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May 2015: Still early but babies already arriving!

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Justyouwaitandsee · 30/04/2015 09:47

Hi ladies, here is a thread to get us started. The support of other 'Maysters' has been so valuable, would hate to miss out on this once babies arrive. I have a feeling we are still going to have lots of questions and experiences to share! Smile

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Scottishgal78 · 18/05/2015 16:00

I'm doing mixed feeding mini. Not giving myself a hard time about it. I just want to enjoy my baby and not get caught up in fretting about if he's had enough.

Wow Jessie that's a lot to take in. At least you've had an early diagnosis and can deal with it.

minimooo · 18/05/2015 16:50

Sounds good scottish. It has to be better for babies if their mummies are happy, right? Smile

Goodness jessie that sounds stressful. At least you can manage it going forwards now.

LP20140 · 18/05/2015 17:07

Hi all!

Gosh Jessie. I hope you're all OK.

Our baby boy arrived last Tuesday and is doing well. Xx

KittyVonCatsington · 18/05/2015 17:54

Hi minimoo Firstly a huge congratulations on the birth of Emmie and well done for getting through such a traumatic start. I'm extremely happy that you are feeling stronger.

My DD Sarah has 100% tongue tie and breastfeeding has been v difficult because as soon as my nips get a bit bigger with sucking, she gags and then I can't continue to get the good hind milk. So basically I have to keep switching boobs for an hour or two to get her my milk and then I have to top up. I try and express but as you can tell, I don't often get any time to do that so some top ups have been formula (thank God for the Tommy Tippee Perfect Prep machine!) The only reason I haven't switched over full time is that I am expecting a referral letter for an appointment to get it cut and I'd like her to go back to boob after. However, I know that it might not be possible.

Don't feel guilty. I understand your feelings though but my determination to feed my baby come hell or high water overrides the sadness I feel.

If you ever need to talk we are all here and supportive xxx

KittyVonCatsington · 18/05/2015 18:04

Congratulations on your baby boy lp Flowers

So sorry for the diagnosis jessie - v scary. Have they given you a plan to follow? Sending hugs x

LP20140 · 18/05/2015 20:46

Thank you. Xx

LP20140 · 18/05/2015 20:50

Congratulations to you too kitty and well done for your persevering nwith feeding xx

minimooo · 18/05/2015 22:01

Congrats lp. Hope the birth went smoothly. Enjoy new baby snuggles.

Thanks kitty. That sounds very painful and difficult to cope with. Hope they can get the tongue tie sorted ASAP.
I really thought I would be able to bf full time, but then again I also thought I would have my hypnobirthing waterbirth! Nothing could have been further from the truth.

Finally feeling ready to share my birth story. If you haven't given birth yet, you might not want to read this!

Contractions kicked off at 3am on Tuesday 28th April. I managed to use my hypnobirthing strategies but I stayed in latent phase of labour for 4 days. Was having strong contractions every 1 - 5 ish minutes for the whole time, but only got to 2cm dilated. Had no sleep during those 4 days. Used Tens machine which was really helpful.
Thought my waters went on the Friday evening but the hospital wouldn't see me because I wasn't yet in established labour. In the end I just turned up to the hospital on the Saturday night and they did a test which proved my waters had trickled out.
As it had been over 24 hours, they gave me an epidural and induced me. My contractions were quite erratic, but I did get to 10cms dilated.
I started pushing but then they examined me and said there was a lip of cervix in the way and they couldn't hook it over baby's head. Baby's head was also quite high.
They broke my waters to find meconium and baby started getting distressed.
The decision was made to perform emcs. I was wheeled through to emergency theatre. They administered the spinal block through my epidural. But this is where it got a bit crazy. The spinal block anaesthetic leaked into my bloodstream and I started feeling my face going numb, then my throat went numb and I was finding it hard to breathe, my eyes went numb and I could hardly keep them open. They pumped me full of a drug to reverse the spinal block, but that meant that I could feel the emcs procedure being carried out. At that point my uterus wouldn't contract and they couldn't get it back into me and stitch it up. The pain became unbearable so they put me under general anaesthetic. I lost 2 litres of blood during the emcs.
I spent the next 4 days in intensive care. I came round about 12 hours after the birth and couldn't work out why I was hospital and I was hallucinating and talking nonsense. I actually thought at the time that I'd been in a car accident - no idea where that came from!
I was at high risk of heart attack for 24 hours and was under constant observation. Then they realised that the reversal drug had caused havoc with my internal organs. I had a heart rate of 150bpm for days and my liver had gone haywire. I was diagnosed with HELP syndrome.
After a few days it all started to settle down and my body started to normalise. I was gradually taken off all my intravenous meds and they started weaning me off the morphine.
I started getting up and about and they let me take a shower which was the most amazing shower I've ever had! They let me start breastfeeding, which was the most amazing feeling.
On the Thursday they sent me off to the postnatal ward. I was still under close observation, which meant that I couldn't rest because I was being woken up every hour or so. They also wouldn't let dh stay, but I couldn't get up out of bed to pick up the baby when she cried. It was a bit of a nightmare situation.
They finally discharged me on the Friday evening after me and dh practically begged them to let me go home. I'm still an outpatient and need to keep going back for repeat blood tests because my liver function is still a bit crazy.
I'm not allowed to take paracetamol so I've been carrying on with ibuprofen for now.
Finally feel like I'm on the mend now. I'm able to get up and about at home, though I'm spending a lot of time just resting and recovering.
Baby Emmie has been absolutely fine throughout. Completely oblivious thank god! Although it's not at all how I imagined her first couple of weeks of life would be, poor little thing.
my dh has been totally amazing. I don't know what I would have done without him.

The anaesthetic complications are very rare (only happen to 1 in 100,000 people) and the anaesthetist in charge is writing a journal article about the incident which will be published in the next few weeks. She's also doing a talk/presentation on it so that other anaesthetists will know what to do if they ever come across it in practice. The hospital have offered both me and dh counselling sessions which we're going to take in a few weeks because we both feel like we have post traumatic stress disorder.
blimey, this is probably the longest post ever written on mn! Sorry to go on. If nothing else, it has been cathartic to write it all down.

piglet81 · 19/05/2015 01:20

Minimoo, how awful. I don't know what to say - you've had a terrible experience and yet you sound amazingly positive. Well done you for focusing on the good and getting yourself better. Flowers

piglet81 · 19/05/2015 01:33

Congrats on all the new babies Flowers

Kitty, any news on the tongue tie referral? Wish they could sort it out for you and Sarah.

Jessie sorry to hear about Iris's illness. I hope you're coping ok.

Matthew was admitted to hospital again after his day 5 check having lost. 20% of his birth weight (turns out although he's latching on ok he's not suckling properly so wasn't really getting any milk). I got in a terrible flap about it as they were quite worried about his sodium levels and kidney function. Luckily he's made a really good recovery and is back within 10% of his birth weight now (day 8). Am pumping milk for him while trying to get bf established - off to a local bf group in the morning so fingers crossed we get somewhere.

Take care everyone!

KittyVonCatsington · 19/05/2015 02:39

mini-thank you for sharing your experience- so unlucky and yet you have dealt with it so well- am v impressed and you deserve some Cake

piglet excellent job in getting Matthew to 1% below. So proud of you!!!! Star

No appointment letter yet Sad It will come though- it has to!!!!!!!!!!!

KittyVonCatsington · 19/05/2015 02:40

Sorry piglet-casualty of one handed typing: I meant 10%!

minimooo · 19/05/2015 02:50

Thanks girls, it was pretty traumatic. I think I've kind of mentally put it all on a box in my head and now when I think about it it's like it happened to someone else. I'm sure that's not healthy but I need to focus on Emmie now. I'll sort my head out later.

Wow, that sounds stressful piglet. Well done getting him back up to 10%. I'm sure it will continue to improve now. Hope the bf group goes well tomorrow Smile

I'm up and expressing. About to take over the night shift from dh.

Justyouwaitandsee · 19/05/2015 07:45

oh minimooo - what a nightmare for you to go through. It also makes me feel so lucky because right up to the lip of cervix stuck around the baby's head it matches my birth story (although I was only in latent labour for 3 not 4 days) - but just shows how quickly things can happen or change course. Glad that Emmie is doing well and that you and your DH are getting support from the hospital...

I am sorry that the fb invite didn't seem to work. It said it had sent. Some people seem to receive the invites ok and others don't. It should appear in your notifications - maybe check on a desktop version not just a phone app (if you are using one)? Otherwise, maybe one of the other group admins could try?

jessie - so sorry to hear your daughters diagnosis. Was that picked up through the day 5 blood screening? I guess it is at least a good think that they check for these things, allowing you to get on top of things quickly. Sending Flowers for both you and Iris xx

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FeelingBlessed77 · 19/05/2015 11:54

minimoo - so sorry to hear what u went through. makes my birth story seem like a walk in the park.

kitty - really hope they get sarah 's tongue tie sorted out soon. well done for persevering with the bf.

a big welcome and hugs for the new arrivals.

Scottishgal78 · 19/05/2015 13:48

Wow minimoo I am in awe of you! What a birth story! Your DH must've been beside himself with worry! Definitely do the counselling. That is a trauma of ever I've heard one!

KittyVonCatsington · 19/05/2015 15:40

Yippee! I have an appointment to cut Sarah's tongue tie-this Thursday!!!!!!!
Oh the relief...

now I just have to ignore the fact I'm going to struggle to watch

Scottishgal78 · 19/05/2015 16:50

Great news kitty! I know what you mean. Ice just experienced the heel prick. My poor babyShock. I was there when my niece had her tongue tie snipped. Was the work of minutes.

minimooo · 19/05/2015 17:19

Thanks ladies. Dh was absolutely awesome and took care of me brilliantly the whole time. He's been my rock through the whole experience. We will definitely do the counselling. I think the saddest thing is that there is absolutely no way I'm ever going to get pregnant and go through labour and birth again. I just can't risk putting Dh, and now dd, through any more stress. I always wanted 2 children though... But that's another worry for another day.

Thank goodness kitty! Glad their doing it sooner rather than later. I heard it was a quick procedure and is over before lo knows what's happening. I know what you mean though - I'm dreading the immunisations already. Just can't bear seeing dd going through medical procedures Sad

Thanks just, I'll check on the laptop later. Am using phone atm.

KittyVonCatsington · 19/05/2015 23:27

Settling in for another night! Sending sleepy vibes to all the May babies Star

piglet81 · 20/05/2015 03:14

The heel prick isn't very nice, is it Scottish? Totally misleading name. Poor babies!

Great to hear Sarah's tongue tie will be seen to soon. I talked to several mums at the bf group whose babies had had tongue ties snipped and gone on to bf successfully. Good luck!

The bf support worker I saw yesterday was flummoxed by matthew's feeding problems, so she was going to talk to her colleague and is going to come and see us today (weds). It would be so good if someone could tell us what's wrong and how to fix it - I'm not really enjoying pumping (!) and keep thinking how much easier things would be if I could just get him to take the breast. However he's getting my milk albeit indirectly so I am grateful for that

Minimoo, I keep thinking of you and your awful experience. Very glad you and DH are going to get some counselling - that sounds essential. My midwife told me that they offer a sort of post-birth debriefing session to anyone wanting to talk through their experience, so even though I didn't have that kind of trauma (just a long labour that failed to progress and ended in emcs) I think I will take them up on the offer as am still quite hazy about it all and want to get it clear in my head.

piglet81 · 20/05/2015 03:24

The heel prick isn't very nice, is it Scottish? Totally misleading name. Poor babies!

Great to hear Sarah's tongue tie will be seen to soon. I talked to several mums at the bf group whose babies had had tongue ties snipped and gone on to bf successfully. Good luck!

The bf support worker I saw yesterday was flummoxed by matthew's feeding problems, so she was going to talk to her colleague and is going to come and see us today (weds). It would be so good if someone could tell us what's wrong and how to fix it - I'm not really enjoying pumping (!) and keep thinking how much easier things would be if I could just get him to take the breast. However he's getting my milk albeit indirectly so I am grateful for that

Minimoo, I keep thinking of you and your awful experience. Very glad you and DH are going to get some counselling - that sounds essential. My midwife told me that they offer a sort of post-birth debriefing session to anyone wanting to talk through their experience, so even though I didn't have that kind of trauma (just a long labour that failed to progress and ended in emcs) I think I will take them up on the offer as am still quite hazy about it all and want to get it clear in my head.

minimooo · 20/05/2015 09:25

piglet sounds exactly the same as my hospital has offered. I think they call it birth reflections. Definitely go in for a chat if you feel you need to. I don't know about you, but I'm still finding it really hard to talk about it in rl, so I probably won't go for a few weeks yet. But I think that these things tend to come back at you if you don't get them sorted in your mind at some point. When they told me about the service, they said that it would be a meeting between us, the midwives, the consultant and anaesthetist who performed the procedure so it sounds like it would be really useful.

Hi just I checked on the laptop, but couldn't see any notifications to join the fb group. I'm on another postnatal fb group and they had to friend request me and add me - would that work for this one too?

hoovesbradshaw · 20/05/2015 17:30

Hi thought I might introduce myself. My name is Jessica and my son was born 10th May after a 20 hour labour that ended in a 10 pound 10 baby and a c section !!!! When he was born I was over the moon, he is absolutely perfect!! We have been home a week after three days im hospital. Im a first time mum and I guess I didnt realise things would be so difficult! My hormones are all over the place, im so tired and finding everything hard work, feeling ooverwhelmed! My hubby is being great but is tired too !! Can anyone relate ?

minimooo · 20/05/2015 19:03

Hi hooves welcome! I'm new here too. These ladies are really supportive and lovely.

I'm also a first time mum and definitely found the first 2 weeks overwhelming. I was terrified of hurting dd, not knowing how to do anything, scared of under or overfeeding, scared to put her down in the moses basket, but scared of picking her up too! Everything was new and completely terrifying. I'm now into my third week and things have definitely turned a corner - I'm so much more confident now. And it feels like me and dd are getting to know each other. My hormones have calmed right down too and we've fallen into a rough sort of routine. I keep being told that it does all get easier, and I'm just starting to believe it to be true! Just be kind to yourself and try to rest as much you can (easier said than done I know!) Flowers