t know!

It would be a no from me, too far away, covid risk too high and far too long.

I doubt the posters saying she'll be fine were thinking 3 weeks to India. Most would be thinking a weekend in the Europe at most.

Binaggy - not everyone is able to trust their DH. I didn’t relish time away from my dcs when they were tiny, I’m not sure that’s normal!