Just Mumming 9- We're suffering the curse of Mel B, ST syndrome and the rise of the sleep snatchers. We've all had enough and would just like a good JS.

[PixieChops]

Morning Viroids

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Name: Pixie
Age:29
Pests: 2- P (girl) 17 months old, R (boy) 4 months old
Things I can't do anymore- have a crap in peace, drink a hot drink, do any housework, shag ST, sleep, take naps.

Things I can do- carry a toddler, baby, dirty bottles and nappies down the stairs all at once, put a double pram up in 20 seconds, have a shower inc washing and shaving in under 5 mins. Be coco the clown on 26 mins sleep.

Ooh pis hope it's all ok!

fleur big hugs

I've just had a week of eating crap and now I feel guilty and bet I've put weight on :(. Am comfort eating, got hospital appt next week for possible cancer investigation so scared silly and H isn't sleeping either! :(

Oh zyla thats rough, gx for you

Hugs zyla **
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Did you go out Fleur*?

We took B to the Winchester Christmas fair. 1 hour 40 mins each way and all we did was stand with our mates and drink one glass of mulled wine, but I loved it. We rarely get to go anywhere as a family because of dhs job so it meant a lot. B was very good. Downside is he's wide awake just now because he slept so much in the car. So I'm having to hold him to sleep, if I put him down he is wide awake and shouts!

I went to bed at 8:30 so I had a few hours sleep at least :)

Borrowed a friends jumperoo - can't wait to put it up today!

Ugh will sleep ever be something I can have again? All my friends babies seem to sleep and they've all been putting up photos of them facing fun on nights out.

Do we make a rod for our own backs with bf? In RL none of my mates do it they all ff and their babies sleep. Not meant to be a connection but there quite clearly must be

Argh la! You were so close to me in Winch! Was it manic? I kind of fancy a trip to the Christmas market there but worried it will be unbearable with the pram.

Really hope you went out fleur, it might help You feel a bit more human. I know it's tempting to spend the time in and maybe sleeping but just a couple hours talking about other things and eating something nice was worth it for me.

Scary stuff zyla. Don't worry too about a gain, it's bound to happy every now and again, you can still work it off. For now just focus on the week ahead, hopefully you'll have answers soon.

Not gonna lie dulcet we thought we might not get out alive! But once you're in the food but it was fine. We had 5 buggies!

Morning all! We went out! Amazing.

But we had to leave a screaming S with my MIL - it took 3.5hrs to get him to sleep but it's a miracle he went at all as he refused a bottle.

I wonder the same la - the friends we were out with last night all have kids and none were BF past the first couple of weeks. They were all shocked at the problems we have with S. So, either we have a particularly faulty one or the method of feeding makes a difference.

I would seriously consider FF if I have another.

Hugs zyla really don't worry about a gain this week - you have enough on your plate

Another weekend where we go nowhere - DH would not countenance going somewhere like a Xmas market. Everything is too much hassle for him.

We got the jumperoo out - S was only in it for a few mins but I think he is going to love it! I am also hopeful that it will tire him out

Hooray for going out! Was Mr Fleur ok once he was away from baby?

I am thinking that I'll breastfeed next time but combo feed from earlier. I'm also never having a baby so far from family again!

Hurray for going out Fleur.

We're going to a Christmas market today with the pram, I must be mad but he didn't sleep hardly at all in the sling and he's knackered.

La I don't know how anyone copes without family support. I struggled a lot and my mum is 10 mins away. To be fair we haven't needed her that many times but when we have, we really have.

I've just looked at the Christmas tree thread. We're off to get ours later, we need to go in 2 cars though as we can't put the back seat down anymore

Oh zyla - hope everything's ok? GX for good results. Don't worry about the comfort eating x

Minipopz's boob addiction is still going strong at 11 months.... So they do still need you post weaning - if you want them to

My friend's ff little boy is a terrible sleeper. And my other friend's bf little girl sleeps through the night! I'd quite like a full night's sleep some time soon....

First day out without minipopz yest. My best friend's wedding. MrP ruined it by being a fuckwit. Standard. Minipopz was happy enough at home all day with a Aunty and Grandma, so that's one good thing. Didn't go to sleep til 10.30pm though... Little bugger.

Though tbh, I'm amazed he slept at all without my tit in his mouth!

Apparently there's a 10month sleep regressions! H is 10 months next week and I wonder if this may be part of our problems (after growth spurt then being poorly then teething then being poorly!). Hope so and it sorts itself out soon.

Appointment is on Thursday. It's a 2 week cancer referral thingy due to a mole on my arm going super dodgy.

Also having to book an appointment because my coccyx is still agony, after nearly 10 months and as I've lost weight it's getting worse, I can't sit straight, yay me..I'm broken!

popz yay for minipopz sleeping without boob! Boo for mrpopz being a muppet..

Why was he a fuckwit popz?

Hooray for miniPopz sleeping!

Zyla really sorry you've got this hanging over you and I hope your tests come back clear. You too pis

How did the fair go purple?
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After only an hour of sleep last night, following a week of no sleep, I've just given miniLa a bottle in desperation. He's just hoofed 7oz!!! He's now fast asleep and I am dying to see if it makes any difference. I've just had enough. I'm too tired and me and dh had a chat today about my attitude towards him. If B will take bottle in Eve then sleep for a bit longer it means dh can feed him and put him down and I can get out and have a break more often.

We've done the tree - B loves it! He likes the lights. He also likes the jumperoo - he likes to hit it lots, hasn't got his head round the jumping yet.

Glad you had a good time popz but boo to mrP.

Mr Fleur was great last night. S was being his usual shitty self but I managed to persuade him that the person to feel sorry for was MiL - S would be perfectly fine.

S is mid screamathon. I am being a truly horrible mummy and letting him cry it out. Nothing else has worked. Picking him up makes him even more cross. DH is going to crack though I just know it.

S loves the jumperoo - he is still a bit small for it so is only in it for very short bursts but in a few weeks I am sure he will be bouncing away

Fair was good thanks La I had a cheeky mulled wine. Pram wasn't a headache either fortunately.

We've had words tonight about how I'm treating DH. the upshot being that I've admitted how down I am and apologised for taking it out on him. I've moaned that he never speaks to me and that my days are full of baby talk and banality. And that I'm craving adult conversation, and being an adult not just a mummy. He says he can't say or do anything right and that all I do is snap at him. I feel bad. I don't know how to fix it. But I feel bad for him, he really does do his best, and when he gets it wrong, it's not through lack of trying :-(

Gx for a better stretch tonight La and Fleur

Aw, I miss the jumperoo! It took Minip ages to figure out the jumping part

Hopefully your results will come back clear zy. If not then will they just be able to remove the mole or will it need treatment? Perhaps it's just pregnancy/ hormone related.... It seems to affect bloody everything! Is the coccyx thing from pg/ labour? Hugs x

Long story but basically we almost missed the fucking wedding due to Mr P's bullshit organisation.

Am feeling pretty down too tbh... I don't know what to do about him, sick of his selfishness and just watching him stare into his phone for 25 hours a day.... Plus his family are a nightmare. Ugh.

B has been up every 30 mins since 7. I hate my life. This is normally the best stretch of the night :(

Ouch, la. Maybe he'll exhaust himself and the rest of the night will be better? Fingers crossed for you.
Sorry to hear about all the issues with various not so dh. I am pretty sure that if your marriage can survive first X months or years of a baby, it can survive anything. I definitely have phases of wanting to stab dh to death with a fork , and I'm pretty sure that he feels the same way about me.....and I think that so much of it is caused / exacerbated by tiredness😢
Can't see how evolution has worked out this way - surely babies would survive better with two unexhausted parents? Seems very odd!

Sympathies la S has been doing that for weeks but since a week Friday is has morphed into him taking hours to go to sleep.

I let him CIO tonight 😢 I went into him every 5 mins, stroked him and told him I loved him. It took 45 mins but he went to sleep on his own (literally from banshee wailing to sleep like someone had flicked a switch). I felt sick the whole time. I am not advocating it at all but the end of my tether had been reached and all the rocking in the world was not working.

I'm afraid I can't really comment on relationships - our marriage has been seriously tested over the past few months. We seem to be coming through the other side and DH has started stepping up when I need him - which is just as well as S has been very challenging lately.

Hello all :)

zyla sorry to hear that you have had these results fx it turns out ok!

popz I think you win hands down with he most annoying husband fx he starts pulling his weight a bit more.

I googed 15 month sleep regession, as E sleep was rubbish! But I think if you look hard enough you will find one for every month

fleur you have got to do what you've got to do. To stay sane!! That's why I sleep trained E I couldn't handle the night wakings any more

Worst.
Night.
Ever.

Sorry to everyone else suffering. It's the pits.

DP had to get up after an hour of her whinging and crying to sleep on the sofa. We don't usually stay at his on a Sunday and he has a very long drive and an early start on Mondays so we agreed beforehand that he'd do that if she was playing up. I also had to be up at 6.30 to drive back home for DS to go to school. She finally fell asleep at about 6am and then the upstairs neighbour had their alarm going off for fucking ages so I missed the last opportunity for 30mins sleep. She slept in the car all the way home of course. I remember now why we usually drive home on Sunday! She's lively now - using the remote control to beat the crap out of her push along walker thingy.

Hope you get an answer to what's going on soon Zyla x

What's going on with these babies???

So sorry for crap times everyone! Zyla I'll be thinking of you and sending positive thoughts!

An hour after giving formula for first time B woke screaming having thrown up in bed. He had 2 big burps. He then woke every 30 mins until 10 when I finally got him down. He then woke 3 times during rest of night which was an improvement on the past week but was hard to get back to sleep because he needed a poo. Poo arrived at 5am with a bang explosion all over crib and sleeping bag. 2nd one this week.

Bear in mind my washing machine blew up last wed and I still have no washing machine and we only have 3 sleeping bags. Shite.

So I've no idea if there was any improvement in general because start of night was so hideous! Going to try it again tonight.

Fleur you do what you have to do! No one is blaming you. I'm waiting another week and then we are going to start some sort of sleep training.

Formula is a bit more effort to digest than bm isn't it, maybe it's giving his tummy a bit of jip La? Every 30 minutes is brutal.... Bloody sleep regression. Hope he lets you rest today.

Sometimes they genuinely do just need to CIO fleur ... Minip has done that a couple of times, gone from hysterical to unconscious within seconds! Silly babies. Glad to hear MrF is pulling his weight now.

Coffee for pis! Hope MrP wasn't too grumpy about it....

I think it was because I couldn't get him to burp properly as he was knackered, plus he hadn't pooed for 2 days and was obviously squirmy needing one.

Argh!

Don't feel too bad today though - I had more sleep than usual!