August 2016 - early arrivals to the newborn cuddles & graveyard feeding shifts

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So many August bus babies have arrived already! Anyone else fancy a chat during night feeds or wondering what to make of the contents of tiny nappies? Might as well get comfortable...

biscuits I've got a poorly boy who we thought had a uti too. But it's been ruled out at the walk in and and gp, they now think it's balanitis so he has cream. He's still screaming everyone he wees though 😞

Even though I'm knackered I'm loving these nights with just me, dh and dd.. So peaceful and I know it doesnt last forever. Enjoyong the snuggles 😊

Alfie I'm not good but thanks for asking. I haven't posted recently because I've got nothing good to say. DD cries all day and night in pain and I never get more then 20 minutes sleep at a time and that's if I'm lucky. Thursday's doctor apt can't come quick enough. Glad to hear you're doing well (not being sarcastic). I hope it continues for you now!

Oh and I missed out the part where DH came home last night to tell me he's sick and went straight to bed and DS woke up at 9pm because DD was crying so much. It's not been fun

Oh Pear. I'm so sorry things are so tough. We had similar with DS, although I didn't have an older child to look after as well. Don't feel like you have to avoid us until things are better, we're here to listen.

DD slept from 9.30 - midnight last night... And that's it. No idea what's wrong with her. We have to go to hospital to get her hearing checked this morning but hoping my mum can watch the children this afternoon so I can get some sleep...

Oh Pear. Pls don't feel like you can only say happy stuff here. It sounds ridiculously hard going at the moment. Look after yourself as best you can. I hope your DH is feeling better today and more able to provide support for you.
Hugs & with whatever milk alternative you fancy!

Pear I'm with you today. No sleep and it's my first day without dp. Not that we seem to have done much but argue over the last couple of days . Partly me but I'm ebf and feeling resentful that I have to ask for every single job around the house to be done. Even then it's like it's half done. Washing put in machine then ignored for two days.. No milk, empty fridge, no washing powder. Feel like today is a disaster already. Sorry for the rant. Just feeling a bit fed up.
Bella we had a similar night! I'll be a zombie all day and I've got visitors this afternoon. They had best bring chocolate!
Zumba the cuddles make it worth it - you're right
Ok now I've had a little rant to you ladies, going to do an ocado shop, clean the kitchen and brush my teeth and try to make today a more positive day!

Had the first hv visit yesterday and she weighed Freya again, she's now 7lb 5.

I've not been feeling great, exhausted, still a bit sore and have zero energy. Presuming that's my low iron as well. My grandad's funeral is on Monday as I don't even know if I can make it. I feel so dizzy still and the bleeding had started up again today. Just when I thought it was ending. Two weeks and one day since she was born.

Kids start back at school on Monday and then my dd3 starts reception on the Thursday after. She's so excited.

We are registering Freya's birth tomorrow but not sure if dh will have to go alone. I feel so crappy today. Feels like a massive step back again. It's odd as my pain from the section isn't too bad, it's everything else and a lot of pulling sensations still with the odd pain.

Have no support other than dh either, my mum has pretty much just left us too it again even though they live 2 mins away from us. Feeling quite let down and alone, having to cope with the everything. On top of that I've been having leg pains again, I had dvts in my last pregnancy so I'm still on fragmin for 6 weeks. Makes me so anxious worrying they I have more clots, it's probably scar tissue as I have a lot of that throughout my leg, but I'm finding it really difficult at the moment and very anxious.

Sorry for the moan but I needed to get it out. Will try and pick myself up and get on with things.

Sorry to hear about those who are having a rotten time. Please feel free to vent here, it definitely helps just to let it all out sometimes.

We are planning to venture out to baby cinema tomorrow morning although I was hoping for a more modern film - they are showing clueless! They do normally show new releases, not sure what this week is about!

I had to call DH to come home from work early today, as DD1 fell off a swing after school and I think had broken her thumb. She's off at the hospital just now. She has thumb breaking form, having managed to fracture it a couple of years ago at French class. How, I'll never know. She managed to get through her first ski lesson yesterday without any injuries, and then fell off a swing in play park. 🙄😞 I'm guessing we might not be able to do the rest of her ski taster block. Poor wee sausage.

Cheese i felt like how you describe about 2 weeks a go when DD was 2 weeks. The things that helped me were...spinach with every other meal (fried with a little butter), grilled fillet steak (tastes so good and great for iron and feeding), cashew nuts (another source of iron) & all nuts), cereal bars and lots of snacks in the night or just up the snacks in the day!! An extra bowl of porridge if you can face it. Drink, drink and drink water to help flush it all out. How about trying a energy soft drink! Afternoon naps or any nap you can grab in the day! I hope you start to get your energy back soon. Keep moaning on here

Lots - your poor Dd1...and I thought only boys have accidents like that What timing for you all! How was the cinema? I am really hoping that I can take DD to see the Bridget Jones film in a few weeks. I always wanted to take Ds to the cinema but he was not a easy baby outside of the house. I think I might just have a chance with DD!

Thanks for your sympathies everyone DH came home from work today and was miracously cured I had strong words with him and told him that I am seriously peed and wish I could have a "get out of jail card" and I explained I'm pretty much on survival mode so if he asks me one more time how much sleep I'm getting I will explode. He's more then made up for it tonight as I handed him some horrible jobs including vanishing all the poonami clothes from the previous night and he let me sleep from 10:30 to 2:30am.

I had to venture out with both of them to get DD weighed at the clinic today. Ds was amazing at walking and made me so proud. It now looks like we don't need the double buggy after all which will be a great saving. I'm still waiting for our bugaboo comfort seat attachment to arrive but that should be more then enough for being out and about with both of them. DD now weighs 6lb 10 so she's jumped which is great. Considering how bad things have been going I am surprised! I took her off Gaviscon today and she's shown no change to her behaviour so I'm glad I have done that before starting a new medicine. The health visitor was a real pain. I'm so sick of her ridiculous questions and constant "can you not ask for more help" pleas. Ds was running riot in the clinic room and she was asking me if DH can take time off work. I've already told her 2x that DH runs his own business and no that isn't an option if I want the bills paid. Then she moves on to say that things will be better when DS is back in nursery. Urghhhhhhh not really because he only does two mornings and really all I need is for a baby who sleeps longer then 20 minutes!!! Nobody seems to get that if we fix the baby or at least make her more comfortable then I could get 2-3hrs sleep and everything will be back to normal!! I've ordered a reflux wedge which arrives tomorrow. Talk about taking things into my own hands!

Did I mention that I've now tried Almond milk? Omg it is not pleasant I am having to drown my porridge with honey to get some flavour going!

Maybe try coconut milk Pear. It doesn't have a very strong flavour. Glad your dh has upped his game.

So DD has succumbed to the nursery lurgy and I'm knackered. She is snotty and coughing and struggling to sleep lying down at all. Might try running a hot shower in the morning to get a steamy room and see if that clears things for her a little bit.

And Lots your poor daughter. How did she get on at the hospital?

Cheese hugs. I hope tomorrow / today is a little better for you. The no energy thing is horrible.

So clearly my memory is shot to pieces. Apologies to those I've missed!

Urghhhhhhh I am dreading the Doctors apt this morning! It's not normal to not be able to settle your baby back to sleep from 2:30am is it I don't think she's been asleep at all on her own tonight as I very much doubt DH tried to put her down as much as I do. I'll have to have a chat with him about that tomorrow. Him and his stupid "I'll do the easy parenting option" grrrrrr Its a surprise isn't that we had babies the way I'm feeling towards him at the moment

So, after the 5:30 feed DD finally went to sleep on her own at 6am until 7:15. This is a recurring pattern. She has now done a big poo lying on her back but I at least got 1hr sleep. Of coarse she's dozing now and Ds is chatting away in his cot

Just checking in to send lots of un-mumsnetty hugs all round - Bella, Sloth, Cheese, Lots, Pear, Biscuits. Think we need a group hug!
Lots hope your poor DD's thumb is ok, what a disaster! Bless her.
Bella and sloth hoping for better days (and nights!) for you both.
Biscuits fingers crossed your DD bounces back today and the lurgy clears off.
Cheese you sound like you're having a bad time, bless you when was the last time you saw an HCP? Do you think you might have a bit of an infection? I second pear's recommendations for iron-rich foods, and I guess just rest as much as poss - which I know isn't much! Once your big ones are all at school things should get easier, right?
Pear you sound like you're at the end of your tether. Just utterly knackered. I remember feeling like that with DD - some days I'd get up and just want to cry wondering how the fuck I was going to get through the day - and I didn't have all the extra issues that you're having, DD just didn't like sleep! Your HV sounds worse than useless - hope the GP today is a bit more with it! Don't be afraid to keep pushing - if they're not sorting it, go back and back and back until they listen (I know it takes energy you don't have though!). Glad your DH redeemed himself a bit - I think because we make it look easy, they don't realise how draining it can be! My DH needs it spelled out - I have to tell him exactly what I want him to do. It's annoying, because I feel like he should just notice, but I've had to accept it and learn to ask for the help when I need it, rather than silently seething and trying to do it all myself.
Also, try oat milk for porridge - it basically tastes like liquid porridge anyway, so might be better! My friend who went dairy free had various different milks for different things, worth mixing it up til you find what works for you. Oh, and never ever be afraid to come here for a good moan - we're here to listen!

Have been a bit quiet on here lately - partly as never get the time to post and also just not much to say! Still doing well and don't want to jinx it - DS is such a joy and so chilled out! He is a total cuddle bug and needs to be held or carried pretty much 100% of the time - the sling is getting plenty of use and we're cosleeping, but it all seems to be working so far so I'm not complaining. He'll be 6 weeks on Friday though so I'm expecting it all to go horribly wrong then (that was when DD went from bad sleep to no sleep whatsoever, so I'm very afraid)! My brother came down yesterday to visit for a few days, it's lovely for DD to have someone to entertain her - he is always willing to drop everything and play, bless him. We're off to the seaside today for a paddle and an ice cream

pear sorry to hear you are still struggling. As four said you have to keep persevering with the doctors. Remember you can always rant on here. I don't know if you've thought about cosleeping but I've virtually given up putting DD in her cot. I try once every night then I just bring her into bed so we can all get some sleep. A couple of nights ago she did stay in the cot for 2hours so I know she will do it eventually.

cheese are you still on the spatone? Have you tried something like berroca maybe? Make your DH cook steak!

biscuits sorry to hear DD has caught the cold. Have you hit one of those snot sucky things?

lots how is DD? Adventurous toot!

four your planned day out sounds lovely!

DH at work today do just me and the wee one. We are still lounging in bed on a feed fest. Meeting my NCT ladies this afternoon and I promised I would put some washing away today. That will be an achievement if I manage!

Alfie yes I co sleep but she literally will only co sleep (let me put her down without crying) from 6-7am and then DS wakes her.

I've now reached the point where I try anything to get her to sleep that's safe

The wedge has arrived. Quite excited about trying it out on her this afternoon. One of the reviews says it is useless as it only works at one end of the mattress but as I suspected you can move it to the middle so that feet are still at the end of the bed. I just hope she doesn't slide down like she does on the breastfeeding pillow (which I don't let her sleep on btw because of Std risk). Hopefully the incline is just right!

Back from the doctors with Renetidine. What a load of rubbish the dr was. Very unfriendly and very unhelpful! When DH asked when we should up the dose she gave a very sarcastic look and said "let's just try it first and see if it works"! Helpful At one point we didn't think she would give us medication but I insisted that the HV said we should have it just a little white lie

Cinema trip went very well, A and I had a lovely time, I drank my cup of coffee, he fed for a long time and slept for the rest of it ! It turns out that since I had DD2 the cinema have had to change the films they show for watch with baby - they used to show whatever was on, no matter what the certificate, which meant I got to see all the Oscar nomination films etc. Turns out someone complained that they were showing 15 and 18 certificates so now we can only have 12 and below - hence the retro film choice!

DD1 seems to have managed to just drive her thumb, no fracture this time, she's not particularly adventurous, more clumsy! It's still quite swollen but hopefully will settle quickly!

Sorry I haven't replied to everyone - on my phone, again and scrolling up and down is tricky!

Whhhhhaaaattt! Please tell me this rule does not apply to Odeon? I have been dreaming of this day for a long long time What an idiot who complained! Who wants to go and see kiddy films

Pear My local Picturehouse is showing Bridget Jones if this helps. It's their 'Big Scream' event.

Hi everyone, sorry I've been so quiet! Family visiting and a very active baby to deal with! Not moaning though, I think I'm doing ok overall. Will catch up with you as soon as o can! xx

Cinema here is the sanme it's 12A abs below only which is less fun. I really want to see war dogs but it's a 15.

Hi everyone! Been a very busy week with visitors and getting to know our little man! I love having my two boys! DH went back to work today and I did the school run on my own. It was stressful as DS1 wouldn't get ready, was very tired this morning and got upset at school gates as we just made it in time for the bell. I was very strong at the door (I work in primary education and was trying to practise what I preach by being positive then walking away) but cried when I got home. I'm very unimpressed with my DS1 new teacher but aware DS1 is going through a massive transition at the moment. Also went into work to show off my boy catch up and it was lovely to see everyone.

Sorry to hear things are tough pear. I really hope the ranitidine works. My friend's little one was a different baby after using the wedge. Wish I was able to pop round and give you the gift of sleep. Things are always easier after a good sleep.

lots cinema sounds fab! Glad DD1 hasn't broken anything. Wee lamb!!

four sounds like you are enjoying every second of your DS. I feel very much the same just now! Long may it last!

cheese how are you feeling now? Did you register Freya?

We have a wee photo shoot for Ruaridh tomorrow so need to sort the house tonight! Housework has taken a wee backseat this past week so need to get the Hoover out and give this place a good going over.

Glad you got ranitadine Pear. From memory the guidance is to start with a low dose but pah to your gp being unhelpful.

So DD is choked with cold and a bit coughy too. She's been quite sicky today also. Her preferred remedy is to breastfeed ALL the time. Presumably because this is comforting when you feel crap and you're only 7wks old. Which is fair enough but might make tomorrow when I have both children interesting . I have gone to bed already so that I can snooze as soon as possible (I have low hopes for tonight)

I've also optimistically headed to bed. Second night just me and dd so hoping its s good one as didn't manage a nap today. I did plough through two pain au chocolates though which helped
Hope everyone has a good night, biscuits hope your little one has a speedy recovery.