June 2013 - the terrible twos aren't so terrible

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Here goes with a new thread!

Unusual...nice though. :-)

13th January according to Facebook:)

Lovely news!

I was looking at our Facebook group a while ago...I'm not sure I have a scooby who some of the members are!

Awww Josiah is lovely. Congrats Aloha whenever you come back!

I've got 7 weeks til DDay and only 3 weeks and 2 days left at work. Think the guy who is taking over from me is panicking. He's had a year to learn my job and is still struggling. So basically I'm 3.5 days a week and he is 5 days a week and still can't do all that I do. Makes for a good case for a pay rise methinks

Congrats Aloha!

I forget about our fb group actually. I could bore you all with so many photos

I find that I do exactly the same amount of work in however many days I have. I'm paid for four but always get everything done whether I'm there that many days or out at court or something. I'm motivated to work quickly to get home to the squishy marshmallow and her big sister.

Lovely news Aloha.

The fb group is very quiet. I might post something on there later; DD came out with something earlier which I'm guessing is the result of too much Sarah & Duck. Was very random.

That was the right episode, hungry - hooray!

Hello again. Yes baby #3 well and truly here. Gradually adjusting to life with 3. Not horrendous so far as he's still sleeping most of the time when he's not feeding, but the nights are hard work. At least with DS and DD I could nap during the day, but seeing as E gave up her nap when she was 2, my only chance of getting enough sleep is going to bed ridiculously early. As in, I'm just about to go to sleep now at 8pm! The kids love their little brother but DD does want to carry him so I can't turn my back on her even for a minute. My attempts to get her to look after her doll while I look after the real baby have failed. She's just not that interested in the doll. Meanwhile my nearly 5 yo DS has been trying to bf the doll

Hello! I used to be curiousgeorgie and I have Sephy... I lost the thread for a long time but I am on the Facebook group!

Sephy is amazing but we've had a lot of trouble with her speech... She's been referred to speech therapy now and has had one session. The doctor originally said she was over 12 months behind, but the speech therapist said she needs to be reassessed as the wait has been so long.

She says absolutely loads of single words, and knows what most things are day to day, she'll occasionally put two words together but it's rare. She's also not very clear... How are all your children with speech?

Thanks for the link on the Facebook page looks like I have a lot to catch up on xx

hi Mary - S is very cute!

J was referred for SALT by the paediatrician at C&W hospital at his 2yr assessment. He was assessed in October last year and we just got the offer of appointments. At this age they don't tend to do 1:1 but rather it's a group of little kids with therapists running it.

J started nursery school on September and his speech, which sounds like it was similar to S's back then, had absolutely exploded to the point he's now bypassed his friends and other contemporaries. His nursery teacher is not at all concerned and so we have pulled out of the sessions.

Does S attend nursery school? J goes 4 x a week and I absolutely believe that's what made the difference for him.

Having said that I've a mate with a 2yr old DD who is only just now saying 'mum'. Nothing else. Her comprehension is fine though. I just think kids are on their own timetable with this sort of thing....

Hi Raeside! (Which one are you on the Facebook group?! It's confusing isn't it :))

Sephys cute when she wants to be!

That's really reassuring, I've just started her at a nursery a few weeks ago, just doing one day a week until Easter when I'll up it, and then in September she'll go to a pre school five mornings so hopefully she'll catch up! I've been really stressing about it!

Dd started nursery in sept, and her then key worker referred her to the speech specialist in the nursery. Dd uses the minimum amount of words possible to convey what she wants and isn't always clear.

I wasn't overly worried as I felt she would soon have to talk better being at nursery, but that it mainly just being me and her at home she sort of didn't have to! She will also be very quiet when she is unsure, and I felt she needed to settle into nursery more - but was more than happy for the assessment to be done. If there was something to do then getting it done was most important.

She had the assessment week before last - and ironically the speech specialist is now her key worker - and she has no concerns what so ever. Yes dd isn't always 100% clear but she's happy that's just age related and will improve without need for concern.

She isn't as advanced as some, but she is understood and I can see changes all the time. She's just settling into her stride.

DD has been referred to SALT too as she was mostly using single words up until November ish. She's really come on in leaps and bounds since Christmas, though she doesn't always finish words properly and struggles with some sounds. There's a 6 month wait for SALT here, so she should get seen around her 3rd birthday.

I'm not overly concerned though; she's just been concentrating on other things!

Her best sentence recently (after DS left a piece of satsuma on the Brio train track): 'It's not a train; it's a satsuma!' (pronounced 'datduma'). It was so funny!

She goes to preschool 3 mornings a week (it was 2 until after Christmas) and will add a full day to this in September. I'm glad she's going as she's starting to make friends now (she says!) and is thriving there.

Mary I've got Joe

Aww, he's very handsome... I love his hair :)

Wow busy busy on here.

My brothers kid had severe speech delay due to ear issues. Once he had his gromits fitted (still have images of Wallace and Gromit in his ears) he's come on leaps and bounds. Remember getting a video from my SIL of him saying 'bubbles' at. 2.5yrs - that fair warmed the heart.

It's funny the mentions of nursery and speech. Lil is apparently very quiet at nursery. Can't bloody shut her up at home though

DS was slower with speech too but now has a lot of words and strings logical sentences together. Nursery has no doubt helped but likewise if he is uncertain (quite often!) then he clams up. If relaxed, he feels more confident and chatters away giving a running commentary to his day :)
We have yet to have the 27m check and I'm glad actually. He seems much more like his peers now than he did 4-6m ago

Hello fb people!

Great speech here (I put the video on fb and forgot to say who I am) however DD's cousin who is exactly the same age doesn't talk at all. He's been seen by a specialist and given exercises to do but they're not concerned because his comprehension is fine. They all get there in their own time. DD didn't really babble (missed that milestone out which worried me a bit) but just started talking! No nursery here.

Hi everyone !
I felt DS was also a bit behind peers with speech up until the past month or so. There has been a huge and sudden shift since then and he's says complex sentences with great vocab (eg 'instructions ' and 'complicated'). Unthinkable before Christmas when sentences were two words. He didn't do well at 2-year check due to a bad night of sleep the night before it and basically lay on the floor and threw things the whole appt - I was quite tearful . Upshot is that I think they all get to the right point in the end, some of them can take a bit longer than others for various reasons/non reasons.

Evening all, I found you! :o

M is a chatterbox now, not always clear though. The HV who did his 2 year check (at 2.3) wanted to review in 3 months as he only had a handful of words and none were clear, but I didn't follow up, partly because DS1 has been assessed by SALT a few times, each time classed as not far enough behind to warrant intervention - has to be over 12m delay and they assessed him as 11.5m behind and his comprehension is fab.

No preschool places here until September for him I think, unless the option I found out about today comes good after Easter. Since his 15 hours free childcare started last September, you'd think they'd offer something, but there's been nothing other than nagging letters to get me to sort something out I don't want to yet.

Nothing like potty training happening here - he hates having his nappy changed, is aware of when he's doing a poo, stands up in the bath to wee, and deliberately farts at whoever is changing his nappy, the git, so clearly has more control than he'd like us to believe :o but has hysterics whenever he goes near the loo (even though he asks sometimes!) and won't contemplate the potty.

I've already planned a birthday party - it's for DS1, he's 6 on Sunday :o fucking soft play, I hate soft play it's like visiting the gates of hell

So, this terrible 2s thing, it does come to an end, right? Am starting to loose count of the number of times I end up in tears because I feel like I must be failing as a mummy, because apparently I am totally unable to get DD to do anything I want. ShE goes through phases where she'll have a week or so of being pretty good and the a week of awfulness. Today is one of those days where it has been one thin after another. She doesn't even respond to direct consequences. She hates holding my hand, so I say, ok walk with mummy, stay on pavement and I won't hold your hand. So she runs into road, and consequently I have to have her hand in a vice like grip while she walks backwards, trying g to peel my fingers off and sitting down on the pavement. And this happens all the time. Am I naive to think she should be able to figure out, if I do x then y happens. It's the same with siting at the dinner table, staying in pushchair, standing on toys and books, pouring water out of her cup etc etc. I think time out does kind of work but some days she would literally end up being in time out all day. Rewards don't work. Have been giving lots of descriptive praise whe she does things right but that hasnt made a noticeable difference. Not sure why I'm writing this, I think I just needed to vent and someone to reassure me that it will get better!

I dunno Aloha. We have similar issues although thankfully its only a bad day rather than a bad week.

This morning she was deposited at nursery with the parting shot 'thank god she's your problem today'.

Trouble is she's a complete ruddy angel in anyone elses care. Its just me and DH who get the tantrums and moody nonsense. Although she had a bit of a go at my sister last week which cheered me right up

I feel your pain Aloha, S is just like that, especially with the walking along... I'm assured she'll grow out of it!

Oh that does sound tough Aloha - I think it's definitely an age thing. And I am getting a creeping feeling it stays on at 3, just changes directly slightly. J is almost insultingly independent and has to do literally EVERYTHING himself. It's dementing as he's pretty crap at most of the stuff that'd be helpful, like putting his coat or shoes on.

Any refusal to let him do it himself results in a shitstorm of epic proportions. It's very wearing. Every single thing is based on deals, negotiation, what I guess boil down to threats (eg: if you throw water out of the bath one more time I'll take the cup away) and bribes (if you come in the gate when we scoot home - instead of hooning off at high speed - you'll get to scoot tomorrow). I think they're generally little shits at the moment with all the opinions and none of the logic-based skill.

Some days I wake up wishing it were bedtime. Sometimes we get a dreamy day. And some days I get on my knees and give thanks to the god of nursery!