March 2018 newborns

[blinkineckmum]

Not sure if a thread exists already. If so, point me in the right direction.
Here's a place to celebrate our bundles of joy and find support for everything from stitches to breastfeeding, partners and sleep and anything else we may come across in the early days to challenge us!

@blinkineckmum Approaching 3 weeks tomorrow with my little boy and the feeding has just got easier - very little pain now. Have you tried Multi Mam compresses in your bra (avail from Amazon - bit pricey but worth it)? Best to put them in fridge to make them cold. Course if it's really agonising pain you could try nipple shields or expressing from that boob for a bit?

That's reassuring. I have the midwife tomo and health visitor Weds so hoping they can advise.

Happy Easter everyone - hope all the mums of newborns are enjoying lots of chocolate 🍫 - we deserve it

No, I'd love to know what happened with potteryprincess. Really hope she's ok.

I just finished a bar of Cadbury oreo as you wrote that!

We’re a week in today, thinking about this time last week!

blinkineckmum I have no idea how I’ll get out of the house for the school run when DH goes back to work...

Vickylou78 & TheMrs04 sorry to hear about your mums, thinking of you.

potteryprincess30 we are all thinking of you & really hoping you’re ok.

Lots of chocolate eaten here, helping with energy levels (any excuse!)

Congrats on making the 1 week milestone! Hope the tear and piles discomfort is easing.

Thanks Blinkineckmum - yes thankfully much more comfortable, a few days has made such a difference.

@Smurf123 thank god you were listened to and what great action taken by the professionals you saw! Your baby arrived here safely and even though all of that must have been very stressful I bet you were just relieved to have baby in your arms! I’m afraid I don’t know anything about calcium in blood or heart murmurs. I’ve fretted at every stage of my pregnancy and continue to fret now about things - needlessly in the end but we’re mums now and it can’t be helped! Please just focus on the good points - like your content little one who IS putting on weight 👍🏻. And worry about the facts when you have them. I hope this referral/some answers comes around quickly for you. All of this is easier said than done of course 😂

@TheMrs04 at least if these things are checked out then you’ve got cleared answers at the end and not left worrying! Sorry to hear about your Mum and it’s good to hear you are positive.

@Vickylou78 sorry to hear about your Mum too. C’mon baby too!!!!!!!!! It must be soon now!

@blinkineckmum my nipples are shredded despite my best attempts at getting her to latch well. I’m barely at two weeks so I’m not sure when this improves! Soon I hope! 😂

Hope everyone had a nice Easter with their new babies and other family. I’ve just demolished a whole Easter egg and feeling very satisfied with this!

So I’ve been a bit quiet about my journey up until now. I only just feel the energy to write about it and am still processing it all! And nothing especially traumatic or worrying happened! Our gorgeous baby girl arrived via emergency c section two Fridays ago which in itself was a massive shock. Finding myself in theatre within minutes and having her so quickly after arriving at hospital was just so unexpected. The anaesthetic was too strong and I loss the use of my arms which flopped out to the sides of me! This meant I couldn’t hold my baby straight away so my husband had to hold her to my chest! We had about an hour all together while I recovered before my husband was sent home for the night - of course returning the next morning as soon as he could!

I then had two days in hospital getting to know our new arrival. Endless visits from nurses checking my obs or administering medication. I had been so strict throughout my pregnancy about taking anything at all - in that generally I didn’t as I was concerned about what effect this would have on our developing baby. It took some getting used to needing all this medication - more so as I’d made the decision to breastfeed. I’ve been reassured by all professionals that apart from an icky tummy she won’t be affected by these!

Finally I got to go home but the day after I started to feel as though something wasn’t right. I went to the GP, saw the midwife at home and called MAU to express these concerns. I was reassured that I’d had major surgery and recovery would be slow and painful at times. I felt as though I’d been hit by a bus, was vomiting and had a band of red prickly heat across my stomach. Awoke on Saturday to puss and blood streaming from my wound - now I knew something wasn’t right and went to MAU! Suddenly it was all ‘how long have you felt like this?!’ 🙄 and I was but on intravenous antibiotics for 24 hours. Almost immediately I started to feel better and am home again. Relieved that I am recovering well!

Throughout all of this our little girl has been amazing. She tolerates being passed around endlessly by visitors. She was chilled as anything during our first trip (even if it was back to hospital!). Everyone comments on how peaceful she seems (for now!! Haha). I’ve been on cloud nine since her arrival and am immensely proud of her. We are still getting the hang of breastfeeding but even this is something that fills me with unexpected emotion and is actually something I love being able to do with her. Previously I didn’t really have any ideas of how I wanted to feed her and just thought I’d take her lead. She came out wanting the boob!!

I guess despite all my thoughts and ideals to what giving birth would be like and finally meeting her you just can’t predict anything! Having her really has been the best thing to happen to me and I finally get it when people say that!

RayM what a journey! Glad you are enjoying the little one so much. Look after yourself. Don't worry, none of my 3 births went to plan, and the 1st and 3rd were really traumatic. I'll never do it again! But time heals, and the 3 babies have been totally amazing regardless!

@blinkineckmum perhaps the best plan is to have no plan at all 😂. Gosh you must have been scared towards the end of your pregnancies with the last two! I can’t imagine wanting to go through either pregnancy or birth again but then look at her and think ‘mmmm maybe!’.

Thank you for those who’ve mentioned my mum. Really kind of you. We’ve just found out what treatment will be etc. And so we are all trying to be positive and get through the treatment. It’s looking like it’s fully treatable thankfully.

Sorry to hear of ladies with feeding issues, piles and sore lady bits! All part of the glory of pregnancy isn’t it. I remember it well from my dd1 though and I had quite a few little cries about it all and at same time all the hormones going crazy! I wish you all a speedy recovery!

@rayM sorry to hear about your emergency c-section and the complications afterwards, it must have been scary! But sounds like you have a lovely little one to make up for it!

As for me I’m still pregnant 40 wks +5 and no sign of going into labour yet!! Hoping to come on this thread soon with some news!

Hey all and congratulations on your lottle ones! Mine was born 1sr March.. looking for all advice x

What kind of advice are you after doxiepoxie? Is this your first? Well done on reaching the first month!

I have struggled with the amount of crying my LO does during the day... he is never settled unless on my boob. I really can't do a lot as he always wants to be held too..

Sorry to hear that. It sounds hard. Does he sleep? I don't have experience with this. Have you spoken to a health visitor or doctor? Does he seem uncomfortable? Do you have a sling? We are still struggling with sore nipples at 3.5 weeks! Hope you have a good night.

From what I've read here on MN it's normal @doxiepoxie, sorry that won't help and it sounds hard and exhausting. But it should get better. I would give your health visitor a phone and see if she has any advice!

Really sorry to hear about your mum's @Vickylou78 and @TheMrs04.

@RayM my goodness that sounds scary! Glad you're recovering well. I agree best plan is to have no plan! Have reassured my pregnant friend that although my loose plan went completely tits up I have no regrets.

How is everyone ? DS is now 17 days old and we're doing pretty well. Tough doing the night feeds now that dad is back to work (anyone else get new mum insomnia? That's a bloody killer) but I'm learning. He's quite refluxy so half the battle is keeping the feed down! Poor thing.

@GWeatherwax I agree, I think you just have to be prepared that birth might not be everything you wanted it to be. My husband goes back to work Monday so have had help during the nights so far - SO nervous about doing night feeds and changes by myself! Sorry to hear about babies reflux.

Hi @doxiepoxie. Congratulations on your baby! My little one was attached to the boob constantly until I realised I had run out of milk during one feed and needed to change boobs! Can you tell I’m a first time Mum?! 😂🤦🏼‍♀️. My boobs are wrecked too - I’m struggling to get her to open her mouth wide enough and latch properly. Starting to dread the next feed coz of the pain 🙁. I really need to speak to my health visitor when she next comes.

Congratulations to all the new mamas! Does anyone else feel overwhelmed?! I have a toddler (adopted at 6 months so having a newborn is new to me) and I keep having moments of panic when thinking about getting two children dressed and out of the house!
Also, I am still having some weepy moments and my breasts are leaking.
My baby is a lush little chunk. :)

Cute face.

@hiptobeasquare hello. What a cutie!!! Yes very panicky about how I’m going to cope on my own! Currently worrying about anything and everything which is taking time away from me where I could just be catching up on sleep!

Hi all and congrats to anyone who's welcomed a new baby recently.

Dd is 4 weeks now and I can certainly relate to the unsettled baby thing - I'm on my third unsettled baby in fact

Yes it really does get better with time but it's tiring. Lots of boobing and walking and jiggling needed. IME it is likely reflux. Yesterday we gave dd some baby gaviscon and will try that for a week or so and see if it makes any difference. With my others it was just a hard slog from about weeks 3-12 when they can get pretty colicky or refluxy so I'm kind of mentally battening down the hatches. For now she is still doing okay at night which I'm really grateful for.

I also recommend a sling, I'd be screwed without mine. Have the stretchy Kari Me wrap which is fiddly to put on but does really work and doesn't hurt your back.

For those with sore nipples, would you get the baby checked for tongue tie? Mine got hers released at just under 2 weeks old and oh the relief.

Hi everyone pleased to say I can finally join you although feel a bit of a fraud as didn’t quite make ‘march’
Baby boy arrived early hours of Thursday 5th April!

Pleased to say I’m out of hospital and settling in at home. It’s quite a feat dealing with a newborn and two other DC’s but hoping that’ll get easier.

I haven’t had a chance to read through this thread yet but hope you are all doing well with your newborns and I look forward to talking with you all about the ups and downs ahead of us

Congratulations @Crapbags 🎉 finally 😂! Haha you should stay on this thread - we’ve already made it this far together! Did you go into labour naturally? Wow, you have a lot on your plate. Hope you all get into a routine quickly xx.

@HalfStar You’re right, I should get her checked for tongue tie coz I don’t want to have to give up on breastfeeding. I can’t wait for this to get easier, I’m not doing very well with all the pain I feel... everywhere! Thanks for the good advice.