April 2018 babies

[Aspenn17]

Hi!

Any mums out there with April newborns? If there is already a group going please point me in the right direction!

I’m a first time mum with a 2 week old little girl looking for some people to chat to with similar aged babies!

Fieau my LO started her smelly poos couple of weeks ago. It was a really nasty smell that wouldn't disappear from her bottom even after washing with a soap. Consistency changed and I could also see some tiny black dots on the nappy like coffee ground. I started giving her Lactobacillus drops straight away and now after two weeks her poo smell somehow returned to normal or at least not as smelly as before. Sometimes she doesn't have any dirty nappies 3 days or more. HV said it's normal for a breastfed baby not to produce any dirty nappy for up to a week.
My LO is also lifting her legs while asleep at night. Yerterday I found her even sleeping on the side. Any of your babies can now turn from tummy to back and from back to tummy?

@yustynne my LB can't roll yet but come bed time he will only sleep on his side. I'll put him down on his back and within an hour he wakes up crying (doesn't open his eyes though!) So I roll him on his side and he goes back to sleep. He usually rolls himself over to his side! It's really cure to watch him sleep like that.

My LO used to sleep on his side but once he learned to roll every time he tried he would flop on his front and cry. Now he sleeps on his back or front usually with his thumb in his mouth (not good in the long run but it allows him to settle himself through the night so I get sleep!). He has rolled back to his front once a few weeks ago but hasn't since.
My eldest didn't roll until she was 9 months and already crawling so it's all new to me!

Is anyone thinking about going back to work soon?

My LO has discovered he can roll onto his front and I wake up several times a night to roll him back over.

This also means I now can't leave him for 2 seconds if I need to quickly run to grab something as he's rolled over.

Going to have to have eyes in the back of my head.

I've returned to work part time ... partly due to finances, but also for the routine and adult conversation.

What about everyone else? When are you going back to work? If at all?

my little boy can roll from his tummy onto his back and does so everytime I try and make him do tummy time as he hates it. He can roll onto his side from his back and then back again, and prefers to sleep on his side so often rolls himself into this position.

I'm due back at work in May 2019. Planning on going back part time but haven't discussed it with them yet. Thankfully in a position where if they turn my request down I can just hand my notice in and look for something else.

Not fully rolling over here yet, he can do it sometimes but not on a regular basis! I'm not due back at work until April at the earliest, but as I'm accruing holiday I'm planning on taking all of it before I go back, so I probably won't go back until June 2019! No idea if I'm going back full or part time, depends on how expensive childcare is and if we can afford forme to not go back to work as we are moving house so will have a larger mortgage!

I have been applying for jobs, but for me it looks like I will need to work full time cos part time just doesn't cover the childcare. I don't get mat pay so it would be nice to have my own money coming in again and we want to get a bigger place too so the extra income will be handy.

Wondering whether any of you are the same as me... I can't bear to leave my baby!! My husband wants us to go out for dinner and leave the baby with one of our parents and the thought makes me feel a bit sick. My MIL is always asking to take him out to "give me a break". I don't need a break! And as she hasnt spent much time with him she just doesn't know how to calm him down or what he likes (for example she insisted on holding him a certain way even though it makes him scream everytime because she says all her kids loved it ). I'm starting to feel like a cow for always saying no to her but I know I wouldn't be able to relax, and I don't understand why she can't come spend time with him while I'm there? Why does she need to take him out?

I know I'll have to leave him at some point but I just don't see why I should have to until I feel ready. But am I being ridiculous?

I've been out a few times with friends and left him with my husband and that was obviously fine because I knew he would be looked after exactly the same as if it was me (except from being fed from a bottle). I still messaged my husband about a million times asking what they were doing though

Fully rolling from 19 weeks! For her it became like a game rolling back and forth bringing all the food up:)
My mat leave finishes March 2019 but I'm planning to go back to work December or January as this is when my mat pay runs out. I can't afford staying at home and not bringing in any money. Moreover, I miss adult conversation and at least getting out and seeing some people.
Fieau I feel completely different about leaving my baby. I wouldn't mind leaving her to any relative or friend for a bit as long as I could get a break. Unfortunately, I have here no family or friends who could do that for us so we will never be able to go somewhere just me and my husband:( For example, now there is a new horror movie in cinemas and I'll have to go alone to watch it as my husband will have to stay with a baby.

@Fieau I'm the opposite, I feel guilty that I'm ok with leaving little one. Obviously I do miss him and think about him.

I think it depends who you are leaving them with, for example, completely comfortable with leaving LO with my OH and my parents, however less at ease with OH mother, even though I know she is more than capable.

I left my LB for the first time yesterday, hubby and I had tickets for the Arsenal Legends game so couldn't take our little one with us! He spent the afternoon with his grandparents and had a whale of a time, went for a walk, had a tour round the garden and allotment, had a feed (expressed milk) and 2 good naps!

It hurt to leave him as I'm with him 24/7 but I know he's in good hands. He'll be with them again tomorrow night for the evening as hubby and I are going to a concert.

I can't imagine leaving him overnight anytime soon though!

Fieau, I’m ok leaving my LO with her Dad or my parents for a little while but th thought of leaving her with anyone else scares me. I’m going to a gig with my DH in October and my MIL is coming to our house to look after her for the evening and it’s making me nervous. I like to have a couple of hours off now and then but tbh I can’t switch off, I’m constantly texting to see if she is ok.

She rolls lots, from her back to her front and onto her back again. She’s started pushing with her legs as well like she is trying to crawl but her upper body isn’t quite there yet. She is SO interested in food now, going to slowly start her on solids when we get back.

Not sure what I’m going to do about work, I was going to go back to my old job part time but since we have moved and the commute is longer it would mean leaving at 7am and not getting home until 6.30pm. I need to do the calculations reallly, childcare costs/commuting costs etc. It might be sensible to find something closer to home but I don’t have to decide until April.

We’re currently in greece on our first family holiday. LO has been an angel, she has a big fan club at the hotel, didn’t cry on the plane and her sleeping seems to be getting back on track, even though she’s in a travel cot with no sleepyhead for the first time ever! 🙌🏼

Yikes sorry that post is so long! 🙈 haven’t updated in a while and didn't realise I had rambled on so much!

@aspenn17 hope you're having fun on holiday!! We are looking at booking a holiday for just before I start back at work in May.... So if anyone has any suggestions for baby friendly all inclusives please let me know!

In other news I got told by my PIL last time they came to visit that I need to "learn to share the baby" it really upset me!! My OH said just to ignore them.

What time do your little ones go to bed? I'm trying to get my LB to bed earlier to give me and my hubby some time together just us (does this make me awful?!)

Currently he has a bath around 830 and is usually asleep by about 930/10 at which point I usually go to bed as well. I'd like to get to a point where he's going down at about 9, which would mean bath routine starting at 8.

Is that reasonable?

I guess it depends on whether he seems tired enough earlier on to go to bed? You could try just moving it earlier by 10/15 mins a day and see how it goes?

My little boy goes to sleep at about 8. He only has a bath every other night, then I change him, sing some lullabies, cuddles and breastfeed and he usually falls asleep pretty easily. I just go to bed with him though and read for a bit and try to get to sleep as early as possible! I haven't worked up to leaving him alone upstairs and going back down without him yet.

He was going to bed at about 9:30 a month or so ago, but was just getting too tired in the evenings. It means he wakes up earlier though.... He used to sleep until about half nine and now he's awake at half six every morning

Oh God, it happened the worst what I always feared for! My LO rolled off the sofa to laminate while I was getting her dummy. I just heard a loud bang followed by a cry. Found her face down on the floor. I was crying with her at the same time trying to calm her down. She's got a bump on her forehead and a tiny swelling on her head above the neck. I'm watching her now for any vomitting or unusual behaviour. Poor little baby. I feel like such a bad mum:(

@yustynne it's happened to all of us at one point. Hubby and I were testing out the travel cot, collapsed it down somehow it fell over and hit out LB in the head. By god the scream that came from him. Scared the life out of me! Had a late night dash to a&e as there was no bump or bruise! He was fine but it made me feel so so bad!

I was reading my Kindle over my little boy while he was feeding to sleep for his afternoon nap today and accidentally dropped it on his head..... I have never heard screams like it!! I felt absolutely awful, I can already see a bruise forming my poor baby.

As the weather is getting colder what are you all dressing your little ones in during the day? My LB is in short sleeved vests and bottoms. If we go out I put a jacket on him or change him into a long sleeved vest. Do you think this is enough?

Where I live it's freezing so he always wears a short sleeve vest, then over that either a long sleeved footed baby grow or trousers and a long sleeve top, with a cardigan over the top. And if we are out in the evening he wears a pram suit as well.

I base it on whatever I'm wearing... I try to dress him in one more layer than I've got on (and most of the time at the moment I am wearing a jumper and still feel cold). We will be wearing so many layers by winter he won't be able to move haha.

Thanks @Fieau! It's not that cold here yet, it's still around the 20 degrees mark but I'm aware it's getting colder! It's been so hot he's been in vests all the time and now it's getting cold I'm baffled!

Goodness 20 degrees is a hot summers day to me haha!! Think it was about 12 degrees here today.

Remember as well to feel their chest/back to get a sense of their temperature rather than their hands, this helps prevent overheating apparently

My LO is in long sleeved and leggings most the time at the moment, but no vest underneath yet.

Those of you whose babies are good sleepers- what’s your daytime nap schedule like? Particularly interested in what time you do last nap of the day, how long before bedtime?

Her sleeping was much better on holiday, I thought we were finally coming out of the 4 month sleep regression and since we’ve been home she’s been waking up loads again. Last night she was awake from 2-5am 😟