February 2015..and so the fun continues...

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Room moves are a very personal thing and will be different for every parent/child combination. I couldn't even contemplate putting DD in her own yet - I'm struggling with the idea of putting her in her cot a few foot from my side of the bed! Currently due to lack of grow (which turned into actual weight loss, not just dropping through the centiles), she still just fits in her moses basket at the side of my bed. I still wake multiple times a night to check her despite her sleeping through. She's such a quiet breather and stays soooo still, its unnerving. DS had breathing problem so was a noisy little thing and wriggled non-stop - I slept so much more soundly with him next to me - the noise was soothing and reassuring to me!

DS moved into his own at 6months because he started wakeing if we so much as rolled over. I didn't sleep properly for a couple of weeks when he moved.

On the weight loss and allergy front - paediatrician agreed fully with me - DD has a cows milk protein allergy and hasnt been able to properly absorb the milk she's been taking in, due to the inflammation its caused in her guts. They want her to get back up to around 75th-91st (on 25th at mo, was on 98th at birth, 75th once regained birth weight). She's on a fully hydrolysed formula now (its for CMPA sufferers) and if her weight isn't starting to move up in a month they'll start doing blood tests.

She's improved already - its day 4 since starting special formula/ day 2 of solely being on specialist formula.

Addicted have you tried explaining to DD the injections were to stop DS getting poorly? The poor girl. At least it shows she really cares about DS.

Having thought I'd escaped PND this time - 11weeks in its hit and Ive spent the last week feeling really down.

whyo I'm glad you're starting to get somewhere with the paediatrician and I hope LO gains weighing again quickly. Poo on the PND front, there's not really a lot I can say on that except for sending a virtual hug in your direction.
In the meantime my LO started sleeping long enough stretches to give me hope, between 5 and 9 for 4 nights running. Tonight it took 2 attempts to get him down for bed and we were feeding only 2 hours later. Mr inconsistency, again.

That's sleeping 5 to 9 hours for 4 nights! Can't function at this time any more

whyo glad you are getting somewhere with your LO. Sorry to hear you are feeling down but you have been through a lot trying to get your LO sorted. That's enough to affect anyone's mental health. Hugs from me too.
We did talk with DD about the jabs before & after & I have taught her how to say immunisations! It was very sweet she was so worried for LO. The good news is she doesn't need to come next time as she is in nursery so only one screaming child to deal with!
DH is working all weekend which is a bit rubbish & until late all next week. He has therefore invited my MIL up to "help out" despite me trying to say that really wasn't needed! I don't really find that she is at all helpful when she comes as she only wants to do certain things & generally they are not what I want/need doing. that probably makes me sound really ungrateful but I would just rather she came to see the kids when she wants rather either her or DH thinking that it is helpful for her to be here when it is actually increasing my stress levels!

Also geeky don't worry we have no pattern at all re night feeds, or for the evening really. The main predictable point in the day is his wake up time & first feed but then he woke up about an hour early today so even that goes out the window too!

donkir that's so good! Our LO has just started sleeping better so I'm hoping it will last.
whyo I'm so sorry about the PND, but I agree with addicted. You've had too much on your plate and the weight loss of your LO doesn't help for sure. I believe that now that you've sorted out her milk, things will get better; your LO will start gaining weight almost immediately and hopefully you'll start feeling better too. We saw a huge difference with this formula (I believe we've got the same horrible and smelly stuff) almost immediately. Within 2 days he was a different baby and now 12 days later there is no comparison with how he was behaving before. I'm only hoping that he's going to be able to drink cow's milk after his first birthday and that we don't have 2 allergic children in the family! My best friend's baby had the same problem, drank the same formula for 12 months and now she's 18 months and she's drinking cow's milk daily. Fingers crossed for both our LO's! :)
I need to get some sleep tonight as it seems that I'm getting used to all these broken nights and I'm catching up on series that I haven't watched for ages until 1.30 with no baby to feed...

WhyO - so sorry you're feeling down, am right there too, it's a daily battle. Trying to take at the very least five mins a day to try and do deep breathing to keep calm. I think it's helping.

We're going backwards with sleep, that is, LO isn't getting much at night. Exhausted.

Whyo that's great about the new formula. Let's hope she starts putting on weight now and that will be a massive stress off you.

MIL is here. If I have to bite my tongue anymore I am only going to have half a tongue left.

I feel for you addicted. I see my mil every day & it's hard work! I'm not really a bit my tongue person but I try my best with her, good luck

Addicted oooh I feel for you!

Mrscorr...everyday?

I haven't seen my mil in ages as I work on a Saturday and thats they only day dh can visit her....was worth going back work after 4 weeks for that!

So 9 days into diet amd 9 pounds down, had a meltdown as both boys were crying and had a cookie though....my first slip up.

LO is teething now his teeth at bottom sides I can feel the sharpness through the gum

Yip Memphis, every day! They live a 5 min walk away & call into our house to take our dog a walk. Shouldn't really complain because they are doing us a favour but I find mil especially hard to be around! My wee dog loves them so he's the only reason I've not nipped it in the bud yet.

Are you doing any particular diet? I'm 1 1/2 stone lighter than I was when I gave birth seems to have slowed down now though, don't think a trip to m&s for treats earlier is helping the diet but I enjoyed them at the time

Yes I will be starting the juiceplus shake diet next week but before you startbyou have to detox for 2 weeks so eat 3 meals and 2 snacks a day but clean. No caffiene, sugar, processed food, dairy, gluten......or fun i have eaten so much crap since having LO I needed to clense my system and I feel tons better for it. I want to be a size 10 for a wedding in June I haven't been a 10 in over 10 years

Sympathies to the mil sufferers. I have concocted a cunning plan for mil to collect ds once a week and take him swimming. It means she gets to see ds, I get to relax with dad, and ds gets to learn to swim. Perfect all round.

Dd not dad!

Impressed with dieters! I feel like I have cut out so much, (not having caffeine or alcohol at the moment due to breastfeeding/co-sleeping arrangements) that I can't really contemplate cutting out the sugar! I made biscuits with DD at the weekend but then decided she has had too much sugar recently so after she had a couple I have been eating all the rest! MIL thankfully gone. I just really find her hard work. She generally needs to come to stay as doesn't live that close. The main day to day issue is that she seems to have an amazing ability to make both kids totally hyper & stop them sleeping!

Things: your MIL plan sounds ideal! Unfortunately MIL would never do anything so active. Won't even take them to the park, so if anyone is going to leave the house it has to be me. I then worry as she does tend to snoop a bit. She has previously been in my bedside drawers looking for something, it was full of condoms!

I've become a total sugar fiend since having ds so trying to wean myself off it. I still have weight to lose (about 1 stone), though getting back into the exercise and trying to sort my diet. Think the really sleepless phase actually made me gain a bit of weight as it made me really hungry and I tend to eat when I drink more coffee too.

DS got his injections this week, I was told I'd get my 6-8 wk check at the same time, but the Dr didn't even ask anything about me. Has everyone else had one? I asked if I could discuss contraception and he just took my BP then gave me a list of options told me to go home read it and pick one then to phone back and tell the receptionist to order it without another appointment. I'm a bit . He also said not to take the combined pill anymore as I'd taken it for 5+ years and I'm over 30- anyone else heard this? I can't find anything about it via Dr Google.

Pepper that sounds like my 6 week check. My doctors don't do contraception so I had to wait 2 months for an appointment at the health clinic. I finally got the implant fitted this evening.
Isn't there a higher risk of cervical cancer if you take the pill for a long time or over a certain age?

Peppermint- your Dr is talking rubbish. There is not time limit that you can be on the combined pill. Reasons to stop it would be if you are breastfeeding, you are overweight or you are 35 plus and a smoker. Also if you or your family have history of certain conditions like clots in the legs or lungs. If none of these apply you could use it as your contraception until age 50. There is increased risk of some cancers (breast and maybe cervical) but reduced risk of others (endometrial and ovarian).
I have a qualification in family planning by the way - just so you know I am not making this all up!

Addicted- just realised I forgot to add he wanted me to switch to the progesterone only pill instead if it's a pill that I want. Is that affected by weight? I was always under the impression the mini pill couldn't be taken if overweight (which I am at the minute tbh, not massively but might still be a consideration) although he didn't weigh me.
His advice was very vague, and previously he gave me some duff info about an injection I needed during pregnancy, so that's why I'm sceptical too. He isn't my usual GP though.

Mini pill fine if overweight. You need your height/weight checking so they work out your BMI & then they can say which pill you can have.

Thanks Addicted!

Did someone on here mention that they'd tried baby sensory? If so, what's it like and do you think it's worth it for younger babies?

I'm so bloody cross, need to have a rant to let of some steam...

It was my husbands birthday yesterday, I tried really hard with my limited resources to get him some nice gifts and make a lovely day of it. Today my mum is doing a birthday lunch for him and we will meet my little sisters baby born on Friday night. All great.

He went to a wedding evening do of a colleague from work last night. Was a bit disappointed not to be doing something together but there was no way we could arrange childcare for all four. He left about 7pm and I was pleased at least he was getting a nice break for his birthday. I txt at 1am to see how his night was going, no reply. I have just been woken up at 3.30 to him ringing the bell despite having a key. He was sat on our doorstep in the rain, having puked all over it. He has crawled in puked all over the hall and kitchen and gone to sleep on the kitchen floor.

I have never seen him in this state before, he is a big 6ft4 bloke and normally handles his drinks pretty well. He must have been going some to get in this state.

Im so upset as he knows I am on the edge of just not coping. I have been up and down with the twins several times already tonight. He will be no use to me tomorrow plus I have a load of vomit to clean up before the kids go down for breakfast. I don't imagine he will be in any state to go up to my mums.

I have not said no to any of his work/social commitments since the babies arrived as I genuinely want him to enjoy stuff. There is no resentment at all that I can't go out and do as I please. But this is taking the piss. I am so cross and upset.

Oh tonights he is taking the absolute piss imo. I hope today has been ok for you and that you went to your mums even if he was too rough to go himself.
I am glad my dh stays at his dads when he rarely goes out, luckily he likes me going out as he then gets to snooze on sofa/ watch crap war stuff on tv/play playstation

I have been having huge anxiety about going somewhere for a day out alone with the boys but today I managed the zoo it is over an hour away, not a clue where it was (the anxiety is getting lost) and we had a fab day. They are both fast asleep, its our family day but dh has been at work since 4am and is due home shortly so I am shattered.

Have a manic week ahead LO, DH and myself have hospital on seperate days, I have work and my one day to rest I am having my first haircut since Lo was born but i am going to have to take him with me as I have no sitter!