Ttc first baby catch up with our babies!

[Fivebyfive2]

Just putting this on in case anyone wants to catch up? We're all at different stages, so might be able to help each other out?

@Delilah7 @RanchoRelaxo @MrsR16 @thumper59 @trashkitten10 @Bostonfern @crossfitgirl sorry I know I'm missing people, I'm blaming newborn brain!

I'll leave the link on the 'pregnancy' catching up thread xxx

@MrsEG, oh god I hope your friend and her little one are OK? And poor Ruiri, have you tried the nubby keys, we put them in the fridge for Joe!

@MrsR16, thanks sweet, he is coming on so much! Tried to take my toast earlier, I think weaning may be on the horizon 😮 Oh god, seriously don't feel awful about sleep! Joe is fed or rocked to sleep mostly (will verrry occasionally go off to his sounds, but it's sooo hit and miss) and still naps on me loads in the day. I have said once he's 6 months I'll try to be more 'structured' but we'll see how that goes 😂 Ethan sounds like a little samurai with fighting sleep!

@MrsH497, how are you doing? Has the breast pump arrived? I never got the hang of mine (apart from the little manual one) but I think I was too fuzzy to have a proper go! Xx

@ELW85 Look at him 😍 Nothing cuter than a sleeping baby. Hope naps continue to go better and try to enjoy the tiny baby snuggles while they last (Daisy went from only sleeping on me to now never wanting a snuggle and I miss them 😩)

@Fivebyfive2 Joe has got so big! Little monkey wanting to get up at 4am. We managed until a far more reasonable 4:50am here 🤦🏻‍♀️ I blame the light mornings, at least that gives me hope her ever earlier wake ups might start to reverse soon haha.

@MrsEG Poor Ruairí :( Teething has confused me so much. I thought that they would be teary as their teeth came through and that was it. Nobody ever told me it was months of build up! I was adamant Daisy's teeth were coming through at 2.5 months, convinced myself she was going to be super early. Months of dribbling, whinging, biting, chewing, rubbing her gums and now at nearly 7 months she is just starting to get her two front teeth come through. With not a bit of pain or drama. Baffling. Hope your friend and her baby are okay and you get a better night tonight.

Oh god @MrsEG I didn't even see your post! You sound like you've had a hard couple of days... and I'm awfully sorry about your friend and her baby! You can't imagine anything worse than your baby being hurt, can you? Sending loads of virtual hugs your way!!

@Fivebyfive2 yeah, weaning is fun haha! We tried Ethan with a rusk yesterday - he absolutely loved it and got very cross when I had to take it away because he'd gummed it so much the piece left was tiny!

@Fivebyfive2 doing ok the pumping is going well but the antibiotics I'm on for my infection give Charlotte an upset tummy.

We are still doing the mixture of feeding, even after loads of boob she still looks for more so worried I'm not giving her enough. We really struggle to get her wind up she sounds in pain bless her.

Seeing a tongue tie midwife tomorrow to try and get that sorted. Being a mummy is so hard x

@MrsH497, how old is she now, sorry I can't keep track of ages! Joe was constantly feeding (and I do mean constantly!) until about 6 weeks I think, it's them getting the supply up and it's exhausting! Your supply gets weaker in the evening too so she might be doing it more/getting fussy of an evening?? We settled into a routine of boob until about 7/8pm then dh giving bottles when required until about 1/2am then back to boobs. I'd usually have a sleep in that time. It was more to give me a break really, he'd probably still have gotten enough from me, it's just I was soooo tired! He started sleeping through evenings at 3 months and when that went to pot I just breastfed as it had gotten less demanding by then. Now at 5ish months he just has a bottle occasionally. Try not to worry about not having enough milk; as long as she's gaining weight and doing what you feel is a normal amount of wet and dirty nappies, you're probably golden! I only say that because I had comments from people (read, mil!) saying Joe couldn't possibly be getting enough from me because he was always feeding and it put doubt in my mind, but he was doing absolutely fine, just 'getting his order in' as they say! Oh and we tried infacol for his wind; doesn't work for everyone but for us it really helped. Do you wind over the shoulder? I used to only wind Joe propped up 'sitting' on my lap because that's how the hospital showed me... Dh did it over his shoulder and it was a game changer! Sorry I'm probably spouting loads of stuff you already know! Glad pumping is going well 😀

Just wanted to add, if it's gets too much and / or you're not enjoying it and find bottles (express or formula) better, just go with that! I don't want to come off as pushing breastfeeding, just wanted to give some tips based off my experience, in case you find it helpful 🙂 I don't want you to think I'm a boob nazi 😂

@MrsEG - are you ok? That sounds like a hell of a day. Your poor friend and her little one; absolutely awful.

@MrsR16 - after hell day, I decided whatever it took to get Finn to sleep, I’d do it, so don’t feel bad. You’re an amazing mother and I keep getting told it’s gets easier’ by my friends with toddlers so hang in there - we got this.

@TrashKitten10 - it’s so funny you say that! Now he’s napping like a champ in the sleepyhead, I actually miss him and had him nap on me today because I didn’t want to be apart from him!! Clearly I’m very hormonal at the moment!

@MrsH497 - she will be getting enough, and the winding gets easier. Finn struggled for ages, but I second the over the shoulder technique and gently explaining what you’re doing as you do it and waiting for a natural break in feeding really helped Finn accept winding more.

We’ve got Finn’s first jabs tomorrow ladies and I’m not looking forward to it in the slightest.
He woke up very unsettled this morning (no idea why) and spent most of the morning cuddled into me or screaming. Not sure if it’s his reflux playing up or just him being a baby!
Going to keep going with the omeprazole I think; not sure if I’m just imagining it but he’s seemed more settled the past few days (crying wise, not nap wise!) but trying to get him to take a crushed up tablet out of a syringe is impossible. He’s never had a full dose yet which makes me think maybe he’s not settled as a result of the medicine. It’s a minefield!

@ELW85 haha! It's horrible because I'm waiting for it to get easier and at the same time, I don't want to wish the time away! Ethan's 6 months old next Saturday and I'm really not sure where it's gone 😕

Trust me, Finn will be ok! The actual jabs themselves are a million times worse for you than they are for him 😊 Calpol and cuddles are definitely the way forward for 48 hours afterwards. I was lucky, Ethan didn't get a fever, he just slept loads!!

@ELW85, good luck with jabs! Joe was a bit of a nightmare to be honest, bless him, but as @MrsR16 says, calpol and lots of cuddles will sort it 🙂

@MrsR16, totally with you on the time going too fast!

OK I hope this comes across alright, I'm a bit frazzled... Ladies who have babies who cry Alot, my god how do you do it?! We have issues with Joe as you know, mostly around his sleep, but touch wood he's generally a pretty chilled little dude, save for 'going nuclear' sometimes! Today though... Today I'm pretty sure is his first full on teething day ☹️ He's had 3 naps, none of which were longer than 40 mins (2 of which were in the pram) and although we've had some smiles in between, he's basically cried alllll dayyyy looonng!! Calpol didn't do anything, but we did get slight relief from bonjela for babies and watching Hey Dougie on cbeebies (still waiting for that worst mum of the year award in the post!) Dh came home and I was literally like 'please take him for a minute' straight away 😂

@Fivebyfive2 @ELW85 thanks ladies. We had her tongue tie divided today. She's very cranky and barely slept so tonight could be fun!

I've had an allergic reaction to my antibiotics so I'm covered in a rash!!

Hi ladies, sorry for being such a mope yesterday! Better day today. My friend is in an awful way very much blaming herself. I squeezed the boys extra tight last night.

Today has been okay, teething hell still (the real tears, arrgghh!) but other than that they’ve been on fine form today! Already fast asleep in bed. They have their 16 week jabs tomorrow, they’ve both had a fever with the other sets so I’m expecting much of the same, calpol is at the ready!! They slept super well last night too, 6:30-5:30. Managed to get them back down too for another hour because 5;30 is just not okay haha.

@TrashKitten10 Ugh teething is horrid!! Ruairí in particular was much the same and started at like 3 months. You can see how much pain he’s in at the mo! It’s crazy how long it takes for the actual teeth to poke through!

@ELW85 The boys were fine after their 8-week jabs just super sleepy, we had one each and just snuggled and watched Netflix! They did have fevers though so we just gave calpol.

@Fivebyfive2 Oh poor Joe! It’s horrid. At 16 weeks with Conor now I’m just used to the crying haha. It used to make me cry too but I know he’s okay. With two as well you have to listen to them cry a lot as I don’t have four arms! It’s weird but I’m just so used to it, which is awful really! He could be teething, could just be having a cranky day! If he hasn’t napped much too overtiredness could be creeping in as well. Fingers crossed, it’s just a bad day!!

@MrsH497 The boys both had tongue tie and had it snipped, it was hideous to watch (I cried) but it made such a difference! They were drinking 3 times as much the same day. Hope it helps! X

@Fivebyfive2 I really struggle with days like that! More often than not, I ended up cuddling Ethan in floods of tears myself counting down the minutes and seconds till DH walked through the door! With him WFH at the moment, it's much easier! I'm positive Ethan gets bored of me every now and then (to be fair, I'm not surprised! Same person all day every day forever must be boring!)

@MrsH497 oh lovely, that doesn't sound good! No words of advice, but loads of sympathy being sent your way!

@MrsEG I'm glad you're having a better day! Isn't it silly, you hear of other's misfortunes and it makes you cuddle yours extra tight! I have no real life examples, but there was an episode of Call The Midwife when Ethan was small that really got me! He got extra cuddles for about a week after that 😂 well done on getting the boys down for another hour! Anything after 06:00 is amazing - anything before is ungodly...

@MrsEG yep so did I!! She's quite happy sleeping in our arms think she just needs a bit of comfort and reassurance. Glad we had it done, NHS said it was mild and wouldn't do anything, midwife said she disagreed and referred us but because of COVID they wouldn't be doing any. So we went private and typically they are opening the tongue tie clinic as of next week! Oh well she's had it done and the feeds so far seem a bit better.

@MrsR16 I thought it was heat rash as I'm 6 days into the course but when I called gp and sent them a pic they said it's definitely a reaction as it's spreading! Nothing like a good rash to feel particularly attractive and can't have any antihistamines because of breastfeeding!

If anyone else struggles with sore nipples I can thoroughly recommend silver nipple cups! Pop a couple of drops of breast milk in pop them over nipples in your bra and let them heal! Amazing!

Little lady is 2 weeks old tomorrow, where has it gone?! I was nervously sat knowing I was having a c section this time 2 weeks ago now I have a gorgeous baby girl!

@MrsH497 look at her beautiful little face!!! She's absolutely stunning 😊 make the most of every single day! They grow up far too quickly

Guess who fell behind on the thread again...

Evening ladies. Hope your well! Been beautiful weather here for a couple of days. Fred has slept through for 4 nights so hoping it's not a fluke 🤞🏼

I'll have a good catch up because I am soooo behind.

Freddie is eating 3 meals a day, and Is as cute and cheeky as ever if I can say so myself.

I need to try harder to not fall behind on here but between trying to finally loose my baby/lockdown weight and entertain Fred all day it's hard to fit in a cuppa! OH has been back at work a few weeks now so it's just me, Freddie and the dogs xx

@thumper59 morning! Freddie looks adorable! How wonderful he's sleeping through the night now 😊

@Fivebyfive2 definitely try it out, it's nice having them so close but still being able to do stuff! My mum has made the same comment about Dina not getting enough milk from me 😑 a boob nazi 😂😂😂

@MrsH497 it sounds like you're doing a fab job honestly - sometimes you need a break from all of the cluster feeding and a bottle just tops it off, it's definitely been my saviour. Glad you managed to get her tongue tie sorted, hopefully it's on the up from here. As long as Charlotte is fed and content and you feel okay, don't worry honestly - you're her mum and you know what's best for you both. Sending hugs, it is hard but you've got this x

@MrsEG oh god your poor friend, I hope baby recovers quickly?! Poor Ruairi 😞 MIL bought us some sock type things with teething bits on them for babies to chew on... maybe you could try those? Poor baby, I'm not looking forward to teething at all 😞 glad they had a good sleep though!

@MrsR16 ahh that's so cute with the rusk 😭 what've you tried so far with weaning? Does he have any favourites? 😁

@ELW85 I hope Finn's jabs go okay for you - I second what the others have said, it'll be worse for you! I cried when she cried, but she'd stopped by the time we'd left the room, loved her calpol and then slept on me. He'll do great, lots of cuddles and he won't remember a thing ❤️

@thumper59 ahh he's beautiful! Hope he carries on sleeping through the night 😊

My mum did her "I don't know why grandparents give advice" speech yesterday because I don't "listen" to her saying I shouldn't hold baby when sleeping/making it hard for myself/she's not crying so she's not hungry/it's too cold to change her nappy outside/shouldn't wear her in the sling and spoil her/put a hat over her ears at all times etc 🙄🙄🙄🙄 I also feel like she doesn't think DH is a parent? Almost as if she knows what's best for my child? I politely answered it with something along the lines of she can give advice but it's my choice to choose what I want to do... but she still sulks like a child. Any advice? It's really irritating, I know me and DH know what's best for her but I feel like I'm being judged constantly for my decisions and although it doesn't knock my confidence it really bothers me.

@cupcakesandglitter My mum is exactly the same. I really don’t entertain it at all. She tells me I ‘need’ to wean Ruairí early (I don’t), shouldn’t put them down for so many naps, they’re too young to be sleeping through, I feed Ruairí too much, it’s endless. Every time I speak to her she just pisses me off. I genuinely screen her calls now as I have to decide if I’m up to it or not! I said to DH that once lockdown is over and she is coming over more etc I’m just going to say that if she carries on I won’t be having her round any more and that’s that. She hasn’t raised a baby in 34 years. And she’s never had twins (although she did try and tell me she had it harder than me, as she had two under two..... piss off) You have to stand your ground. Let her sulk! My sister said she did the same with her to the point she once stormed off home in the middle of a shopping trip. My sister just let her go. It’s your mums problem, not yours!!

@thumper59 He is so scrummy! Same - I’m starting to exercise again but I’m lucky if I get 15 mins done before one of them fusses! The only way I get it done is when they're down for the night!

@MrsH497 2 weeks already! Ahh she’s gorgeous. Glad the tongue tie is all sorted!

@MrsR16 I can’t cope with Call the Midwife at all!! It breaks my heart!

@cupcakesandglitter I honestly found the health visitor so demoralising. I had the phone on speaker on even DH was making faces, I've loved every midwife I've seen but this health visitor made me feel like an awful mum for occasional formula use, letting someone into our home to divide her tongue tie.

She actually questioned whether I knew charlottes birth weight as the paperwork she had showed a different weight to what I told her. I did ask if she would like the photo we have of her on the scale after she was born.

She definitely just wanted lots of cuddles last night bless her. The feeding seems a bit easier obviously the damage needs to heal properly for it to not be sore but she's finding it easier. So cute she keeps poking her tongue out almost testing it out!

How is everyone doing?
@thumper59 Freddie is so cute!
@MrsEG how are the boys?

@cupcakesandglitter, I think you're handling it right to be honest! Polite but firm 🙂 dh's mum is the same... I don't mind that she gives 'advice' but it's when she keeps on and on that I get rattled. It doesn't help that I have a really obvious face either 😂

Much better day today so far, hoping it continues 🤞

@cupcakesandglitter he's not doing too badly! He was doing wonderfully and then he decided he couldn't cope with it, so we had an awful few days (hence the Gaviscon now). He loves porridge (and I can make it as watery as I like which is helpful) and he absolutely adores apple purée... he gets ever so cross when we say he's had enough! 😂 as far as your mum, that's horrendous! We have enough pressure as new mums without our own mums adding to it! You must have the patience of a saint!

@MrsEG I don't know if you saw it - it was the one where they lost their baby boy overnight following a celebration party for him knowing that he wasn't going to survive! Nearly even got DH and he doesn't cry at anything 😂

@MrsH497 oh goodness, I'm sorry you've got a rubbish HV! They really don't help at all when they're awful! I'm lucky - mine's ok but I haven't been able to get hold of her since lockdown, I have to speak to the on-call one 🙄

Ethan decided that 3am was a wonderful time to wake up this morning... finally settled at just gone half 4! We aren't doing much today and I'm back to sleeping when he's sleeping in order to try and catch up! 😂😂

@MrsR16 thankfully she retires before I next have to see her!
Strangely the tongue tie division seems to have helped with the trapped wind she brings it up much easier now

@MrsR16, my sympathy for the 3am party, Joe just loves those! Speaking of getting emotional at TV... I've always been a bit of a sucker for that, but since Joe came along I swear dh is almost as bad!! I find it strange, sweet and kind of funny all at once 🙂

@MrsH497 oh that's interesting!! I'm glad Charlotte seems more settled 😊 makes it all worth it, huh?

@Fivebyfive2 it's only the second really horrendous night we've ever had, which is why they come as a massive shock 😂 it is cute when DHs finally find some emotion in them! 😂 well, nearly anyway... DH didn't actually shed any tears when Ethan was born - I bloody did enough for the both of us! Haha!