April 2007 - back to the wine please ladies (one sip and I'll fall over - hwich)

[PillockInThePumpkin]

thanks to Pinions, Runny and Captaindippy for the title

Agrre wholehaertedly GMM

Yes - much screaming here x 3!

ooooh, post just came and it was just useless junk for people who lived here previously!

at peanut advice

SMB, i think they get seperation anxiety at some point so the screaming may be that. DS currently doesn't like being somewhere where he can't see anybody. He doesn't care who it is, as long as somebody is there. IIRC it doesn't last too long but it is a PITA.

Can you put him in the bathroom with you in his bouncer? just so he can see you? or try to ignore the screams, which is easier said than done, but you aren't a bad mummy if he does scream. IMO it helps them clear their lungs once in a while that's what I tell myself when ignoring ds

he is in the bathroom with me - still screams, can you believe it?!

oh just try ang idnore then. Maybe an attention thing rather than seperation!

Remind me to never write a 'bringing up baby' type book

I am sick of the constant 'wanting' from dd. There's no patience at all, it's now or moan until it happens. Remind me again why I had a child, or more to the point why I have now got 2.

They don't appreciate anything. She has loads of toys she NEVER plays with. I know she's only 3.

I think I need to go back to work to get away from being 'mummy' for a bit. It's just never ending. I'm not cut out to be a SAHM.

Sorry just need to rant. Whenever I moan to dh he just says 'i'd love to be at home all day' arse.

Thanks, feel better now

I think tomatoes, strawberries, kiwis, gluten etc are all common allergens so if there is any family history then might be worth holding off on these a while if you want to but otherwise I think they're fine and as maveta said only honey and nuts to be avoided and the other things on her list.

I do know quite a few people who give their baby a bottle of tea I dont drink tea though so certainly not going to get my dc on it, its bad enough having to make cups of tea for guests!

I'm still avoiding gluten for D for the next 2 weeks till he is 6 months cos of family history of coeliac and allergies and because its not that hard to avoid it so I may as well iyswim! But he has had the bite size oatibix for breakfast this morning with formula on which he loved. And some oat cakes, not so keen. And just lots of steamed veg but he's not great at proper chewing yet, he mostly sucks with a bit of mushing and some expiremental tongue manoeuvres thrown in!! So he likes veg with mushability like parsnips, baby sweetcorn (great for teething gums), asparagus and broccoli. Carrot was a no go, sucking does nothing to it! Also loves his figs (which I am hoping will help with the current poo situation - seems solid poo has come as a bit of a shock to him!) and banana and we're waiting for some pears to ripen. He had a little bit of roast chicken the other evening, he put it in his mouth briefly and promptly flung it back across the highchair tray!! So we may leave that a little while before trying again.

But if you're whizzing stuff up I think anything goes really. I used to make casseroles for dd and ds1 with pork and lots of veg and I think I just used water with some bouquet garni or something chucked in as stock has so much salt in. Cook it, whizz it, freeze it! Sweet veg were quite popular so things like sweet potatoes, swede, parsnip and carrots. Cheese sauce to pour on dishes they're not so keen on! I had a recipe for cod or something with spinach, watercress and cream cheese I think which Nathan loved. I can have a look for recipe if anyones interested. Pasta. Ooh I bet pumpkin would be good as they're in season now, roast or soup or pie.

Gosh I've gone on alot haven't I?! I do love weaning!!

Oh I meant to say SOL - it is still early days for weaning, there's no reason why she should be on solids yet so if she's really not interested then I would try not to worry about it, some babies just aren't that keen until they're abit older

Leaky - I hope Eva is still doing well

Luce - sorry to hear about your aunt

Ditto Eddas - exactly how I am feeling right now - definitely NOT cut out to be a SAHM - can't afford childcare for me to go back to work though arse I am quite fortunate in the fact that I have a DH who says that he thinks what I do is really hard and that he would go mad stuck at home with them all day!!

Eddas, me too. I am feeling exactly the same way. I love Becky and Katie to bits and am blessed to have them, but I am so BORED! It is getting to the point where I do not want to get up in the morning to face the same old same old.

It is not helped by the fact that B is still only doing afternoon at school, so don't feel like I can get on with anything iyswim.

Dh is also the same. He says he would love to be a SAHD. He needs to take off his rose tinted specs. Makes me so bloody cross and resentful.

Roll on December when I am back to work 3 days a week. I need the balance.

Thanks for all the tips re weaning btw.

Best go, whinging babe and one of my Snr Managers is coming round in a mo for a catch up.

Sigh.

Sigh indeed Dippy. Are there no options for you? What about childminders? Are they cheaper than nurseries?

They are, but they are hard to come by in these parts. Also there is NO WAY I could earn enough on a part-time basis to even cover childcare costs for three little one's, let alone actually make any money.

Told myself wasn't going to post yet, BUT am I the only one who would LOVE to be a SAHM?

Admittedly I have my moments yes {pulls hair out in clumps}, but surely looking after two LO's full time is easier than looking after two LO's full time AND working???

Must be just me.

(Can you tell I am really looking forward to going back to work NOT).

. Off for a cup of magic tea to calm me down, semi rant over.

And Snr Managers SOL {{shudders}}.

Well, you know how I feel Pinions, I find it much easier to cope with work and motherhood rather than being full-time at home, that just takes away my sense of self

Dippy - would working tax credit not help you with childcare costs? Have you tried this inland revenue tax credits calculator? You can try different scenarios with different income/hours/childcare costs etc and it gives you a very accurate estimate of whay you might get. I've used it loads to work out what jobs are worth going for etc.

SOL - it must be really tough with B not at full time school yet Nathan is now in his 2nd week full time and although its alot for him it does make the world of difference. How long till she does go full time? If its after half term then thats only as couple more weeks to hang on!

I did find it really hard when ds1 was a baby and dd was 2/3 and only 2 afternoons at playschool. That is why we waited to have Dylan as Nathan was SUCH hard work as a 2/3 yo I'm sure I wouldn't have been able to cope. Whereas now he's at school its almost like just having one again!
Sorry that's not much help is it but I know how you feel SOL/CD/Eddas/anyone else struggling and I sympathise

{{{{{hugs}}}}} Pinions- funny how different we all are, isn't it!!?

hi everyone
quick question about parsnips (in general, not just related to babies ) can you steam them like carrots (for finger food) or do they really need to be roasted? I think they're horrble either way so have no idea how they're meant to be cooked

pesha, thanks for all the suggestions, am going to readf that post properly later
sorry to hear you are having trouble finding childcare Dippy, must be so hard with 3 xx
Right screaming, dinner time!

It is Dippy you are absolutely right .

You can steam them SMB

personally i would put them in the bin...vile things

Katy re parsnips.

You can. Boil them. Steam them. Roast them. Nuke em in microwave.

Fry them in chip fat if you really wanted to, but maybe a tad unhealthy.

Re parsnips - I roast them for us - but boiled and mashed some up for B - mixed with a little stewed apple - went down quite well.

Feeling v fed up too - though not with being at home really - am enjoying that bit - not going back to work till the spring. B hasn't been sleeping well for last few nights (although last night was an improvement actually) so felt quite tired. Rather cheered though by looking here and all over Mumsnet - looks like many babes go a bit nuts at 5 months. She has been quite hard work to feed as well as she won't bf if there is any sort of distraction anywhere. This is frustrating especially as she's not sleeping great and I wonder if the two are related. The main thing that is getting to me is that our house buyers have 'changed their minds' and pulled out so we are back on the market and so is the house we want (sob). Everything feels a bit tunnel like and shut down on me right now. I hate, hate the feeling of uncertainty!

ooooh glad I caught you nl, auntyfi, a regular MN'er is selling 3 bugaboo foot muffs - one was blue, cant remember what the other colours were - was advertised on sale boards last week?