September 2006 babies - smiles all round!

[clairemow]

New thread for us....

cruisemum - sorry ..crossed posts, sorry it didn't get any better, wish I could give you some advice....

Cruise, poor you I really hope your nights improve soon.
DS seems to be over his sicky/diarrhoea phase now and I had him weighed on Monday and he is still on the 25th percentile and doing well so I'm pleased he didn't lose any weight.
I'm going to try DS on formula this weekend. HV said to get DH to give it to him to begin with and that DH should have one of my worn t-shirts nearby so that DS smells my milk and thinks that he's drinking my milk rather than formula.
BTW, you know when you get engorged, does anyone else get swollen lumps in their armpits??

morning,

So sorry to hear things haven't got any better Cruisemum. What are you doing to try and help get DS to sleep during the day? I always think that good day sleep = good night sleep... I don't really know what to suggest apart from walking with the pram, or driving round the block, but those aren't long term solutions, although it might help to get DS into a pattern of sleeping and understanding how to get off?

Myrtle, I got the swollen lumps in my armpits too - it's an extension of your breast tissue and so long as it goes away with the engorgement, I wouldn't worry about it at all.

Only DS2 today as DS1 in nursery. TBH, DS1 is causing me more stress at the mo than DS2 - he seems to be going through a tantrumy stage... think it's linked to not sleeping in the day anymore and getting tired, and the Terrible Twos...

clairmow- ds sleeps beautifully in car seat during school run - yesterday 1hr 50 and today the same. He is currently having 2nd daytime nap in his buggy in the hallway - yesterday was buggy but out and about. 3rd nap yesterday was on school run in car again so am hoping for the same today. Teh troube is weekends when there is no school run! I guess I shall have to push him around my house in his buggy again. Last night,btw, was dreadful, just dreadful. Hoping his napping is going to reflect on his sleeping....
Thanks to all for your cyber support!

Can't your dh take him out for a walk at weekends?
Our daytime napping is still up and down but I don't worry about it as much as I did with ds because at the end of teh day I still have ds to entertain so I may as well do it whilst pushing dd out and about. It's helped that the weather is so mild for the time of year so we can still go to the park and for walks etc

compo - dh sleeps in at weekends as he works such long hours all week - (and i dont????!!!!!)
does your lo nap in cot at all?

Hi grr at your dh!!
She will sometimes but only for at the most 30 minutes. I can't remeber when ds started having longer naps in his cot but i'm sure it wasn't until after 6 months at least

compo - you ahve given me some much needed hope!

cruise/compo- my ds has never taken a day nap in the cot/basket. this is only because, so far, he only has daytime naps right after a feed...amd in always in the lounge when i feed him. i've attempted walking up the stairs with him asleep to put him down, but he has always woken up. so i just leave him downstairs on a blanket and mat. i think i might attempt cot napping into the new routine that im creating for the near future...feeding upstairs so that he gets used to sleeping in cot.

Cruise - again, here's another area where we're alike...Dh's and the weekends...well, anytime really. i go through on and off chats and disagreements with mine about the topic of "he works and im a STH at the moment so that automatically means he's working more/harder than me". i don't think they will EVER ever ever get it through their heads that this is a 24/7, up at dawn/all hours, neverending job for us! i think my dh reckons all i have to do in the day is feed ds, change ds, tidy the house, sit on my bum, etc!! little does he know, as our ds gets older, he's becoming more demanding and in need of attention.

i think last night, when i was painting the room and dh was minding ds, dh got a little glimpse of why i'm not able to do long tasks around the house (like decorating)...ds only wanted his momma and was screaming down the house otherwise...

Health Visitor just left. she was refreshing me on baby massage. and as usual, the little one is sound asleep...always is after a really good massage. seeing as he's not really napping during the day at the moment, perhaps i should do this more often. all it takes is: really warm room, neked baby, soft music, grapeseed oil, and a warm blanket to wrap him in afterwards. ((the HV advises that lo gets a drink right after the massage to rehydrate him...thats when he drops off...ahhhhh...the sound of silence! isnt it nice?!?

Cruise - one more thing...i approached the HV with the hourly feeding at night issue. She was a bit perplexed...but later when i mentioned that ds was droooling loads now and chewing on fist and thumb all the time, that teething is probably the reason for the sudden change in the night feeds. Says its the gums possibly getting a bit 'fineky' and making the lo's briefly irritable.

possibly a reason for it. but then again, my ds is wide awake until very late, usally smiling and cooing to his hearts content at 11pmish...im not sure. so confused and feeling like im incredibly inexperienced. .

please tell me this is just what parenting is all about!

munki - thanks for that. Fortunately ds seems to have slowed down on teh waking frequency but is taking hours to settle at night . Last night I was getting really frustrated and felt myself getting angry so dh took over but that made ds scream the house down so i took over again. He eventually gave in at some ridiculous hour after spending time cooing and smiling at me. his first 1hr or so of nighttime sleep seems, in his book, to be nothing more than a refreshing nap! he has had around 4 hours worth of naps today so I am hoping that the good naps = good nights prediction is true . I will let you know. Take care and stay patient.....

Hi all,

Havent been on for a while the days are just flying! I will catch up with everyone tonight.
Ive been trying to sort out my new rota at work and a nursery and finding it all very stressful
Ive been to two nurseries already and they are lovely expensive but lovely. The problem is arranging my rota I work 12 hour shifts its a long day but means I only have to work 14days a month which is nice. But the nursery need me to have set days each week and at the mo thats virtually impossible I can work any shift 7 days a week 365 days a year days or nights, (I take the 999 calls and do the radio with the police)So the whole thing is really getting me down
Oh well hopefully I have it sorted soon.
dd's doing well getting big took her to baby clinic today 16lb 10oz!!

hope you are all well xx

pistachio - thanks

Redz - Just a quickie as off to make dinner but you could try busy bees nurseries as they sometimes have a limited number of 'flexible' places. Other than that you can look into legislation about flexble working which includes a legal obligation for your employer to consider giving you family friendly hours.

Pistachio, my DH sounds like yours. He gets home from work and immediately goes to see DS and to have a play with him and then he baths him. Its great for me as I get a bit of a rest before feeding DS again. DH tells me he really misses DS when he is at work so he likes to get back as soon as poss so he can spend some time with him before DS goes to bed. I'm very lucky to have them both
Redz, sounds like your DD is doing really well. DS was weighed on Wednesday and is now 13lbs 13oz.

myrtle- how old is your lo? My ds was exactly that weight at 12 weeks so I am curious. I am having him weighed tomorrow or Friday so will update then!

munki - how was your night? My ds went to sleep beautifully (on my boob of course...) and was in his cot sound asleep by 7pm. All fine and dandy until 9:20pm - quick bf then bacjk in his cot. Awake again every two hours! Just for a quick suck grrrrr.... I think the prob is that when he feeds, I fall asleep so as far as he is concerned we are co-sleepers! He never used to be like this. What are we to do? I am sick of it tbh. What about you?
btw munki - this is my 2nd child so you think I would know better! It is true taht they are all different.

Have you seen there is a due in September 2007 thread? Our little ones are growing up!!

anyone with 18 week old still exculsively bf? I am considering trying one bottle of formula a day and gradully switching. I don't know why but I did with dd at the same age so I guess there will be no harm done. ds weighed in at 15lbs today so only put on 1lb3oz in 6 weeks - that is a factor as he has dropped below his 50th centile. Your thoughts...............

cruise, I exclusively bf DS1 to 6 months. As you know, I stopped earlier this time, and find that . Don't stop unless you want to! Are you worried that your recent experiences with night waking are to do with not getting enough from exclusive bf? If you did introduce a bottle, I'd do it for the latest feed at night....

oh sorry, re the centiles, I saw Tiktok the other day saying that bf babies often take a dip on the centile charts, and not to worry about them unless DS is no longer weeing and pooing regularly, is not alert and happy or seems unwell. I hope I haven't misquoted her...

cruise! im sorry to hear about another night of this behavior...so needless to say, i,too, am absolutely shattered today!!! it felt like ds woke up every half hour (ish) instead of hourly. today, he's been falling asleep on the boob. i'm wondering if we're doing the same 'co-sleeping' thing. tonight i'm putting him in the travel cot for the first time in months, i think he's outgrown the basket. ((ok i have to admit that he has been sleeping with me ALOT)) but since i'm already losing loads of sleep due to the constant waking, might as well attempt to ween him back into sleeping alone.

something just dawned on me...since my ds has been 'not'sleeping, i've been sleeping without a nursing bra on...(sorry if thats too much info, but im sure you can agree that its mighty uncomfortable, day in day out). i've been sleeping with absorbant mats under the sheets (and yes, changing the sheets alot!) but worth the added comfort. hmmm i wonder if its something thats effecting his sleep. he does sleep cuddled up to me so perhaps he's smelling me better than he does with bra on?!?!?

see how tired i am? im rambling on about silly things..im going to take him upstairs for a feed, in hopes he takes a nap with me.

dd is 17 weeks tomorrow and only weighs 12lbs (dropped 2 centile lines). i'm still exclusively BFing. I sometimes think about one bottle of formula but she's pretty content and I'm lazy...She's not great overnight, I do a dreamfeed at the moment and she's fed once more (often awake another time but only gets dummy or ignored). Saw HV this morning and she's not in the least bothered about her dip in the centile chart (phew as dh will worry!) but she said she recommends weaning at 4 months (and she said this before dd was weighed so not b/c of slow weight gain). I was planning to hold off until 6 but might start after 5, don't know. She gave 3 reasons - one about iron levels in breast milk reducing at 6 months, one about 4-6 months being a key time to introduce lots of colours (she said that babies who don't start until 6 months as likely to end up eating only pasta and sadwiches as toddlers which is total nonsense IMO)and I can't for the life of me remeber the 3rd reasosn. AAaaargh - mush brain. I even got her to repeat them for me. Now I know for a fact that over on the weaning boards she'd get ripped to shreds, but there you go. I was v surprised to hear her say start at 4 months and can't believe that's next week!

meant to say that lucy finally laughed yesterday after looking very close to laughing for weeks. isn't it just the best sound ever?!