September 2016: the one where they arrive

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Couldn't find a thread already going so let's get one started!

My DS2 was born 11/09/2016 19.51 weighing 8lb 7oz.

I already have DS1 aged 3 who has just started nursery school in the mornings.

Morning may I join ?

DD2 born 12 Sept weighing 6lb 15oz.

DD1 is a teenager so this all feels like the first time again.

Hourly feeding going on and I am surviving on tea.

Can I join? Ds born 5th sep weighing 7lb9

I have a dd who is 2.5 as well.

Surviving on very little sleep and a bit worried about next week when dh is back at work and I'm in sole charge of two little ones full time! Dd goes to nursery but only two mornings a week (also just started)

Welcome and good morning! all round, I'm sure we all need the caffeine.

5 days old today which means that it's heel prick test day.

Ah the heel prick seems so mean doesn't it! My midwife did it while ds was feeding and he let out one little cry then went back to feeding again. Worked a treat!

I have a question. Ds is 11 days old today, is it ok that I've eaten chocolate every day since I had him?! I will stop this habit next week when dh is back at work (that's what I keep telling myself anyway). But today I'm going to Lidl and heard their chocolate is really good...

Of course! Daily chocolate is not only ok it is an essential requirement, your still recovering from labour, surviving on little sleep and if your breast feeding you need extra calories to make good quality milk.

Hello can I join please?

DS was born 13/09/16 weighing 9lbs 5oz and 10 days late. I already have a DS who is 5.5. Have been home from hospital a couple of days and feeling tired although DS is pretty chilled out!

Hi all

DS was born on 13/09/16 weighing 8lb 6.5oz and was born after a 3hr labour, 13 days late. Already have a DD who is 3 and loves her new little brother.

So far DS has been good at night hoping praying it continues

Hello Jen and Millie. How are you little ones doing?

At day 5 check today he had only gained 20g's the midwife assistant who came to do it ended up getting me in a flap about feeding and seemed to give me loads of conflicting information. I'm just going to keep doing what I have been doing and hopefully we will see a better weight gain on Sunday when his next check is.

women just keep doing what your doing. Most babies lose weight to start with so i wouldn't worry.

DS is doing great, cant believe he's 3 days old already! Off for a newnorn photoshoot tomorrow. Ventured out today to do thr food shop and he slept all the way round

Five day weigh in tomorrow so we shall see. DD feeds all night so I am hoping that will have helped with the weight gain.

I had a not so fun elective c section so won't be venturing out in the near future. Not sure my boobs would get out of the door anyway !

DS is doing well thanks. 5 day check on Sunday. I am mostly formula feeding this time, which is a decision I thought I was ok with but the hormones have left me in tears a lot worrying that I've made the wrong decision. I've breast fed a bit but I start to panic about it.

I had an horrendous time breastfeeding DS1, I ended up in hospital with sepsis and it's not an experience I would want to repeat. I have very little memory of DS1's first two weeks as I was so ill. I thought this time round I would be OK with formula feeding and whilst DS seems happy enough I feel like I'm not doing my best for him. I just can't get over the fear of being so ill again. Sorry, bit of a late night, hormonal off-load there.

Awww millie please try not to feel like your not doing your best. I bet your doing amazing. I too struggled with DD and stressed no end about it as had to formula feed so this tome round was worried too. You've given it a go and thats all you can do. Have you considered maybe combined feeding? Or pumping a little?

Millie do not think that at all! I too had a terrible time breast feeding with DS1 although not as bad as you and I got myself so stressed out and upset at the time it was awful. As soon as I was finally brave enough to switch to formula he was a different baby and I started to love feeding him instead of dreading it. I had also said to myself that if things didn't go to plan Id just give DS2 formula but now it's come to it I'm fighting trying to breast feed again. Already one of my nipples is too painful to feed from so I'm expressing from that side and giving in a bottle and breast feeding from the other. A couple of nights ago he had 1 bottle of formula as I was just exhausted and he was wanting to feed constantly and that made me feel so guilty. I understand how your feeling but please don't, having a happy healthy Mummy is more important to him than a bit of boobie juice.

I hope that makes sense, I'm exhausted! Still no sleep yet and ignore any typos.

Thanks Jen and Women. I had another go at breast feeding after my post and I think it has cleared in my mind that I've made the right decision for us. The pain was unbearable and my milk went everywhere. DS couldn't latch and we both ended up stressed out, it's taken an hour to settle him. He's a much happier and more content baby on formula and my mental health won't take quite such a battering. I've got a breast pump so going to try expressing tomorrow to see how that goes. I've got to do something, my boobs are massive and so painful! Thanks for calming me down (until my next hormonal rant ). Hope all the babies are behaving tonight!

to everyone breastfeeding is bloody difficult and you need to do what's best for your health too. I had a blocked duct a couple of days ago and have spent a lot of the last few days crying! Has cleared up now and my boobs feel normal again thank goodness so I'll be taking it a day at a time. I bf my dd and was always quite prone to blocked ducts so at least I'm more experienced at clearing it now.

I'm impressed you did the food shopping Jen I went yesterday and ds is 11 days old not 3 and he did sleep all the way round but my toddler hadn't had a nap and was being a pain and I totally lost patience with her. I very nearly cried at the till because they wouldnt let me use a voucher I had!

Ds almost slept 4 hours in a row at the beginning of the night but then ruined it by being awake for 2 hours and then waking every half hour - hour after that. So tired!

to everyone.

So today iv got boobs like Jordan. Im guessing my milks come in

Not had many visitors so far which has been nice as its meant that DD has had chance to bond with her new brother. Just going to relax today as think iv done a bit too much this morning and my SPD is back well it never left with vengeance

Jen definitely relax and put your feet up! It's hard not to do too much I know I have been sometimes just because I get fed up sitting around!

We have had lots of visitors today expecting some friends in a minute as well and I am just so exhausted I'd like to tell everyone to bugger off so I can go to bed. But that would seem a bit unfair! Im really feeling the tiredness today.

My boobs are huge too and leaking constantly. Have had a lazy day today and feeling very emotional although I'm not sure why. So in love with DS I could cry! Hormones are strange things Also feeling a bit like I've got cabin fever from being in the house. Have got 5 day check tomorrow so that will get us out of the house. We went out earlier too but the afternoon has seemed long.

We've not really had any visitors. My parents came to see me and DS in hospital on Tuesday night, then to the house on Wednesday. PILs came over briefly on Wednesday night. Both sets are now away on holiday, although mine are back on Tuesday. Maybe that's why I feel a bit meh!

Ive been very emotional today too, spent most of the day tucked up with DS2 crying over everything and nothing. He has not been off my boob today!

How's DS coping with a new baby and settling in to nursery women?
I'n due tomorrow, DD's been going to nursery in the mornings for 2 weeks now and has settled in well, worried that she'll think I'm pushing her away when her brother comes!

Panad my dd started nursery 4 days after my ds was born and there were a few years the first day but she has been fine since then and has loved the fact that the baby comes to pick her up as well! I'm sure it will all be fine.

I've been pretty emotional today and yesterday just feeling stressed and tired and fed up. My dh goes back to work next week and I am both terrified of coping on my own and looking forward to getting back into a routine of sorts!

Panad my DS is actually coping really well, he absolutely loves nursery and likes to help look after DS2. The only problem we are having is with his sleep, he has regressed really badly with his sleep, wants to sleep with us and is awake for at least an hour most nights! This in turn means in the afternoon he is terrible at listen and he is just generally on hyper over-drive!!! Hope your baby turns up soon

Thankyou both for the reassurance! Good to hear both are doing well. DD loves her nursery too!
Dreading bed time with her as she is the same as your DS!! She goes to bed at 7pm every night, sleeps in her bed until about 2am and sleeps with us. And I've been too lazy tired to take ger back to her bed!
Thankyou!

Managed to express about 60ml of breast milk and DS has drunk half of it Think I will try one bottle of expressed milk a day as a compromise to start with and see how we go. At least then DS is getting some breast milk. Hoping for a half decent amount of sleep tonight!