March 2016 - quick, a new thread!

[Swearwolf]

Sorry for the terrible title, I saw the old thread was up to 996 posts and panicked!

Ooh don't I feel important

We've had the same with the poos me! She's been struggling a little and they're quite solid and much smaller and just don't smell as much. I've definitely left her in one longer than I should have because I didn't smell it, have taken to having a quick peek in the side of her nappy whenever she grizzles!

I didn't know about the risk assessment thing either. I didnt have one when I went back to work after ds1 but my work is very bf-unfriendly generally and I went back at 11 months so I think they probably assumed I was ff. I had a pregnancy risk assessment with both pregnancies - 1st one was crap and the woman who did it missed several potential risks to my baby's health (luckily a colleague told me what to watch out for), but the second one was great and took about three times as long because it was so detailed!

I'm sorry to hear about the work problems. It's shocking that in 2016 some managers still have this attitude to working mothers .

Ds2 hasn't been sleeping normally for over 2 weeks now and the sleep deprivation is starting to get to me I think! I've no idea what his problem is - yesterday evening he just wouldn't settle at all then he's waking up crying every hour at least during the night.

Oh God oh God, ds has had a sickness bug for the last couple of days, it's just hit me full force. I'm hunched over the toilet in a whole load of pain while the boy eats his dinner and the baby cries in her cot. Hurry up and get home DH! What the hell am I going to do tomorrow if I still feel like this??

Oh Swear poor you. I had loads of sickness bugs when I started teaching nursery and ds joined nursery and I know how awful they are. I had to make dh stay home from work because all I could do was lay there and whimper. Is that a possibility for you tomorrow?

Me same here with poo, lots of grunting and real poo which she doesn't seem to like. I can't say she is constipated though so I guess she has to get used to the change. No smell either, stealth poo really until you open the nappy.

It's partly that, Me but mainly ensuring the health and wellbeing of women who could get mastitis (or just be physically uncomfortable) without adequate pumping facilities. IME very few people realise this!

Sounds like a harsh night (understatement!), but glad you've got the nursery place sorted.

Oof, Trin, that does sound hard. Hope it resolves soon.

Oh no Swear. Your DH is going to have to stay home!

Lots of all round.

I think I will have to make him stay home. I've at least stopped throwing up and pooping, most likely because I'm completely empty, and can at least keep water down. The baby has it too! She's throwing up every feed and I'm worried about dehydration, her nappy is quite dry. And we're having to go cold turkey on the sleepyhead as it's covered in sick, she's currently jammed in sideways and complaining at me. Urgh! But hey, maybe I'll lose a couple of pounds of baby weight, always a silver lining!

swear everyone in our house has had the sickness bug, for me it lasted bang on 24 hours then I just felt a bit weak because I hadn't eaten. Unfortunately by that point dh had it so I had to recover pretty quickly as couldn't get him to do anything and of course the man version is worse and lasts longer

Ahh I hope so MrsE, I'm done with this shit! I thought we were feeling better but after a tiny bit of toast I feel horrible again, and the baby seemed better and actually fed, but just chundered everywhere and is now snoozing on me. Dh has the morning off and has taken ds to preschool, but he has to go in at lunchtime which I'm kinda dreading already!

Sympathies swear, i had a bug/food poisoning last weekend and it was awful. Was just lucky it was on a Saturday so dh was about as no way I could cope otherwise.

Kind of dropped off the thread recently as so busy. Struggling a little with dd2 now and the fact that she very clearly wants more routine than we have. With dd1 i had gone back to work at this point so i never really had maternity leave with a baby who needed some routine and i keep cocking it up and taking her out when she needs to nap and ending up with an overtired baby, or having to cancel plans (like today when she fell asleep on the boob when i was already half an hour late to leave to meet some mum friends). She will only nap at home in her cot really (occasionally in the sling) as she's too distracted by everything. So i feel a bit tied down to the house. I've also been doing more and more og my job (academic research work) and struggling to find time to do it so working some evenings. I'm on statutory pay now so not even getting paid to do work so feel like im ready to go back to work now. I don't really want to, but its more like a realisation that maternity leave is a break from reality (work, career, being the main breadwinner) and reality is beginning to bite! Its sad as I've loved being home with dd2 but being a stay at home parent will never be my life and i do think she will thrive in a nursery environment with a bit more routine. But at the same time I don't want to let her go!

Quite a few people have dropped off thread,i I wonder how maybe or time are doing?

Poor you swear hope it is a 24h thing. Dreading the germs DD and I will bring from nursery and work commute as of next week, we've been in a nice closed bubble during maternity leave.

We are trying controlled crying here as DDs 10-15 mins to drop off with us quitly shushing had extended to an hour or so which killed all time with DH. For a week she cried for 30-40 mins or so with visits at 10, 22 etc and we were debating what else to try. Only 13 mins last night though so fingers crossed it will work longer term. I know a few people here were trying, any verdicts/tips??

Me great news on the nursery, I was so much more relaxed once I had a place for DD. Then the company went into administration - which had me paniking big time - but was taken over with same staff so no practical changes for us. Shame that you have battles elsewhere. My employer is good re pumping but I am seconded elsewhere for the next couple of months so planning a face to face chat when I start next wed re fridge access at the very least (been told no access but think they assume it is for my sarnies, hope thay are more flexible for breastmilk/pump..).

french my work brought in a no lunch in the fridge policy when I was pregnant, I sent them a link to the NHS website which basically said eating unrefridgerated food could cause miscarriage/still birth and got special exemption immediately. I thought they had to provide a fridge for bm by law?

I often wonder how the others are doing, particularly beaut, hopefully no news means they are all doing great.

Are you feeling better today Swear? That bug sounds awful, you poor thing. I'm completely dreading when ds1 starts nursery because I know he'll bring home all the bugs and pass them on to me!

How is the cc going french? My own attempts at sleep training have been poor so I won't try to offer you any tips . Sounds like you're doing well so far though!

Ds2 has a very nasty heat rash from the nappy area down and is super super grumpy. Screaming all day and night, waking up his brother. We even had next door banging on the wall last night in complaint (so helpful ). Hoping to get a gp appointment today though I expect there's nothing they can do.

No fridge policies? How bizarre. Mind you my work refused to let us have a microwave for years in case people used it to reheat curry etc and stink the office out. It still has a notice on it saying no smelly food! I'm pretty sure MrsElls is right and they have to provide you with a private area to express and a fridge to store it in.

Swear hope you are on the road to recovery.

Trinpy poor DS, hope the GP can help. Neighbours banging on the wall is so unhelpful! Do they think you're sat there poking the sleeping baby deliberately to bother them? I'm grateful we live in a detached house.

DS's sleep is bad at the moment. I put it down to holiday and the different environment but he was just as awful last night when we got home, up from 4.30-6.30 despite getting a feed at 5.30 (earlier than normal). I can cope with getting up multiple times a night if it's quick but I just can't cope with the extended waking. I was in tears last night and told DH I wanted to send him away I don't, of course. I just want him to sleep at night time

Much better thanks guys, still not brilliant and neither is the baby, but we're well on the way to fully better. I'm looking on the bright side and using this loss of appetite to kick off my post baby diet

No fridge policy sounds crazy, if they won't let you put bm in the fridge would they let you have a mini fridge by your desk? At my place that kind of thing would be fine as long as you took it to facilities first to check the electrics. My work is lame about this stuff too, we have no microwaves because the whole building is air conditioned and apparently food smell could get pumped around the whole place. We have to take our food to the shop across the road and ask them to do it for us!

Oh, and me, that does sound like the holiday throwing him off to me, mine was always thrown for a few days afterwards. It'll get better!

Anyone else dreading the clocks changing? 4am start anyone???

No microwaves really don't help with office smells, one of the girl's in our team is very fond of smoked mackerel salad...

Glad you're better swear , your dd is gorgeous
I love this age , they're just adorable
Mixed feelings about NOT going back to work - I'll miss the banter and friendships but not so much the paperwork and parents evenings!
Ds is on set nap times now that he fell into himself- 10.30 to 12 and 2-3 with another half hour early evening . Down at nine or ten and feeds a couple of times at night next to me.
He's falling less now as he's learnt how to get down from standing by lowering himself and landing on his hands and knees. He's into clapping and waving at the moment and also seems to be biting on everything but apart from the bottom two teeth he already has can't see or feel any more coming through . Weaning- He takes a few mouthfuls at mealtimes - anything from puréed fruit in a jar to helping himself to what we're having in the shape of finger food . Some days he doesn't take much at all it's hit and miss .
Me - sorry nights are still bad. Occasionally info get a horrendous night still but hopefully they'll just grow out of all this and give us some sleep !

Oh god swear I hadn't even thought about the clock change ... strangely I think it might help though as I think mentally I would count DS waking at 3 as a middle of the night waking and even if he's up for an hour or so I still have time for more sleep, whereas 4 is a super early morning one?!

I've decided that tonight if he does it again I'm going to start a new book on my kindle that I've been meaning to read for ages. At least then I'll feel like the hours of being awake in the night are being used productively instead of me lying in bed listening to him whinge and frantically googling sleep training methods, none of which I ever actually seem to use.

Good to hear from you sher, I can't wait for DS to learn to clap and wave. Mine has just started pulling himself up onto low tables and the bottom two stairs and it scares me at the moment as he just lets go and if I wasn't right there to catch him he would fall back onto his head - which in the case of the stairs means a cold hard tiled floor! Hopefully he'll catch onto the lowering himself down thing soon like your DS has!

Sher and Me to babies pulling themselves up, that's so clever. E has just mastered sitting unsupported and shaking a shaker and I'm incredibly proud

Me we keep going through sleep changes and it's not all the cold causing it, the other week she was waking to play. It's draining and infuriating. The neighbour sounds like an arse, when my db was a baby our neighbour did the same. My mum still hates him now even though he no longer lives there and it was 29 years ago

No fridge at work is just mad. But I'm in a school and it's all about the food for us.

I had my HV visit yesterday, apparently I am getting four which makes me feel really supported. I had to set goals for the next month so mine is to be able to talk about how I feel without crying because I can't. It's not even that I'm constantly sad, I just well up as soon as I try to explain all my irrational fears and thoughts. Having said that the last three days have been pretty good. Wednesday we stayed home all day which I normally avoid and just played and we both loved it.

I'm with Purple with the at the standing-up babies! We've got a solid sitter, but he's not making moves toward crawling or standing just yet thankfully.

Also shocked about the lack of fridge/microwave. The only problem with people heating up curries here is immense jealousy amongst the colleagues. You get " ahh, that smells good, what is it? Oh wow, are you sure you can eat it all?! "

We're a department fuelled by leftovers!

I think the snot is starting to abate here. And he's taken to BLW remarkably!

One more week till half term. We can do it!

Purple I get you with the welling-up when you get introspective. I had a year of really intense anxiety, brought on by a job change and then ongoing training where we were encouraged to do 'self analysis'. Turned me into a gibbering wreck.

Fortunately, I seem to have come out the other side. But at the time it was awful.

for you.

Just a quick post while ds2 finally sleeps for a minute!

Great news that you're getting support from the hv Purple. It sounds like its going to be really helpful for you.

Amazing that there are babies standing, clapping and waving! Ds2 claps but without meaning to, so I don't think that counts!

Glad you're starting to feel better Swear.

Took ds2 to the gp - complete waste of time, as expected. Probably a virus, nothing they can do, etc. I wish I hadn't gone now because its made me feel worse.

And he's awake again...

Oh wow to these standing and crawling and clapping. Ds has no interest in crawling but will stand unaided if we stand him up and let go. Manages a few seconds holding himself against the sofa/washing machine/bath.
Still no teeth here yet either, making the most of his 7 months old gummy smiles.
Tried Nutella on toast for breakfast - it went everywhere, including in his ears haha.

Hi all, still here catching up occasionally and loving reading about all your babies!

Purple, glad to hear you're getting some decent contact from the HV and hope it helps.

All the talk of car seats is making me think I should probably start thinking about it, but, like Swear (?) we will have a ff one which ds1 has still been using (bad mum) which I had been presuming we will also use for ds2, but now I'm feeling bad....hmmm some thought on this required!

I am totally to the crawling/pulling up/standing babies. Z is just still mastering the solid sit...still a bit wobbly, especially when grabbed by DS1 and mauled to the floor! I am not ready for movement just yet.

Warning is going great. Still worrying like others that he's not getting enough milk but he definitely seems to be making up for a lack during the day (maybe 3 breastfeeds and one bottle from morning to night) with lots more at night....brill .. I also seem to end up cosleeping every night after the first wake (eh

Woops....I was saying his first wake varies wildly from between 1.30-4.30 and after that he'll only settle next to me in bed which clearly, as I need sleep, is what I do.....oh I miss sleep! We have also taken the side of DS1's cot this week (very late age 3 years 3 months) and he is now joining us in bed as soon as DS2 wakes any time after 6am.....zzzzzzzz!