October 2014 // thread 6 // baby's new year resolution is to sleep more?!

[sazzlehopes]

Meant to ask fate are you thinking of having anymore kids? I sort of get reality check when i see a newborn as my wee one looks huge compared to them, these last 3 months have passed so quick, i want to keep her this size forever, i must admit i of enjoy this stage a bit better than the newborn bit, my wee roly poly pumpkin

DD is the last (planned) baby. I'd always planned four children. I didn't feel 'done' after DC3 but this time I do and it feels right.

I'm also on the September 2014 post-natal thread and just today discussion on there was the fact that I'm very keen on cherishing every last moment because she's my last baby.

Talk of moving from pram to pushchair for example... Nooooo because once I put the pram away that will be the last time I ever use it. I'll be keeping her milk only and not rushing to solids and weaning too.

All too often with my other children I was forever chasing the next stage... first tastes, weaning, when will he crawl, won't it be great when she is walking... Like it is wishing away the time, rather than noticing and enjoying what was happening now.

With Felicity I will be slowing down and cherishing every moment.

so she'll be in her pram until she is 2

Oh, and I also like the older baby stage more than the newborn stage. They are much more interesting. But that said, I mourn the fact that I shall not cuddle my newborn child again.

Oh i swear babymoose is out to drive me crazy! Slept 10-11 and has been fighting/feeding/chewing since! Waaaah! Dh is being an absolute shit and i really dont want to be stuck in on my own all day with him tomorrow :( im sick of doing this on my own

moose do you top up with formula? If not is this something you would consider to get dp involved a bit more ? Even just a late evening feed? Means you could go to bed for a couple of hours by yourself? Its not fair you doing it all on your own.

We're waiting on the dietician getting in touch with our gp to prescribe a special formula. Was meant to be for emergencies (in my mind anyway) but am tempted to give it a go, altho he is a terrible feeder so im not sure if that would bollocks up bf altogether :s

Yuck bad night.

Oh well, onwards and upwards.

stigz I wish I had magic nipples. Magic nipples I could leave at home. About to go for a run while dp tries the daily dose of baby torture.

Moose, a while back I had issues with nighttime 'unsettledness'. Things like leg kicking, shuffling, grunting.

It occurred to me that what she needed was a swaddle to settle her. But at 12 weeks plus she was having none of that, liked her hands up too much.

So what I tried was a cot sheet across ways on the bottom of the cot. She has a sleeping bag, so this was over the top of sleeping bag (adjusted clothing accordingly). Because the sheet was side-ways on, there was loads of extra material to tuck in tightly.

It effectively pinned her down, but with her arms out. That sounds terrible but it isn't. It make her to calm down and teaches her to be still in the night.

It was/is really helpful for us at night.

Correction: It made her calm down and teaches her to be still in the night

I have another question (sorry I'm terminally stupid about this).

So last night A went to sleep in his bed downstairs at 8.30 (self settled, ace). Then at 10 we woke him by changing him (he was furious!) and offered him 4oz of formula but he only took 3. Put him in his bed extremely drowsy and he went to sleep until 3 am. Then he had a bf and went back to sleep until 5am.

So when he woke at 5 should I have given another bf? Or put a dummy in and tried to settle him in his bed? I did the latter but he only went back to sleep for 20 mins and it all went to shit after that. I feel really guilty, should I just have fed him?

Thanks fate someone from the nct grouo recommended this too but hes always flailed around so much i wasnt sure if itd work but i might give it a go tonight! Hes just being a proper little sod at the moment

splendide there really isn't a right or wrong answer. Honestly. I always feed mine to sleep and back to sleep if she wakes up enough to make vocal noises (if she's just thrashing I cross my fingers). She goes back to sleep quickly and we're all happy- this is what works for us, for now. If it stops working we'll have to do something else. Your baby is yours alone- do what feels right to you. You can see by how different everyone us on here that there are so many ways of doing things and none of us are bad mothers, none of us are hurting our children, none of us are doing it wrong. We're different people and our babies are different people. I really hope when your baby starts to put on weight you feel a bit more confident. (and I'm in north London too, so if you ever feel like a cup of tea...)

Comic relief- I have a sports bra that zips up the front. Fifteen minutes into my run it unzipped itself and I had to walk home holding my tits in place.

Yip i used to do the sheet thing with dd1 legs, she used to just lift her legs up and bang them down constantly through the night

Wish this weather would improve ... Blowing a gale again the wind blew the car door into my back when i was clipping in the car seat the other day ... Bloody ouch

Off to the paediatrician today, wish i could just curl up with a good book and a nice glass of

Tatty brilliant!!!!!

Fate good tip

splendide Trust your instincts, they will be right.

If baby is hungry, he will need feeding. If baby isn't hungry, given that you know he can self-sooth, he should settle with the dummy. You will know your baby best to know if he is hungry. Trust yourself to know the "right answer".

Tatty - Loving the comic relief!

Yesterday I rubbed my eye too vigorously on the walk home from school. It shifted my contact lens up to the top of my eyeball. When this happens at home I go to a mirror and fish it out, but no mirrors on walk home. Was worried that as soon as I opened my eye the contact lens would ping out onto the floor.

So I walked the entire trip with one eye shut. Along the way met a neighbour friend of mine and we started chatting on the walk home. I had to explain to her straight away about my contact lens because I didn't want her to think me weird that I was doing this bizarre permanent wink.

My new sports bra isn't as good as my usual one, I have to hold my boobs while running or doing jumping jacks. It's a good look.

We're finally back to the semi decent sleeping. 9 - 1, 1.30 - 5, then 5.30 - 9. I had to settle her a couple of times after 1.30, and woke up with my head on the side of the sleepyhead at one point, but I feel quite rested.

We need to start getting up at 7.30 really so that her 12 hours sleep give us that elusive evening back. But I don't want to start getting up at 7.30! Must bite the bullet. Thing is, boyfriend isn't able to help due to his current work situation. Not useful.

Yes sorry if course there isn't a proper answer, I've just got so little confidence now. I'm desperately hoping that once he's thriving my confidence in my instincts will improve.

splendide You are doing absolutely amazingly well. Don't doubt yourself, you are a fantastic mother.

Splendide everyone feels like they're winging it with their first dozen, once they can communicate it does get much easier. I'm more confident with my second and she is very chilled and easy but I reckon its because she's chilled and easy THAT I'm able to feel more confident, not that my confidence has made her chilled!

Goats jumping jacks blimmin eck that'd mean a knicker change for sure here

Something to cheer you all up- baby needed an early bath which covered me in water and wee. Baby now having a well deserved sleep!!
No running or jumping jacks here, going for a walk later on if the rain holds off.

Oh my goodness Munday!

DD has been asleep for 3 hours now and shows no signs of waking. I'm getting The Fear that she'll not get her normal six feeds today and so will be up in the night.

I'm itching to wake her up. Must learn to follow her lead though...