September 2014 - Toddlers & Tantrums!

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Babies are now toddlers at 18 months +, growing and learning new things all the time!

Hi Cosh, anyone is welcome to join in 😀 My toddler is having a kitchen for Christmas too.

I would say your HV is right. Giving up and stopping to offer veg/fruit is probably the worst thing you can do. Keep serving them up is the only way you can go really. DD has her favourites. She rarely eats cabbage and cauliflower for example, but we keep offering them.

I'm working on curry with her at the moment. I usually take a portion of browned meat (whatever it is) out before I turn it into a curry. Then when we have curry dd has a portion of tice mixed with peas and sweet corn, some of the meat and I've started putting a tiny bit of tge curry sauce over her rice.

I often wonder how Indian families do it - I'd love to have a toddler having curry from weaning. With all of my children I've tried baby with our weekly curry right from 6 months old and they never have it. It always ends up being a mega faff to get baby eating curry.

Our Wednesday night curry is the only meal where toddler doesn't have the same as the rest of us.

How's everyone else's children with curry?

DS has eaten some korma before fate but I haven't made it for ages. It's pasta bake for us tonight, DH has taken DS out and isn't due home for 2 hours so I'm going to wang it in the oven now and blitz some cleaning. When did life get so exciting?

I have to be honest and say I don't really give DD curry much here, although I don't really know why as she has it at nursery apparently. She will eat naan bread and bhajis off our plates though.

I'm maybe just a bit hormonal right now but one thing that is starting to upset me a bit is how much DD prefers DH to me. She's obsessed with her Daddy - asks for him all the time, cries if he leaves the room, plays with him all the time when he is home, etc. She still doesn't even say 'mummy'. Don't get me wrong, she is affectionate with me, but clearly favours being with DH over me. It's starting to upset me a bit now.

Oh and welcome Cosh. Our toddlers share a birthday - DD is 12th Sept 2014 too. x

Surprise surprise my son will happily tuck into currys. Here he is at about 16 months in a Indian restaurant tucking into pompadoms and spiced onions with chutney. But then he is obsessed with food and literally will eat anything. He will eat a medium spiced curry no problem all he sometimes says is spicy and smiles and carries on eating.

I'm pretty sure if I lay down on the table he would eat me

Welcome Cosh always nice to see new faces

A loves curry, and chillis, and spicy food in general! Not sure we did anything special, he just ate what we ate most of the time, and if he didn't eat what was on his plate but at least tried it we would give him something else. Luckily it worked out for us eventually. To be fair though sometimes he wouldn't eat it of his plate, but would mine, even if it was the same thing. That may have helped

He does eat most things, but there is some veg he doesn't like. Green beans is one, but we still put it on his plate, I am hoping one day he will just eat it lol.

KitKat I can see how upsetting that must be. A favours me, and will run to be over DH all the time and it upsets him. He is fine with him if I am not there, and will go between us at times, but if he is hurt/upset and I am there he comes to me. He has also started pushing DH away from me when we have a hug. He used to join in so this is new!

KitKat - the dynamics are bound to change with a new baby in the house. For now you might need to focus more on baby, especially if you're breastfeeding. But it will change lots more and settle down. Still very early days.

Re: food - I've always had to work harder on spicey or strong flavoured food. They take to bland food much more easily. I even struggle with basic strong flavours like mint. My older children do like their curries and chilli though (apart from 12yo dd, who's a fussy madam), it just took some perseverance to get them used to it.

Toddler is eating brussel sprouts though and they are quite strong flavoured I think.

On a different note - MIL took my children into the city centre this evening for pizza and to see the lights. DD had all-you-can-eat ice cream and sprinkles for pudding. Except she didn't have any ice cream, just chocolate buttons and jelly baby "sprinkles".

So basically she just ate tons of sweets 😐 at about an hour before bedtime 😐 She came home 15 minutes before normal bedtime and was a hyper, giggling ball of loveliness. No chance of normal bedtime tonight.

Oh no, what fun Fate! That's grandparents for you.

Welcome cosh!

My DD is still quite fussy food wise but I do try to still offer her new things. She isn't a fan of spice though. I read recently that babies/toddlers have many more taste buds than us so tastes are much stronger for them, hence the typical preference for bland food.

Can you believe it? I have spent three weeks looking for the set of three (small) fireman sam toys that MIL bought for DS. The little monkey had stashed them away in a lorry along with candy canes from the Christmas tree. I didn't see him do it and I've searched both my house and my mothers for them!

That's funny Polka!

Fate sadly DD1's preference for her Dad has been going on for a long time, so I don't think it's really to so with DD2 (although I guess it has exacerbated it a bit since he's often doing bits for her whilst I'm breast-feeding on the sofa or similar).

Random question - how much of your toddler's art and craft stuff do you keep? DD is forever making / drawing things which is great, and I hate throwing stuff out, but I can't keep all of it!

Most craft stuff get "filed in the loft" (in the bin) or occassionally "taken to show Daddy's work friends" (also in the bin).

I sound very harsh in that, I'm not that bad really. Just I have four children and lots and lots of craft stuff!

I keep all the handmade cards given for specific occassions and have all of these that have ever been made by all of my children. They are stored on a big box in loft.

I have two or three special pieces from each child on the kitchen walls. I change these constantly and if a piece of art makes it to the kitchen wall it does get saved in the loft when it is replaced.

I have every single Christmas tree ornament all of my children have ever made, on the tree every year.

But all that ^ accounts for probably 10% of the stuff they make. Everything else goes on the bin.

DS does 'painting' every day so I don't keep it but I do keep things like birthday and christmas cards that my mum helps him make.

Kitkat DS frequently tells daddy to go away but he is definitely closer with DH on the days that they have been on their own together.

It's Christmas Eve! Merry Christmas fellow Septemberers! We are at in laws house, stayed there last night and did.not.sleep, it's going to be a long day of tired child hyped up on chocolate. Good luck everyone......

Merry Christmas too Polka and all the other September mummies.

Merry Christmas all. Hope you all have a wonderful day tomorrow with no 2 year old tantrums

Merry Christmas all! Should be a lovely one for our September babies this year with them starting to get it!

🎄 Merry Christmas Everyone 🎄

Fantastic day here. You kitchen went down very well with toddler. Micro short nap of only 90m but we plowed through and with the aid of 12 in the house and plenty of chocolate - toddler made it through without much issue.

How was everyone's day?

We survived without a nap! I tried to put him down a couple of times but there was too much going on. Made bedtime quite easy though as he was so tired he asked to go up!

It took him most of the day to open presents as he kept getting distracted and playing with his toys (we wrapped things individually, quite a lot of things were small like books etc so it looked a lot but wasn't really.)

He had a great day though, and so did me and DH. Loved his surprise face when opening presents!

Christmas started on 23rd for us as we went to stay with in laws. In fairness he has been a star but I won't lie, he has been over excited and overwhelmed and we are all bloody knackered because we have struggled to get him to nap and night time sleep went to shit. It's been lovely watching him being loved by all grandparents and he is loving all his new toys. I think he is existing on toast and chocolate though!

Well i lost the thread!! It took me ages to find it and I missed loads!

day wow what a birth story glad he is here safe and sound. Have to say I looked at the photos first before reading your post and your lo didn't strike me as being big.

Ds is a terrible eater, he use to only eat jars and premade stuff we started getting him onto homemade stuff then bam he stopped eating. Pretty much refused everything and it has been a long slow road getting back to eating and still isn't eating that great. So no nother eating curries or veg

kit E doesn't say mummy, he calls me dada and his dad daddy, he can say mummy but doesn't. He also favours dh all the time!! It does make me sad!! But he is super cute so I forgive him!

E also didn't quite "understand" the concept of Christmas, last year he was really overwhelmed but this year he was in his element unwrapping all the presents.

Our big news is that E is now in a big boy bed, he kept climbing out of his cot and coming to find us. He still climbs out but he is learning to stay in bed now!

Thank you for sharing that Cookie. It's good to know that I'm not the only one who gets over-looked in favour of Daddy all the time!

Christmas here has been tiring, as you can imagine with a toddler and a baby who is still breastfeeding! DH left me to do all the cooking and washing up on Christmas day which to be honest when combined with breast-feeding and a trip to see my parents meant that I didn't really get to chill all day. DD1 was pretty good but a bit over-whelmed by everything as the day went on, and then had a recurrent tantrum about her advent calendar having run out of chocolate. Today she has had a cold and has been snotty and coughing all day, which may explain the grumpiness yesterday (and today)! Then today we went to DH's family which involved 12 adults (one of whom has advanced Alzheimers), 4 very over-excited young children, 1 baby and 2 lively dogs, so you can imagine the noise and chaos. Plus there was some tensions among some of the adult family members and a bit of an atmosphere at times, so quite relieved to get home to be honest. I think tomorrow will be better as we can keep DD1 in her routine and don't have any pressure to be anywhere, so can chill a bit more.

Also (and I know this makes me sound like the Grinch) but the sheer amount of gifts the girls got, combined with the many, many toys / clothes they had already, means there is literally stuff everywhere and we have no room for it all, and it's driving me bonkers (not to mention nearly tripping down the stairs this morning whilst holding the baby on stuff that DH had 'tidied' by dumping randomly on the stairs).

I've also started getting called Daddy even though he can say Mammy, and when asked where is Mammy he will point at me . Someone told me today that it is easier to say daddy but it is odd!

KitKat I am not sure I would have been happy had DH left me to do all the cooking and cleaning on Christmas day, especially with a breastfeeding lo. Is he always like that? Here DH did most of the cooking and I did the washing up. We do tend to split it that way most days anyway so didn't feel anything should change (he is a better cook than me who can burn beans on toast lol). Hope you have managed to get a rest today.

We also have more toys, and probably more to come as we haven't seen my parents yet. Not sure where we will put anymore toys! We have had a bit of a sort through and have gotten rid of some of the ones he doesn't play with, but there is still more than we have room for!

I'm very glad to hear that there are others like this; it's so no nice that the child i kept safe and grew in my tummy all that time not only came out looking just like his dad, but also only says daddy and doesn't even like me that much

My friends little boy can say mummy but when dad is around says 'no mummy not you' :(

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE