August 2016. Anyone got the hang of their babies yet?!!

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Thought I'd start a new thread. Unimaginative title but E has spent the whole day grizzling/feeding/sleeping on me so I'm running on limited capacity!

Biscuits remind me how old your DS is again?

I haven't even thought about Christmas at all yet!

He is nearly 3.5 (born mid June 2013) Bella

Are you currently looking around schools too Biscuits?

No. We're in Scotland so he doesn't start primary school until August 2018. He will go to the local council preschool nursery next August, topped up with the private nursery we already use who provide wraparound care to the local nursery and primary.

There are only 2 primary schools in this catchment - one RC and one non-denominational. He will go to the non-denominationa one.

Ahh Biscuits sorry I think you've told me this before!! My memory is shocking

So, DS's illness took a nose dive today and he was white as a sheet. He has hardly eaten all week DH helped settle DD tonight and eventually came storming upstairs at 2am, he said he was quite annoyed because he had apparently tried to put her down 8 times and she wasn't having it. Turns out she now has a cough and is very distressed over it I'm feeling quite nervous as tummy sleeping isn't great in these situations where she is struggling to breathe. Looks like I'll be getting v little sleep in the next few days I was really hoping she might escape this horrible illness but maybe BF will heal her faster I really hope so!

I feel your pain pear my DD has the worst cold. Sounds like a wee piglet sleeping next to me. She was only getting up once in the night but the past two night has been 4/5 to feed, think she wants the comfort. She's got snot streaming, wee red eyes and a cough. Poor toot.

There must be something in the air. Coughs and colds galore here too. DD is okay by day but a stotty puddle by night. DS has a horrid cough and is shattered by it. I had to carry him home from the shop yesterday and he fell asleep in my arms!
It's bloody freezing too. Minus two ish and beautifully frosty but arsing cold!

Last night gave me the first hint of the 4 month sleep regression...DS I love you dearly but don't need to see you every 40 minutes through the night... 💤

Omg I think I'm getting sick too Totally paranoid that I'm going to get this snotty cough lol Feel it heading towards me!!!

On another note... I've been reading lots of articles about the effects of having a second baby on marriages. It's really helping me understand the shock wave and pressure it has put on mine. I started to feel that maybe it was all driven by my crazy BF hormones but I'm very relieved to read that what I'm going through with my DH is very normal and far more common. I guess it's just not talked about in RL circles which is a shame. Anyway, if anyone else is experiencing a blip in their marriage since the arrival of no2 then I just wanted to share that it's totally normal and apparently more common then you realise and if you Google it then you will be relieved to read you're not alone!

Biscuits Oh no not you too You guys definitely deserve a sickness break in your household!

I've had DH at home this weekend which has just been a life saver!! He's been great at giving me sleep so I don't feel too deprived so I'm still managing on 4hrs in the night even though the kids are playing tag for running temperatures. Also, because both dc have been so poorly they pretty much slept all afternoon so we got to catch up on Tv time during the day. That sort of thing just feels like a massive luxury!!

What poor you I guess this is something I won't suffer from. Didn't notice with DS either. My friend shared this weekend that her Dd also didn't stretch more between 3hr feeds until she was weaned. It does help to be reminded of this. I can't believe we will all be weaning in approx 3 months! Maybe less for some Soon we will all be moaning about teething! Although I am going to try the teething anklet this time so I'll be sailing through it ha ha!!

One thing BF makes me so grateful for is the comfort it brings when they're sick! Reminds me that my fight for BF has been worth it even though it's been tough. TG I can BF through this horrible cough. I really don't know how I would help Dd otherwise Must be so so hard if you can't BF

Oh and I got my dietician appt for Jan 13th. Feels way too long away!

Absolutely pear I don't know how to manage without boob comfort either! Hope you manage to dodge the lurgy.

I'm not surprised that many relationships struggle with the arrival of a baby. I think the only reason we are finding it remotely easier on us as a couple this time is that DD doesn't have reflux. DS had dreadful reflux and that combined with first baby etc left us reeling. This time we generally remember to still be kind to each other and mostly still feel like a team. Mostly!

DD, who still does multiple poo per day has gone over 24hrs. She's a ticking bomb isn't she?

Oh and re 2nd baby thing - that's probably why quite a few folk readjust family plans. We have quite a few friends who initially wanted 3+ children. And then don't do that!

Biscuits yes you're probably right about couples adjusting family size plans. However, the articles I read all say that couples don't suffer from adding a third into the mix as much as a second. Personally I feel a third would be a doddle for us after having two difficult babies Plus I have to have a planned c-section next time which will take a lot of pressure off the beginning but then add more complications no doubt. Why am I yet again thinking about no3....fruit loop

I have now got a cold. Knew it Pray I've dodged the cough!

Oh and DD goes 2 days without pooing still. Multiple poos do happen though. Good luck with poonami heading your way Biscuits

That makes sense that 3 is less of an adjustment because it is presumably closer in experience to having 2 children, unlike going from 0-1 or 1-2. But yes, total fruit loop
Having just given DS a row for climbing into DD's snuzpod (am amazed it can hold him to be honest) I think I would spend a lot of the time being a type of parent that I don't want to be with three or more children. Hats off to those who can do it though!

Still waiting for the floodgates to open. Yesterday's was SPECTACULAR.

We've found the step from 2-3 less stressful but I think the larger age gap between ds2 and ds3 has helped and ds1 and ds2 are completely codependent and do everything together as well as having one at school one at preschool. Overall our expectations are different too, we don't expect any time on our own but when we get even a little bit we both make the most of it. I am a much more shouty mother than I ever hoped I would be though 😥...

On another note I think ds3 has just cut his first tooth which would account for very unsettled angsty baby, poor little boy!

pear isnt there some stat about lots of couples breaking up during the first year after having a baby? I think it really highlights any pre-existing problems that could be easily ignored when you just have 2 adults to worry about, but suddenly become glaringly obvious once you add a small person into the mix. i think it depends on the type of baby you get too - DD pushed us as a couple (and me as an individual!) to the brink. We've been fine this time round, but ds is a vastly easier baby. It definitely helps. We are 'not not trying' iykwim - not bothering with contraception, but I am bf so we're just seeing what happens. Totally up for #3, we'll be stopping after that though for a few years at least
Re weaning - DS is 4mo tomorrow so only a couple of months to go! Cant imagine him eating actual food, he's going to love it though I reckon. He's a right little fatty
Sorry to all those suffering through sickness. We've miraculously managed to dodge multiple bouts of d&v & noro so far from various sources. Praying the resilient streak continues!
Been plodding through the 4-month sleep regression, it's been pretty full-on. DS was worse than he was as a newborn, up constantly, so unsettled, I was knackered. Finally culminated in me shouting at DD on Saturday morning and then crying (am not usually a crier). DH took DS that night and he slept all night bar 2 tiny wake-ups and was much better last night, so I'm really hoping we've broken the back of it. He's also randomly decided that he likes the dummy now, having refused it since he was born. The last 2 days he's settled really well with it. I'm not complaining!
Am semi-prepared for Xmas here - got quite a few things already and lots of ideas for everyone. There seem to be soooo many people to buy for this year - I'm sorting lots of DH's family as well as mine. Trying to be organised but there never seems to be enough hours in the day!

Omg that's exciting...mis calculated time...you're right Four I only have 2 months to wait not 3! Omg where did that 16 weeks go?!?! You're amazing to be dtd again so soon! Well for me it feels soon but that's probably because I don't feel 100% right yet Good news that your DS has excepted the dummy. Very helpful for you and even better that your DH has helped get you back into a routine. Must feel amazing to have a full night sleep. I can't remember that feeling...how weird is that! It will happen for me again soon...hopefully

My Dd has just found her thumb which has helped settle her on a few recent occasions. Amazing! I didn't believe DH when he told me but I've seen it myself tonight. She is so bunged up bless her I've just given her some calpol to try and help. Not sure it will but I feel like I need to try as her temp is a little raised.

I've booked the hairdresser on Thursday. I'm not taking Dd this time and I don't know whether that's a mistake or not I really want DH to walk around town but I know that is a bit unfair of me as that will be really hard with two. I just feel like it's going to be a really unrelaxed visit knowing she could be hungry at home as the apt will last 2hrs 15 and it takes 25min to drive each way. I think the reality is he might have to come. Not sure how to break this news best Maybe by telling him he could kill 30 minutes in Starbucks!

Right, Dd is asleep I think!

Oh man I've just had poonami in the middle of the night I've just bathed Dd at 1:30am...nothing else better to clean up the mess I'm glad DH wasn't on duty as he would have freaked out and woken me up

DD has another temperature It's weird how DH can't see these things. Straight away when he passed her over at 1am I knew she had one just by feeling her body heat. Bless her, this cold and cough is really a nasty one to beat!

4 months old and I definitely have a thumb sucker I really hope this means that in time DD will learn to settle herself to sleep a little. I've put her down and she's already squirming but keeps closing her eyes a little so she is trying. It's hard to know whether to keep the nightlight on or off. She seems to fuss more if I turn it off. My babies are not simple to please

Oh no pear you poor thing! Fingers crossed the efffect is for her to be more comfy and sleep a little better?! We have a thumb sucker here too-so cute!

We have a wannabe thumb sucker too. Thumb and a finger or two at the moment. Or the cuff of her sleeve :)

Poor you pear Poorly babies are so sad. I hope she perks up soon.

Thanks ladies. She finally nodded off at 3 and woke at 6.

Need advice please! Dd has 4 months jabs tomorrow morning. I forgot that we have a 3 year old soft play party to go to in the morning. Do you think think this is a very bad idea? I can't remember how Dd reacted to the first jabs. She wasn't happy was she?! Hmmmm I'm not sure what to do. Stupidly I've already told DS that we're going to the party and not nursery. I know...dumb dumb me.