August 2016 - early arrivals to the newborn cuddles & graveyard feeding shifts

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So many August bus babies have arrived already! Anyone else fancy a chat during night feeds or wondering what to make of the contents of tiny nappies? Might as well get comfortable...

Nope is not heard of it either , but they said it's pretty common. Can also be called stridor which I have heard of

Just re-read my post. It blatently reads as if I have given the inlaws a new toy to keep them out of trouble while DS waits for his 38.5 temp to come down a bit

I've called for help. My sister who lives a single life is coming to rescue me because DH probably won't be home until 8. I always feel guilty for asking because I know I can never re pay her and somehow I end up with a guilt trip when we next fall out because it will get thrown back at me. Anyway...she's on her way. Also I'm currently expressing Woop Woop! Although I'm conscious there will be nothing for DD when she wakes! Maybe I just give her this? So so confused with what I'm meant to be doing!!!

That moment you go to bed at 7:30pm because you don't know when you'll next sleep again...is it normal for a baby to feed hourly through the night and sleep all day or is this a day three thing?

Dilias well I'm on day 12 and that was me last night!

Oh boy pear! Must learn to nap when she naps

Dilias if this is your first child then YES!!! Take full advantage of it. Forget everything and nap because you'll never get these scrummy days back and if you have another child then spontaneous napping is highly unlikely!!!

Check me out... I'm expressing again So I haven't broken the news to DH yet but I'm thinking that if I manage to get another 3oz then he can give this in a bottle and I can go to bed horrah! He's going to freak because I'm sure he has a list of chores to do. Ds has only just gone to bed but he did nap until 5:30 our routine has flown out the window and run far far away

Whoop whoop Pear Well done :)

We still have topsy turvy days/nights with DD. Exhausting is the only word.

Inlaws have gone. The weekend was full on to say the least. Am in bed about to try and snooze to the soundtrack of a grunting baby

Hmmm plan backfired a little last night as Ds didn't fall asleep until 11:30pm after much persuasion from DH and I DH I think fed DD at the wrong time....can never follow instructions!! So, now I'm up feeding at the wrong time Mad enough to try expressing again...oh what joy!! Yay it's nearly Monday afternoon

Expressing only 1oz when you could be sleeping feels pointless

Does anyone use a Sleepyhead? Are they worth it?

DD sleeps in her Snuzpod but usually wakes 5+ times a night. I can manage that when DS is at nursery by day but it is a bit crippling to have to get up before 7am for him, be on the go for 13hr with them both and basically collapse in bed at the earliest opportunity after that. It makes me grumpy and unreasonably hacked off at DH, simply because he can do other things at the moment.
(Also aware that a weekend with PIL has left me with a magnified dose of all these feelings. And that whilst DD is nearly 5wks old, her corrected age is only 9 days old and perhaps I should just remember that this is what newborns do!)

I have a sleepyhead and a cacoonababy I think the cacoonababy is more effective in early days but it doesn't last as long as sleepyhead

I use it for first three months then move to sleepyhead

pear can't believe you were up expressing in the middle of the night, you trooper! So hope all this hard work is worth it & gets the midwives off your back. Sounds like you need to just luck out with someone with a bit of common sense and you'll be absolutely fine.

Alfie sorry for v delayed response - yep, we cosleep - DS has never spent a night in his cot! It's like musical beds at ours, I currently have both kids in mine and DH's bed, and he's in the bottom bunk where DD usually sleeps. It's not ideal but it seems to be the best way of everyone getting maximum sleep right now. I put DS on the pillow, no covers (he's a really hot baby so doesn't need anything anyway), one arm round him to stop him going anywhere, knees curled up under/round him. I found this with DD when she was tiny too - normally I sleep like a log but as soon as I have a baby in with me I magically become a super-light sleeper - I wake up as soon as DS starts grumbling. Cosleeping isn't a magic fix but it's a damn sight better than spending hours trying and failing to get him to settle in the cot. However, that works for me - some of my mum friends couldn't relax enough to sleep with baby in bed with them, so for them it was worth the extra time to settle baby as that was how everyone got the best rest. Maybe just give it a go and see how you get on??

Well, after 3 nights of 5-6 hour stretches of sleep, it all went wrong last night. Knew it couldn't last! DS grumbling and moaning all night and wanting to be on and off the boob, then sicking it back up over himself & me. DD wriggling around like a starfish; every time DS settled she'd fling an arm or something over him and wake him up again! Then we were all up for the day a good hour and a half earlier than normal. As soon as I gave up and properly woke up, DS filled his nappy in spectacular fashion and then promptly fell asleep. Feel like I've had about 10 seconds' kip. Matchsticks and coffee needed here today! MIL accidentally drove off with DD's car seat at the weekend and tbh I'm quite glad of the excuse to keep it low-key and local today.
Wishing you all happy, relaxed Mondays with peaceful, compliant kiddies

Aww Biscuits Amen to feeling grumpy and irritable I think what you've described is all normal in the first few weeks. I have brought a cacoonababy. She likes it but to be honest she goes down on anything we have (the baby bay and Moses basket) so I don't know whether this is a life saver or not. DH managed to pick it up for £29 off Amazon which was a steal! What's a snooze pod? Want to look into that now! My friends swear by sleepy heads. I'm hoping we won't need one as I've already spent too much on beds previously for DS!

Four so do I...but I thought that on Saturday and she hadn't gained so really I'm just expressing to shut them up! I know it's the tongue tie stopping her from having the correct amounts of milk. Today we will find out for sure! That's pretty amazing that you can co-sleep with 2. I've been pretty strict with DS about not coming into our bed and luckily he hasn't shown interest since DD arrived. I used to co sleep with DS when he was a baby because he had reflux and wouldn't go down.... EVER! So I can totally sympathise with those who need to co-sleep!! Do whatever gets you through is my motto

A snuzpod is a co sleeper crib. I love it :) We got one second hand off ebay & picked up a new mattress.

I know, deep down, that how I am feeling is v normal and reasonable (and will pass) but that doesn't make it much easier day-to-day at the moment.

Biscuits ahh I see. We have the babybay co sleeper and it's such a help to me. I dread the day nursery starts again because it means I have to be on a schedule and that is so hard! Still, I was meant to give birth the week before nursery starts so at least I have time to find my feet I know exactly what you mean...yesterday was my hell day when I had to call my sister in for help. Any chance you can ask for help this afternoon? Only 2 hrs until lunchtime

DH is off work today and has taken DS swimming so DD and I are still in bed :)

I think I am also missing DH a bit because whenever we're together and awake, we are juggling two children. Whenever DS is in bed then DH is catching up with chores, cooking, etc while I feed DD. Or I am too knackered to think. Don't get me wrong, am v grateful for all that DH does but this is the downside for me.

Anyway, DD is asleep now so I shall too!

We also co sleep

Well our toddlers bed is in our room so he goes to sleep in his bed but wakes up anywhere between 10pm and 1am and ones in with us he goes between me and husband

Baby goes to sleep in cacoonababy in out next2me sleeper attached to bed but when he wakes at 4am I just take him in with us as he likes to feed on and off till 6am

He goes on my side on mattress and I just put duvet down and cover him with his own little blanket and I don't use a pillow

So by morning all 4 of us are in the bed but it's a super long so we seem to fit ok.

I also wake up to slightest thing and co sleep with toddler from a baby til now , as he just refused to sleep at all and it was only way to get some sleep

Morning all. I've had 4 hours sleep in a row! I feel like a new person. Can't believe the difference. Dd now 4 days so I'm not expecting it to stick but it was very nice.

Milk has come in it would seem, felt a bit down yesterday, worrying I wasn't being a good mum to my ds. Feel a bit better today.

I know what you mean biscuits about missing your dh. I love seeing him being a dad, but our little three person routine has all changed and it's lovely but yes I miss time with him. We managed to have breakfast together and do the crossword today while dd slept and ds played, so that was very nice.

Yep, loosing your DH is a real sacrifice at this point in time and I do wonder when it will return. Whilst I'm still suffering from night sweats I am secretly relieved he's sleeping downstairs! Wow it's lunchtime. Where is time going today!! Very excited that it's nearly hospital time but have a lot to do between now and then and I've got a little madam attached all morning

owl isn't it amazing how life changing 4hrs can be

Good luck at the hospital this avo Pear :)

I think there's an element of divide and conquer which goes on for sometime with multiple kids, but gradually the balance shifts. And we get more sleep so it matters less too...!

We're co-sleeping as well. We have a Chicco side crib thing, but DD won't sleep in it so for the sake of all of our sanity we have her in bed with us.

DH went back to work today. My mum's up so it's great having an extra pair of hands while all DD wants to do is feed and snooze. Hoping she becomes more accepting of bring put down as I'll be dealing with her solo pretty soon.