June 07 - superheroes, united in the fight against crime, pollution, nastiness ... and the battle of the bulge!

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That was the article she mentioned

I think as long as people are sensible and don't post too much personal info then I can't see any problems personally. Interesting article though. I thought I'd always been very careful about ticking those boxes (do not contact me etc) but I get loads of crap through my e-mail (including work address) and Bounty....well bloody hell...they don't believe in saving trees do they??

I think I will scale mine down a bit when I can though. I have TMI in mine.

i've just been updating my facebook profile too. i've got everythung set to only my friends, so unless one of you guys is an identity fraudster i should be safe

babyboo is starting her afternoon meltdown...she's early today

Anyone is welcome to my identity! You won't be able to do much with it! I'd PMSL if someone went to the trouble of "becoming" me only to realise it was a worthless exercise. I am not credit worthy!

ta, did you get DSs passport sorted out yet?

PMSL Holly

Daisy - YES! And they were lovely they sent it via courier because of the strikes! Only the photo is so old now it doesn't even look like him!
Am getting excited about my holiday but am petrified of baby jetlag, esp now I have to go back to work the next day

Ok - I have to admit that a raw nerve has been hit on this thread for me today! Re- SS issue. So I am going to keep my trap shut and not offend anyone with any further comment on it.
Plus - reading back through yesterdays posts I am totally disgusted at the comments made towards fury - and her lack of support about it
I too think I might take a break before I upset anyone
Nuff said ....................
Over and out ..................

WTF! This is listed in the nappies section! Odd squad!

Can we all be friends again please?

Perhaps I shouldn't have viewed that at work...leaving it on my screen for a while trying to work out what it was!!!

sorry if i upset you dkma, or anyone else for that matter.

Ok I am gonna say something because there is perhaps some lurkers waiting for the storm to pass/some people that just don't want to get involved and I think this thread will die if people can't speak their mind. I apologise to the newbies who if we haven't already scared them off they sure as hell will be now.

If we all agree with everyone all of the time we will end up calling each other hun and should move to Bounty or netmums or something!

We all do things different. We all believe in different things. So what?
I might not like what people do. People might not like what I do. And that's just fine.
It's fine to say it, and it's fine to argue it. Gotta love free speech on the internet.

Having now updated my FB I can see that BZ has removed herself from my friends list... so I think she probably has a problem with me. It's cool, I am a bit abrasive and it would have been more unlikely if I HADN'T spoken to someone for 6 months without pissing them off.

We all used to be able to talk so openly and I think it's a shame if we can't any more.
I am sorry if I have offended people in the past. I often speak (type) without thinking, and I have never been very good at expressing myself. I would rather it was challenged than ignored because then at least I get a chance to explain myself.

But right now I think that people are walking on eggshells and before long there will be no post-natal thread left! So come on all come back And let's talk like we used to hey? DKMA is entitled to her opinion. So is Zelda. So am I. We all are.

Have I scared everyone off for good now?

I killed it didn't I?

oh well!
So much for my attempt at mediation!

Perhaps I should go find Xenia and Mozhe and hang out with them

school run is all....I'm here (as always)

I think its school pick up time Hell, so everyones busy.

I agree with you.
I also think that sometimes we are all guilty of not expressing ourselves properly. We know what we mean but others may misinterpret it or read something else into it.
We dont know the full history on Ria's SS, we only get a snapshot. etc etc.

I once posted for advice re my daughter on MN and some of the comments I got back were truly horrible and upsetting. It could have put me off from using MN - but I got over it - MN really has been a lifeline for me - especially you lot -

TBH I know nothing about Ria's SS and can't comment.

I think the answer is - we have known each other for long enough (or perhaps not but anyway) to give each other the benefit of the doubt - and where there is ambiguity, just ASK!

you are very right fury.

we all see situations from different angles and respond to things differently. we also see how things affect other people and the way we respond to that will be a personal, rather than general thing.

i don't think any of us deliberately set out to offend, upset or be hurtful. but we don't know everyone elses personal circumstances so sometimes we may cross a boundary without meaning to.

I would like to add that I posted this morning because I was upset for DH. his DS usually wants NOTHING to do with him. If the post had not been on strike his present would have arrived and DH would have been taking him it tonight (he does not live near us). If DH had not contacted him today to wish him happy birthday and DSS had texted tonight I think he would have had every right. DH did not have chance to ring him first because the text came first thing this morning. DH was actually waiting until after DSS had been to college so they would have time to talk. I am sorry if the way I handled the situation was upsetting.

As for the situation yesterday, I was reluctant to get involved because I didn't want to see this thread go the way of mass confrontation. That was maybe a bad decision on my part, but as is becoming obvious, a post typed in the heat of the moment, or a badly worded post, can make for an unintentionally unpleasant situation.

Ta I think your post hits the nail on the head I tend not to post if I disagree strongly with someone or just opt out for a bit

I think the difference is that things look so different when they are written down as you get no expression on the face tone of voice or body language to make meaning of the verbal communication, once those nuances are lost then things can come across as being much more aggressive or confrontational than they actually are meant to be or they would be if you were talking about it over a coffee

I think we can all coexsist happily I enjoy reading the thread every day although I don't always post and I think a bit of healthy debate is good for everyone

so please DKMA and BZ come back

It's just unfortunate is all. BZ had read that I enjoy sacking people - whilst I read it back to myself, and even 2nd time around I thought it was obvious I was just messing around, perhaps it wasn't obvious to her.

I just can't help thinking it's so much easier to say 'what did you mean by that post?' before reacting.

My mother is a relationship counsellor. I think it rubs off!

Having said that I am also all for a bit of debate. If we all felt the same and agreed all the time it would be very dull.

Would now be a good time for a New Thread?

Hi girlz

I must say....all this name changing and talk of superheroes is making me rather dizzy! Happy (belated?) birthday TA, hope you have a blingin' time in that super-duper car of yours!
Well..My 16weeker has a weight to match her age and keeps growing...I actually started her on baby rice and cereal a fortnight ago but have stopped these last 2 days as I thought she had a little bit of the runs....that said, she had been gulping the rice down, so not sure if it was that. Weaning is such a controvesy eh? Have to say though...I didn't exactly agonize over it ...just gave it a go. I've also started weaning her from the breast to formula cos she had me up a squillion times a night to get freebies from the milk bar, so I figured enough was enough!
I'm going to see take that in belfast tomorrow night, and I cant wait! an overnight stay too without baby...bad mother alert again.
I hope you're all well ladies, bambino/as included

Pingu x

hi pingu - we've moved to another thread. hope you'll join us.

daisy linked it below your post.