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November 2015 newborns and neurotics

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Ladypug · 16/11/2015 11:42

Hi all,

I can't see a group for babies born in November so I'm starting one! My DD is 2 weeks old and we've had 2 weeks learning curve - breastfeeding, nappy changing, sleep deprivation and learning what cries mean, on top of poor DD struggling to go to the toilet and manic bouts of meltdown crying! How is everyone else getting on?

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sophiaslullaby · 14/12/2015 16:44

Yes my day got better after that meltdown - usually does if I have a rubbish night/morning, a few tears and everything is better.
Feel bad today, I was DESPERATE for a nap but DS wasn't happy to be put in moses basket so put him in swing seat... midwife says they'Re not great for baby's spine so not to keep them in the seat for longer than 20mins a day -he's been asleep in it for nearly 2hrs! I HAD to do it though, I was on the floor.

Hopes everyone's ok, ready for Christmas? My tree is out the loft, decorations still in the boxes though.

SnozzberryMincePie · 14/12/2015 21:53

Sophia ds will only sleep on me or in a beanbag Blush. I carry him in a sling a lot, do you have one? The stretchy wrap ones are supposed to be best for supporting their backs.

I have done most of my Xmas shopping apart from dps family but I refuse to take responsibility for them. We have dds birthday to get through first, she is VERY excited.

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Ladypug · 15/12/2015 00:28

Hey everyone! Not been on the thread in ages, going to read and catch up on what I've missed but just wanted to say hey, still here, still sleep deprived (hanging out my ass with tiredness!) hope everyone is ok x

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CishAndFips · 15/12/2015 09:41

Don't feel guilty sophia sometimes we have to do what we have to do for our own sanity.

sophiaslullaby · 16/12/2015 13:50

snozz I considered a wrap sling but didn't want it to create dependancy on me - i'm lucky that most of the time he will sleep in his moses basket, so holding out for the moment. But have eyed up one already so might get one after Xmas.
I'm being ultra tight this year and only getting presents for my family (close friends i've invited over for drinks &catch-ups) as need to watch money now. Does mean I'm more or less done. I haven't sent my Christmas cards out yet though -ordered baby photo ones from Vistaprint and they messed up the order! Eek!

Happy birthday to your DD Snozzberry, hope she has a lovely day :-)

Hi Ladypug -good to hear from you, yep tiredness still debilitating here too. DS still wakes every 3hrs at night.

Cupcakesandlove · 18/12/2015 11:09

Hi please can I join? I gave birth to a little girl weighing 5.15 on the 20tb November.

Cupcakesandlove · 18/12/2015 11:18

Sorry I pushed send before putting my story on! I had her 9 days early and birth was pretty quick I was only in labour 3 hours and pushed for 16min, had a second degree tear. We stayed in hospital for 4 days as my daughter had hypothermia which was suspected to be GBS so she was on antibiotics, thankfully she was able to maintain her temperature after being in a heated cot for a few days. I had major baby blues which I blame on the lack of post natal care in the hospital - who thought it was a good idea to have 6 women and men with new borns in a tiny cramped room without sunlight and screaming babies 24/7...thank goodness for my family is all I'm saying, I came home and was literally off my face!
I am on my own as her father doesn't live with us.
I've also had a hard time with colic turns out she might have trouble with the lactose in milk so we are on colief till Tuesday when we have a review

CishAndFips · 18/12/2015 11:45

Welcome cupcake and congratulations on your new arrival. Sorry to hear you've had such a tough time. Hope the colief is working for you.

SnozzberryMincePie · 18/12/2015 13:54

Congratulations Cupcakes! Sorry you had a rough time, the horrible postnatal ward after I had my first was one of the main reasons I went for a home birth this time! Was your dd in special care? It is difficult when everyone else has their babies with them and you don't.

Sophia my take on it is that babies are born dependent on us and it is up to you to decide if and when to try to wean them off. The sling is supposed to remind babies of being in the womb as they are warm and snuggled up close which is why they are happy in there.

We also tried swaddling ds yesterday evening as he was fussing quite a lot, and he slept for a couple of hours straight when he is normally whingey and on and off the boob. As soon as we unswaddled him for bed he woke straight up and was back to normal.

Cupcakesandlove · 18/12/2015 19:45

Hi snoozeberry- no she was seconds literally from going to neonatal, but luckily she managed to maintain her temperature when in the heated cot so she was kept with us.
I also found out at the 24 hour check that she has clicky hips which is a sign of hip dysphasia we have a scan on the 7th jan... Has anyone else with a November baby had this? Oh and she has tounge tie but they are reluctant to snip it as I'm not breast feeding... But it is effecting her feeding as I can hear her sucking a mile away and sometime she holds her breath when drawing in the milk so gasps

Cupcakesandlove · 18/12/2015 19:45

Ps. Colief is a miracle

CishAndFips · 18/12/2015 20:31

Glad the colief is working cupcake

SnozzberryMincePie · 18/12/2015 20:38

Cupcakes hip dysplasia runs in my family so we have a consultant appointment to check ds's hips. If she does have it it is fixable if caught early so don't panic, she would probably just have to wear a harness to fix it. I don't really think ds has it but I'm glad they are checking it out.

Cupcakesandlove · 18/12/2015 22:57

My mum had is apparently but didn't think to tell me when I was pregnant... My nan has problems with her hips but on my fathers side. My DD came out looking like a frog only way to describe it... I thought it was normal as I hadn't seen a baby who was just born before! It wasn't until we had the 24 hour check that the lady said she had it. The hips don't click anymore well not that I have noticed and she has straightened out a lot however she is best comfortable and settled on my chest with her legs in a frog position. However her left foot (left hip being the bad one) is turnt in and the whole leg looks a bit "bent"! I hope she has grown out of it but my instinct is that she will need the brace.... Is it really bad of me to hope she doesn't need one and is fine? I understand there are babies who are in worse off positions than mine and I seem ungreatful that I do have what seems to be a healthy baby just with a few "cosmetic" issues...

Sadie10753 · 19/12/2015 01:12

Hi everyone! May I join? I'm new to netmums. My bundle of joy was born 27th November, 5 days overdue and had to be induced, very tough labour. 12 hours after being born, LO had green vomit twice within an hour. I didn't sleep for 38 hours as she had to be transferred to a different hospital for tests then was in NICU for 2 days. Luckily all was OK in the end.

The first week and a half she fed perfectly (BF), but the past week and a half she's been very unsettled on me. Basically coming off every 2-3 minutes and then head butting my boob and shaking her head around. Is this normal?? She's wheezing and squeaking every time I lay her down as well, try winding her in between the feed and after, but never anything. Infacol has reduced her colic. Any advice? I'm going out of my mind everyday.

Thanks in advanceSmile

CishAndFips · 19/12/2015 07:37

Cupcakes that's not bad of you at all I would say it's perfectly normal and natural to feel that way.

Welcome Sadie and congratulations. No advice on BF sorry FF here but I know there are a few BF mums here.

SnozzberryMincePie · 19/12/2015 09:55

Welcome sadie. I'm bfing but not an expert, it might be worth starting a thread on the infant feeding board. Do you spray milk when she comes off the boob? If so it could be that your milk letdown is too fast for her. You could try feeding in different positions eg leaning back or lying down to slow the flow of milk, and wind her when she looks uncomfortable. If she doesn't like lying flat does she like being carried in a sling?

Cupcakes it is completely normal to worry about every little thing about our babies Flowers ds has little frog legs too which I think is normal, but the unevenness could be a sign she has it.

Sadie10753 · 19/12/2015 13:56

Thank you snozzberry, milk doesn't spray out, tried all feeding positions possible, but the outcome is the same. I've opened a new thread in infant feeding so hopefully someone will be in the same position who can helpSmile

All the best!!Smile

Cupcakesandlove · 19/12/2015 21:12

Hi Sadie how long are u winding for? My daughter wheezes and squeaks too and I have to sit her up for about 30 min after feeding to wind her!!! Nightmare! Also my midwife suggested moving them from laying to sitting in a rocking movement to disperse the air bubbles, also if u "bounce" them on your knee it also works

Cherrychoo86 · 22/12/2015 15:59

Hi everyone, I'm new to mumsnet. My son was born 26th November, Hes beautiful! I had an enjoyable pregnancy but horrendous delivery, ending up with emergency c section. The past week is where I feel like my hormones and emotions are now getting the better of me, I know tiredness is well and truly kicked in which isn't helping, my son cluster feeds a lot! Im sick of smelling and constantly leaking of breast milk...I miss the nights of not having to wear a bra! I'm accually feeling quite resentful for the fact my partners snores in the night are obviously because he's able to fall into a deep sleep! I feel as though I'm crying at the drop of a hat, the short dark days don't help especially as my partner is back at work so can be quite lonely at times and I feel like funnily enough I'm seriously mourning my bump, I know I can't be the only one feeling like this. It's good to hear everyone's experiences.

CishAndFips · 22/12/2015 18:25

Hi cherry congratulations on your baby boy. Sorry to hear your having a tough time, sleep deprivation sucks doesn't it? Keep talking were all here to listen, vent, hand hold and share the good times too Flowers

SnozzberryMincePie · 22/12/2015 19:55

Welcome cherry. I recommend getting out to some groups in the new year, to meet other mums with babies the same age who will all be going through the same thing. The one good thing about having a toddler already is that I am forced to get out of the house for her sake, as I remember it being much lonelier first time around.

The health visitor came around yesterday and said ds had dropped a centile and asked lots of questions about how often he is feeding etc. After she left I realised she had put him on the chart as one week older than he is, and if she had put his correct age he would be on the same centile as before Hmm

SnozzberryMincePie · 22/12/2015 19:56

Is everyone ready for Xmas?

CishAndFips · 22/12/2015 20:03

We're done here just Sophie's presents to wrap. We are at my aunties for Christmas dinner so that helps.

Cupcakesandlove · 22/12/2015 21:34

Hi cherry I feel like I could of written your post myself! Only difference is I don't bf and my partner doesn't live with me!!
I am so resentful that he can sleep and I can't I feel like I never sleep!! I did breast feed at the start and I'm still leaking now over a month later - I hate wearing s bra too... What I will say is when I was able to get out it made it soooo much better and then I have been able to get us into a routine now we'll sort of...
It will get better (so they say)