August 2007- More boys than girls? Our beautiful summer babies are arriving at last!

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Thought I'd start a thread to give somewhere for Jem, Washersaurus and Bresha to discuss their little ones and make all those of us waiting impatiently jealous!

Who will be next??????

Kite - nice to hear from you - we were due on the same day so was wondering how you were doing.

Gill - I think most are the same - the novelty seems to quickly wear off.

I'm trying to find a cottage for next summer school holidays - all the nice ones are already booked up and really expensive. Signing up to have a cute little baby changes your life in ways you can't imagine until you get there!

Well I thought he had redeemed himself by coming home a couple of hours early but he went straight upstairs and has been on the computer for the last hour and a half. I would say something but it's really not worth an argument.

At least I managed to get some time with dd. Ds really wasn't interested in staying asleep this morning but finally gave in after his feed at 1pm.

Anyone else got a baby that you can't put down without him/her whinging? I started off well when he was first born by putting him down after his feeds but he's just not happy being on his own. I've tried the activity mat and he's ok for about 10 minutes but then gets bored.

hiya,

good to hear from you kite i was wondering how you were doing, my lovely daughter mila was almost an isobel so happy to hear the name often.

gill- is it possible to have a strong word with your dh, does he realise how upset you are by his behaviour?

for crying babies i have found the magic solution, firstly the baby bjorn sling thing, lo can't resist.

but for the crazy screaming when she's tired i'm doing the technique (baby bliss - Dr Karp, really lovely book for seeing the world from baby's perspective) of tight swaddling, sideways vigorous swooshing/ jigging and some singing and it hasn't failed yet. she calms instantly and is asleep in 10 mins max. we've stopped all the infacol and stressing. she's now sleeping 9pm - 2am, feed in bed, another feed 5 or 6 am, another 8 or 9am. realise how much she needs to sleep

she's started laughing and cooing, brilliant fun

one question though, i've large lumpy thing below armpit, not red or painful, from feeding lying down in bra i think. been massaging it. but i wondered what antibiotics were prescribed for mastitis in case it develops. it's better to know the name and ask dr for them here.

mamamila - Flucloxacillin. not sure of dose but 3 times a day. If it gets to the point where it hurts when ypou turn or lean over, then get the drugs. in fact have them ready. Do not wait til you have a soaring temperature!! Keep rubbing, and feeding. massaging hurts, but it is a nice kind of hurt - like you are doing something useful. If it gets to the point where you feel you can't feed. Express... like crazy..... Good kuck

Sorry crap typing!!

I actually found out after typing my last message that he was in bed asleep. I should say something mamamila but it's really not worth it - it's better he does what he wants than sits downstairs with us being miserable cos he can't do what he wants. Hope your lump doesn't turn out to be mastitis.

sounds really annoying gill - obviously you know him best, but i am always one to suggest talking to him about it - maybe at a time when he's not being annoying, rather than doing it when you are really cross with him.

ds slept from 11 to 5.40 last night - longest sleep yet. was great. we got up early to watch the grand prix so no trying to go back to sleep at 6am with him grunting, so one of the best sleeps i've had since he was born.

thinkingof making our christmas cake tomorrow partly to give me a definite project rather than just going from feeds to sleeps etc with no plan.

have decided on 25th November for him to be christened too so will need to start planning that soon.

hope everyone else is having a good weekend.

... 4 times a day sorry mamamila. post pregnancy deoressed brain. just did the post natal depression scale on the comp. 13/20. did becks depression scale too.... even higher. Not sure i its just the situation with DH (GillL I can sympathise) or if it is more. We'll see next week.

Morning everyone -
Nice to see some old faces back!, and hope all them that are missing are ok x

GillL - i know how you feel, my house is a mess, DS bedrooms needs doing and Dh has gone table tennis this morning for 3 hours! Oh well, he can do his own bloody ironing tonight!

_ Bagpuss, hope you are ok, can you send me the link, it would be interesting to do

Well i think we may have turned some corner ( at last) DS2 had a feed at 9.30, went to bed at 10.20 ( and me) and he didn't wake up until 3.30 so that was good, also did something similar on Friday night aswell!

I am also off to buy a baby carrier today ( as conversation with bagpus)ds will cry to go to sleep and it takes ages to get him off and as soon as you put him down he is up again and i cant get on with anything so hopefully this will work, still not sure what to get ? Any ideas

Hi everyone, hope you're all good today.

mamamila - i have mastitis badly at the mo (it came back on friday night grr) and have been prescribed augmentin (co-amoxi-clav) as well as flucoxicillin. I take fluco four times a day (2 capsules) and 1 augmentin three times a day. If the lump goes red and tender or you get a temperature or headache then get it checked straight away, the sooner they catch it the better. Feeding hurts but it's the best thing, but if you can't then express. My other boob gets lumpy when i go a long time between feeds tho so it might just be that, hope so.

Hi kiteflying! Glad you've managed to get online again. Sorry the birth was stressful but sounds like you're both doing well now.

Hello ladies,

checking in for first time in a while.

Things are great here. Caitlin is unbelieveably gorgeous and such a happy baby. SHe hardly cries - except for food and when she wants to poo. We were out at our NCT reunion yesterday and were at someones house for 6 hours and she never cried once and was very happy looking at lots of new people and 5 other babies (all boys). The other parents were very complimentary - especially when I told them that for the last week she has been sleeping through from midnight to 7am. On Friday she even went from 10.30 to 7.45. Consequently I feel fantastic - definitely benefitting from some continuous sleep. Even the housework and washing and ironing is up to date!!

My scar is still a bit problematic. I still have stiches in from the second surgery and I noticed yesterday that there are some blisters forming around one lot of stiches which is stinging a lot - will see doc at my 6 week check up next week.

Am trying to upload some photos on my profile - will post if I am succesfull as I am using slow home dial up rather than mega fast work connection!

Link? Bloody hell Pink, I'll try and find it again.. or just put post natal depression scale into google. !!

ok here goes "linkhttp:www.patient.co.uk/showdoc/40002172/"

WHY do they never work?????? mine never look like everyone elses?!!

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Kite, congrats on Isabel, she sounds beautiful. Sorry to here that you had problems with the birth, have you heard of these people: www.birthtraumaassociation.org.uk/weblinks.htm, just thought they might be of some help. I just hope that it isn't stopping you enjoying the special first few weeks of Isabel's life.

Oh, and I've finally managed to upload a picture! Only taken me 9 weeks.

Now that picture is worth waiting 9 weeks for.... absolutley gorgeaus.. bad spelling. crying baby.

God, just did the check an got 19/20

Hersetta - I am so ! My ds2 sreams if he's put down for longer than 2 minutes and I thought he was the best baby on earth when he slept from 9pm to 2.30am (was the longest he'd gone). However, the 'baby fairy' is fair and dishes out equally - you had a tough start, I didn't!

I got 9/30 but I think the questions are stupid!

!!!PINK??!!! I thought I was bad!!

Whch one were you doing Loler? the edinburgh one scores out of 20 -, Becks is 30, but there are questions in it that are skewed by feeding new baby - such as difficulty sleeping etc...

Mixed night here, Evie puked 2 whole feeds over me - she gets 2/3 of a way through then suddenyl vomits the whole lot. Infacol doesn't help, and there is no indication of wind. I sat and sobbed with her and DH last night. Eventually she went to sleep at 8.30 after 2 very careful ounces of FF. she woke at 3.30 (OH JOY and BLISS!), but then vomitted all over me again, and the pillows etc.... but she still went back to sleep, and slept til 7.

Hi guys, hope everyone got some sleep last night. I'm finally at the point where I'm so sleep deprived I could fall asleep on a pile of coathangers quite happily. I just can't leave him with anybody. If my sister offers to mind him while I go for a sleep I feel guilty and can't sleep.

If dp minds him it isn't 10 minutes before ds is screaming merrily away, and it's at least 40 mins before dp thinks to make him a bottle/try him with a dummy/talk to him or jiggles him about. I just can't sleep when he has him. And of course if I sleep when he sleeps and dp finds out I get it thrown in my face when we argue, as if I doze all day while he works! Bah.

I've just about given up on breastfeeding now. I've had enough of the stress and pressure of it, last night I was in tears trying to feed him, with really sore nipples from where he keeps latching on then pushing off against the back of the sofa with his feet until he yanks himself off my nipple. Repeat ad nauseum. He was crying all evening anyway as if I just wasn't producing enough, and struggling/kicking constantly.

I was getting so angry, not really with him but just because I was sore and tired and really frustrated, I ended up giving him formula and he guzzled it like he was starving, and I realised that quite honestly the only reason I was torturing myself with this and making him go hungry was this huge sense of guilt I only got since joining mumsnet! No-one I know is remotely bothered what I feed him with as long as he's healthy, so I realised I was doing it for an anonymous group of militant breastfeeding enthusiasts on the internet. How silly is that?

I think I'll start giving him (roughly) 4 hourly bottles and express for a few days while my nipples heal, then see how I feel next week. I need some time off and to get off this bloody sofa, desperately!

Sorry for ranting, needed to get it off my chest.

Hi everyone. Got my period back yesterday Hope it doesn't last long.

Banana - So sorry to hear about the trouble you're having. You've done so well (so much better than I did). To be honest, I actually set up a new nickname on mn a while ago to talk through my feelings of giving up, for fear of being judged, as I had got some help when bfing using this nickname. Bottle feeding isn't so bad and as you say, you can leave James with other people so you can rest. You can still go back to bf if you change your mind in a few days. Just make sure you keep your nipples moist. I tried to express after 5 days when my nipples were dry and they cracked. Just remember that everyone on the August forum is here to support you however you feed your baby. Hope you're feeling ok.

Oh, and don't be surprised if he feeds more regularly. My ds feeds every 2-3 hours. I think pink's is the same.

I'm of all of you who have babies which sleep and don't scream .

DD2 is now 4 weeks and just doesn't settle. She can not settle to sleep because she is hungry but won't eat because she tired oh it's such fun here .

Hersetta or annie75 or anyone else who have had breech babies have you had scans on their hips.

Thanks gill I appreciate your support, you know how I feel!

Lizzie, are you breast or bottlefeeding? the only reason I'm asking is because if you were bottlefeeding you could try twisting the teat around in her mouth when she's falling asleep during a feed, to keep her alert. Not sure what you can do if you're breastfeeding, but you could try stripping her off, or tickling her feet? Sounds like a bit if a nightmare though, you have my sympathy!

Hersetta, Babymad and Kiteflying, great to see you back! Hersetta you deserve an angelic baby after your traumatic start to motherhood, glad she's letting you sleep, you need it to recover! Babymad things sound manic in your house! lol Is this your last baby or are you going for a fourth? (I think two will do me, I'm too lazy to cope with three!)

Kiteflying I know what you mean about feeling traumatised after the birth, I was the same. I had a "normal" "natural" birth with just gas n air, but I felt out of control, unconsulted by the midwives/doctors, I wasn't encouraged, couldn't see dp, forgot where I was or why I was there because I was just in a fog of pain and gas n air, and ended up with a 2nd degree tear and painful stitches which I wasn't numb for, so felt like having several genital piercings at once. (she also stitched me up a bit too much and then decided to take a few out ffs)

I felt because everything turned out ok I wasn't really justified in being so horrified by it all, but it truly was the most horrible violent thing that had ever happened to me, and I had flashbacks and nightmares for a week or so afterwards, and talking about it reduced me to tears quite a few times. Of course the forgetful hormones have set in now and I'm ok, but you don't have to have a disastrous birth to feel violated and shellshocked afterwards. I hope you're feeling better now. To be honest next time I want a c section, because I never want to go through that again.

Here's a scary question for you all: has anyone dared to have a look "down there" since the birth?