July 2015 - the very beginning, what's going on!!

[MissTwister]

Hi all

I couldn't see a July 2015 thread so thought I'd start one. My daughter was born on the 6th and the last two weeks have been fun and tiring - with not much sleep!

Anyone else around?

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Thanks everyone. Appreciate it during this tricky time. LO is 3.5 weeks old now and wants to feed all the time and won't be put down during the day. She cries unless she's feeding or in a sling. Anyone got this? Is it just a growth spurt? It's driving us nuts. Why are things getting harder not easier? Will speak to the health visitor tomorrow.

small, yes that's normal for this age I'm afraid. It is draining but it won't last long. Hang in there xx

Hi ladies! I finally found you! Thanks Broody for posting the link on the antenatal thread.

Hooray Charlie and Clstow! You've had your gorgeous babies. Hope everything went well. Have some back-reading to do.

Sorry to hear about the thrush small. Hope the medicine clears it up and it solves your BF issues. That pain is unbearable. I have to use nipple shields to BF as my nipples are hypersensitive. Midwife says she sees it in ladies with fair skin tones. So not always an attachment/positioning issue.

Little Miss is 9 days old and just beautiful. Really trying to savour every minute as she's my last baby. Going to register her today and make her all official!

small try and hang in there! It's such a shock with the first that they're so demanding, but that's just how babies are. She will feed constantly and not sleep and cry if you put her down for a while yet. You'll turn a corner between 8 and 12 weeks. It's like an additional 3 months of pregnancy before you get to the good bit with the happy, giggly baby. You're just meeting needs at this point, and you just have to shut your eyes and wait for the time to pass. Do seem to remember things eased a little around 6 weeks. That's first smile time, too. I know I found everything a little easier when my first started to smile. After all the effort if put into him, I found it hugely gratifying and such a relief to know I was actually pleasing him. I think I'd started to imagine he didn't like me. Your mind does funny things when your tired!

Today is first day of no more bf. We were down to only nite feeds and occasionally topping up through the day, more for comfort to go to sleep. I've found that he's not settling great on a nite. Feeding a lot of the nite then by 5 he's shouting and only settles with a bottle.
So now I have to suffer swollen breasts until milk dries up. Going to try antihistamines x

raines, absolutely spot on there, I agree with all you've said to small. I remember being in such a state of shock with dd1, it really wasn't like I thought it would be with wall to wall newborn gorgeousness; the reality was quite different! This time, as you say, I'm savouring every moment and not getting stressed about the time im spending feeding or if I don't shower one day because I'm in such demand appreciate though it's easier for me this time as dd2 apparently adores sleep, in stark contrast to her sleep dodging older sister! These babes will soon be shouting at me, telling me they hate me/I'm useless/I'm not cool enough to be seen with/they wish I was more like their friend's mum etc (Oh but btw could they have some money!) so while she needs me, I'm taking advantage now while I can!

Hi All, may I join?

DS2 was born 6th July - three weeks early and only 5lbs 15oz. We had to spend a week in NICU because he have breathing difficulties but since he got home he has been going really well - feeding non stop and piling on weight.

Finding the sleep deprivation painful but trying to remember, as broody says, that it passes although DS1 was a horrendous sleeper and didn't sleep through for ten months

Longing for the first smile, although HV says it won't be till 9 weeks because I have to wait for six weeks from due date. Can't wait!

Hope everyone is having a good night.

Welcome ties. Congratulations on your lo Must've been stressful with the nicu stay. How is your other ds coping with the newbie? Is he disturbed at night? I've found dd1 (she still hasn't slept through and she's three btw!) isn't really bothered anymore if dd2 starts crying - she was awful to start with, covered her ears and cried herself!

Thank you Broody.

DS1 had three weeks of waking throughout the night, but now has settled into his usual pattern: roughly one wake up every other night, and starting the day 530/6am. At the moment my DH or DM are doing the nights and mornings with him (DH is off work), however come September it will be all me as DH travels for most of the week. Terrified!

How has your DD1 reacted? And sympathies on the not sleeping. How do you and your DH share/manage the wakings?

Only just spotted this thread, can I join? DS2 was actually born 25th June but was due 11th July and I was on the July antenatal group. I can't believe he's 7 weeks old already! I'm getting in to the swing of having responsibility for 2 small children but still finding it quite tough. Running on very little sleep and large quantities of chocolate, this week has been particularly challenging as my eldest has been potty training (somewhat reluctantly)! Hope everyone else is doing ok? How was everyone's week?

Hi everyone, DS is 3 weeks today.

Small we're having the and issues at the moment, DS wants to feed constantly, sleeps very little and is niggly when awake. Not sure if he may have colic or wind, his pained face makes me sad

I'm still BF, I was aiming for 4 weeks and was going to then see how I felt. I'm not finding it difficult but haven't really ventured out yet (other than to friends & family who I'm happy to feed in front of). So still not sure if I'll stop or carry on.

Hi Mister and Sherbet - congratulations on your babies!

Mister, very impressed you are tackling potty training, how old is your DC1?

Sherbert, I find bf in public is easy if I am wearing the right clothes! Tend to go for a vest top to pull down and a baggy top over that acts as a but of a cover. Good luck if you do decide to give it a go.

How are everyone's babies today? We had a horrendous night, he seemed to have a really uncomfy tummy and lots of wind. Has settled a bit today so praying for a better night!

Hi ties Dd1 has been brilliant really, no aggression or jealousy towards her sister as yet (I'm guessing this may change as time ticks on though). She's been a bit more shouty and teary with me but I'd rather that than show dislike towards dd2. Yeah she's just never been a good sleeper, she is a v sensitive little lady and wants cuddles and company so we manage it by cosleeping part of the night - she wakes up, we go to her, settle her back down and then next wake up, take her into our bed. Means we all get sleep. She starts preschool in a few weeks and I am wondering how that will affect her sleeping habits - maybe she will start sleeping through alone or perhaps she will go backwards, who knows?!

mister, how is the potty going? We started dd1 not long ago - think it was early June and it literally took two days! We had an inkling she was ready but never ever imagined she'd take to it so well. She's only had two wet accidents, one in the middle of the stairs and the other in the lounge, where she just totally forgot about going to the loo until it was too late.

Hello everyone.

I had forgotten just how much time a new baby takes up !

Lyla is 4 & a half weeks old now and I don't know where the time has gone.
Got the sore nips here too positive being that she is feeding well.

I've been following you guys loosely, still in the bubble of new baby

Love to all xx

Oooh lyla, I like that name arete! Xx

Hi all
Another one who is reading but not quite getting round to commenting.
Jessica is now 5 1/2 weeks and we are very much still struggling with sleepless nights, largely down to silent reflux and bad wind. We have medication though and she seems a bit calmer today, though she has barely slept, so we will keep our fingers crossed.
Hope everyone is doing ok, for everyone who is struggling.

I posted this on the other section but thought I would post here too for July mums as to me it's laughable!

Babycentre just sent me the weekly email telling me that the 'good news' is that now the baby is 6 weeks she will be in a routine and having naps and feeds at regular times so I can finally get some rest - are they for real?!

Also just read on another site that they will likely be sleeping at least 6 hour stretches at night....

Someone needs to tell my baby who decided to awake at 5am and not settle for hours....

What are your experiences?

MissTwister - no chance!!

I feel my LO is a long way off 6 hour stretches. She still wakes twice in the night for feeds & then occasionally some nights decides to stay awake for the next few hours.

No routine, and rarely more than a two hour stretch of sleep here. Clearly I am doing it all wrong...For the second time

twister, oh they're so full of shit those apps! They're the making of many a mother's insecurities, distress and PND - no babies are the same and so trying to say they should be doing this, that and the other by a certain age is crap. As I always say: these are babies, they can't read, how are they supposed to know what they apparently should be doing?! Delete that email, lovely ladies!

As for Sienna, she's doing well. 23 days old today. She's had a snuffle for a week or so now, due to dh, dd1 and I all having had a rather vicious cold, but it's finally on it's way out I think. I'm feeling quite good, my only frustration is not being able to get out at a decent time with dd1 and dd2 seeming to poo, wee or strop their way through the mornings!

We're settling in to bottle feeding really well. He goes 3-4 hours between feeds twice a day he'll be awake for that time. He's so good. I'm pleased I've made the switch I'm getting myself into a much better routine and on track for school runs in few weeks.

Hi all,

Checking in as fell off thread. Needed to say congrats to lala, charlie and clstow too!!

Elliott is 5 weeks on Weds. We had a fab first month with MrF who went back work last Thursday. He has been a fab new daddy and helped me lots. So far three days of going it alone and no mega dramas, phew.

Defo no routine here! Each day can be different so nothing regular at all, but we are letting baby set the pace with feeds, sleeps and alert time. Should we (or is anyone else) loosely monitor the sleeps etc to see what his preferred pattern is / if one develops? Miss T yes had a few nighttime wakes which he's alert for up to 2 hrs for! I just try to keep nighttime wake ups uninteresting and quiet.

'Normally' sleeping by 10:30, then get a 1am and 3:30 and 6am wake up call for a feed. Last night it was 2hrly though, plus today he's been awake all morning with minimal naps (10mins here n there).

Think he's def going through his first developmental phase as after being so easy going for many weeks he now gets a bit of an evening grumpy little man!

One thing I have found useful to read... Have people heard of the wonder weeks? Its not necessarily a your child should be doing this that or other, but when major developmental milestones roughly occur in first yr and half. I find it useful as a first timer and knowing nowt about child developmental stages. I bought book of eBay for less than tenner and app is £1.25. I read for info, to help my understanding. Not to impose anything on the baby or raise my expectations! I'm just happy for him to drive his agenda and me to service him as a dutiful mummy. He'll only be a newborn once and I love the snuggles.

But his windy pops seems to be under control, with better winding in the day and the discomfort of evening wind/poo attempt is made better by an odd sachet of Nelsons Colica when he gets his grump on at 7pm ish.

Thinks that's my update for now!

mrsf I've used the wonder weeks app with dd1 and using again now and it's fab. It really does seem to fit with unsettled periods.

Lovely to read am updates - don't have a proper moment to name check everyone individually but keep posting

I got an independent lactation consultant to come over. Not thrush. It's a tongue tie. Bless her. She's been trying her best for weeks! Struggling! Poor me. So sore.