***************December 2006 ****************

[lucy5]

I can't access the thread with my rubbish Spanish internet connection. Could someone start a new thread and link it on the old one too. Thankyou. Hope alls well!

Jabber, hugs from me too. I also saw your other thread, and nearly posted there (I have a 3 yr old drama queen at home - not really tantrummy, but hard work all the same: definitely worse than the 2s - heard the expression 'threenager'?!) but it had all been said well already.

And jabs, urgh.

xxx

Hi all.
Feeling very sheepish as I haven't been on in over a month .
Time has gone by so quick and suddenly Christopher is 11 weeks old and awaiting his second set of jabs on Tuesday!
His big brother was 2 on Monday so we had a big party at the weekend to celebrate and Chris decided it'd be fun to start teething!
The one day I wanted it to be all about Matthew and he went to grab the spotlight.
Thankfully though I figured it out quickly as Matthew started teething even earlier than that.
So, some bonjela and calpol later, Matthew was blowing out the candles and Chris was happily watching him do it!
BF'ing is going great and Chris suddenly decided at 9 weeks that he was fed up with not getting any sleep at night so I'm well chuffed!!!

Hope all are well - I will read through the threads later I promise, but don't have time to do it now.

Love to all and I promise not to stay away so long again - unless you want me to that is!!!

OMG! Just typed the hugest message and internet went down

Castles, hope the fainting gets sorted xxx

Ds1 is snuffly and has conjunctavitus so his 2nd jabs have been posponed. I can't spell today but I am so bloody tired i dont care

Life is chaos and i have to go but will catch up later xxxxx

Magnolia, wishing you some kip

Dublindee, good to see you - sounding good, Mrs!

Jabber, on second thoughts...hvae posted to your other thread.

Castles - hopng you're ok -- how scary! Get an overhaul, and see if you can arrange some extra sleep (ha ha, I know), and maybe that will help.

Eli - GP nice guy, but not helpful yesterday. Says she's ok... and mostly she is. She's so stuffed up that she can't lay flat anyway, so maybe she'll do better once she gets over this cold.

What do you do when your 2 year old screams..... and screams...... and screams????????? This child is one big huge tantrum these days!! I don't know how to help him! Going to scan to see if there are other threads that deal with this subject, as I am out of ideas, and starting to feel very frustrated with him.

NFM- I am experiencing a similar thing with my 21month old dd1. I am BF which makes it even harder to keep her occupied while I am feeding DD2.I have to admit that she has been watching too much TV cause it seems to be the only thing that settles her otherwise there is a huge tantrum. I try to keep her busy we go to a mothers and toddler group and also tumble tots, I do lots of art with her when dd2 is sleeping, we go for a walk almost every day which involves the park.So she still is getting 1:1.

hi all. DD went to bed at 9.10 last night which was great! Then woke at 1.00 and 5.00 for feeds so i'm v happy.

My DD1 is 3 very soon. She helps me with getting the nappies etc and is normally great. I've had a few times where she has said 'stop feeding dd2 and play with me' which is tough but i try and read stories or promise something fun - like painting- when i've finished. We have also started singing together to DD2 (often when i'm b/f) - it makes DD1 feel really good that she can now sing songs and entertain her little sister.

SS singing is a good idea my DD1 loves singing in her own babble and we often sing songs as part of her bedtime routine, I think I will try it when BF!

No runninglate...you're not cruel, although it feels terrible doesn't it!?

Amberli had such a sad face afterwards and has been refusing some of her feeds! , but it definately helps giving them Calpol 30 mins before the jabs!

Anyway, I really miss all of you and I have been conking out before 8pm this last week.
Last night DH came home and the pram was by the door, the washing up hadnt been done, the lounge and kiddies room was a sight for sore eyes, the bath was still full and I was still in all my clothes...flat out with DD1 on my bed!

I have also given up chocolate for lent, so 1 week done! ....that must be why I'm so tired!...?

I had a good night last night too! Almost exactly the same as Satins, in fact. Feel wrecked this morning though, don't think my body can cope with more than 2 hours sleep in a row!!

DS2 had his first set of jabs yesterday, and the gp check which was clear. His chest is clear even though he's got a stinking cold again so I'm hoping the bronchiolitis won't rear itself again.

I am glad I'm not alone with the toddler difficulties. That's one of the reasons why I stayed over my mums this weekend. DH was working over the weekend and we were still ill and grumpy. I think I probably would have lost my temper big time if it was only me and the 2 girls. Especially as I am trying to potty train DD1. Both me and DD1 have felt better the last 2 days and I have been able to move back home. DH has Friday and the weekend off - I am looking forward to it!

We still look at them adoringly once they've out their heads on the pillow though, don't we?!

You're so right, Margo, dp always tells me to go in and look at ds1 when he's asleep if we've had a cr*p day & it softens my heart every time. He looks so sweet crashed out. AND he had a nap today for the first time in 3 months, I was so thrilled I almost jumped for joy!

Castles, really hope that dizzy spells can be explained by something else before you're forced to give up. At least someone's listening to you now. Your life does sound v.stressful although you shrug if off iykwim, 3 kids with dh out of the picture all week would be enough to send me into a permanent coma!

castles, I'm glad you found a gp who is interested in finding out what this could be. Her comments of anxiety reminded me of Tony Soprano and his anxiety/fainting attacks. Do you guys get Sopranos on TV over there?

We go in on friday next for ds2's DTap and I definitely find that giving a little Tylenol an hour before is helpful. I also request to stay in the room and nurse for a bit afterwards and that helps calm him down too.

thanks again to everyone who has visited my other thread with stories of horrible 3 year olds It has helped a lot.

Still BFeeding.
Gave DS some EBM from a bottle after his feed last night (for once he didn't fall asleep on the breast) as he'd woken up a bit earlier than normal (9 rather than 10.30). Managed to put him to sleep 10.30, had my shower and then he went till half 2 which was nice. Resettled at 4am, then he fussed 5-7 and fed at 7. Daddy played with him and dressed him whilst I managed to get an extra 15 minutes kip.
Not sure how you cope with more than 1! I will find out in 2 years!! I can cope on 5 hours but struggle on less than that (ie have sense of humour failure and feel less loving toward DS, just feel like I'm getting through the day). TBH, it is very nice and relaxing and rewarding when they are sleeping well to watch them too!

U'm still BF as well. But I BF DD1 till she was nearly 3 (sheer laziness on my part), so will probably do the same again.

Has anyone got any advice for investing the Child Trust Fund? I'm really not good at this kind of thing, and DH leaves it all up to me! I currently have accounts with YBS and RBS, so would normally just go for one of those. Any advice would be hugely gratefully received.

BP, no-one can give you advice unless they are FSA regulated! Otherwise you could sue for misinformation!
However I can tell you how we got to our decision which is definately NOT advice.
We have gone with Liverpool Victoria (or will be when I get off my a£@e). It is stocks, shares and property and does not move the investment into safer items aged 13 - reasoning being I guess that stocks and property are pretty stable investments anyway. However we have to pay £90 to join - DH thought it was worth it if we also invest £25/month.
The goverment suggests the shares option where they move everything into a safer investment at 13. Generally in the long term shares outperform interest savings accounts.
Most people I know have gone with Halifax as that is who they have opened a bank account with as well.
Remember, money in a CTF is locked away until they are 18, money in a bank account can be withdrawn as and when.

HTH!

And we decided the ones with vouchers eg Asda weren't worth it as the annual investment fee was more over the long term, but some people might prefer the short term gain of shopping vouchers now against money for kid at 18 - it may well be better for the kid for the family to have vouchers to spend now on upbringing.

still bf here too

after the one hour night we've had a 3 hour one with a couple of random wakings and back to 2 hours last night with lots of wakings. Just generally unsettled last night. Dp starting to annoy me in an irrational way.He is far too quick off the mark and`leaps out of bed at the slightest chunter so by the time I wake up, realise it is feeding time and get there he has already changed a nappy because he can't think what else could be wrong. Of course nappy change turns nice sleepy feed into wide awake baby. Plus he keeps puttng a normal wrap on him as the fleece is damp. Well yes dear it is supposed to be that is fleece doing its job! Of course I know it is great that he gets up at night and usually it is him who deals with between feed wakings but would it be too much to ask that he looks at the clock or just kicks me and asks if it is feeding time?

Hugs to all with toddlers. I can't imagine how you do it (from the girl who wants 4)

BP I asked my dad who is all knowing about investment etc and he says the childrens mutual stakeholder is best. He said stakeholder overall is best as although there is th risk of it decreasing in value in the short term (while savings accounts go up) over 18 years there is no way that you would be left with less than you put in.

sacha (and everyone else), of course I don't want advice! Just a spectrum of opinion. Anyone's opinion would be hugely gratefully received!
(I wish someone had given me their opinion about selling the shares I am relying on to get me through matty leave last week Getting very nervous now watching the bottom fall out of the market.)

Indith, I completely understand the irrational annoyance. Although my DH doesn't change nappies (at all, ever ), he does still pick DD2 up the second she starts to cry, whereas I tend to wait a few minutes to see if she settles herself back down. Which leads to a much more wakeful baby to feed back to sleep.

Ah now you see my dp loves soft fluffy things so he couldn't wait to play with the nappies! Still managed to put a motherease wrap on insideout yesterday though. How? How do you not notice that the velcro is on the inside? Did that not seem a`little odd?

And that he couldn't see the tag that says Motherease? Most peculiar!

(Not that I can talk - I'm forever putting them on front to back and then having to take them off and turn them round )

hi, terrible night here

bp - i am going with the nationwide stakeholder. i 'think' stakeholder is best as it is investments in shares and not just interest on cash like a normal bank account. this is a good article

I'm going to do the same as Satinshoes, but then I have everything with Nationwide