November 2015 newborns and neurotics

[Ladypug]

Hi all,

I can't see a group for babies born in November so I'm starting one! My DD is 2 weeks old and we've had 2 weeks learning curve - breastfeeding, nappy changing, sleep deprivation and learning what cries mean, on top of poor DD struggling to go to the toilet and manic bouts of meltdown crying! How is everyone else getting on?

Waves to Lady Sophia and Brioche wow the pregnant forever thread seems like a life time ago. Hope it's ok for me to hop on here. DD was born on the 1st. She's an absolute dream and a very easy baby (so far, fingers crossed it lastS) DS behavior however has taken a definite turn for the worst. He idolises DD and can't do enough to help and wants constant snuggles with her, his general behavior however urrgh. Not sure if it's a play for attention or tiredness but it relentless sometimes. Right off to read the thread.

Welcome Cish. that is just like my three year old, she loves her baby brother but is being a whingey nightmare generally . I guess it is a massive change for them but it is hard to deal with on top of the sleepless nights etc.

Golden it took me a few weeks to get out after I had dd, I had a much more difficult birth that time which makes a big difference. Just do it when you are ready.

Feeding in public I am OK with, although ds has an annoying habit of coming off my boob when my milk flows too fast and I am a bit worried I might squirt someone . If you feel self conscious then wear a big floaty scarf so no one can see what you are doing. Re toilets, you will soon learn where the buggy friendly loos are. Failing that you can choose to either ask a friendly person to watch the baby while you go to the loo, or go in the end cubicle and leave the door open with the buggy in the doorway so no one can see in.

Night all! (Hi Cish! Wondered if you'd be popping by! )
DH just had to nudge me -I'm sat up BF and fell asleep, apparently snoring my head off! Missed my nap today so very tired. All going well though, DS feeding frequently 1-6pm though so I don'the get a lot done.

Golden -first week of feeding I'don't feel really emotional on let-down and a bit sick but it did pass. Are you drinking enough? Do you have snacks by you when nursing? Try some plain or ginger biscuits.
Also are you sore from any stitches? Highly recommend bathing a salt water -did this for just over a week and healed lovely.

I've fed in public as far as the children's centre and not shy (all women doing the same) but was shy when friends were over &had to nurse. DS ended up not latching properly -ouch!

Hi snooz we are slowly starting to have more good days than bad days with him but the bad days are relentless. Hope you had a good night sophia it took me a while to find you. I actually got quite excited when it popped up in most active.

T'Ahh that's lovely Cish :-), can't leave mumsnet! -got me through pregnancy and labour, I now need it to get through the newborn stage in one piece! It is lovely to hear how everyone is getting on to from pregnancy to the early days. The bad days are relentless -i'll never regret breastfeeding but it does make me a slave to DS. Hope you &little one are having a good day!

DH is home this week but doing building work so he's not on hand to help, therefore I'm up in the night and all day for baby. Loving the newborn cuteness but can't wait for him to be few months and to get routine in place (I'm tough on myself so already prepared to work hard to get the 'sleep through 12-6am' locked down in few weeks time).

DS has come out in loads of milk spots in last few days, I'm not touching them as don't want to scar but is there anything that can help or prevent them?

Haha mumsnet is my lifeline at the minute especially for the night feeds. We seem to be having longer and longer stretches between feeds over night. DD had a break out of milk spots too, HV said not to touch them and they have mostly cleared up now. I have heard that putting a bit of breast milk on them can help but I'm formula feeding so no idea how true that is.

Lol, I've accidently squirted DS in trhe face with milk before - didn't know it could actually be useful to do so! It'll give it a go.
I have good and bad nights - DS is always in bed by midnight (only 3weeks but its a routine for me if nothing else and will stand us in good stead when i start the bedtime routine at 6weeks), but he'll either sleep for 4hrs or wake every 2hrs and fuss about.

Given him a bath tonight, then he kept being sick on his clothes so I broke the 'calm' by changing him (he's still in a damp-at-the-shoulder babygrow because we both got too fraught to change again. Bad lazy mummy.)

I think DD is falling into a night time routine. She sleeps right through between feeds and is starting to stretch out the time between feeds overnight. We will just see how it goes.

I wouldn't call that lazy, I think it's quite sensible not to upset him if he's settled. If it's just slightly damp at the shoulder it won't do any harm.

Sensible and practical - I dont have many 0-3 bedtime babygrows. I don't change him into pj's but for example one adorable outfit has buttons at the crotch rather than poppers -im not faffing with buttons at 4am so have to change him out of that before bed. Likewise with denim dungarees, have a few but they just don't look comfy to sleep overnight in.

That's great that your DD is sleeping longer at night, isn't she around 4 weeks? Im in bed now feeding DS, lights low, relaxing music on - I prepared to be here until 1ish after he's had a good feed, but that should see him through until 4am. Will let you know tomorrow! (Although do wonder if he's going through another growth spurt)

Very practical I change into a baby grow after the tea time feed for that reason.

She is definitely having a growth spurt she has cluster fed early evening for the last two days but still sleeping well overnight so can't complain.

She is 5 weeks tomorrow. How did your evening go.

Night went so well -DS did feed until 1am but then slept until 5am. Fed for an hour again, back to sleep (all of us!) and he woke at 8.30. Stretched it out to 8.45 -I haven't slept to 8.45 since trimester 2!
He's been cluster feeding past 2 days too but is now sat with DH just content and looking around. Hopefully we'll be looking at another good night because I have a headache again!
Have been trying the breastmilk on the milk spots too -will let you all know if it appears to work :-)

Fantastic. We ventured out tonight to meet DH's family so no cluster feeding tonight so will see how tonight goes she is due in about an hour. We have upped an ounce today though so that may be why. Very curious to see if the breast milk works. DD's skin is much clearer now though.

Urgh, horrible day here - dd wanted to go to the park but by the time we made it out of the house it was afternoon, she then ran into the road so I shouted at her and made her go in the buggy, then and she fell asleep in the buggy, and when she woke up it was too dark to go to the park (which doubles as a hangout for junkies at night) and she had a meltdown because I'd promised to take her. Feeling like a terrible mum right now. Poor baby ds slept peacefully through the carnage.

Oh snooz don't be so hard on yourself it's so hard sometimes. It can't be helped that she fell asleep and the park will still be there tomorrow.

Ahh thanks Cish. We had a much better day today, we went to her favourite aunties house who spoilt dd rotten and fed me tea and cake while I fed ds. Dd is still being a rotter tonight though probably all the chocolate she ate

Glad you had a better day. My DS is being a rotter chocolate or not. He's at school today so hopefully can catch up with some house work. The ironing pile is multiplying at an alarming rate. DS is going to "help" DH put the Christmas tree up tonight so hopefully that will keep him entertained until bed time

Hello all,
probably a question ladypug can identify with but need help - DS has terrible trapped wind (not sure if it is colic as thought that came later or was more painful (don't get me wrong, DS is in discomfort but I've seen colicky babies and they scream the house down whereas he is just very wriggly and restless). I've bought infacol.
He's go to feed but appears to take in air at the same time - I try and burp him after 10mins or so (he'll unlatch after that time anyway due to the wind) but i CAN'T bring up the wind, least not much.
And few times I have he then brings all the milk up with it - frustrating in the day, completely distressing at 3am!! Any hints and tips? Even if just to say in few days it'll pass (like wind, haha!)

Hope you managed to get to the park in the end Snozz :-)
And have fun with the decorating Cish - can't bring myself to think of that yet, most we've got is an advent calendar - chocolate, so you can see the attraction there!

Hi all,
Glad to see everyone is doing well. Dd2 is 5 weeks today and we're starting to stretch out the night feeds too. She's generally easy to resettle but not always in her crib so she stays in my bed sometimes.

Sophia we also have gas/trapped wind and sicking back up feeds... Some days are worse than others.. I'm hoping it will pass.

We've got the tree up, did it early as we're flying to the UK on the 17th, can't wait to see all the family with the new addition!

That sounds lovely brioche hope you have a lovely time. DD also seems to be stretching out her night feeds but not with any consistency. She does go at least 3hrly though and settles straight back down so can't complain.

DH and DS put our Christmas tree up on Monday. DS was very pleased with his super special job of putting the angel on the top.

Thankyou Kavy5 -was a good read and what I needed. DS is 4 & half weeks. I'm now downstairs with him as he evidently wanted to get up and stay up at 6.30. He's wide awake, wants to look around and play but I'm just exhausted. He's also filled 2 dirty nappies in hour and half! DH is still in bed having a lie-in because he didn't go to bed until midnight....he's had 8 glorious hours sleep!!
Oh, and now DS just thrown all his milk back up again!

How is everyone? I'm on the sofa having lunch, feeding ds and watching Bambi with dd. We're off to her nursery Xmas party this afternoon.

Ds has been OK, touch wood he is still sleeping OK at night, only waking for feeds.

Sophia it might be time to wake your dh up so you can have an afternoon nap...

Hope your day got better sophia how was the party snooz we have been out all day for DS birthday. My parents babysat Sophie. It was a lovely day but I missed Sophie so so much.

Hope your ds had a good birthday Cish.

The Christmas party was OK, a roomful of three year olds high on sugar isn't really my idea of fun

We went to dds best friend's birthday party today so it's been a busy weekend.