March 2016 - quick, a new thread!

[Swearwolf]

Sorry for the terrible title, I saw the old thread was up to 996 posts and panicked!

Ooh don't I feel important

A first for CC last night - DD settled herself in a couple of minutes and without doing her usual trick of crawling til she is lying across the bottom of the cot, head pressed to the bars. From a start on 3/10 with at least 40 mins of crying it has been a steady reduction nightly. Fingers crossed this is it cracked - at least for a few weeks.

Crawling going great guns, if she is fixed on something she is suprisingly fast. She is convinced she can stand too, pulling herself up on anything.

I'm back to work on wed so been doing boring spring clean, menu planning stuff in prep. Think DD is definately ready for the greater interaction at nursery (and their soft play beats our sofa or her activity mat) will still be hard to leave her though.

Good to hear weaning going well for others, I must get some bits ready in the next few days. I've realised when doing this how often we eat spicy stuff I can't just feed her.

Good luck with going back to work french.

Great to hear from you Missi, Z seems to be doing so well considering he was so early.

Like you, I miss sleep DS was up last night from 2.30am until 5. I just don't know what to do with him, nothing seems to be working anymore to settle him. He just seems to want to be awake for 2 hours every night. I'm feeling very down and quite tearful. I hate what sleep deprivation does to me - when I get up to go to DS for the 20th time and I've been awake for 2 hours I get really cross with him and don't handle him gently. Don't get me wrong I would never hurt him but I am not exactly being nice to him which makes me feel even worse and like such a bad mother.

me does he wake up crying or is he playing /active ? Have you tried putting him next to you . You're not a bad mother , broken sleep is really draining . I'm really short with my other kids when ds has had a crap night and they're aware of it although I always say am sorry it's cus I've had a bad night . Some nights are better than others but ds has some sort of bug at the moment and is up with d and v although he's seeing it as an excuse to play . I can't cope with broken sleep well it's the worst for me. Do you nap when he does? That's the only thing saving my sanity at the moment

Great to hear from you Missi. I'm glad Z is still doing so well.

Me I know exactly what you mean. It's just so so frustrating when you are tired and they won't bloody sleep. And then you feel guilty because you know they can't help it but...arrrgh. I'm sure this phase will pass (eventually).

Sher I hope your ds feels better soon. There seem to be a lot of bugs around at the moment.

french great news on the cc success. I'm very jealous!

I've finally worked out what's been wrong with ds2 - he has hand foot and mouth. I noticed he had a couple of tiny blisters on his fingers the other day and I woke up this morning to find my own hands, feet and mouth covered in them. I'm a bit annoyed because I showed the spotty rash he had around his groin to the gp on Friday and he completely missed that diagnosis. If I'd known what was going on I could've done things to help. Nevermind. Just hoping we're all better by the weekend because we're supposed to be visiting my db and his family and I don't want dn or pregnant dsil to get it.

trinpy anbesol liquid is brilliant for the mouth ulcers you get with hand foot and mouth. I hope you feel better soon - I've had it twice from DS, and it's not nice.

Ooh good idea mship I'll do that. Eating is very uncomfortable at the minute. I should have guessed his mouth was sore when he kept refusing his dummy. I feel really bad about it now.

Me I agree with Sher about putting ds in bed with you if that helps. We have done this with E on awful nights just to get some sleep, then you feel more able to tackle the next day. You are not a bad mum either, we all get frustrated and I totally know what you mean about not being as gentle when you are tired and upset. I've been there too. Can your dh do a shift of getting up so you can get some sleep?

Missy great to hear from you.

French good luck going back!

Sher and Trin wishing your babies better soon

Thanks for the sympathy sher and purple. My fallback last resort option in the past has always been to put him in with me but the last few nights even that has not been working to settle him. He doesn't cry when he wakes up but sort of moans/whinges making a repeated "mmmnnnhh" sound. It's quite loud though and I can hear it through two doors. He's not wanting to play, he just lies there moaning. Sometimes it stops for 5 mins and I think phew he's gone back to sleep but then it starts up again

We have decided that he's probably hungry. He does seem to be going through a growth spurt at the moment and is eating absolutely loads of solids. He has dropped a bottle during the day but maybe really he still needs it. He has not needed night feeds for so long that I have been reluctant to start offering milk in the night again in case it becomes a habit but there's no point me sitting up for 2 hours if milk might solve the problem. So tonight we're going to try a dream feed at 11ish and if he still wakes and isn't resettled within 5/10 mins then I'll just give milk straight away instead of faffing around for an hour and then giving it, by which time he's really awake and then won't settle even after the milk.

I know I'm not a bad mum really but this morning I just felt so guilty, he was so lovely and cheeky and giggly when we got up that I felt awful for being less than gentle with him in the night.

sher hope your DS gets over his D&V soon, poor mite.

Trinpy I second the anbesol recommendation, I discovered it long before I had DS when I used to get awful mouth ulcers, magical stuff.

So DH was up at 4 as he's off away on a course this woke DS up and he's been wide awake ever since! I have a feeling this is going to be a loooooong week he's also full of cold which doesn't help... Hope everyone else is doing ok, the other poorly babies are better and that those of you who are tired have had a better nights sleep!

me I had a wonder week notification today so could the night waking be linked to a developmental leap? I haven't read the relevant chapter yet so don't know what this leap is about yet.

Ooh I was wondering if it was a leap MrsE. Sleep has gone to pot here too, S has always been a relatively good sleeper but has gone from waking once or twice to waking throughout the night. Not sure how many times or how far apart as I just semi wake up, bring her into bed, feed her lying down and stick her back in her cot when she's done, but it's definitely a lot and I'm exhausted! Sympathy to everyone else suffering!

Thanks MrsElls, DS is 33 weeks old this week so according to wonder weeks this should be a sunny time! He has so much going on developmentally though, his sleep has been crap for about a month and in that time he's learnt to commando crawl, quickly progressing to proper crawling and now pulling himself up, he's also just starting to babble proper sounds now! So I think his little brain is just going crazy.

We did a dream feed at half 10 last night and he went through until 5.30 this morning. Not amazing, considering he always used to go to 5.30 without a dream feed, but a considerable improvement on the 4am or even earlier of the last few weeks, so I'll take it for now!

Me glad you had a better night even though it isn't back to as good as before. Between about 3-4months E could sleep from 7pm-3am with no feeds or waking but now she always needs one around 11pm and then another in the early morning.

I have a poorly baby tonight, she has been coughing again but to be honest that isn't anything new but tonight we have a temp too, only just over 38 so not awful but not normal. And without being a selfish cow we are supposed to be having a night away for our wedding anniversary which I'm so looking forward to on Saturday. So now I'm fretting she is ill and fretting we'll have to cancel. We are also all off to Holland next Monday to see my db. Why does children and illness always come at busy times?

I saw this picture a while back on a Facebook group I joined and I just love it because it makes me do a big sigh of happy relief. Thought I'd share with everyone

Oh I love that pic purple we should all remember that.

I've just made it out of the Sainsbury's half price toy sale alive, there's loads of great stuff but it's only in store not online, I was in there for over an hour because it was so busy!

Morning ladies, me up at 4am again. So we've been trying a dream feed for DS the last 3 nights - it worked the first night but not the last 2 because his nappy is leaking - it obviously can't cope with the extra liquid from the dream feed. He sleeps on his front and it is seeping out of the waistband at the top. Any thoughts on what I can do to stop this? We use pampers baby dry nappies at night and he is in size 4. I already bought the 4+ extra absorbency ones. Should I change his nappy at the dream feed, which will wake him up fully and maybe take a while to settle him back down? Because of where it's seeping out, at the waist, I'm not sure extra liners will work. Anyone got any ideas?

Purple that picture is so sweet.

We are awake again for the 3rd day running too Me! For us I have no idea why he's been sleeping through the last week and I had thought we had cracked it just in time for my return to work in a few weeks but he's clearly decided 3:30/4 is awake time now! He's just drank 6 oz and is now gargling away!
As for the leaking nappies I don't have much advise really sorry, I've found pampers to be fairly good but DS doesn't sleep on his front yet. Maybe changing at the dream feed is a good idea maybe try it tonight and see how awake it leaves him? You never know you've probably got it down to such a fine art now he might not wake up at all. Sorry I couldn't be of more help...

me do you know what ds weighs now? I've found pampers size 4 to be leaky through the night, R is 19lbs 8oz. Boots own brand have been great this last week or so though so could be worth a try? I think pampers are quite small fitting.

We now have a regular 4:30am wake up too, no cries but loud chats. He's not hungry as is easily soothed back to sleep until 6 by coming in with us and even at 6 isn't always fussed about his 1st bottle. Was also going to go away for a night soon for my 30th but if he's waking at 4:30 and only settles back off by being in our bed then I don't know what to do?! My dm has said it's only one night of broken sleep for her. But it seems so unfair.

Q DS is about the same as R, 19lb9 at last weigh in which was about 2 weeks ago. Maybe I should try another brand. We've never had leaks before so it does seem to be related to the dream feed, I might try changing him tonight as quick as I can after the dream feed and hope that he settles back down ok.

I feel the same as you about leaving DS with someone else for the night, it seems unfair to expect my parents to be up half the night. They have offered to have him at the weekend to give me a break. I am so tired I think I will accept. It will be my first night away from him, which I will no doubt feel a bit wobbly about!

I can confirm that the Boots 4+s are doing a sterling job overnight here (good job too considering the quantity I bought!). I've no idea how much DS2 weighs though. I'm guessing around 9kg (whatever that is in lbs).

One more day till half term...

Sainsburys own size 4 doing the job here though have mixed reviews. Only about £3 for about 45-50 so may be worth a go. We do last feed about 8-9 and she is good til 7 or so the next morning, no leaks. She has slept on her front for a few months.

Return to work okay though frazzling my brain a bit - it is based on 1-1 tuition for a 4h stretch and I think I have to refind the ability to concentrate for so long. I get a break but use it to express and gulp a sandwich. Expressing (mainly in train toilets) going okay, only had to defrost 4 bags of milk for the past 3 days but part of that is DD saving her hunger for my return. The first day she took only 150ml in just over 8hrs .

I am joining all those whose babies' sleep has gone to pot as I am back to feeding in the night til she gets better at bottle feeding when I am away. Sympathy to all those also affected and - for those back at work - Roll on the weekend!

I say my return to work is okay but just remembered I Nearly cried yesterday (1st day back at work) when I heard a baby crying in the street. Need to get a grip...

Hope the swift change works me
And good luck with the night away from him, guaranteed you won't sleep a wink with worry too
dom I didn't get as good of a bargain as you but did get 240 boots nappies for £17 so I'll take that as a good deal.

me dd2 is 19lb 6 oz on weigh in last week and we've got her in aldi size 4 nappies with no leaks (and anywhere from 1-3 feeds a night). They are also very cheap so might be worth a try.

Sleep is all over the place in this house. Had two nights in the last week where she's slept through and a few where she's had three wakes by 2am and I've had to co sleep with her. She only had one wake last night but I woke at 4am with an IBS attack and terrible stomach cramps. Typical!

Back to work in 5 weeks time. I really need to talk to my boss about taking holiday etc as I'm hoping to go part time in December with holiday then full time in Jan when dd2 starts nursery.

We have sainsburys sz 4+ for night time whicheck were previously good but we had a massive leaky the night before last because ds2 wanted an extra feed during the night (which I guess must be some development/growth spurt if other babies are doing it). I changed him after his dream feed last night and he did take a little longer to settle but he was quite sleepy from the milk still so it wasn't too awful.

I always feel massively jealous of those of you posting about your babies sleeping through the night or only waking up once . Recently has been particularly bad with ds2 being ill but we had the best nights sleep yet last night - last feed was around midnight then he slept through until 6.30! I was so shocked when I checked the time!

Those of you who've gone back to work full time, how are you finding it? I've started looking at jobs I can apply for and thinking I might like to up my hours now but I feel a bit sad about not seeing ds2 so much.

The hand foot and mouth is clearing here. Only a few blisters (and many many mouth ulcers) left to go so we're still going away this weekend. More and more people we know are coming down with it now though so I think we must have unknowingly infected everyone last week .

It's a Friday night and I'm off out with no dh and no dc's! Can't remember the last time I did this! The head of my department is leaving work so its a trip into London. I'm already planning on when I can leave, dh is on swimming and gymnastics duty with ds in the morning so I have to be in a fit state to cope with dd on my own for a few hours.