March 2020 babies

[Jesskir89]

Any new mums about? First timer here. Baby freddie was born last Friday 13th. Could do with some company especially in the early hours!!

@abbs1 I’m glad to hear it seems to be making a difference, and lowering the dose seems like a sensible plan with that many feeds. My daughter still enjoys the odd cluster feed so I limit the drops if it’s within a certain time (or I forget!)

@jesskir89 I have had similar thoughts. I’m currently thinking I’m happy for grandparents to visit as I know they’ve been staying at home etc, but friends and family who are still going out to work I’m not so sure about. I guess so much will depend on what happens next with it all. I’m just hoping that it doesn’t go on for much longer as it makes me really sad to think my parents have missed meeting her when she’s a tiny newborn and I hate the idea that they could miss any more than that.

@atomcats and @abbs1 I'm lucky enough our mums got to meet freddie before lockdown but not many others and not our dad's. My dad saw him from a distance for the first time yesterday and he's almost 7 weeks old. My mum, dad and step dad are all still working and so if dh mum so it's gonna be tough to decide what's best. I'm so paranoid and want to protect freddie but I also don't want him to miss out more than he has. It's so hard x

@jesskir89 I totally understand where you are coming from esp if people are working. I'm definitely all for protecting Joseph but trying to find the right balance. I was thinking depending on what the government decide the next step is would be to drive to his great grandparents houses and show him through the window so they can at least see him not just on video. But we will see as they live 45+ minutes away.

@abbs1 yes I'll see what they say next week and go from there :) night ladies gonna try and get a couple of hours lol

Hi all, how are you doing tonight. Joseph just woke for a feed but managed much better with the infacol and settled so I got 2 hours of sleep 🙂

Hi, 2nd time mummy here. My daughter Ava was born in 2010 and my my son George was born on 24th March (5 weeks ago).

I have to admit, both the pregnancy and recovery has been so much harder being 10 years older and I'm really struggling with the current situation. Having a baby is hard enough, but being unable to reach out for support and company is awful.

I hope you are all keeping safe and well xx

@tarryl6384 welcome to this group! I'm sure you will be able to offer advice to us first time mummies. It is really hard being on lockdown but this group has certainly kept me going just having people to talk to and have support is great!

@abbs1 thank you and I'll support wherever I can. I'm a first timer to this mumsnet platform and so far, my experience has been invaluable.

@abbs1 freddie woke up 40 mins ago just settling him now. Glad the infacol is working 🙂 @tarryl6384 welcome and congrats on the birth of George. Lockdown has been tough I defo had baby blues a few weeks ago too which doesn't help. We will get through it togerher though x

Hi, I wondered if I could join this thread please? My baby was due in mid March but arrived prematurely 4 weeks early in Feb. Her adjusted age is 6 weeks 4 days. I'm in a Feb babies group but they all seem much older/ahead of mine developmentally. She's still feeding every 2-3 hours and very much seems like a 6 week old (from what I can gather anyway, I'm a first time mum!) x

@tarryl6384 I really hope you feel welcome here. Mumsnet has been a lifeline for me throughout my pregnancy and everyone is so lovely.
@jesskir89 oh that's good. Hope hes sleeps a good while for you. Little Joseph managed 1 1/2hours bless him 😂
@unsuremum11 congrats on the birth of your little one and welcome to our group. I hope we can be of support to you here. 🙂

@unsuremum11 welcome and congrats on the birth of your baby girl :) hope you don't mind me asking but what happened for baby to come early? @abbs1 freddie slept from 3ish til 5.45 so not too bad I'm just knackered! X

Thank you @abbs1 for the welcome.

@Jesskir89 Thank you & I don't mind you asking. Basically the night my baby was born I was admitted to hospital due to my waters breaking prematurely and heavy bleeding. I actually wrote a separate post about my birth experience as I felt it quite traumatic (won't go into details here but if searched for my username you would find it).

How is everyone doing today? I'm tired as my baby had a bad night sleep-wise. Currently attempting to deep clean our bedroom while she naps, as the dust has been bothering me for ages & it was something I planned to do before she arrived (but clearly my baby girl had other plans!)

@unsuremum11 I remember your post as I read it just before my traumatic birth experience. Did you get a debrief from the hospital? I had mine 2 weeks ago and it made me feel better. I'm tired today too freddie gave me 45 mins sleep after his last night feed lol. Luckily we had chance to deep clean before he came but it's due to be done again but I need dh help as I can't pull our bed out x

When I say traumatic it wasn't the worse but freddie was back to back and forceps failed so had an emergency c section which resulted in an internal downward extension (tear)

@Jesskir89 That sounds pretty awful to me. I think what is trauma is subjective; we can't compare who had it "worse" as I think there are so many factors at play as to how we experience something like that. I kind of regretted my other thread as I felt some people were so dismissive, telling me that my experiences were "standard" or "non issues", which isn't how they felt to me! X

@jesskir89 @unsuremum11 I'm so sorry you both had a traumatic birth experience. I wouldn't say mine was traumatic but I still get nightmares about it now. I went in with the worst pressure headache and pains in my ribcage at 38 weeks and was told I had severe pre eclampsia with very high blood pressure so was induced there and then. I started contractions straight away and was 9cm in 2hours with back to back contractions and no painkillers or epidural worked. Then babies heartbeat kept dropping to 40 so they called all the emergency consultants and midwives in and did an episiotomy to get him out quick. I was so out of it and in pain I had no clue what was going on. Thankfully baby was all ok but it was touch and go. I was not at all prepared for that as it all happened so fast.

Today Joseph has been very restless and distressed just not settling. Not sure what is wrong but hes just wanting to be held all day so I'm really tired. Luckily my husband is finally done with work for the day so I can have a break.

@unsuremum11 that's unfair of people to say if you were teaumored by it then it was traumatic! Some people are know it alls on here sometimes. @abbs1 wow! I went from 4cm to 10cm in an hour on the drip and I actually thought I was dying! I was being sick and couldn't even take in gas and air I was just holding the side of my bed begging for it to stop. Luckily the epidural was blissful for me so I really feel for you x

I hope Joseph's settles for you tonight. Anyone fancy sharing a pic of their LO? Here's freddie a few days ago at 6.5 week x

@jesskir89 oh my goodness. That sounds very intense. Im glad the epidural worked for you. They only gave it to me when I was nearly 10cm and ready to push so was too late really and didnt work anyways and neither did the gas and air. I was being sick too from the pain.
I felt like I was dying and the midwife would only give me paracetamol and a drip and was like you're not in labour yet. Then my husband asked for the consultant to come and he checked me and was like you're 9cm dont push we need to take you to labour ward and I was on antenatal ward still. They gave me an injection to try to slow the contractions but it didnt work. It will take a lot for me to go through labour again. I'm terrified of the same experience.
I'm hoping for a settled night fingers crossed. Hopefully Freddie gives you a good night.

@abbs1 I know the feeling I felt guilty after as I wasn't thinking about poor freddie at the time and what he was going through. They've told me they recommend a planned c section next time due to my internal tear. I'm really sqweemish too (not sure how it's spelt lol) fingers crossed for us all tonight we're going up soon x

@jesskir89 oh same here! I wasnt thinking about poor Joseph! I'm very squeamish too but a planned c section sounds better than the stress of not knowing what's happening and another traumatic birth. I havent been told if I need to do that after an episiotomy but the scar is quite large and he was only 5lbs 12oz so goodness knows if I have a larger baby next time if they have to cut me again or emergency c section me that wouldn't be good but I dont plan on another baby for a good while!
I cant seem to put a photo of Joseph up at all I've tried several times which is annoying. Freddie is so cute!
I hope you sleep well. I've got Joseph in bed with me just about to feed him and get him off to sleep.

Hey all...i had a baby boy on 17th march...4 weeks early but hes thriving... @abbs1 i remember you from the hyperemesis group...i had it too...never ever thought it would end...

@noodlesxxx congratulations on the birth of your little one and welcome to the group. I remember you too. Gosh I'm glad hyperemesis is over. Were you sick during your labour still? I vomited like 4 times even though I had ondansatron but just so relieved the sickness is finally over. Its gonna take a lot to go through another pregnancy but just so thankful to have a healthy little boy after all the medication and growth issues etc.
Hope you and your little one are doing well.

@abbs1 awww thank you and keep trying to upload a pic :) what's episiotomy? @Noodlesxxx welcome and congrats on your baby boy x