October 2014- thread 8. Growing up fast, 6 months already!!

[MundayCakes85]

Morning all! A shiny new thread for Easter.
Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend, I'm off to eat copious amounts of chocolate whilst hiding in the floor of the nursery with Ewan the sheep

Welcome artistic never too late to the party. I have Ds also 8 months on the 13th busy day for births on this thread. He's dc4.
I'm usually a size 10/12 but having two babies so close together meant I didn't get chance to lose the weight in between so I have ended up with 5 stone to shift
As I've said before Im doing slimming world and I've found it really easy on the whole. I'm now a size 14 and I'm determined to be at target by baby wings 1st birthday.

Exciting news in the wing household me and dp are off on a long weekend away thanks to my lovely mum who is having all the kids! Three days in Spain I can't wait!! Looking forward to lie ins, reading a book and sunbathing with my eyes shut! Excited doesn't even come close to how I'm feeling

Hi Flip - I love NJ area. Lived in Princeton in my previous life for few months (yes the one before DC)...

I like London/UK, especially the laws regarding guns!

Will read up about the 5:2. Thanks!

Hi buttwing - Spain without any DC! That's a dream holiday! Forget about bf & weight & enjoy the sun sand & food.
I am the same size as you...struggling to get back to 10/12..

I'm sooooooo jealous Buttwing. Grrrrrr.

Have a fantastic time! Make sure you do plenty of sunbathing, little naps whenever you feel like it, sleeping in, drinking. Oh my God. So jealous!

Hello Artistic

Oh my god, I'm so jealous of you buttwing.. have an ace time! Sleep... sex... booze. Sob. Actually, I've done all three of those things today, but only when small is napping. Ha. Not the same.

Intro thing - another small who is 8 months on 13th of June. First baby, a girl, was overdue by 16 days in the end, but I ignored suggestions of induction and she arrived through the non-sunroof exit of her own accord. Had an epidural due to midwife mistake, but all fine in the end. I started off 2 stone overweight, and am still 2 stone overweight - just flabbier! Nice. Not. I'm quite open to another baby, but I'm 41 and have a boyfriend who is 99% only wanting the one. We'll see... I actually would like another one for their relationship, but I hated being pregnant, and boyfriend hated the first 4 months... so. Who knows, jury out at the moment. I breastfed pretty much exclusively (apart from a dairy intolerance experiment with formula at 4 months for 3 feeds), to 6 months, then have gradually weaned her off onto formula. I did my last feed 2 weeks ago, so boobs just about getting back to normal. Boyfriend has just started stepping up properly with helping out at night etc, so I'm beginning to feel human again. Going back to work in September (am a deputy head teacher), but have started going in on some days in preparation for a job share.

In laws have arrived (again!), more in law family coming tomorrow... aagh. But for today they are all out and I am home alone. First time in 8 months! I should be painting the landing, but instead I'm cruising around the interwebs in the sunshine. I had a G&T and a pint of nice beer at lunchtime, my motivation has gone somewhat...

Thanks all :) I promise I won't keep going on about it but yes I'm sooo looking forward to it.
Planning to take full advantage of it dp has book v swanky hotel as well so off out shopping tonight for some bits that might make me look vaguely glam

Buttwing so jealous! Enjoy every minute of it!

Butt ridiculously jealous! Have an amazing time - wow your mum is ace to have all 4!

I'm still keen to have a third baby but husband is not as sure. We will see, I'd not consider it until Xmas if it was going to happen anyway...

Artistic welcome. My ds2 is 8 months. Was born 4th October one week late. He arrived oxygen starved though so spent 72 hours on a cooling mat and a week in scbu to check for brain damage. Thankfully all seems ok. In fact the little monkey is waaayyyy quicker to do stuff than my first. He is crawling everywhere, pulling to stand, cruising and today has stood unaided 3 times and grinned like a loon each time he did it!!! Uh oh! My ds1 is 4 and is a gem. Their relationship is so sweet to watch.

I've just painted my hallway whilst thinking continuously about having another baby. Is that how it works? Literally 2 weeks out of having a baby living off me, and ta da I've forgotten how much it pissed me off towards the end. It's all about sibling relationships isn't it. Thing is, even if I got all excited about it, and boyfriend agreed, there is the issue of my age.

Wow lots of broodiness on here!! If you had a straightforward pregnancy/birth goats then why not?! Loads of women have babies in their forties. It's hard work having two kids but I just love how they are together. She lights up as soon as he comes near her and he is so sweet with her sometimes. I hope they are great friends in years to come. Plus I can't imagine not having my sister so yes it's all about the sibling relationship!

Sazzle - 4th Oct h

Oops posted too soon...

Sazzle - 4th Oct here too!!

Ohthegoats - I said 'no' to the second for 7 years before I gave in. Wish I'd done it sooner. But then I feel so tired at 37 taking care of 2, I feel I should have had them both sooner!!

I've bf exclusively until 6 months and now am so ready to get this over with! I need my body back!!!

goats I would go for it in the grans scheme of things pregnancy is short. My gaps are 5 yrs, 3yrs and 13 months. In a lot of ways it's hard with the small gap but in most ways it's great. I'm hoping they will enjoy doing the same kind of stuff together. Much harder with the bigger gaps ime.
Also I don't mean this in a patronising way to anyone at all but on whole it's much easier with a second/third. I've found they seem to thrive on less attention if that makes sense?

Grans!! Grand stupid ipad.

Artistic yay for the 4th! And what you artistic in, job, hobby?!

Butt I have a big gap between my two - 3years 10 months, I struggled to get pregnant second time... But if, IF I was to have a third id like the gap to be smaller so I'm not as old and I get all the sleepless nights over and done with!!

Artistic in art as a hobby. I draw/sketch/paint (used to ) and would love to make a profession of it someday...but for the sake of £££ I am stuck in IT.

When I was working, the prospect of returning from maternity leave is what focused my mind on wanting to get pregnant again. By no means was it the sole or main reason, but with hindsight I believe returning to work was some factor in having my first two children close together. I worked only half a term (plus one week at the end of the summer term - to get paid over the summer hols) between maternity leaves.

To counter the other age gap opinions - I am loving the bigger age gap. My gaps are 14 months, 4 years, 5 years. I've done it the other way around to you Buttwing - having my first two children year apart pretty much scared me out of the prospect of short age gaps altogether! You're doing the short age gap the more sensible end of parenting - when you know what you are doing rather than as a FTM. I absolutely love the fact that DD gets all of my time during the school day - my only child to get that benefit.

Artistic - I was beginning to think I knew you IRL. I know a school yard Mum who had her DD2 about a week after my DD (My DD was 26th Sept) and she has DD1 who is 7. I thought I'd keep quiet about it just in case. But she's a hairdresser, not IT. So it isn't you

Loads of people I know at the moment are doing small age gaps (even some who don't have age as a factor). My cousin is about to have two under a year, and in same school year.

Same school year? Eek. I know a sibling pair that are 11 months, but they are August and July so different school years. Shift their birthdays forward a month and they'd be in the same year group.

Hi all - I'm loving the 8 month stage too, completely adorable. Probably a factor in making me broody. DP always said we'd just have one (he has 2 from previous relationship so has been bringing up children for 18 years now), I'm testing the water as to how fixed he is by dropping wistful comments into conversation. I'm 38 and feel like I need to get on with it, partly cos my energy levels seem to sap away every day, partly cos early menopause is common in my family. Mind you I'm so incredibly grateful I have DS as I'd almost given up hope, and I think I could cope if DP really didn't want more.

DS has developed a habit of rolling onto his front in cot and not realising he can roll back onto back, so he cries until I get up and turn him. Quite knackering, at least he is still in our room so it's a quick process. Still draining though.

In a ideal world i would probably have one more, but only if i could afford to be a stay at home mum, which i cant so i will just stick with two. If i am totally honest two is right for us, if had another, money would be really tight and childcare would be an issue as i find it hard getting two looked after. We can afford to give them both a nice and comfortable life with the odd luxury here & there, i think with three this would change ? I also dont think i could look after two children and have spd for 9 months, my last pregnancy was so painful and the last three months i was basically housebound, which i felt incredibly guilty about as dd1 was full of energy and craved stimulation that i couldn't physically give her. So i thank my lucky stars for the two clever and very beautiful girls i have and i will cherish them every day.

fate totally understand that would have found having that gap between the first 2 vv hard!

I would love a fifth but I know it's not right for us but I think a small part of me will think awww just one more! But I would probably think that about having a 6th.

One thing I struggle with at the moment is doing things at the wend that they all enjoy. My 10 yr old is hitting the I'm too cool for anything babyish age (grrr!) bought myself a swimming costume the other day so we can take them all swimming.

Does anyone have any nice plans for Father's Day?
We are taking dps out for a meal hmm I wonder how long it will be before that descends into total chaos?!!!

Stigz I think we will end up sticking to two. I drop hints all the time about 3 but my OH isn't so sure saying he worries about money, practicalities of things, and the fact we seemed to have such terrible sleepers!! I do feel grateful for 2 healthy boys, but it's nice to say not never too....

Goats - 2 under a year!!! How is that even possible!!!!

Yeah sazzle i know what you mean ... My dp said he would get the snip as he deffo wants no more kids but i think that is a bit drastic when you are experiencing the newborn days. He says he 100% sure he wants no more .... Im more like 90% sure but i can see that figure decreasing as my lo's grow up fast .

Hi all!

Nice to hear everyone all positive. I agree this is a nice age, he's very smiley and affectionate. Still not sleeping very well.

I'm just getting over norovirus though. Pretty horrible last couple of days, it's actually made me really nostalgic for being ill with no children. I could just have spent the weekend in bed!

I'm still pretty set on not having another. I love him but I just seem to be crap at this and couldn't face the early feeding trauma again. I actually still get a bit tearful everyday in the shower remembering trying to shower in seconds while my husband held the shrieking baby. Sorry to be a downer I'm ok now really but so frightened of doing it again. I really envy/ admire you lot with multiple babies!