June 2013: Here come the terrible twos!

[HungryHorace]

New thread. :-)

Same here, we were together for 8 years before we got together (and we've just celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary - I feel old!). We only had a very small wedding and we didn't ask for anything at all from anybody (nor did we expect anything). Lots of people (invited or not) kindly gave us cash. We had a couple of gifts. Unexpected and much appreciated.

Gah, we are having bad nights again since taking the cot sides off. DS is needing us to stay in the room with him till he goes to sleep (this can take 30-40 mins of sitting in a chair) and is waking and getting out of his bed twice (12ish and 4ish) then getting up at 6ish. Should we persevere and just keep taking him back to bed until he 'gets' it, or put the sides back on??

Could you get a bed guard? That way he can't get out so easily? If not maybe just put the sides back on. If there is no reason why you need him out sooner rather than later maybe just come back to it? I don't think many of us have cracked this yet and in RL I don't know anyone who has moved them out!

We are coming up to four years married and I'm just 37 now. I've known him six years. I wish we'd had more time pre children but you don't want to leave it 'too late'. Part of me wishes I had done this sooner though. Presumably I wouldn't be so tired?!

Tricky Sunbeam. This is our second shot at a sideless cot. First time he seemed quite scared, that was a couple of months ago. Now, bedtime is a little slower because he finds it quite exciting to get in and out of bed. But once he's asleep the nights are no worse for the side being off...and possibly are better. But that's all relative!

We will have been married 3 years in October. We've had a child a year so far, but no more!

We've been together 7 years, but needed to get going on babies straight away due to my age (39 this year). Hence ending up as a (4 week pregnant) bride!

We met when he was 23 and I was 26. Course the challenge of marrying a toyboy is he wanted to have more time sans children. Eventually I put a deadline on things and he was told when were having kids then ready or not. Thankfully he liked her when she got here and is probably more keen than me on a 2nd.

Sunbeam I'd persist at the leading him back to bed. Remember how horrific the sleep training was but it was really only a few days and then you guys were finally getting to sleep through the night.

We've had horrible bed times for a week - I had to talk DH into following the guidelines in the NHS toddler book because he just wanted to go up and cuddle her.

And then the last 3 nights bed time has been a joy again. Phew!

Toy boy

I married an oldie I'm 34, he's 43, we've been together for 9yrs altogether. My mum had a fit when she initially discovered the age gap...she's got used to it now!!

We have a 3 year age gap too, I'm also the oldest!

I was on the same ttc thread as you, hungry, so remember you getting married. It seems so long ago now!

Though I had a different name then. Really should change again.

Loving the wedding stories! I love hearing how others met and how things progressed romantic at heart!
I had the dreaded meet his parents lunch the other day. At 32 and child in tow, it all felt very different. I felt far to old for it tbh!

Dd has a new obsession today. Mummy and babies. Anything bigger, animal, picture, TV etc etc is mummy and anything smaller but the same is baby. It's quite sweet. Kanga and roo seemed to start it. She melts me at times.

Cot sides still on here, although had a conversation with mum today about trying her in a single bed. I'm not at all ready for her to have freedom, but figure it needs to happen at some point and I wonder if it will keep her out of mine a little. something to cling too So we'll see. Need to fix a hole in her bedroom wall first. She's in what used to be my room (did I say we'd moved into my parents old house?!) and I totally forgot why there was a random poster on the wall (winner the pooh as it happens) went to move it the other day and suddenly remembered!

Did your parents move into what was your dad's mum's house, Pinky? How is your dad now?

I didn't know you were on my TTC thread, cup...which one? Trying to conceive first baby or just shagging?!

It feels like forever ago with everything that's happened since!

They did HH. Both houses need work doing, and slowly, as money allows we are doing bits and bobs. you have an amazing memory!
Dad is pretty good now thanks, he is on warfarin for life, which can be a pain to get his clotting levels right. But on the whole that's ok and he is so much better than he was. I think it's aged him in general tho. It's sometimes a little scary to see how much older both he and mum have gotten. Neither have wonderful health, but I would be so lost without them. In so many ways and not just what they do for dd.

It's quite odd looking back over the last few years and seeing how much has changed, and all the crap that has been dealt with.

I think I remember your wedding day too, Hungry! Or am I misremembering? Had you just found out you were pregnant and nobody knew?
I love that we have all supported each other through the good and bad for almost 3 years now! Yep, good advice, Sunny. We will keep going with the cot sides off and give things a chance. This too shall pass!
You are such spring chickens compared to us - I'm 42 now and DP is (wait for it)... 56!! He doesn't seem that age though. We were together about 3 years before DS was born but we are not married and no plans to.

Our how we met story always befuddles people.

We met in Fiji. I was managing a research project that was largely funded by volunteers - DH was one of the volunteers having one last hurrah before joining the army. Instead he met a super lefty liberal who hates the army (I've grown up a bit since then). Once we got back from Fiji he deferred the army we bought a shit campervan and drove across Europe to Cyprus to become diving instructors.

As it turns out being a diving instructor is a lot less glamorous than it looks so we packed that in after 3 months, drove back across Europe and i had a job interview on the Thursday and by the Monday had started work. 8 years later I'm still there.

Think my mum is still shocked the pair of us managed to settle down.

Great story! We were neighbours but got together through online dating!

I've just searched my old username! I was mainly on the ttc first child thread and Oct 12 BFP bus. I might have a read through later!

Just looking at the first lines of posts that are displayed I can see that on the Oct 12 BFP bus I had a conversation with someone who's on my May and June 15 threads.

Woman's own did an article on how we met. I will dig it out for you!

Woman's Own?! My gran used to buy that!

And yes, Sunbeam. We found out the Thursday before (at 3+4) and only 4 of us knew on the day. :-)

We met through Muse. Online on the fans' board first then face to face at a gig at the Royal Albert Hall in April 2008. It was initially long distance til I moved. He'd never have moved, so we wouldn't still be together now if I hadn't!

Here you go. For the avoidance of doubt I did not ever say 'I found it so hard to find a boyfriend' or 'shaggy blond hair'.

Oh my. You mean this gem could have been sitting in my mum's livingroom all this time and I missed it! Did they pay you money for that? Or is that reserved for the stories like 'man eating sheep almost ate my baby'?

'Having a baby won't stop us from walking...'

Cough

Now in my defence this started out as a very sensible article in our walking magazine. We met through our group as did loads of other couples and there was a feature on us and I sounded very sensible. Woman's own picked it up for a feature on people who met through exercise. They twisted my words!!! I remember being on the phone saying 'but I just wouldn't say that!'. They didn't care. They shamed me.

Having a baby didn't stop us walking HH. We take days off when Polly is in nursery and go to the chilterns!! That may not be quite how I thought it would be....

I can believe it. I was in Melody Maker once (post gig interview) and even they made up stuff!